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ok well um lately i have been feeling like i may not only like guys when i look at gurls i dont feel like there just freinds i am afraid to talk about it with my freinds to see if they are going through it to im 13 is this normal????

Aww yea sweetie, this is VERY normal. I'd say a good 75% if not more question there sexuality at some point in there teen years. Alot of women still question it, (like bi-curious) women wonder what it would be like to be with another woman. Just because of the simple fact that a woman knows how to please a woman. (So I've been told). If your wanting to talk to someone, go to your best friend. Ya never know, she might feel the same way and yall could have something to talk about together.

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"I currently work in retail in a mall, I am 19 yrs old, my manager that is 26. There are a lot of things I am troubled about, I don't know how he feels about me.

I am the top sales associate at the store. One day, he told me if I sell $3000 worth of sales (which is IMPOSSIBLE in our store) in one day, he'll take me out for dinner. Later on, he changed the budget to $1500, which is EXTREMELY difficult still. He said he would take me to a very prestigeous/expensive restaurant, the 360 restaurant on top of the CN tower (I am from Toronto Canada by the way). In MY opinion, this is a place where all my friends in relationships go to on special occasions.

Well, an hour before the day ended, I was FAR from the $1500 budget, so he said he cant take me to dinner if i dont make the sales, he'll only take me to Diary Queen, and I made a very disapproving/disappointed *awwww* jokingly, then he said fine.... i'll take you to DQ and a good walk on the beach.

I ended up making $1500 that night!!!!! when he was checking my sales, he had his hand covering his mouth and kinda laughing. He looked nervous, scared, excited, (according to everyone else that was there).

we are going this weekend, first he tells me to dress glamourous!... later on, he said glamourous usually means romantic, flowers and all that, so he told me to dress *fun*.... then i asked *are you gonna get me flowers?!?!?!* jokingly of course. Then he said... *c'monnn christine*... so i told him im only joking..... but he ends up asking me what my fav flower is...

I am extremely confused about this situation. He is extremely good looking, and has a lot of *girl* friends.... but I dont THINK he takes them out to nice dinner like this.

Also at work, he offered to buy me a drink... but he said he *forgot*, but later on, he bought me a drink when we decided to go hang out with his friend and this other girl at work.... i didnt ask for the dirnk... he came outta the convenience store for me...

but just yesterday he said he REALYL wanna see the movie the LakeHouse with sandra bullock and keanu reeves, and he was gonna see it with his friend (a girl)... but she didnt end up calling him... but it SEEMED like... when we saw the advertismeent for the movie he emphasized that he wants to see it again... =/ ... im not sure if he's hinting me taht he wants to see it with me?... or he jsut wants to see it... since he was gonna see it with a *girl* friend anyways....

also... when we were with his friends hanging out.... they were talking about sum girls... and he commented and said they were pretty... >.

Sounds to me like he does like you, he is being very flirtaious. No manager say's hey you make this much in sales and I'll take you out. It's not like he profits off of the sales, it just makes him look good. It was his way of asking you out without looking stupid if you were like ummmm eww no lol. I'd keep my eyes open on this situation, he kinda' sounds like a player with all these girls he takes out. That might vey well be why he is technically single. So yea, he is definatley flirting with you like mad but ya know, just keep your eyes open if he starts to get more serious with you.

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Ok, I've always had bad acne, but in teh summer it gets way worse. I've always had blakc heads to, around my nose, chin, and forhead. There starting to get worse; more deep, larger, and darker. It really grosses me out! I use proactive for my acne, but it doesn't work on my black heads. I've tried strips before, and they don't help at all. I need something very powerful that will get rid of all of my black heads AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Does anyone know any thing I can use?! I'm up for any possibility (even a certain kind of strips). Thanks!

This is a must have, I swear by it: Biore Pore Perfect Warming Anti-Blackhead Cream Cleanser.
You can get it just about anywhere, here's what it looks like: http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/cvs/gateway/detail?prodid=275304&previousURI=/CVSApp/cvs/gateway/search?ActiveCat=499^Query=blackhead

Here's a home remedy for black heads: Take a cheese grater and grate up a cucumber. Apply all over your target areas for 15 minutes. This helps draw the oil out of the pores that makes blackheads start in the first place.
2. Mash aspirin with spoon and add a little drop of water to make a paste, appply on blackheads.
3. Take vitamin B5 and zinc supplements daily to strengthen the skin's resistance to acne.

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I have my period now, but yesterday and today when I use the bathroom, my period is brown. Why is it like that? Usually it's red. I am kind of sick, does that affect it? Is it normal?

Brown discharge is usually "old" blood that is being extruded from the uterus. This is usually blood that did not come out during your last period. It is quite normal to have a period such as you describe. Don't worry about it.

