Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Okay, there is this guy I've been going out with now for a bit over a month. When my friend hooked us up, we had never even talked to each other before, but she insisted that he liked me, so I said yes to give him a chance. His friends say it's hard for him to admit to things. My boyfriend talks about this girl a lot, but he told me that he USED to like her and that it wouldn't be fair for him to like her while he's going out with me. But sometimes I wonder if he's going out with me because he likes me, or if he's going out with me because he wants to have a girlfriend. He's never had a girlfriend before me. He honestly doesn't show much interest, but he is shy. His friends say he never talks about me. I don't know..is there a way to get him interested if he's not? I don't even know if I should bring up these issues if he has a hard time admitting things. Ugh..I really like him, and it would hurt to have him not like me at all. Please help?! (link)
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Well there are a few things that could be going on.
-Like you suggested, he may just like the idea of having a girlfriend more than actually having a girlfriend.
-Or he may be trying to become attracted to you, but he just isnt quite there yet.
-He may only be going out with you because your friend set you up (but this is unlikely, because most likely he would have broken it off along time ago if he didnt like you)
-He may be totally happy with the situation, he just doesnt talk about you because he doesnt want others to be jealous
-He likes you, but he likes that other girl too.
There are probably alot of other ones that could be occuring, we just havent considered them. In either of these situations, I would talk to him. It doesnt matter if he is bad at admitting things, a lot of guys are like that, you should still try and figure out what's going on, and if he makes it seem like he dosnt really like you, he just wants to have a girlfriend, you may want to break up with him, but thats just my opinion. If he's not dating you for you, then maybe he shouldnt be dating you at all. You seem like a great person, and hopefully you are just worying a bit too much. Good luck with your bf.
Love,
Angie91
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I have a dark spot of discoloration in my breast cleavage, closer to my left breast. It sometimes blends into the rest of my skin and only the outline of it is darker, so it looks like a ring but when you look closer, the skin inside is a little darker.
It appeared about a few years ago as a slight spot and it grew a little bigger and darker until it was the size of a penny and it's been like that for the past year.
When I scratch it, it scratches off like it's going to come off but when I shower, it's back again.
Any idea what this could be? I've googled it but can't find anything close. (link)
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Well, I used to get these tiny little black spots on my feet, and then I wuld pick them off, (I was a little kid) and they looked like they were gone for good, but then a few weeks later they would come back and there would be like double that amount. Then After a few months I told my mom and she took me to the doctor, it turned out to be some kind of skin thing. I took medication for a couple of days and they never came back.
So it might be something like that, however mine never grew, but I only had them a couple of months not a couple of years. It's probably nothing, but if you are really worried/curious, I'd go to my doctor and get him to check it out. It might be something more than just a skin thing.
Hopefully not though. Hope everythings okay.
Love,
Angie91
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there's this boy in my class that i really really like and he has been buying me my favorite drink and snack when he stops at the store before he come to school everyday for a while now. he's really sweet and cute but i don't know if he's just being friendly or he really likes me. i really like him but i'm afraid to ask him out and i don't know how to flirt. all of the girls in my class say that we'd make a good couple and i think are that they might try to hook us up (not that i think that that's a bad thing). i get really shy and nevous around him. what can i do i really really like him! (link)
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I think that you should go to the store adn buy him his favourite snack tomorrow, and then it will show him that you care. It would be super cute.
Then the next day, during class, you should draw him a funny picture, it doesnt have to make sense, it could be like "the kid infront of you's" head or like something weird the teacher drew, and sign your name at the bottem, and put your phone number and your email on it.
And then he should get the picture, and if not, then you could talk the next day about a restaurant that you want to go to and say how you wish someone would take you out for dinner there sometime, because then you're being subtle, but if he really was trying to get your attention with the snack, then he wont be afraid to make the next step, and that way you don't have to worry about flirting or asking him out, and you don't have to get everyone else in class to set you up. I think that would be really cute, but if you don't like those ideas, you should just think of what message you want to get across to him, and then try and find a subtle way of telling him that you want to spend more time with him. I think that subtle is best in your case because you are alittle aprehensive when it comes to actually asking him out.
Well good luck, I hope I gave you some great ideas!
Love,
Angie91
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Alright. So cheerleading tryouts are in a few days and I'm interested. There is a clinic tomorrow where I can learn the stuff to try out with. I haven't done cheerleading for 6 years. My question is; what can I do about nerves on the day of tryouts and how do I boost my confidence to feel like I'll make it? I really would like to make it. Thanks! (link)
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Well going to that clinic is a good start. If you know what you are doing, you will feel much more confident. When you are at the try outs you should try not to compare yourself to the other girls. The teachers or who ever is holing the tryouts are looking for hard working girls with certain bodytypes, and skills. If you try hard, then they will probably see that.
