had sex with my boyfriend last tuesday when he was ejaculating he took off the condom and came on my vagina he wiped it off though..started feeling cramps saturday its on and off..now my breasts feel sore.could i be pregnant?
Well it sounds like it.
If you had unprotected sex then yes theres a chance.
Don't know how old you are, but why not book a doctors appointment-because sopre breasts whether pregnant or not aren't normal.
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Hi I'm a a 13 year old girl and I am somewhat of a hypochondriac and I don't want to worry my life away, I want to live it! I have been worrying about a disorder lately and I am an idler. My family tells me don't have it and I know I don't have it but I just want to stop thinking about
When you want to stop thinking about something, the best thing you can do is to think about it. If you try to NOT think about it-it'll be the one thing on your mind!
You may have an anxiety disorder-though you are very young at 13 it's not un heard of. Speak to your doctor.
I used to worry a lot and then something terrible happened and I went through a month of severe anxiety, which I never thought I'd recover from.
Catch it early. Check out 'mindfulness' online. It's a buddist philosophy based around mediation. Ensure you desdicate 20 minutes minimum every day to medidating and performing relaxation exercises. This should take away the stress you feel when the going gets tough. If this doesn't work, speak to your doctor and they can refer you to a specialist before the anxiety manifests into something serious.
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I am 12 and I already hit my period but for 2 months they have been late. I have been really sick and I'm gaining more weight every day.i can't fit in any of my clothes.but the only time I've really done anything with a boy I made him use a condom and it wasn't even sex.we just made out.plz idk what to so
Wow-you're 12? You're not supposed to be on this site-let alone be having sex!
Quite simply, if you have never had sex, you're not pregnant. Whats so wrong with getting a preganancy test?
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OWW!!! i just got spacers in yesterday the feel like their digging into my gums i had them before but a long time ago i have a full mouth of braces! with them OUCH!i tryed advil and pain releivers about 30 minutes ago its not helping! plz give me a answer quick! MY MOUTH HURTS SO BADLY i had to pull one out!!
Hey,
You could try wax (normally get it from an orthodontist or dentist) They come in small slabs and if you rub it along the gums it will ease the pain.
You could try a hot water bottle against your mouth (not so it scolds it) but so the pain is eased.
To be honest when I had mine put it I went straight to bed! I just took some paracetemol and held a water bottle against my mouth and slept the pain off. Just like the common cold, your body needs the chance to recover from the pain, so I think bed rest is the best.
Also don't eat anything too hard, eat luke warm soup and tea until it gets better. You will get used to it!.
If they still continue to hurt, go back to the orthodontist who fitted them-they may need slackening if they were put on too tight.
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So I have 43 days left of school... It seems like a long way away. How will I last? School is boring and I learn nothing... I want it to be Summer. Any advice on how to last until then? Thanks! :)
You've not said how old you are! So I don't know what stage of your school career you're at!
You see, if you're 13, 14 or evne 15 then I suggest to 'last' have fun! Sure, school can be boring at times, but you know it's compulsory so you may as well make it fun. Why not organize fun charity events for the summer term? Like lob a sponge at a teacher or something? (ask permission)
You may feel like you knwo nothing now, but in the future you're grades are something that's set in stone. And however boring it may be, those with good grades get first pick of jobs,better paid jobs and more status. This also means they have a better choice of females/males to go for as a mate. So it really is worth doing well.
I'm guessing you're in the lower years/grades. When you get to exam time, you'll see the point of school a lot more. As long as you've not got any crucial assignments/exams looming to revise for, I'd say to have fun! (whilst you still can,before long revising will mean fun at school is a thing of the past)
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how would i get a girl to show me her boobs... can you please help me?
I depends on the girl. Most sober girls have self respect so I'd hope wouldn't show you.
But then loads of girls lose self control when they're drunk, and as a result that could happen.
Whatever you do you shouldn't 'get' or 'make' a girl show you them ever. Because even if you ask and she's desperate enough to obey, it'll backfire in the long run. It really sounds like you want her as a sex object an nothing else, which is not the right way to go about things.
If you get into a relationship for the right reasons then a natural part of it in the future could be being comfortable with seeing each other naked.
But yeh any girl with self respect wouldn't do such a thing if you flat out asked her. Be careful who you ask aswell, some girls may take it very hard an complain-you dont want their dad/police on the case.