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What does it mean to "spoon" someone?

when couples lay in bed at night, they spoon (just like spoons in a drawer) there bodys meet each other - back to chest. Also, this is a sex position.

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I'm not sure if I have the right category for this but I have these horrible stretch marks a little below my butt...and since it's summer I want to go out to the beach in a bathing suit but I dont know what to wear to cover my gross butt while looking cute & girlie. I have tried to get rid of the stretch marks for years but they aren't going away. Is there anything I could wear like a type of swimsuit or is there anyway to hide them? Thanks!

Palmers cocoa butter formula for stretch marks, this can take a few weeks before you notice anything thou. How about the bathing suits with the boy shorts? I love em'! OK there's one more quick solution to your problem, I myself use this but I'm not sure how long it'll last as I don't think it's waterproof, but it does work. Here is what the product looks like: http://www.revlon.com/product.asp?ProductID=6235&Mode=catalog

You can buy it at Wal-Mart and Target for around $12.00. I swear by it.

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has anyone tried reusable pads or seasponge tampons?
how comfortable are they compared to disposable feminine hygene products? which brands would you recommend?

ok wow I had to look this one up. Reusable pads, according to the website is very comfortable, and seems to stay in place better than the throw away pads. But, the downside is you have to wash em' and dry em'. I had never heard of sea-sponge until I seen this question and had to look that up to. I think I might....dare I say try it. here is what I found: (BTW, these seem more sanitary as your not having bloody pads layin everywhere not unless your going to thro each one in the wash, that can add up to alot) Sea sponges are comfortable and easy to use. They need to be rinsed to soften them before you insert it. Insert the sea sponge whilst menstruating, take it out regularly just as if you where using a tampon and rinse it and then re insert it again. You will be responsible for your own personal hygiene.

Sea sponges are comfortable unlike tampons which hurt if you do not position them right. Sea sponges give and mould with your body and are a natural fiber. There is no packaging or toxic waste for the environment to deal with.

Quite a lot of prostitutes use sea sponges whilst menstruating, so that they do not have to stop working whilst they menstruate. Apparently men do not even feel that they have them inserted because of the softness of the sea sponge.

LOL about the whole prostitute thing! I never really thought about them not being able to work when they were raggin!

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Hey i was wondering if someone can tell me a place where i can download always and forever by raze i cant use limewire or napster or anything like that cause i have a new comp and i dont want viruses and itunes wont let me buy it. do u think maybe someone can download and send it me ill give you my email if you can... well thanks inadvance.

I can download it....just lemme know.

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My period is 2 weeks late. I have had it for 4 years now so it has kinda got normal, and i know they can come late but 2 weeks!? Is that okay? or is it bad?

Stress can be a factor, Other things, such as Anorexia Nervosa, Ovarian Cysts, Polycystic ovarian syndrome, losing alot of weight very fast, excercising more, & weight gain.

If its just one missed period and you're quite young, say under 18/19, its probably just your body adjusting and I wouldnt put to much thought into it.

Wait it out and if by next month you don't get your period, make an appointment with your OBGYN.

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i think my friend is mad/annoyed at me because i got her sick and she thinks i shouldn't have been out & just staying home. but she had to stay with me because her parents were away, so how is that my fault? i've been resting since she left so i don't know why she's annoyed. what was i gonna do? kick her out to live on the street? i don't get it. anyway, she ahsn't directly said it to me, but she asked a question on here that i knew was her and she hasn't really been talking to me. what should i do? thanks xo

Couple ?'s...She stated in her question that your ALWAYS sick? and are you 100% sure that was her that asked that? OK, moving on....Putting myself in your position, I'd mad...well a little. First of all, she HAD to stay at your place. 2nd of all it wasnt like you waited for her to go to bed and then breathed all over her ya know. You didn't mean to make her sick. And I'd make sure she knew that. I would go ahead and drop her a e-mail or something like that and let her know whats up. Be nice in your letter so as to not destroy the friendship, for example dont write: Hey girl, I saw that shit you wrote on advicenators first of all you ungrateful thing, you had to stay at my house, i didnt make you and i didnt mean to make you sick but now that you are, im glad! ha ha ha
lmao! ok I know you wouldnt say that, but like I said, it's an example. Just be like, Hey Nickey, I was Advicenators today and I saw a question that I think you asked, it was about you wanting excuses to avoid me this summer so I wouldn't get you sick. That really did hurt. I do enjoy your company and I really didn't mean to make you sick. It wasn't like I hung over you at night and breathed on you, it just kinda' happened. Anyways, I'm sorry you got sick, and you dont need any excuses. I got the point. :(

lol that'll make her feel bad for bein' mean!

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My friends are always talking. And recently, they have been talking about the different types of sex. I thought there was only one. Are there more and what are they? Does making out count as sex?

