im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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i have really bad pimple scars and bruises from old pimples. they just wont go away! they are all on my forehead and really embarresing. is there anything i could buy like some sort of cream or something to make them go away faster? (i already try makeup to cover them up but it doesent work perfect) (link)
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at a drugstore near you haha there is this stuff where one side is green and the other like cover up thats supposed to cover up those nasty scars and to get rid of them you go to this laser place just look it up ive seen them on commericals!
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so me and my guy have been dating for 15th months! i love him soo much! we we're each other's firsts for EVERYTHING except making out...i'm 16 he is 17...he's the kinda guy that is really moody like his dad...and stubborn... me and him have had some really big fights and stuff like that...he's cheated on my twice and i know about them but i've also cheated on him twice which he doesn't know about...i've been stressing out alot about our relationship because i really don't want to lose him...how can i make our relationship healthier? i do call him alot and everytime we are at his house we have sex..how can i change our relationship for the better? and don't just say to stop having sex...and idk if we should break up or not...we really don't want to cause we are like co-dependant on each other..oh and we both get really mad at each other over stu[id things sometimes.. (link)
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ok your problem is that you so much to tell him your secrets i think its becuase you cheated on him and you didnt tell him and the fact that hes cheated on you TWICE and you feel that you cant trust him as well fighting is going to happend and im not going to say no to have sex its your life if thats what you do do it. but im saying that the smart thing to do is tell him what your feeling rite now cuz thats a healthy relationship maybe telling him your secret is going to help but if you think its just going to break you guys up then dont do it but its really up to you. im just giving suggestions!
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how come its easier for me to be more outgoing n stuff around people i dont know, or who are shy. and i like outgoing people but sometimes i dont know.. i feel kinda shy around them but i dont want them to think im a really shy person.. its just.. idk. and sometimes like i dont know what to talk about with my friends, when theres nothing really to talk about, like on the bus and stuff. so sometimes im quiet but i really like to talk but with some people idk.. like what are some topics i could use for conversations? and how do i fix my problem? cause it irks me when people think im shy when its just cause like.. i dunno im not that comfortable with them yet. and its not like that with everyone.. it just depends. i wanna be more confident with that and also public speaking.. cause i like doing it but for some reason right before i do it i get nervous and it pisses me off (link)
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at this age you have mixed emotions a lot of teens go through it its normal i went through its hard and i hated it but i got over it im sure if you talk to an elder about this they can tell you more!
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Well, i have had about a 4 week realationship with him, and yesterday he text messaged me that he wants to break up. i said fine thats ok with me...(even though it really wasn't,he asked to be friends and i tired to be his friend but he seemed to find other things more interesting. then i confronted him and asked him why he broke up with me....he says it's a long story. then when we are coming to the buses he was talking and every body was asking him why he broke up with me and first he tolod them to tell me that it was because he wanted to turn "gay" for a day or a week or forever....i am a brunnette newyorican,(no offense to blondes) but i turned around and told him that i was not an idiot! and then my best guy friend was trying to tell me but my Ex kept pulling him down...so then my guy friend told me what it was...he broke up with me to go out with a 16 year old girl. how do i get him back? A nd how do i get him back for good? plz help!!!!sorry about then length though : ) (link)
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guys they have dicks rite well the puzzle fits they are DICKS and aholes!!! big time some arnt and you get lucky others like him well sorry but you dont want him back its betta to be happy then to be with some jerk i advise you to not hang out with him im brunette to and we are hott to bad for blondes haha and hes lost out!!! on something smart and beautiful.. find a better guy for yoursellf trust me.
