naimee's advice column

Okay, first of all I think you need to calm yourself down over there. Advicenators is a site about giving advice, correct? It isn't about judging people about their looks. Many people on this site are all about looks, basically if they're hot - then they give great advice. But that's not what it's all about. Who cares if she lied a little bit? It's a picture. Honestly, it doesn't bother me at all. I still think she's a great person & nothings going to change my perspective on her, capeesh? That's just how it is. Don't be stupid like you are. It's just pathetic.

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So I've never really had to buy my girlfriend anything because my mom always took care of all of that. But last year, my gf found out that I don't personally buy her presents and she got all upset. Now, she wants me to go out and buy her her present this year by myself. My mom refuses to help me now. I've really never done this before and you don't have to believe me but it's true. Anyways, this is what I have so far:

100$ Abercrombie card (her fav. store)
50$ Hollister or Forever 21 card (her second fav.--I'm not sure which yet though)
And these earrings her sister helped me pick out. They're pink sapphires with pearl on top they're pretty nice.

But I can see my gf's face when she sees these..."oh gift cards...thanks babe..." She might like the earrings more though...I don't know. I'm already spending 250$ on all of that--I'll put in maybe like 75 more. Does anyone have any ideas?

Okay seriously hun. How old are you? Like I'm really not trying to be mean, like this is an advice site so I'm going to give you my perspective on all of this.

You're buying her gift cards? I mean, come on man, put a little creativity in it. Like seriously, if my boyfriend even thought about buying me ANYTHING from Abercrombie or Hollister I'd be like, fuck no - take it back. But, if it's her favorite store that's different. It's just going to be gay that you didn't buy her anything from those stores, it's just going to look really lazy & that you don't love her as much.

Just buy her earrings, and take everything else back. I'm sure she'll be happy enough with that.

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I want to get into Cosmetology. Something with makeup or hair. I was told that for my junior year that I had to go to some Cosmetology school and take classes for that sort of thing. Is that true?

Well, I think it may be different at every school. But here you have to go to a vocational school, which would be during school for about 5 periods. & You'd have to take 3+ classes for cosmeotology. Talk to your counselor & see what it's like at your school. He/she will definitely tell you what you need to do! (:

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I have a sort-of sweating problem. I've tried secret, ban, and I think a few other deodorants...but none seem to work. Do you know what kind of deodorants might help me? thanks.

Certain Dri works like magic. You can only put it on at night though. It costs anywhere around 6 - 7 dollars. But, for the day time you should definitely try, "Arrid Extra Extra Dry." & You can get it for like 3 dollars. It's seriously the best!

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my friend asked me to tell you guys if anyone knows how much abortion cost.. we live in C.A if that helps.. and do you have to tell your parents if you going to do it?

Depending of course which clinic you go to, the price can vary. But usually abortions cost anywhere around $300. A pregnant minor (an unmarried girl under 18 years of age) can get an abortion in California without telling her parents about it.

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There is a semi-formal dance on December 2 at my school. Here are some possible outfits I might wear, which is the best???:

--Black silk assymetrical tanktop with black beads on the bust and straps, a black pinstripe blazer with red and white stripes, and a pair of dark green corduroys

--An awesome long tye-dyeish indie/boho skirt, and some cute top like the one above or a long sleeve princess-necked one with a halter underneath

--Nothing ;-) hehe just kidding

Which do you like the best, and don't say nothing...

Definitely the second one! It sounds really pretty, and I'm sure it'll be unique. As the black one's just original you know what I mean? I'm not trying to be mean about it, but blacks just a boring color - especially for a dress. (: Have funnn!

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so i skipped school and there was weed and alcohol im 13 female by the way..
and anyways.
i was good i didnt smoke because its disgusting.
and it was only 33% alcohol..
anyways my freinds turned out to not be freinds.
and so i was like.. im tired. then this guy goes oh here ill take you upstairs.. and show you where you can sleep.
so we went into the room yes we.. and he locked the door we were on his parents bed.
and he started making out with me.
hes 15.
and im like EWWWWWWWWWWW because he was so fugly.
and yeah he was on top of me..
then i stopped thinking omg what do i do.
then he took of his pants..
and started making out again..
and then he put my hand yeah you know.
and made me give him a handjob while makingout.
then he took of my pants.
And got on top of me.
and i pushed him of
and was like no!
im not going to have sex with you.
im a virgin.
and im afraid to have sex..
i didnt say that but yeah
and then hes like i love you.
suck my dick.
I KNOW ISNT THAT SO DUMB!
and im like no.
and hes like.
yes then you wont have to do anymore.
and im like NO.
i was thinking if i dont want to do anymore i wont do anymore.
and then he tried to have sex with me again.
i pushed him of.
and left to go get my twin brother and pretend i was at school.
what is this??
rape??
peer presure
im freaked out.
PLEASE HELP ME!