There lot's of different styles of sex.
Dry sex- (basically your humping that person with your clothes ON)
Oral sex- (Pleasuring your partner with your mouth in contact with their genitalia, and vise versa.)
Anal sex- (This one's self explanitory)
Vaginal sex- (The way its always been done)

Making out does not count as any form of sex. Only penetration counts.

Now, I wasn't sure if you ment the differnt styles of sex (above) or if you ment sexual positions, so here they are just in case.

-Missionary
-Girl on top
-Reverse Cowgirl
-Doggy style
-Sideways

There's loads more but those are the basic.

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I am 5 months pregnant and I was wondering if it is ok for me to have sex ? is there and consequences to having sex while pregnant or any advantages to having sex .

It is perfectly ok for you to have sex. No harm whatsoever to your baby. Actually it can be good for you. When you "cum" your body releases pain endorphines, it can cure a headache, and soothe back pain that all pregnant women go through.

*Additional-If you have oral sex, make sure your partner does not blow air into your vagina. A burst of air may block a blood-vessel which could be a life threatning condition for you and the baby.*

Other than that, your good to go...now go...have fun.

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ok, i know you can use tampons and go in a pool, but im not so sure if i should do that because my 'flow' or whatever has really slowed down. usually after a few hours, only like 1/4 of it has been used. i heard that you should never leave a tampon in when you're not on your period. but like i am, but just barely. is this still safe??????

p.s i really want to go swimming!!

The tampon absorbs fluid that you don't have extra, resulting in dryness which can lead to an imbalance of the natural bacteria and result in a yeast infection or other infections.

Another option for swimming is the menstrual cup, which "catches" menstrual flow before it leaves the vagina. The cup is shaped like a diaphragm, and it rests between the pubic bone and the cervix at the opening of the uterus. (available at Wal-mart)

Also for future reference about gettin in a pool on your period, you may not even have to wear anything. Menstruation doesn't really stop when a woman is in the water, but cold water does cause the muscles around that area to contract, and therefore, less blood can get out. You can demonstrate this by right before you get out of the shower, turn on the cold water and let it run on your lower abdomen, etc. When you get out, it will take about 10 minutes or so for your period to get back to its normal flow.

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I tried to upload a picture on my advice column but it said it was over 15kb, how do you make a picture smaller?

I just went thru this problem the other day. Found my own solution. On advicenators profile settings click browse and upload the pic there, right click to copy that info and paste it in the line above URL. (delete it out the other one once you have it in the URL block. Poof your done.

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i had one boyfriend about 3 yrs ago.

he was my dream guy! he was athletic.. funny.. smart... and we were PERFECT. or so i thought! 'my prince in shining armor turned out to be a loser in aluminum foil' and matt dumped me to go out with his ex! ive had other boyfriends since but ive never trusted any of them because im still not over this one guy! it drives me CRAZY! ive dumped 3 guys because of him... because you cant have a boyfriend if you cant trust them. matt tried to get back together with me... but i was afraid of him making me experience the pain again.. and i dumped him. he was REALLY mad because he said he had changed and all of that bull. how could i have believed him? i went out with 6 girls b4 he asked to get back together with me! but still. i want to like other guys, but i cant get over what matt did to me! it was my first boyfriend, and i really loved that guy. he ruined it. for a while he ruined me. for a while i was emo (no cutting.. just black stuff). and when i finally got over it i couldnt love any other guys for long. help me! i dont want to break any more hearts, hearts that are undeserved to be broken. sorry this was so long!

First off... that has to be the best headline I have ever seen for a question. Props for the great imagination. Ok, so your problem is needing help to get over your ex. It's not until then that you can be able to sort through the Knight & Shinning Armor's & The losers in Aluminum Foil. Here is a couple quotes I love and they help me keep a reality check on Love.

"Giving up doesn't always mean your weak, it just means your strong enough to let go."

"NEVER BLAME A NEW LOVE FOR THINGS AN OLD ONE DID."

It's ok to feel angry, just so long as you don't let it consume you.
Spend time with your friends, take up a hobby and take good care of yourself. Try to find happiness. Find constructive ways to express your anger and other feelings (poetry, art, kickboxing?) I took kickboxing last year and whenever I felt angry or frustrated about something, it felt so great to kick the $hit out of the punching bag.

Forgiveness will come in time.

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alot of people say that fingering feels good.. but whenever i or someone else does that to me ..it doesnt feel good.. is there something wrong with me ?

No. nothing's wrong with you. Alot of people don't even like it. *coughs* There could be alot of reasons why you dont, and that is because it's not done right. Make sure his fingernails are cut and not jagged (ouch!) also, you have to be wet enough. Being to dry can hurt like hell. If it's none of these reasons, then that's ok to. Your entitled to like or dislike anything you want. Your completely normal.