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Okay So I Have Hair DOWN THERE And I Need To Shave. I Can't Use Razors For Many Reasons (Please Don't Ask... I Just Can't), So I Was Thinking About Using An Electric Shaver.
Here's The Problem; They're Too Expensive. I Have One, But I Think My Sisters May Have Used It A Few Times. My Mom Said They Haven't, But I Used It Like 4 Times On My Legs, Too. I Was Thinking About Taking It Apart And Washing It REALLY Good? I Don't Know... It's Really Unsanitary But I'm Not Going To Pay $50 Or Much Just For One! Thanks :)
Well you know you've now offended two people.
Do you know, we don't have to go out our way to answer questions that could so easily be answered by Google, but we do.
The last thing we need is ungrateful people like you scoring us ratings that are only supposed to be used in cases of abuse. Did you not read the terms?
What was wrong with the user bellows advice? Or mine? Dear me you're lucky to get any at all.
All I said was that you rating people's perfectly good advice as a 1 is actually very insulting. It makes you feel crap, and actually you never said in the question to not suggest any creams.
The sooner ungrateful people such as yourself that come running to us asking for advice and throwing it back in our faces go away, the better.
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HI,i'm a 13/f and my boyfriend is a 14/m. we have been dating for 5 months...but he now wants to become "sexually active." i do as well but, i dont know how. like idk what to do. some one please help so i dont embarrass myself!
If you don't know what to do then I don't think you're ready. You're 13-there's no rush!!
Sex is the most natural thing, and as long as you know the basics whatever happens will happen-go with the flow I guess.
I also don't think 5 months is enough.
Through media, friends and other sources you will find out what to do-but I think its highly inappropriate for someone to actually tell you what to do on here, unless you want to do it with the intention of procreating. If you're unclear about this how can you be clear about your intentions?
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20/f last year I was raped by my ex boyfriend, long story short we drank (he led me to believe he was drinking but in actuality I was the drunk one,) when we went to bed I remember waking up to him doing the act. To this day I have not told anyone except a good friend, and my new current boyfriend (of almost 9 months) at the very beginning of our relationship, but I toned town the story a bit. Nobody actually knows everything that happened, and I can't seem to get over it. I have brought it up once to my boyfriend, and he consoled me (as well as wants to kill my ex) but I feel badly about the topic if it is to come up again, I don't want him to think I still think about my ex. Should I be over it by now? It makes me feel dirty and sick to think about it, I could cry.
Thank you
Whilst it's important your boyfriend knows, don't keep reminding him. If he knows once, that should be enough-as then he'll be aware you were in quite a controlling relationship before.
I suggest seeking help from other sources. Have you tried counselling? Remember, rape is a very serious crime, and it takes different people different amounts of time to deal with it.
I mean, if he was your partner, this was domestic abuse. Talk to your doctor, and they may be able to refer you to a support group.
Of course, you could talk to your family about it, but if it's still in your mind today I think it's time to get professional help. Many of this help is free, so you should make enquiries asap.
You wont be judged, and you'll be able to move on in your life.
I wouldn't suggest this is an issue to be bought up with your current boyfriend, unless of course its so prominent you feel you can't do certain things with him. By getting the help you need from OTHER people, you can move forward.
Of course its hard to not speak about such a serious issue with your boyfriend, and I'm sure he'll be there to comfort you if you need it, but as long as you give off the impression that you're a strong woman and despite everything can move on, then you'll be fine.
Take your time, you've been through a tough time and with the right help you'll recover fine.
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I have a crush on a guy and he is 4 months older than me.We both are 15 years old.We dont talk as much with each other because he is shy and i think me to.I caught him starring at me alot and when i caught him he quickly looks away.He smiles at me alot.
It depends, different people act differently around their object of desire. I'd say if he was confident its a sure sign. The starring-staring? sounds like a good sign, though.
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I'm just wondering...have healt problems....big and not only one..almost no way out..dont wana talk about.Wahat is chepest & most efective method to end life? Somekind of self eutanazia?
Maybe car gas........but it's not fast and 100% sure.
Drugs and pils out of question.
Enything else?
What you sugest?
Thanks
Serafin P
I think the key here is that you have 'big health problems', so wheras other users may tell you they've been very low before, you're low physically and this is bringing you down mentally, not the other way round.