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ive been having sex with my boyfriend for over a year now and we never use a condem and im not on birth control. he uses the "pull out" method. what is the percentage that i could get pregnant? (link)
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well i guess your just lucky if ur not pregnate now but if you didnt know precum can get you pregnate as well. the chances are slim but can happend but just so you know anytime a guys dick is inside your vagina you are at risk of getting pregnate NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Like I always wondred what goes on in the girls locker room...like i know the guys like are in their boxers and no shirt...but are the girls like freaken in their thongs and training bras?....like i know us guys like wanna be in there when they are getting changed and stuff...but what really happens in "THE GIRLS LOCKER ROOM" (with a voiceover announcer) (link)
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umm well when we change we tend to talk about the gossip and stuff make jokes a nd compliment eachother we dont run around topless yelling for more ik its a fantasy for you guys but it doesnt happend bras underwear are all on we try not to wear thongs the day of gym or w.e
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i know this sound silly but i always tahught it went in what i reacently found out is called my cervix. but where does it actually go then coz (without trying to sound graphic) it seams sealed off by fleash where my 'cervix' begins. is that weird, it is the same for other girls? (link)
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well it seems that your really young b.c a guys penis does go up the vagina hole! yes it does or sometimems up the a hole depending how u like it but im sure ur learning this stuff in health like 5th grade!
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I've been officially dating my boyfriend for about a month but we've been together for about seven. probably half of that time he was having sex with his ex girlfriend of a year and a half. I ended things twice with him, the first time hoping he would shape up and the second time I was just sick of all the drama with his ex. But he did shape up the second time and he officially was completely committed to me about 2 months ago. I'm not concerned one bit about his feelings for me. He's sometimes more romantic than me. He not only tells me he loves me and will never ever leave me, I can see he feels what he says. He's sometimes clingy and hates when I even talk to other guys. But I believe, once a cheater, always a cheater. So I check his myspace every now and then. He doesn't talk to other girls in a flirty way but he does comment their pictures saying "so cute" or "really pretty" and one time a girl asked if he had a girlfriend and he said "who cares" what should I think of this? I'm the type that likes to show I've got a boyfriend so I put some things on my myspace about him. but his profile says single and has nothing about me. although the single part is hidden so no one can see, still it worries me. I told him it bothered me that he didn't want people to know about us on his myspace and he said sorry and that he would put some thing but he hasn't. I feel like I can't trust him. He basically does whatever he wants wherever whenever because he has parents that don't really care about what he does. I don't know whether to breakup with him or just forget about it. please help! (link)
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i hate to say this but you either need a serious talk wit this boy or break up with him b.c the most important thing rite now is that your happy just say that to your self ud rather be happy then worrying about your boyfriend fucking with other girls and espessialy with his ex..your so rite once a cheater always a cheater its up to you really! id say breack up!!!
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I've always had a 6th sense for detecting peoples body lang. and things like that. I also get these feelings that I have to protect someone...
I'm a 15/m and I feel like I have to protect this guy. And I don't know why or how or when b/c he barely talks to me. His life is not the best and I think that's why I have to 'take care of him', kinda like a brother... but the guy won't talk to me and it's very hard for him to trust people b/c of family issues... idk what to do... normally I would just let it go right? ... WRONG!!!
I can't stop thinking about him... and it's not like I like the guy... I just can't stop wondering if he's ok today, or if he's smiling and happy. I feel like I have to play the part of father? I don't know what to do! Why can't I just stop thinking and worrying about him!?
What should I do? Have you ever felt like you had to protect someone that you've never met?
Please Help!
Thanks in advance.
-Andy (link)
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i know what your feeling in a way that i would see someone upset or they mite have a smile on their face but i would know that they were feeling terriable. he mite not talk to you now but if you just at lunch if he sits alone sit next to him say hi and whats up or do that in the hall way maybe hell get the courage to talk to you. dont ignore what your feeling just go with it if you dont and something bad happends lets say your gonna feel that you could have done something to prevent whatever he did. hope i helped!!!!
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i'm going on sort of a double date thing on friday. Its going to be me and my boyfriend and my friend and her boyfriend going to the movies.My boyfriend and i haven't kissed yet and he said he was gunna kiss me in the movie. This will be my first kiss. Wat should i do?????
Thanx in advance
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kiss him back! no touge at first stop then do what u gota do it just comes naturally dont think to much about it relax!