As long as you do the best you can, you will probably be rewarded for it, but don't get too down if you don't get it. Just make sure you leave the tryouts feeling like you've shown them everything possible. And if you don't get it, try out for something alittle less competitive.
Good Luck at tryouts, I hope you get on the squad!
Love,
Angie91
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I am 17 & i work in a candy store. it gets really busy during the holiday time & for the last few weeks before christmas they are open sundays. my mom told me that she will, for no reason, allow me to work both days during the weekend. i forgot about this (it was a few months ago when she told me)& i just looked at my work schedual & in a few weeks from now they have me on on saturday & sunday!!!!! i don't want to work this either, but i feel like my boss will be MAD if i tell them this, because we are SO busy during the holidays! how do i please my mom, my boss, & myself? should i work for like 1 saturday & sunday in a row but tell them i can't for the rest?!?! or what do i do?? (link)
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You should be honest with your boss, and tell him that you are willing to work one of the days, but it is too much to ask for you to work both. The worst that can happen is that he fires you, and if that happens, it sucks, but at least you can look back and think about how you stood up and told your boss what you wanted. Also, if you've been a good worker and you work hard, then he shouldnt fire you, especially when he's understaffed, however, if he asked you if you didnt mind working, and you agreed to work both days, then you are at fault. And if he does fire you, then its your fault. Or you can deal with the fact that you agreed to work and handle it. It;s your job, and sometimes things will come up that wont be fun. No matter what you wont please everyone, so figure out what you think is the right thing to do, and deal with whomever else is upset. Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, and you just have to deal with it. I hope I helped you to figure out the right decision. Happy Holidays!
Love,
Angie91
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15/f
In my 'Planning 10' class at school we have to do an assignment about vision setting. We are supposed to write about how we see ourself in ten years (personal, education and career).
The problem is that we need our parents to make constructive critism about our plans. I do not want to share my personal, educational or career plans with my family.. or teacher for that matter. I have a really big problem with it.
I have thought of letting a friend write for my parents (so I wouldn't have to show them) or to lie about it all. I know who I am and who I want to be and it is perfectly normal, however I do not like to share this information. My planning teacher says if I have such a problem with it that I can fail.
What can I do?
And yes, I realize many of you will say just write about it and don't be afraid but to be honest, it's not anyones business except for mine and I am willing to lie (not fail however) to keep it that way.
Thanks so much :) (link)
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Yeah. Like the other person said, you can make it up, and probably still pass. But is that what you really want? This is your life. Sure it isnt anyone elses business, but its principal. The point of the class(I've never actually heard of it but it sounds like family studies) is to plan your future, and it doesnt make sense that you are taking the class if you don't want to plan your future. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe you do want to plan your future, you just don't want to share it.
So that makes me wonder why. This project, though you may not see it now, because you're a teenager, and you think, I wanna be surprized in life, or I don't care what happens as long as its fun, is very important. Constructive criticizm will hit you a billion times in life, and it's important to learn about it from people who care about you.
So yeah, if you wanna get a good mark, and that's all you really care about, write some artical about how you want to become a doctor, and write a critique about how it's really hard and you're really bad at math (Thats hypothetical, I'm sorry if you;re amazing at Math). but if you want to realize that your future is going to come whether you plan on it or not, then write the artical for real. Whether you hand it in, or get it critiqued or not, then you can live on knowing that you have a plan. But if you dont have a plan, and you can live your life wondering where its going to go, then thats cool. I know that I need ambitions and goals, and most people do. But you and I are different.
Also, if you want to get a good mark, write a really good critique, but write a really good job. Don't pick doctor, or a lawyer, pick something that you may actually want to do. Research it and find out what kind of degree you need, and include that type of research, and tell her you want to get married and have kids. And tell her that you want to wait untill you have saved a certain amount of money and you are going to put a certain amount of money away each week for a car payment, or like a rainy day or something. Think of a bunch of things that no one else would think of.
