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he now wants to become "sexually active."
HI,i'm a 13/f and my boyfriend is a 14/m. we have been dating for 5 months...but he now wants to become "sexually active." i do as well but, i dont know how. like idk what to do. some one please help so i dont embarrass myself!
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First you are both too young to become sexually active. The mere fact that you are asking this question shouts that load and clear. The younger girls become sexually active the more chance she will become pregnant.
Neither of you have matured to the point in body or mind that you should be sexually active. Your bodies are still developing. You may have a womanly body though your reproductive system, while capable of getting pregnant, is still developing. Your vagina is not yet ready to stretch and accommodate a male penis. This will make intercourse very painful for you especially your first time.
If you use tampons, how hard and painful was the first time. Is it still somewhat painful. Think about the size of the tampon and then think about how many times bigger his penis will be. Giving your body time to mature will make your first sexual experience that more pleasurable for you.
As for your boy friend. If he is pressuring you for sex. Saying things like; "if you love me you will have sex with me." He does not love you the way you love him. Boys going through puberty, as are you, need to relieve the sexual tension that builds in them from the hormones no being released. They can relief these tensions through masturbation or finding someone to have sex with. Boys his age confuse love with LUST. He lusts for you or more specific he lusts to use your vagina rather than masturbate to relieve the sexual tension he has.
Should you give in and have sex with him there is also every possibility his lust will diminish. He will then leave you to find another girl he can have sex with. Many teenage boys play a game to see how many virgins they can have sex with. The more virgins they have sex with the more points they score and the bigger they look in the eyes of their friends.
Having once been a 14 year old boy I can say without a doubt his love for you is more lust than love. You, not he has the most to lose here. If you get pregnant you are the one who has to go through the hardships of whatever your parents chose for you as you are not yet old enough to make your own choices.
My advice is not to have sex with him, at least not intercourse. You can give him a hand job or a BJ if you want, although I would suggest not even that. I realize you will do what you want for I am just another adult who is telling you not to. Hopefully I my reasons for saying no are perfectly clear and you heed my advice.
You have a whole lifetime ahead of you to have sex. Now is not the time to start.
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If you don't know what to do then I don't think you're ready. You're 13-there's no rush!!
Sex is the most natural thing, and as long as you know the basics whatever happens will happen-go with the flow I guess.
I also don't think 5 months is enough.
Through media, friends and other sources you will find out what to do-but I think its highly inappropriate for someone to actually tell you what to do on here, unless you want to do it with the intention of procreating. If you're unclear about this how can you be clear about your intentions?
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