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I've had my period for about 2 and a half years now (i'm 15) and I've still havent gotten the courage to try tampons. I've actually tried it once but it hurt so badly I cried and had to get my gradma to take it out for me. then another time I had my mom in the same room and have her show me but she didn't really help. then I tried by myself because I thought I had the courage.
The actual problem is that I hate the feeling of something touching my vagina. I know that sounds stupid because people get excited when something is in their vagina. but I touch it with my fingers and it feels so weird and not good. is that normal? How can I put in a tampon if I hate the feeling of something touching me there. Like I can't even get the big part of the tube inside. Not like even an inch because I don't like the feeling.
I also have 1 question= How far are you supposed to put in the bigger part of the tube? People say until you can't no more but how far is that? Theirs like 5 rings on the tube and How do I know when to stop pushing the big part in and push the small part?
I could ask my mom again but she doesn't really help me. Please help!
Oh and I use Playtex Gentile Glide. Is that good for beginners? I heard theres a slim or junior something? Is that good? (link)
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wow like i have a problem with tampons to i mean i put it in rite but i hate the feeling of something up my vagina!! my mom says im putting it in wrong but ik i didnt cuz when u just see the string you put it in rite and as far as the feeling goes im sure its just a fase!
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ok ive been going out off and on with this guy for 2 years, at the beginning he was the best boyfriend he was like whipped i guess well not completely but i knew he cared, and since august hes been COMPLETELY different he never calls me texts me or anything im in highschool and i see him everyday and sometimes he acts like im not even his girlfriend.. ik ur going to say breakup with him but honestly i think that will make matters worse bc this new girl came to our school shes latina and shes georgous and to make it worse, hes the captain of the football team.. and he has all of the guys wrapped around his finger in our grade and SHE LIKES HIM. they stare at eachother all the time. whenever i ask him about her hes always like no i dont like her kelly stop asking me. I believe him bc he never lies to me but still it doesnt change the fact that he treats me completely different now. In the summer i brokeup with him and liked 3 different guys but i never hooked up or anything with them. like 3 weeks ago tim told me that he was still upset ad he wanted a break and then we got back together like 2 days later. idk whats going on but i need advice how to not focus or like play hard to get with him more bc i think he knows now that he can get me whenever he wants please help me im open to any advice. and ive already tried talking to him about it a million times and hes just like, ill change babe ughh
THANK YOU SO MUCH IN ADVANCE this has been going on for to long. (link)
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you shouldnt have to do anything for your bf to like you better if the love is there then thats all you need to do but seriously you need a real talk with him like this is what you have to say "i think you have changed and its breaking my heart i have no idea what i have to do for you to just have you the same again if this doesnt stop soon i dont think we can be together anymore so if there is anything thats bothering you plz tell me and we can figure this out together!" thats all you really can do im telling you dont do anything differnt for him to notice you more or w.e!
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okay so i have this guy friend...
who ive known for 5 years. he's always liked me but has not admitted it.
so we met back in 7th grade. and we were reallyy good friends
i transferred schools for 8th grade from public to private.
we still kept in touch by email and such.
last summer(of '07), he came through my line at work and i hadnt seen him in years. he soon started working there too.
so supposidly he's good friends with my ex, who i dated last summer up until late october when we broke up for various reasons. but he says he doesnt like my ex cz hes just an as$hole.
so ever since that breakup, we've been tlaking alot. he has a girlfriend who hes been with since april or may of last year('07)
lately hes been like complaining about her but says things like he misses me and he cant stop thinking about me and cant wait to see me again, etc.
so last night after work, he walked with me to my car and we talked for a few. i got in my car and rolled the window down and we talked a bit more. suddenly he says "oh my mom is here" and he kisses me. i was like..uh....ok.
it wasnt just the fact he kissed me, he did like 4 times! practically trying to like makeout with me. i was kinda freaked out.
so i emailed with him last night about it and he was saying things like he has waited so long for that to happen and that im perfect for him and he wants to be with me. yet, hes still with his gf.
what would you do? how would you go about handling this situation?
thanks,
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aww ifeel really bad for you and his girlfriend. your in such a pickle the question is do you like him? if not then your fine but if you do you serioulsy have to talk to him about what happend tell him that you dont want to be in a huge mess where you love your gf but u love me blah blah uk wat i mean so make it straight between you guys you so need to talk!