So whether or not you choose to write about your real life, or you want to keep that secret, I wish you good luck, and I hope that you get the mark you're looking for. Love,
Angie91
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My boyfriend tells me that I am a bitch most of the time, I feel like I cant control it. He just does stupid things without thinking and it irritates me so I get a pissy attitude. I mean, I try telling him..'Brandon take your time', or 'Why do you do that?' He gets my hopes up for many things and then right before we go to do them he says "oh, I didnt really think about this but.." and then comes the excuse..and this happens multiple times daily. I dont understand it. What should I do to stop letting this little crap get to me? (link)
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Yeah Boys can be like that. If he bugs you, he bugs you, there isnt much you can do. If there are tiny little things, then you can try and forget about them, but keeping things inside isn't very good either. You should try to only tell him on the things that bug you alot.
He has to learn that you are critical, and that criticism can be a good thing.
I think that if when he calls you a bitch it make upset, then you should ask him not to call you that.
But as far as your question, thats really hard. I don't think you can do something to make things stop bothering you. Maybe you should just know that its life and some people arent perfect.
Depending on how long you've been dating him, you could sit down and try and tell him the things that make you insane, and try and get him to work on five, and then you arent aloud to criticize him or something.
You can't hide the way you feel though because thats the way you feel, and if he can't understand that, and you are trying to change him, then maybe you two arent ment to be. What can I say that's life.
I hope that I helped, I know I'm critical as well, and it is hard to realize that sometimes things hurt. And you have to be careful no to hurt his feelings, but if he's lazy and not your type, then he's lazy and not your type.
Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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I've been a cheerleader since I was 7. I am now 14. I've been trying to quit for three years because quite frankly I'm sick of the fear of tumbling, the drama with the snots, and just the pressure of being a cheerleader and meeting expectations.
My moms forbid me from quiting for so long, she's even bribed me to keep cheering. But I've had it, I'm going to high school next year and I want to concentrate on my volleyball instead because it appeals to me so much more. I also want to shake of that cheap, snotty cheerleader image people get of me before they even know my name.
However, what do I do if I begin to miss it?
Cheerleading to me is sort of like my first love ya know? Its something I don't just hate right away, I still love it, but at times I can't stand it.
What should I do to make myself move on?
My moms certainly not helping. Thanks. (link)
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hey I know what you mean. I Use to dance, and I quit, and I often wonder whether or not it was actually the right decision. And now, that I am 15 it is unlikly that I can get back into it after 5 years. Sometimes I wish my mom had told me that if I quit, it was more likely for me not to get back into it, because that was actually my plan, and when I went back, I didnt fit in, I had missed over a year of practice, I was in a class with different, more experienced kids, and it didnt work. I had to quit for good. So that's what you have to think about. All the options. I'm glad that you realize that you've grown out of it and you want to move on, but you have also realized that you wont be able to do it again now once you have quit.
As far as your mom goes, you should tell her that you realize that you wont be able to go back after you quit, and that you are okay with it, tell her that it is more than lazieness, and that you are going to stay active. And if she doesnt like it, there isnt really anything that she can do. It's your life, and if you don't wan tto go she can't make you.
As far as getting over your love, that is going to be hard. You should go to all of your friend's games and compittions because that way you can watch. The first few times, it will be super hard because you will wish you were out there doing it, but by watching them, often, you can get that little feeling that makes you feel like you arent abandoning it. And then after a while you can only go to a few a year, then slow it down to like once a year.
Cheerleading took over 7 years of your life, and you can't just ditch it like that, but if you find something else that you love (like V-ball) then you can concentrate on that and hopefully get over it. I hope I helped you!
Love,
Angie91
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I would love to get something very nice for my best girl friend (I'm a guy). But I don't know what to get. To be honest, I've recently started liking her, so I kind of want the present to show that a little. Any ideas? Thanks! (link)
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OHHH!! You should make her something!! She'd love that!!You could make her a picture frame and put a picture of you (or you and her in it) because that way, she will look at it alot and see how great you are. Also, it could be kind of funny, and she might laugh.
Or you can make her an ornament, Like for her Christmas tree. If you search google, then you will definatly find something like that.
Or assuming that you know a lot about her, you could make her a collage for her door, or wall of her fave bands, actors, movies, pictures, poems, (if shes artsy) and sports teams (If shes sporty) etc. (Good thing you're looking now, that may take time)
Or you can go a totally different way and buy something but make it personal. Like Engrave a picture frame, or a watch( or other jewlery, depending on price range,) Or you can just buy her jewelery, Girls love jewelery. It doesnt matter what it is, if its cute we'll wear it. However, then to make it personal, you should make her a card. When I make my friends cards, I write our insiders all over it. I draw random pictures and glue things all over it. That way it wont just be something that says:" To:____ Merry Christmas From:______." It will be real personal and she'll keep it.
