Depression is very hard to understand. It is an illness just like any physical illness, and can run someone's life. This guy doesn't want a girlfriend because he knows it won't work out because of his depression.

I don't think you should get into a relationship with him. It is really difficult to be in a relationship with someone with depression. My best friend has it, and his ex-girlfriend didn't understand why he felt sad. They broke up because she didn't get it, and he didn't have the motivation to make things work.

Also, if a guy says he doesn't want to have a girlfriend (whether he has depression or not), then he doesn't want a girlfriend and you guys are not going to go out.

I don't think its worth spending your money to see a guy who you barely get along with any more. It sounds like there is no more chemistry.
Also, once you fly over and see him, then go back home, what happens then? You save and go visit him again next year? Long-distance relationships are almost impossible to work with.
You have found a new guy and it would be unfair and mean if you continued to make the other guy believe you want to see him and are faithful to him. You need to break it off with him.

Did she become a bitch before or after you said something about her?
If it was before, then she has unfortunately changed and you need to move on and find a best friend that is actually a caring, kind best friend. It will obviously be hard but lots of people change as they get older, and we need to move on sometimes.
If it was AFTER you said something, she is probably mad at you and you can try fix your friendship by having a talk with her. Let her speak her mind honestly and don't get mad at her. You've hurt her and you need to apologize and listen to her. Also, tell her how she hurt you if you need to.

Unfortunately, every person at one point in their life falls in love or develops a crush on someone they can never be with. Whether its because their crush already has a boyfriend/girlfriend, or because they are not gay, the only way to fix this problem is to move on.
I don't think your friend is intentionally flirting with you, she isn't a lesbian and has a boyfriend.
Also, if she can't accept you as a lesbian then she isn't a very good friend. BUT you can't expect her to accept that you are "in love with her".
Remember you're only 12 and will have plenty of time to find someone who loves you back.

Firstly I have to ask, when you say he goes and hangs out with another girl, do you mean he hangs out with her like a friend, or he also flirts with her? When I was in high school my best friend was a guy, and people always mistook us for boyfriend and girlfriend.

But more importantly: You said that he ignores you, ditches you and doesn't even say bye to you? He sounds like a jerk, and jerks are not worth your time.
There are many stupid people in high school who act one way when you're alone and then completely change around their friends. They're nice in class because they have no one else to sit with, but then act like a stranger outside of that class. And it means there is something wrong with THEM not you. They're fake and more worried about looking cool than actually making proper friends and having fun.

This guy, Tom, sounds like a flirt. Flirts are never good to date because they continue to flirt with other girls in the relationship. He might make you feel good in class, but think about how crappy he makes you feel outside of class. Is he really worth your attention?

Ok, you haven't said how much you weigh, so its going to be hard to answer this one. Losing 15-25lbs can be A LOT of weight if you're in a normal weight range, and can push you to become underweight, which isn't healthy.

If you are medically overweight or obese (like if your doctor has told you you are obese), then its fine to want to be healthier. You are not fat if: 1. you've just told yourself "I'm fat I need to lose weight"
2. you've been teased at school by stupid kids trying to make you feel bad.
3. if you've just constantly heard about people losing weight on TV.

If you're being picked on, or if you don't like yourself, you should talk to someone you trust, like a parent, sibling, or teacher.

Also, you are 13-years-old. Right now, you are growing physically, you will be going through puberty, and your brain will be developing. You need more energy than a young child and an adult, because of all the physical and mental (brain) changes you will be going through. You gain energy by eating right and drinking water. It is perfectly fine to want to be HEALTHY, but remember being healthy does not JUST mean losing weight. Being healthier is eating fruits and vegetables, getting protein, calcium, vitamins and minerals from food, drinking water, and trying not to eat too much junk food and processed food.

Losing weight may not be the best idea, especially if you are not in an unhealthy weight range, and are only 13-years-old.

Lastly, never ever EVER starve yourself, or stop eating. It is extremely bad for you and can make you sick. I just wanted to say that in case you were considering it.

To sum it up, you are a young girl who is growing, and shouldn't be worrying about losing 15-25 lbs for graduation. You're beautiful just the way you are, don't let anyone else make you change.