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16/female. in march im turning 17 and i havent had sex yet... all of my friends have done it already.. so i feel weird when they talk about it around me. some have boyfriends and some have just done it with radom guys at parties (which i dnt want to do).
i feel that im missing out and that im ready to do it for the first time but i dont have a boyfriend and i want my first time to be with someone i can trust and that i can remember it as being spacial.
is it weird that i havent done it yet and everyone else has and the fact i will be 17 soon.. my sister is 19 and she did it when she was 15 so i feel like i should of already.
thanx (link)
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dont feel bad your not going to be a virgin forever and you know what im glad that you want to do it with someone your trust thats the best thing you can do because no one can call you a whore! there is not rite age to do it. some are way to young others think to old but its the rite time when you feel its the rite time! dont feel left out b.c u didnt jump in bed with the first guy you saw who cares rite be happy your still pure and that guys dont have to be like ew shes to easy ya i banged that in the 5th grade uk!
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i have them and i want to know:do guys really like back dimples/ dimples of venus on girls? (link)
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umm just so everyone knows that everyone has them i mean its not cuz ur fat its because you were born with them i have them i used to think eww but now i think its cute like you have dimples on the cheecks complelty adorable if the guy your dating hates it then sucks for him he should like your personality and the good looks else where not just one spot!
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does anyone know a website where you can download free songs to your ipod legally without viruses, catches, or a lot of time? if it helps I have the newest version of itunes downloaded (link)
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sometimes if u go to mypsace and type in a artist they have downloadalble songs for u but not all the time!
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ok, so i have a problem and i know it. I dont think its huge, but im 14/f and i like looking at porn. i know i shouldnt and i dont understand why i do. i know there is will power, but one thing leads to another and there i am on a porn websight. Ive even tried cyber sex, i know it doesnt have anything to do with porn, but i still did it. I feel horrible for doing this. How do i stop? ive tried saying one look and then be done, but i have to keep looking. And i dont want to go to a doctor or my parents..
Anything will help! and thanks soo much. (link)
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looking at it isnt that bad i mean its normal from what i hear but if you feel like its an obsession then heres what you do you tell yourself that no i cant do this! no one look or glance everytime your going to do it take something away from yourself or pinch yourself or talk to friends go out eat something watch tv. play outside playinside w.e crafts uk the cool stuff!
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I want to do something special for my boyfriend on our six month anniversary, the thing is I don't know. I don't want to spend a lot of money just want to make it special and let him know that I care a lot about him. Please help ASAP because our anniversary is TUESDAY! (link)
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personally i think giving gifts to each other every month b,c for some mirracle you guys havnt broken up yet is a waste of money! do you know if hes giving you something? but to save some money just give him a kiss nd say im glad we are still together or something cute like that its better then buying him an ipod or somthing huge uk!
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how do i tell my girlfriends that she needs to shave down there without being really mean. she can be kinda sensitive about that kinda stuff. help please. (link)
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well this is how i heard it once that youjust go you know what would be hott and say what eva!
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I'm going tomorrow morning to get my cartilage pierced and i'm not exactly sure where i'm going.
my question is, which hurts less
gun or needle?
i've had my belly button periced with a needle.
and all other pericings on my ear done with a gun
but i don't know about a cartilage.i'm thinking a gun since i know it will be painful, but i know that a gun would be quicker.
also, right or left side?
i'm thinking the .. left
(my left)
:D thanks. (link)
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haha ya the gun is so more easier do it that way it hurts for a day at night it will hurt and dont remove it to change the earing for like a year clean it and ik they say u can take it out like after how many weeks but wait a year. sometimes at night it will hurt to sleep on it and to choose the ear you want on what side you pick the side that you least sleep on!
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