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I miss my friends
I've had the same few friends for my entire life, with a couple coming into my life throughout my years in school. We became a family. We were never apart, and we shared everything. We were there for each other, and a few of us always thought we'd at least visit each other during the holidays after we graduated.
But when we graduated, I wasn't sure what I wanted to do with my life. All my friends moved on to college or moved away for other reasons. We're all split up, and with them moving forward, I'm stuck in a dead-end job and living with my parents. They don't keep in touch at all, and when my best friend came home for Thanksgiving week, he blew me off. He was like my brother. Now I'm looking through my newsfeed on Facebook, and there are pictures of him happy with all his new college friends, doing things we used to do together. And he won't even make time for a 10 minute visit during the holidays.
What do I do? Everyone else is succeeding in life, and I've slipped through the cracks and no one wants anything to do with me. Please help if you can. It feels like the walls are closing in.
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Hey! It sounds like you're in a tough stage in life. Most people feel like they have no where to go once they graduate, but it must be harder for you with fiends like that.
If someone can't make time for you, ignores you, or thinks they're better than you, they are not worth it. They might think so highly of themselves, but for someone to treat a friend like that, they're a loser in my eyes.
I know you guys have been friends for years, and it's sad to say goodbye, but people can change.
I had almost the same experience, and in the end I decided I didn't want to be treated like dirt, so I stopped trying to communicate with my old friends and moved on. Now I've got two best friends who are amazing, and who I'd never trade for my old group of friends. It hurt so much to have my old friends ignore me, and it hurt to move on, but I'm happy I did.
Maybe this is what you need to do. Evaluate your friendships with these guys; how important are they to you? How important are YOU to them? Friendships are not a one-way street, both people have to put effort into them. Do you think they are worth it, or can you do better?
I also have to ask, have you been putting effort into staying in touch? Have you spoken over Facebook, texted, called or anything? Was your friend aware that you wanted to catch up with him, did he realize he ignored you?
I can't tell if it is a lack of communication that is the problem, or your friends have unfortunately changed and drifted away.
Sorry if this advice isn't what you were looking for. I sincerely hope you can find friends who care about you, or your old friends start caring about you too.
Best of luck.
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