So where do you go if you're ill? to speak to the doctor. Get someone to talk about your health problems to you, possible solutions, and you could start to feel a little better.
No one on here by the way will tell you a way to die-as we'd be thrown off the site by moderators, plus to be honest people have morals, and therefore informing you on such an issue that doctors wouldn't even tell you, is morally wrong.
Without knowing how serious these health problems are, its hard to reassure you, other than to say the right help is out there. You're heads obviously not in a great place-you can't spell correctly, but thats just it. It's all in your mind and how you perceive things differently to other people. I suggest therefore speaking to your doctor and getting counselling. You were motivated to ask help on here, so you should use this motivation to find a professional sort of help.
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13/F
So we don't have many rooms in our house. My brother has his own room (So I won't live in there... He's 16), and my 14 y/o sister has a room (Can't live there) And then my other sister... She's an adult. ADULT.
Don't you think she should be gone?! I'M the one here who needs a room! I'm getting sick and tired of not having a room anymore. She's gone 90% of the time partying and stuff or just gone, and I'd always be in that room! I sleep on the FLOOR. I have to make my own bed out of blankets because I have nowhere to put my old bed. Help! Please!
My parents said "She has nowhere to go." And she's always gone. Please help! What do I say and what do I do?!
Yeh, the best option sounds like the 14 year old sister option-but you've not even said why you wouldn't want to stay there!
Without knowing about your older sister, then it's hard to know why as an adult she still stays in the house. Could she be saving for her own place? Just don't know...
However, I want to help you. I suggest speaking to your parents about it, perhaps saying that you feel it's making you unhappy and affecting you badly. You have a right to your own space of course, but if you are getting your own privacy in some way at the moment, then I don't think theres much of a case here.
You see, yes you deserve your own room, but as an adult, your sister does just as much as you, especially if she pays rent/has a part time job/has serious exams to do. I'm sure it's not the case the sister thats the adult does absolutley nothing all day!
Tried to help...if it's not enough then I suggest you ask the question again with more details or google it or something.
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I have been in a relationship for 6 months He has accused me in the past of cheating and I have been nothing but faithful to him I love him dearly..My question is about 2 months ago he asked me if I had been with a certain someone and i lied because I am embarrassed about my past that i regret. I said no a month later he asked me about someone else I had lied but then admitted it now last night to get everything out in the open I admitted the other one he asked now he said he will never trust me and he hates me and I broke his heart and that he will never trust me so he thinks everything has been a lie..I was shamed and embarrassed about my past please help I love him so much and have never felt like this about anyone else...I am a 42 yr. female
So he thinks you've been unfaithful when you havn't? I can see this is hard for you.
You've already told him the truth, but the thing is if these guys you were with were before this current relationship, the only bad thing you've done is lie.
I think whatever happens, you need time apart from each other. I understand that you love him, but it also sounds like he may be fairly sensitive, so time apart could clear both of your heads. Concerntrate on a hobby, your job or whatever. You need to write a note (this is what I would do), as it seems like your partner is unwilling to listen to you face to face. In this note, let him no you're sorry for lying and explain why you did it. Make sure you let him know that you're upset he took it so badly. Keep it short and offer coffee to talk things through. You see, instead of clinging on to him and begging him for forgiveness, you taking the upper hand and maturely asking to cool it down for a while and the coffee thing will make you seem like you're in control, not out of control. Men like this, a woman who can admit her mistakes.
You may be thinking this will backfire-of course there no garuntee that it wont. But I think it's worth a go, if you like him this much.
Remember, all you did was lie and nothing else, and if he's too sensitive to forgive you in the long run, then walk away. There's lots of men out there who will like you for you, and if he thinks you're a cheat anyway then don't you deserve someone who gives you the respect you deserve? Of course you do.
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My friend and I were talking, we're both 15 and she has had sex with her boyfriend (according to her), more than 100 times. She told me today how her breasts have gotten bigger, her hips have gotten wider, her butt has gotten bigger, her hair has grown, etc, and it's all because of sex. I started to think about it and then got upset because she has an amazing body, and compared to me when I'm only 99 pounds, it's embarrassing. I'm not ridiculously skinny, according to my boyfriend I have a nice body. But I'm a size 0 in jeans, a 32A, and I've been looking like this for awhile. I've only been on my period for about almost 2 years, same as her. Just this past summer my friend was exactly like me, chest and butt/pant size but now she has developed so much more after only 4 or 5 months. What should I do? I want a nicer body, bigger boobs longer hair bigger hips/thighs. Should I have sex? I'm still a virgin and have been with my boyfriend for 13 months.