No matter what you get/make her, if it's from the heart, she will love it. Bur some gifts may make her love you, and I can tell thats why you care. So when you are choosing your gift, picture her face when she opens it, and no matter what it is, if you can see her smile, she'll love it. good luck, hope I gave you an idea. Happy Holidays! Angie91
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13/f
ok well i like this guy who really really likes one of my other good friends. i told him how i fealt (only a couple of hours ago) and he was basicly like ok, and the five seconds later hes like i got to go. i mean he's a nice guy, he won't make fun of me or anything, but he didn't even have the decency to openly reject me. and i know he likes my friend a whole lot, is there anything i can do to A. make things less wierd now B. get him to notice me as more than a friend? (link)
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Guys can be difficult. I don't think he left because he doesnt have the decency to reject you, I think he was alittle shocked. You know what I mean? I don't think you should be upset with him. Guys can't handle new situations easily.
And, maybe the reason he didnt reject you is because he didnt want to. Maybe he likes you back.
A) Hmm... how to make things less weird. Well I think that you should think of ten conversations to bring up when you see him next. Find anything to talk about, but if you have planned conversation, then when he is like: "Oh God, what do I say," You can hop in and talk about something other than the weather or what you ate for dinner, because that will make him want to flee (which happened already remember, if you had thought of things to say to move on, that might not have happened, not that I'm blaming you or anything,)
As far as B) You can't force him to like you, everything is out there now, and I don't think you should do anything to make him notice you as more than a friend. He knows that that is how you feel, and he may be inclined to give you that, but if he isnt then you have to accept that and move on. Because otherwise, he may feel even more awkward.
Well, I hope I helped a bit, good luck with Mr. Right!
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15/f. every year for Christmas my family goes crazy trying to think of good christmas presents for my grandparents. they are really hard to buy for, because if you ask them what they want they say that they don't need anything, but we have to get them something. and when we do come up with really good ideas they never even use the presents. so this year i was thinking of making them homemade presents so that they would mean more. but i have no clue what to make. any suggestions would really help! thanks
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Thats a great idea! You should definatly do that. Now what to make... You could try making a picture frame and decorate it, and put a picture of you and them, or you and you siblings (if you have siblings) in it. Or, you could make a christmas ornament, I don't know what would be good, but if you go on google you will definatly find something. You could make some artwork. Sometimes things that are super simple to make look amazing. You could find something that they gave you, and like frame it (I saw this on Oprah, this girl framed a feather that her late husband had given her, it was sooo sad, but looked completely spectacular on her wall) but if you don't have that kind of talent (Don't feel bad, I doubt that I do) you could frame something you find at the store, or make a collage of your family (like your parents when they were little, you when you were growing up, your parents wedding, something like that,) and frame it. Or if you are super artistic (cool! I wish I was you!) then you could maybe draw something or paint something. Like their house, or their backyard or something super cool like that.
No matter what they are going to love it, I know all grandparents say that, and it's true, they will love it, but if it is something that you work hard to make, they will love it ten billion times more.
No matter what you make if you put your heart in it, they'll treasure it forever. Good luck, maybe you'll find the hidden artist in you (or if it's not hidden, this is a great chance to show it off,) I hope I gave you an idea! Love, Angie91
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15/F
My best friend, Allie, is having family problems and I am wondering how to support her. Her mom has recently started drinking too much, smoking and having a bad attitude. Allie (15) has two younger siblings (aged 12 and 13). Her mother is constantly yelling at Allie, but not the other two children. Allie is expected to run the family.
Allie's parents are divorced. When Allie is at her father's house she is made a slave. She is trated very unfairly (I have been to her father's house and I came home crying because they were so mean to us).
Allie's father a few years ago made her live with him (normally she just goes there on weekends) because her mother was 'too unstable'.
Allie's father lives two hours away and I would miss her a lot if she moved.
How can Allie deal with the situation (constantly being yelled at, disfunctional family, stress, etc) and how can I (as her best friend) support her?
Allie has gotten counselling before but it did not help. I try everyday to keep her happy but it is putting a lot of strain on the both of us.
Thank you. (link)
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Wow. Well first of all, Thank you for asking for help. However, it is not your job to keep Allie happy. It can be your job to help her figure this out though. It is also not Allie's job to worry about these things. She is a kid, and it sounds like she is running out of time to be a kid.
I think that Allie(and you can go with her if she wants) should talk to the school councler, I ralize that she has already been to counslers before but sometimes doing something again can make the difference. Also that way she can possibly go to AA meeting and find out how to deal with her (and her mom's) problems.