Hello! Firstly, there is no need for you to panic, its ok for your hymen to be broken. Some girls break their hymen playing sports, riding a bike, dancing, or doing other physical activities. Not every woman breaks her hymen during sex. Don't worry about people thinking you are not a virgin, or not pure, because having a broken hymen does not always mean you have had sex.
Also, I want to say, do NOT get any kind of surgery down there for your hymen. It will most likely be an unprofessional who will take your money and hurt you. You do not need to 'fix' your hymen. There are a lot of people on the internet who will lie to get your money, or to hurt you. I really want you to understand how easily someone can trick you, especially when you're asking for a surgery like that.

It is ok for a woman, especially a 22 year-old woman, to masturbate. You are still pure.
Also, your doctor probably did not say anything about the broken hymen because its normal for a woman to have a broken hymen.

Lastly, if you are not comfortable with telling your mom about it, you don't have to. I don't tell my mum when I masturbate, I am just not comfortable with it. Most girls would be scared to tell their mum that, because it might be a bit embarrassing.

You have nothing to be scared or confused about. Concentrate on your studies, there is nothing wrong with you :)

Hey! It sounds like you're in a tough stage in life. Most people feel like they have no where to go once they graduate, but it must be harder for you with fiends like that.
If someone can't make time for you, ignores you, or thinks they're better than you, they are not worth it. They might think so highly of themselves, but for someone to treat a friend like that, they're a loser in my eyes.
I know you guys have been friends for years, and it's sad to say goodbye, but people can change.
I had almost the same experience, and in the end I decided I didn't want to be treated like dirt, so I stopped trying to communicate with my old friends and moved on. Now I've got two best friends who are amazing, and who I'd never trade for my old group of friends. It hurt so much to have my old friends ignore me, and it hurt to move on, but I'm happy I did.
Maybe this is what you need to do. Evaluate your friendships with these guys; how important are they to you? How important are YOU to them? Friendships are not a one-way street, both people have to put effort into them. Do you think they are worth it, or can you do better?

I also have to ask, have you been putting effort into staying in touch? Have you spoken over Facebook, texted, called or anything? Was your friend aware that you wanted to catch up with him, did he realize he ignored you?

I can't tell if it is a lack of communication that is the problem, or your friends have unfortunately changed and drifted away.

Sorry if this advice isn't what you were looking for. I sincerely hope you can find friends who care about you, or your old friends start caring about you too.
Best of luck.

I don't think it's weird for you to not want a relationship right now. Like you said, you have already got a lot going on, including stress and life problems. I can understand why you don't want a boyfriend, as it might add more stress to your life.

I can almost understand how you feel, because I don't want a relationship at the moment because I'm focusing on other things. However, my friends can't seem to understand this.

At the end of the day, I am happy with my decision, because I know having a boyfriend would be too much trouble for me right now. I think you just have to be more confident in your life decisions and in yourself. You're family can't understand what it's like to be you, and will find it hard to accept your choices. As long as your happy with you're decision, that's all that matters.

Don't let anyone pressure you into meeting a guy or getting a boyfriend. It's your life!

It's looks to me like you're more concerned with receiving acceptance from your family, rather then having a romantic relationship. So I have to say, don't get a boyfriend just to be accepted, because it will make you unhappy.

Good luck, hopefully your family can accept your decisions one day. Until then, learn to trust yourself and be more confident in your decisions. :)

Hi! Sorry this is rather long, but I want to give all the advice I can.
Firstly, her getting mad at you for doing something, and then her doing the same thing, is a problem that many people have with their siblings, or even friends. I also have this problem with my sister. And while it is an annoying thing for someone to do, it is not something that can generally be changed. If it is is bugging you a lot, it is best to talk to her about it the next time she does it.

As for your sister being mad when you don't reply to her texts, there may be a few reasons your sister is acting like this:

1. She lives 6 hours away. She doesn't see you or your parents as much as she used to, and she doesn't see your parents as much as you do. She misses you and she feels left out.

2. People are usually hard to reason with. If she feels emotional about something, it might be hard for her to think logically about it (for example, you didn't reply because it was late or you were sleeping. If she is upset about you not replying, she might not see this point very clearly)

3. Does she always reply to your texts? Maybe she feels that you should always reply because she always does.

4. She feels like you are not putting in as much effort as she is to stay in touch. She might feel neglected, like you don't really care about her or you can't be bothered talking to her.