It's sexual harassment, and he had NO right to make you touch him in those ways especially if you didn't want to. It is also rape, rape is the crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts. You need to tell your parents, right away about this. You might be embarassed, but hun you really need to. This isn't something that you can just keep in the past and move on about. He could potentially do it to you again. I'm sorry. ):

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ok im 13 8th grade and this guy asked me to go with him.
i really dont know how to say no to guys.
I AM EXTREMLY NOT ATRACTED TO HIM.
and i dont want to go with him.
hes going to kiss me.
PLEASE HELP.
i rate 5s.

Maybe you could just go with him as a friend? But, tell him that just be like, "I'm willing to go with you, but I promised someone else that I'd be their date, so I'm just going to go with you as a friend." Or, if you have someone else on your mind then just tell him that you can't because someone else asked you first.

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K, I need help with 3 things actually:
1-I met this guy at a party, and at first I really didn't like him all that much, and I was really confused, and I seriously didn't know what I wanted, I was having a rough time with other things at the time... But then I decided, I liked the guy, and today he told me he likes this other girl and he doesn't like me at all... And I seriously don't know what to do, I'm just kind of tired of feeling hurt and let down by guys...

2-I also THINK I like this other guy, and I seriously think I could be really happy with him, but I don't know if he likes anyone, if he has a girlfriend, or if he'd even be interested in me "in that way".

3-I have this "friend"... and I stopped talking to her because we just didn't exactly feel the same about certain things... I thought we ended on good terms, but then I found out they have been saying REALLY mean things behind my back. Calling me fat and ugly and a bunch of other stuff. Which, from what she knows about me, is a seriously low blow. What should I do? Please help.

Number One: I know exactly what it's like to be in your situation & so do so many other people. It's going to be horrible especially since you realized at the end that he turned out to be a cool guy & you liked him. But seriously, life moves on & he's just going to be another one of those stupid guys. He's useless anyways if he actually tells you that he doesn't like you at all, he's seriously not worth it. Don't worry that much about it.

Number Two: You need to talk to this kid more and find out what his priorities are. Who he likes, what he wants in a girl, and then eventually you can tell him that you think you like him & he may like you back. Just get his screename/phone number & keep in contact with him! Just take things slow, and see what he likes & stuff!

Number Three: You definitely need to talk to her seriously about her calling you fat and ugly behind your back. See what she says, because it could just be one of those stupid rumor type things, you know? But if it turns out you KNOW shes saying these things. You shouldn't be friends with her. Friends definitely don't talk shit like that, especially like physical things. That's really rude & she's not even worth having any friends at all if she can't even tell you what she thinks about you to your face. (:

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im deepresed and im failing every class and report cards are coming out and my dad will be hella pist what should i do i will rate 5 if you give me a good answer

Hmm. Well when you get your report card and have to give it to your dad, just tell him you'll try harder next semester. Then really try & work hard. Pay attention, & take notes. Hand in your homework & study for tests. & if it's really hard for you to understand what you're doing ask your teacher for help & maybe they can help you afterschool or recommend a tutor?

But the only thing you can do is try really really hard the next time & promise your dad you will.

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Ok, well i just watched Saw 1 with my friend the other day. It was a great movie!!! Ok but i am confused about one thing. So anyone who might have seen it, please answer this question!!??

Ok, well u know at the end when the guy is closing the door on adam, well does the doctor get out of the room or does he get trapped in to? gosh like part of me thinks he got out and part of me thinks he was still in there. Well thanks for any help!!

Well if you see Saw II, the two bodies are back in that room & they rotted. The man who sawed off his leg would've died anyways from blood loss. Plus before he started crawling out you could tell he was all pale in the face & he was obviously already dying and wouldn't last very long! (: But the man who kept them in there must've caught the man before being able to leave & lead him back to that room where they both died. Yep! It's awful lol. But it's an awesome movie!!

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what are some stores that sell clothing that everyone wears? (list preferred)I rate high!

Macy's
JcPenney
Dilliards
Sears
Kauffmans

I'm not sure if you mean by gender or by like size of what you wear.

But there's always:
hollister
aeropostale
american eagle
abercrombie..

but if youre self conscious about your weight, i wouldn't suggect shopping in those stores :)

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Im getting my hair dyed professionally and its going to cost me about $50. Assuming the hairdresser does a good job, how much should I tip? Thanks.

I'd only tip $5 because I'm poor haha! But, you should tip anywhere from $5-$10. But no more then 10! (;

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I want to lose weight but I can't seem to do so. I can have my mind set on anything except not eating so much food. Can someone please help me so that I can lose weight and gain muscle before the new year.

I answered to a question like before. So I hope you don't mind, I'm just going to copy & paste.

Well, I was really overweight to begin with, and I was made fun of, ALL THE TIME. So, it was pretty easy for me to shed a lot of weight, because of how much I wanted to show all the people who made fun of me for like five years that I could do it.I don't know if you're overweight or if you're just interested in shedding a few pounds. But, if you DO get picked on. You know how much it can potentially hurt you. And getting made fun of from 4th grade to 9th grade about your weight, by everyone including your friends & having no one to stick up for you really DOES suck. Even my family members: my Grandmother would call all the time, living in England she never sees me, and only met me once when I was ten [when I started gaining weight] Would ask my parents if they're doing anything to control my weight, yet. & Would tell me my sisters call me fat behind my back and told her & she was just wondering if I lost any weight yet. I was TEN!! That's the worst part about it. Anyways, basically from that paragraph, I meant that you need self confidence in yourself first. You need to literally stand in front of a mirror and pick out things you like about yourself, just to lose weight. As stupid as that sounds. It works.

