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Being shy around my bf
I'm 13 and an girl and I got my first bf like a 1 week ago and I'm really shy around him. I have known him for about 9 years and Im kinda shy normally and I told him so.. But it's just really awkward when I'm with him.. Please help
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being with your bf for 9 years is a long time. have you ever try to come out of your shell and try to work it out with him and ask him to help you overcome of being shy. it was hard for me too. i would always hide behind my first boyfriend even in front of my teacher i know.
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Hey!
One thing you must remember is your boyfriend must like your shyness to some extent, because he's with you right? Not any other 'out there' girl? So no matter what anyone tells you to 'not worry', don't become someone totally different, as in a really loud, outgoing girl when you're with him. If he wanted a loud outgoing girl he wouldn't have picked you right? So yeah be yourself.
Obviously you're unhappy about being shy and want to change, but make sure you want to do this for the right reasons. Shy people tend to think into things very deeply, myself included. Don't try to have the relationship you think you should be having, have the one where you stay true to yourself. For example, if you're too shy to even look him in the eye or hold his hand or whatever, and you know that in most other relationships people do this with ease, then you're putting pressure on to yourself. It's your relationship, different from your friends and different from anyone elses.
Perhaps you could also be struggling with the transition from 'friends' or 'aquaitances' to 'partner'.
Whatever you do, I suggest don't hug him or kiss him or whatever for the sake of it, just to prove you're not shy and awkward, because as I said before, thats probably what he loves about you. Make sure whatever you do say and do do you mean it, and by being true to yourself then the relationship should progress naturally, so you wont need to worry about what you 'should' be acting like.
Of course, there is also the option of sitting him down and letting him know that you're shy, therby ensuring that you don't come off as cold in the future.
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he's your boyfriend and you've known him for 9 years,im a bit shy too with new people but 9 years and still shy around him...well thats a lot,just try to relax,be yourself,he's with you because of YOU so chill aaand maybe go to a shrink,seems to me like you have problems with socialising with people and thats ok,it can help you,i was shy like that with people before a couple of years but then i got friends with this girl and she somehow helped me be more confident aand now im not shy at all :)
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