I think that when your friend has sex, it isn't directly linked to her body shape changing. I think it does improve her confidence, and confidence is something she'll want to keep. Unless she's ever been pregnant before (this could explain it) perhaps she's done whats normal for teen girls to do-build up more muscle and put on a bit of weight, making the transition from a child to a woman?
I'm like you-only 17 not 15 in terms of body shape and things. If you're really self consciouss about your body, then let me say this. I was the thinnest girl when I was 15, and even I managed to put on some weight naturally. I have a feeling this will happen to you. Of course there are some exercises you can do to help build up muscles, but see a diet speacialist beofore starting an exercise plan. Eat well, and don't get hung up on your body shape too much. Concerntrate on a career and life goals, and attractiveness will come in turn. As well, you're boyfriend likes you for who you are now, because he chose you will your size 0 waist etc. So if you've already impressed you're boyfriend enough for him to go out with you in the first place-you don't need to change to become more appealing!
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I'm 13 and an girl and I got my first bf like a 1 week ago and I'm really shy around him. I have known him for about 9 years and Im kinda shy normally and I told him so.. But it's just really awkward when I'm with him.. Please help
Hey!
One thing you must remember is your boyfriend must like your shyness to some extent, because he's with you right? Not any other 'out there' girl? So no matter what anyone tells you to 'not worry', don't become someone totally different, as in a really loud, outgoing girl when you're with him. If he wanted a loud outgoing girl he wouldn't have picked you right? So yeah be yourself.
Obviously you're unhappy about being shy and want to change, but make sure you want to do this for the right reasons. Shy people tend to think into things very deeply, myself included. Don't try to have the relationship you think you should be having, have the one where you stay true to yourself. For example, if you're too shy to even look him in the eye or hold his hand or whatever, and you know that in most other relationships people do this with ease, then you're putting pressure on to yourself. It's your relationship, different from your friends and different from anyone elses.
Perhaps you could also be struggling with the transition from 'friends' or 'aquaitances' to 'partner'.
Whatever you do, I suggest don't hug him or kiss him or whatever for the sake of it, just to prove you're not shy and awkward, because as I said before, thats probably what he loves about you. Make sure whatever you do say and do do you mean it, and by being true to yourself then the relationship should progress naturally, so you wont need to worry about what you 'should' be acting like.
Of course, there is also the option of sitting him down and letting him know that you're shy, therby ensuring that you don't come off as cold in the future.
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Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl. My glasses broke about 1-2 week(s) ago, and my parents set up an eye appointment for me at the end of next week. I have an oval face shape, light blue eyes, and a lazy eye. I have an idea of what kind of glasses I need but I'm not for sure. I need some help, what kind of glasses do I need due to my eyes and face shape?
My sister did some work as a dispensing optition (someone who fits glasses) once, so I'll give you some top tips!
1)Look at the shape of your chin. Do you have a round or square chin? If it's round, go for square shaped glasses and if its square, go for a round frame. For example, Nicki Hambleton Jones wears circular glasses to suit her square jaw.
2) You're only 13, so you still want to be on trend. Frame with thick sides look youthful, as do any frames that are black or brown. Personally I'd aviod gold frames or silver frames because I think they're for older people-however because you have blue eyes the silver frame wouldn't look too bad.
3) Consider hair colour. If you have dark brown-black hair, a good choice is a brown frame, as a black frame may make you look abit feirce. If you have fair hair, silver could be sophisticated but overall I think black looks the best
4) Ensure the glass part isn't too big for your eye, so that it doesn't look ridiculous.
That's about it, but if you remember two things, its to a)don't by 'Geek' glasses! b)Choose a pair you love not what your parents/friends love-glasses need to be worn with confidence!
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My "friend" told me that people talk bad about me at school. I know that, but she said there will be something "going around" about me. She sort of overreacts and stuff, so yeah.
One time, our friend moved and she said "Once it'll get around, you'll know the story", and it never really "got around"... It only got around to a few people. So do you think she's serious, overreacting, or just trying to scare me? I'm having like a panic attack so yeah...
