I've been officially dating my boyfriend for about a month but we've been together for about seven. probably half of that time he was having sex with his ex girlfriend of a year and a half. I ended things twice with him, the first time hoping he would shape up and the second time I was just sick of all the drama with his ex. But he did shape up the second time and he officially was completely committed to me about 2 months ago. I'm not concerned one bit about his feelings for me. He's sometimes more romantic than me. He not only tells me he loves me and will never ever leave me, I can see he feels what he says. He's sometimes clingy and hates when I even talk to other guys. But I believe, once a cheater, always a cheater. So I check his myspace every now and then. He doesn't talk to other girls in a flirty way but he does comment their pictures saying "so cute" or "really pretty" and one time a girl asked if he had a girlfriend and he said "who cares" what should I think of this? I'm the type that likes to show I've got a boyfriend so I put some things on my myspace about him. but his profile says single and has nothing about me. although the single part is hidden so no one can see, still it worries me. I told him it bothered me that he didn't want people to know about us on his myspace and he said sorry and that he would put some thing but he hasn't. I feel like I can't trust him. He basically does whatever he wants wherever whenever because he has parents that don't really care about what he does. I don't know whether to breakup with him or just forget about it. please help!
icey0990 answered Monday January 7 2008, 1:23 am: oh my gosh. its bad enough he cheated on you, but he is telling girls now that "who cares" if he has a gf? this just shows he will cheat again. why subject yourself to this scum?? you cant trust him,he hurt you before,definitely get out of this messed up situation. you say he is all romantic and you beleive he loves you..dont buy this bullcrap hes feeding you! a REAL guy would be romantic, say he loves you, WITHOUT the cheating part or the part where hes telling girls who cares if he has a bf, etc.You desserve SO0O much better, dont settle for a jerk hun [ icey0990's advice column | Ask icey0990 A Question ]
Razhie answered Sunday January 6 2008, 8:53 pm: You can't trust him.
People can change, but the only 'change' he has made is that he stopped actively cheating on you with his ex. That isn't very substantial.
For all his 'romance' he seems have very little substance does he? Only you can make the call hun, but the outlook certainly doesn't look good if only one month into a 'commited' relationship you aren't getting what you need. [ Razhie's advice column | Ask Razhie A Question ]
sml111992 answered Sunday January 6 2008, 8:07 pm: i hate to say this but you either need a serious talk wit this boy or break up with him b.c the most important thing rite now is that your happy just say that to your self ud rather be happy then worrying about your boyfriend fucking with other girls and espessialy with his ex..your so rite once a cheater always a cheater its up to you really! id say breack up!!! [ sml111992's advice column | Ask sml111992 A Question ]
carayotie answered Sunday January 6 2008, 8:06 pm: If you can't trust him or feel very close to him then maybe it's time for you to move on. Theres other guy out there and maybe it's time for a change.
As for the myspace thing, some guys don't feel the need to post every detail of their lives online.
Guys are VERY different from girls when it comes to relationships and they think differently. You think: "I love him so much I want to tell the entire world" but for a guy, simply being alone with you or spending time with you is enough. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
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