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Me and my boyfriend had sex on the 25 of june. I was fertile on the 24. he nut in me and rubbed it in my vagina. What are the chances of me being pregnant

When you ovulate it last's between 24-48 hours. His sperm can go on for 3 days inside you trying to accomplish this mission. I take it that your wanting to get pregnant? If so, go to this website: http://www.babycenter.com/calculators/ovulation/?_requestid=360836

Find out when you're likely to ovulate -- and increase your chances of getting pregnant!
All you do is type in you last started menstruating and how long your cycle usually lasts (anywhere from 20 to 45 days), and they'll tell you when you're most likely to be fertile over the next six months, as well as your approximate due date if you do conceive on one of those days.

*What was the purpose of him rubbing it in? Sounds kind of pointless to me. Here are some tips however that do work.
1. Have sex in Missionary position (him on top) and prop like 2 pillows under your butt, let him cum in this position. It deposits sperm closer to the cervix.
2. Have sex in your fertile days. (Having 2 much sex at other times can lower his sperm count) -I'm not saying don't have sex unless your ovulating, I'm saying don't do it 90 times a day and then expect to get pregnant 2 weeks later when you actually are ovulating.
3. Doggy style position is another good position for him to cum in, helping you get pregnant.
4. Start taking a pre-natal vitamin everyday. (they sell them at Walmart over the counter) this helps prepare your body for the baby.
5. Avoid woman on top, standing, or leaning positions, which discourage the flow of semen to the uterus.
6. Having sex in the morning would help since the semen has the highest number of sperm then.

I hope I've helped you.~

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Does anyone know how to put on liquid eye liner? when i try to do it, it always ends up going into my eye or it smears! =[

To avoid it running into your eye and getting all over the place, after you have put on foundation, use powder foundation to and brush that over your lids. Makes it tons easier to apply liquid eyeliner that wont run. Another thing to make sure of, when using liquid eyeliner, you can't go for the cheap one, that quarantees right there for it to run. Almay, Avon, CoverGirl and Maybelline make good liquid eyeliners that wont get all over the place.
Good Luck.~

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My 17 year old daughter quit school, does not have a job--and does NOTHING around the house. She
does have money in savings which she has been blowing like crazy, but that's almost gone now. She lied to me about last night, said she stayed at a friends to babysit younger siblings, and I found out differently. The friends Mom doesn't even care that our daughters weren't there, so she is not much help. I don't know where my daughter is right now. When she comes home, I am going to tell her she cannot stay anywhere from now on. (she did this one other time and was grounded) I am prepared for a big fight from her, and she will probably leave without my permission. I am going to tell her that I will report her as a runaway.

However, then I have no clue what will happen next (if I get the law involved)

She might turn the story on me and say she is abused. (Which of course she is not) but she plays the role of the victim well, and threatened to call CPS another time when I put my foot down.

Her BF is 19 and lives in a bordering state, but is it against the law if he takes her across state lines? She is (17) and other people seem to think that would not be against the law because she is over 16.

So my questions are.

Is a relationship between a 17 yr old and 19 yr old legal?

What happens when a 17 yr old is reported as a run away?

Does CPS automatically believe a teenager who plays the victim?

I can help ya quote a bit here. My mom has had to deal alot with my 17 year old sister who acts alot like your daughter and has had to go through the same things your facing now. Regarding the relationship between your daughter and the 19 year old male, it is legal. There has to be more than a 2 year age gap for it to be illegal. (That might just be for North Carolina so you can always call your local Sherriff's office and ask annomiously if it is legal in yall's state. When your daughter starts acting up and you want to call the law on her you have a couple choices here. First off, the cops are your friends. They will try to help you. Explain to them that your daughters dis-orderly and has left without your permission and you want her picked up. Tell them to scare her. Worked for my sister. My mom told them to scare her and the cops told my sister they were going to charge her and that she was under arrest. Or you have the option to report her as a run-away. They will arrest her, she will be taken to the County Jail, strip searched and have to put on the jumpsuits where she will sit until her court date in which the judge could do anything. Give her community service, make her work at a hospital as a candy striper, make her work at a soup kitchen, or send her to a place for juveniles. (They discuss all this with you and what you would like to see happen) and Child protective Services...No they don't believe a person right away. They will do a "check" on your home and actually see how it's ran, as in they have beds, lights, plenty of food and other things. Or they'll have the whole family come in to the CPS office and talk to a counselor one by one, in seperate rooms, make sure your storys are together. Like if you have a younger son/daughter they would ask him/her does your mom ever beat you? does she ever cook dinner? things like that. BTW, I'm not a little kid answering this, just to maybe let you feel better about the advice your getting. I'm 24. All these thing's have happened to my family so that's how I know first hand. Good luck with your daughter.

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why do guys lead on girls one day then the next flirting with 3 or 4 other ones. i really thought this guy and i had something. i truly did.

Because to them, the thrill is in the chase.
Once they have got you, the thrill is gone.
So, keep on the run.

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