You're not having a panic attack! Panic attacks (I've had one) mean you can't even stand up for like 20 minutes and struggle for breath.
As you over exaggerated the panic attack, I think your worry may also be over exaggerated. The thing is, you know your friend over reacts right? I have a feeling that whatever gets around, it wont be something that totally damages your reputation, as she'd have either told you it herslef or not at all, being a "friend".
Also, remember, if you're of school age, everyone gets talked about at some point badly. If it seems like some people don't, it's because they learn how to deal with it better.
Just say this to yourself. Ok, so something may be spread about me, but I know it's not true, and what they say isn't rational, so whilst I accept they may have spoken badly about me, I refuse to take it in.
The happiest people in life are the ones who can just let go of what people say about them, and carry on as before. You don't deserve to be made to feel bad about yourself by anyone else.
If any rumour is too bad to deal with, just speak to the school staff-it's what they're there for.
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im 15/f from NJ i know some of my friends that want to go to FIT and they are going to go and intern to try and get work or something like that, and i was wondering how can i get work as a makeup artist?? i do my moms makeup when she goes out, which is alot, and she pays me. everyone compliemts me on my makeup. i try to learn new techniques and stuff i read the Bobbi Brown makeup manual book. I was thinking about doing freelance makeup but i dont kow how that really works. so how do i get clients and mkae money from this? How much should i charge? also do yu know if their are any workshops coming up by famous artists to leann new techniques beacause i really want to go. thankss
I think the most important thing here is to not pretend to be a make up artist that you're not.
So you do make up-great, but you can't call yourself professional yet. So I guess the best route to go down would be where people don't require minimal makeup.
A key to getting a job anywhere nowadays, but especially in the creative industry is experience. And you need it!
There are lots of kids party companys that specialize in girls aged about 7-10, and they do parties and with that do kids makeup. Why not enquire if you could come along to some parties and observe? If you make intelligent suggstions and be really helpful and aimiable, they may take you on? If not, at least you've got experience!
The thing is, you're still in education being only 15, which means places on any course anywhere at that age will be small if there at all. I'm not being rude-thats the truth!
Also, to get on these courses you have to have experience, as competition is very high!
So, being a make up artist profesionally is not something that happens overnight. I suggest lower your expectations, and concerntrate on building experience, even if its voluntary like doing old peoples make up as a treat in care homes, and charge later? To get to my goal, I had to do voluntary work in the most dire places, but hey at least it won me the experience :)
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Im really tired of people being so fake. And I try to be cool about but but it's pissing me off. I want to ditch my friends who are fake without any drama or any fighting. If u have any ideas I would love that. Also I feel like sometimes I'm not being myself either. But I don't know how to be myself sometimes when I'm around people, like friends and stuff. I also I'm scared to be myself cause there are this kids that say their my friend( I didn't believe them) but never talk to me or anything and they talk behind my back. What should I do about theses things???
Lot of points here!
Its hard without knowing your age...
But if you are in the middle of your teenage years, then self identity is very hard to find.
To be yourself, you need a goal. A career goal for example. Then work towards it, do extra activities. Take up new interesting hobbies. Create a life for yourself, and its the first step to being yourself.
You need to have confidence. Be comfortable sitting alone sometimes, and don't rely on friends or others too much.
Being yourself is about stepping outside of your comfort zone-you wont want to as your scared of being judge, but the more you do it, the more you'll be accepted for being you.
You need to become less anxious too. Accept people talk behind your back. No matter who you are, this happens to everyone. You may not think it, but thats because some people deal with it better than others. Acept it, but don't jump to judge it, because what they say 9 x out of 10 wont be rational or backed up by evidence anyway.
Once you learn to hush the negative comments and replace them with positive things, and have ambitious goals and work towards them, being yourself will come naturally. The best thing to do is to forget about being yourself!
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16/F
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months and im thinking its time to have sex. Im kind of nervous and want to know what to be aware of. Some of my friends said I might bleed or something? I might cry or scream? what should I know before I actually do have sex and lose it.. I need advice asap please? Personal experience..anything ..
You're having sex for the wrong reasons if its just to say you dont have your virginity anymore. Very few relationships you're age survive forever. Its up to you, but I just think it should be for that special person.
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