Your sister may act the way she is because of one, or more than one, of these reasons.
I'm not saying they are they only things that could be going on in your sister's head, so don't leave this feeling like you have a perfect picture of what you're sister is thinking.


As for her being mad about you and your father not telling her about your mother being missing, I honestly can completely understand why she would be mad about this.
Picture yourself in her position. Would you be mad if your mom was missing and your sister and dad didn't tell you so that you 'wouldn't worry'? I think most people would rather worry about something happening to a family member, than not be told about it at all.
As I mentioned earlier, she might also feel left out. But her main reason for getting mad is most likely that she would want to know when something was wrong with her mom, as would any one.

If you are having an issue with your sister, it is best to talk to her about it.
Explain your reasons for not replying to texts, and actually listen to her when she tells you why she is mad. Listening to someone can open up communication and she might just tell you why she is always mad at you about things that you've done.

Hope I helped! :)

Hi, it sounds like your mum has a virus. She should go to the doctors to have it checked out, and she will most likely be prescribed with anti-biotics. However, it is important she goes to see her doctor about it.
I have experienced something similar, but I waited too long to go to the doctors, and ended up feeling nauseous for months because the virus got worse.
Hope she feels better soon :)

I think that anything that is food can go bad. However, chocolate takes longer than a month to a month-and-a-half to go bag. I dont know if the chocolate on the Whoppers is the same as average milk chocolate, because I have never had one, but chocolate can last months. Maybe bite into one and see if it has a weird texture or taste. If you are unsure than throw them out and just spit it out if you are afraid to swallow it. Sometimes when chocolate goes off it becomes really crumby and has a rough texture (unlike how chocolate is usually smooth and melts in your mouth).

Hope this helped you, and sorry I cant answer you question directly.

The only way you can get pregnant is if the sperm enters you vagina. Giving a handjob, a headjob, and being fingered cannot get you pregnant (unless the boy has sperm on his finger before he fingers you, but even then it is a small chance). If you are going to have sex, I would recomend that you get more educated on the topic. You are unsure about if giving or recieving a handjob can get you pregnan, which shows that you don't know all the facts about sex. I am not saying this to offend you, just to help you. Learning about what actually happens when you have sex and how you can get pregnant or get STIs (sexually transmitted infections) is a good idea. Also remember to ALWAYS wear a condom that isn't past its Best Before date (if it is old, it can get a hole in it, and even the smallest hole can get u pregnant or transmit an STI).

Good luck to you and your boyfriend, and also dont worry about ur period because you are not pregnant, and if you DO skip it, it will be because you are stressing about it too much ;)

Hope this helped.

My advice is to just go for it. One of you has to take charge, and it might at well be you. This will be a good chance for you to break out of your shell a bit, and get closer to your boyfriend. He will repect you for taking the first move and you will feel good about yourself.

If you are still unsure, maybe start a conversation with him about kissing, and ask him if he wants to kiss you. If he says yes ask him if he wants to kiss right now, and if he says yes then kiss him! But if he says no, dont take it personally, he's probably just be not ready or too shy to take that step. One day it will happen and it will be natural and hopefully you will both feel the love :)

Someone had a car bomb. They got caught before it went off, it DIDN'T EXPLODE, no body got hurt. Relax, it is ok. If the bomb did actually explode, the worst reaction would be to panic like you are now.

Nothing happened, the bomb was disarmed and everyone is ok! Believe me, you would know if it was a nuclear bomb.

Best thing to do would be to search it on the internet and read an article about it.

Here is an article:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/8658888.stm

Your mum is right about you not actually knowing if you like boys or girls, even if you don't agree.
At the age of fourteen your hormones are going crazy. You could be 100% sure you are straight at the age of 14 and then get to the age of 21 and realise you are a lesbian.
Just because the times are changing that doesn't mean that teenagers these days understand their sexuality better than teenagers in the past. Nearly all Teenagers naturally think they know everything (I am also a teenager lol), and they were the same in the 70's and 60's and have always been the same. Teenagers through many generations have always thought they know everything, your mum probably though that too ;)

I am also bi-curious so I know what you are feeling, and I don't feel comfortable telling my mum, but I do know how you should say it.
Say something like "Mum I need to talk to you about something important and I really hope you don't judge me or get mad at me." and then tell her you think you MIGHT be bisexual (even if you are 95% sure, just say you 'think' and that you 'might' be, because it makes it easier for her)
It can be hard to tell your parents things like that but just remember your mum loves you no matter what (at least I hope she does, I dont really know your mother personally)

Hope this helped and good luck with finding your sexuality.