Well, basically when I wanted to start losing weight, it was seriously impossible. I was 15, living in a stupidass small town consisting of 700 people. With nothing but a movie store, grocery store, & a pizza shop. NO attractions like where I could exercise or anything. So, I decided to stay in the house & try out Pilates & Tae bo. Don't get me wrong, they both worked greatly. I felt great after exercising. I was eating different portions and everything. Drinking diet drinks. But, I wasn't losing ANY weight at all. I was actually gaining. That's when my rents decided to take me to a nutrionist! They told me I had an oversized uhh shiit I forget what it's called. But, it's something in your throat, that controls your weight, height, and just about everything else. If I remember, I'll leave it in here later. I'll have to ask my parents what it's called. Anyways, since it was oversized that's why I couldn't lose weight to start with. So, I started taking pills that automatically made them smaller. Which caused me to lose 10 pounds to start off with. I don't count that with the 30 pounds I lost myself though, because I didn't lose that 10 pounds myself which sucks.

Now, it was really hard for me to lose weight at the beginning because I was just beginning & I was embarassed to run in front of everyone, even my family. So, I'd wake up everyday at like 4am & go running down the main street I lived on. I came from a shitty ass small town. So when I see Main Street - I mean a street that connects us to ANOTHER small crappy town. So, there wouldn't be any cars that would pass, which would be awesome. :) I stopped drinking soda for one, I just drank water all the time. 10 glasses a day :) Awesome. I didn't eat fast foods anymore. Like McDonalds, which was horrible because I loved McDonalds. :( I wouldn't even get their salads. lol. It was awful. I didn't have to worry about not eating candy & chocolate anymore, because I didn't eat it anyways. I just don't have a sweet tooth anyways. :P

I would have four small meals, a day. I'd wake up & have a bagel. Go to school - @ lunch I'd have a turkey sandwich, when I'd get home I'd have like cereal or something. Then at dinner time I'd have something else small, like chicken or tuna. That helped. Because, eating 4/5 opposed to 3 meals a day can speed up your metabolism. & Helps a lot when wanting to lose weight.

When I moved to this huge city, San Antonio. I knew I'd have to keep up the weight loss, so I joined a gym! It's been helping me a lot, now. Plus, I met a really good friend at the gym who's pretty much been in the same situation as me. And I'm helping her through it :)

To lose that 10 pounds from the pills, it took me about 4 days. But, the other 30, I'd have to say it took me 2 months. I lost about 15 pounds a month. Which is actually pretty good. Seen as I lost about 3-4 pounds a week.

My advice to you, if you're serious about losing weight. You really really really need to see a doctor about it. My doctor helped me SO much with weight loss, and I seriously wouldn't have been able to do it without her. You need to diet, portionize your meals & stop drinking soda & fatty foods. Start exercising, if it's only running around your house, or doing a video exercising program thing. See if you get results from it.

Good luck with losing weight, and seriously YOU can do it. I'm sorry if I forget anything, or if there's anything else you need.

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okay so now i know that your hymen can break..but what if it seems to happen each time you get fingered now? is this normal? is he being too rough? should i tell him to ease up? what?

I'm not really 100% sure. I've never been fingered before. So, I've never had your troubles. I think maybe he's being too rough? Or is he scratching your vagina with his fingernails? That's probably just it. Ask him to be careful when he does it, and see if that works.

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What are some really good love books? For young girls. That make you say like "awww!! how cute!" and it just makes you read them over and over. :) Any book will do though. Thank you . :)

I don't read, but for English last year I had to for like a grade, so I chose "The notebook." & I was so mad because it looked stupid! But it's like the best love book ever, and I recommend it. It's 100x better then the movie! (:

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Before you read this I just want to say this is a dumb question. Don't mock me.

"You are stuck in a room with no windows or doors. a solid room. Only things in this room is a mirror and a table. how do you escape?"

I recently recieved an e-mail reading this. What is the answer?

You look in the mirror and see your reflection. You see what you saw, take the saw, saw the table in half, two halves make a whole, you use the hole to get out.

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Is it normal to bleed while your getting fingered???? If it is..please explain

Yes, it's normal.
It just means that your cherry has been popped, or in better terms, your hymen broke. (; Usually it happens when you first have sex. But, it can happen from tampons, being fingered, or physical activity.

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So my bf and i go to different schools. we're trying to see each other like once a week...but he got food poisoning last weekend and today he took a pill (apparently he's allgeric to)so our plans tomorrow might get ruined. today is our 7 months. since he's sick.. What should I do? I want to give him a get well soon present.. Any ideas?

Aw. Hope he feels better.

As for tomorrow, I think you should get balloons that say "Get well soon" & Then take him over soup or his favorite food or something. Then eat with him! It'll show him that you care about him when hes sick. That's probably what I would do! (:

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