PS. Remember to use protection when having sex! ;)

Try to wash the colour out. I heard that anti-dandruff shampoo and conditioner wash out hair dye (I know this because I dyed my hair and I couldn't figure out why it was fading so quickly until my mum told me that anti-dandruff shampoo & conditioner washes it out!) And using anti-dandruff shampoo while you don't have dandruff won't affect you in a negative way.

You could also tie your hair up and put a headband or clip in. And if you REALLY can't stand it, you could wear a cap or wig.

Also, you can get your hair dye washed out at the hairdressers, it is a bit expensive, but if you really need it done then I guess it is necessary. (I had this done, it doesn't hurt, but the hair dresser has to pull on my hair really hard to help get the colour out, but it wasn't that bad)

Good luck!

PS. You could try some really cute hair accessories, like head scarves and french barets.

French barette:

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_CmFoSkdzKpc/SZrv_MxuX3I/AAAAAAAAAS4/43DjtRVpinE/s400/cable+stch+baret+28.jpg

Head scarves:

http://www.splendicity.com/files/2009/06/headscarf-2.jpg

http://img.diytrade.com/cdimg/1023717/10750079/0/1255509024/fashion_head_scarf.jpg

Hey, don't worry about what other people think about you. No matter what you do, people are ALWAYS going to have a problem with it.
I am very thin and eat A LOT of sweets too, and there is nothing wrong with it.

If the doctor says you are healthy and there is nothing wrong then you should be ok, just remember, there are other problems too.

You could get bad teeth [ like me, my teeth LOOK ok, but they constantly hurt and I need fillings because I eat too much chocolate :( ], so make sure you check your dentist too.

It could also affect you in the long run. For example, let's say that now you are skinny and you eat a lot of sweets, so you continue to eat sweets all the time, but then in the future you start to gain weight or get health problems because you continue to eat unhealthily.

But, by what you have said, it doesn't sound like your diet really is that bad. So, you eat one brownie, cookie, tart, etc. once a day, that isn't bad at all. Some people have desert every day and nothing wrong happens. It is only bad if you eat it ALL THE TIME. Like after breakfast, then after lunch, then after dinner, then before bed, etc.

I wouldn't worry to much, it is fine to have a little sweet thing once a day.
You seem healthy to me! :)

I am also afraid of bugs. Mostly crawling bugs. I don't seem to get freaked out by flies, bees and butterflies, but things that crawl frighten me horribly.
I am mostly afraid of catterpillas. They freak me out, and if I see one (even a picture of one) I have to avoid it and I immediately start panacking and feeling dizzy.
Just typing this is making me feel like something is crawling on my legs. And when I see bugs I start hyperventilating and sometimes I get very emotional. I don't like being out at night because of bugs.
I just wanted to tell you all this to assure you that there are many people who are afraid of bugs. And Entomophobia is the technical name for a 'fear of insects or bugs'.

This is a serious thing and some people just think we are acting like drama queens, but we're not.

There is something that i do when I am feeling very brave. I actually go near a bug and hold it or look at it and think positive thaughts. (maybe something small and not so "creepy-crawly" like a worm or moth [if you hate flying bugs then you'll probably hate moths, maybe try something like a butchy boy/slater bug because they crawl into a ball and can be less frightening. Also I know worms seem gross but when you hold one they are not so bad and you can wash your hands afterwards])


Hope this helped you and sorry I am not that useful >

Is something on your mind? Maybe there is something bugging you and you are consantly thinking about it, and sometimes you might not even notice you're doing it.
When you snap out of a daze, think about what you were just thinking about or what was just destracting you. This might help.

This is the only thing I can think of.

I hope everything works out for you :)
Good luck

Hi! My name is Natalie and I am from Australia. I have always enjoyed helping people, and that is why I love using this website so much, and why I am studying Psychology at University to become a Clinical Psychologist. Hopefully I can give you some helpful advice and I always love feedback! :)

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