Now just from the discription, I can't tell for sure, but if allie is in real danger, then she must talk to someone, it doesnt matter who it is, a neighbour, a teacher any adult that can help. She needs to get this fixed up, and that may mean spending alittle time away from her family, and even if they arent doing anything to her younger siblings, they may.
It is great that Allie has such a good friend like you to help her, but you, as her friend, can only support her, you can't fix this. You can support her by going with her to the guidence councler, or talking to an adult, or attending meetings for children of alcoholics. But no matter what happens for Allie (i.e. she moves really far away) it wil suck for you, and you'll miss her, but if thats best for her, then you have to keep a brave face and help her pack. No matter what happens she will always have an amazing friend like you sitting at home ready to help her out. I commend you for seeking help. There need to be more people like you out there. Good Luck to you and Allie. I hope you helped!
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so, i'm kind of a nerd. I'm not a loser, i have friends and everything. It's just that i make school and working hard my top priority. I'm just naturally a fast thinker so it feels like i'm the only person who ever talks in class. So I have a couple problems
1. how can I continue to participate in class without people thinking i'm a know it all
2. What should i do when my friends are like "we can't study with you because you know all the answers!" or "It's not fair, you're so much smarter than me" when they say this is really bugs me cuz i am only smart because i work hard, so it IS fair!
thanks anyone who can help! (link)
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Okay, thats a toughy, but I have had the same problems before.
1. You can continue to participate in class, by not answering as many questions. You are right, not just because of the way it looks, but because other students need to try and answer questions. Just think, who are you trying to impress, the teacher doesnt care if you get this question right, as long as you still try in class, its fine to keep your mouth shut, and ask the questions rather than answer them. Also, if you have a small class, theother students may begin to depend on you to answer the questions rather than them trying to actually do it themselves. However, taking that into consideration, also remember that it doesnt matter what the other kids think in class, atleast you're passing. Thats better than not trying and depending on others for help. On that note;
2. That happens to me ALL the time and I get soooo annoyed, because things don't usually come to me, I have to work my butt off for them, and when people hate me for getting better grades, I just ignore it and think to myself, that I deserve that mark, I worked hard and it was worth it. If they say that they don't want to study with you, tell them they are idiots, they should study with someone who knows what shes doing, and offer to quiz them, because if you already know the answers then, you can benifit from it as well because its just pounding it into your head more. If they still don't want to study with you, tehy're just jerks, and you can go study alone. Which often works better anyway, because you don't get distracted because so-and-so's BF is on MSN!!
Anyways, know that you arent the only one who has this problem, and if you keep trying hard, and taking those things into consideration, hopefully life will be okay.
Lots of Love,
Angie91
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I have 3 friends, REALLLY good friends, and we all go to the same skool and in the same class. were besties. anyway, those 3 friends live pretty close to each other, and i live a little farther away, so they r always doing things without me (shopping, movies, hanging out ect.) and leaving me out. I know theyre not doing it on purpouse, but it still REALLY hurts becuase they talk about it infront of my face. Ive tried to talk to them about it, but they just get REALLY mad. what should i do? (link)
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I know what you mean. It is really hard, especially if you can't drive/ don't have a car. The best way to work on solving this problem, is by bringing up ideas for things, if you're the planner, they can't do it without you, if they do, that's just super mean.
Also, if you invite them over to your house, if thats an option, then they may be mroe inclined to speend time with you.
It really sucks to live further away, but if there isnt any other way to spend time with your friends, you can consider making friends with some people who live closer to you, hopefully that wont be the case, but you never know, there may be some one who lives right down the street who has the same problem as you do. Hope that i help, good luck with your friends!
Love, Angie91
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Dear advicenators.
I'm a guy, 19 years old, and there's a girl (she's about one and a half years younger) I'm really close friends with. She always comes to me with stuff she would never tell anyone else. But recently, she takes offense in everything I say to her. Today was particularly bad. I would go watch her game (she plays a sport of which I'm not even sure if there is an english name for it) today, and tonight we would hit the town and go out with some friends. This morning I told her that I wasn't feeling very well (I suffer from migraine attacks regularly) and asked if she would really mind it if I would skip the game so I could let my headache pass and still go out with her tonight. She didn't take that very well. Her boyfriend sort of dumped her yesterday so I expected that she would be displeased, but I explained very carefully that I was really sorry and wished I could come to her game. But despite that she was very pissed and told me she didn't want me to come along tonight.
Stuff like this happens a lot recently, even when she and her boyfriend were still together with no problems. She is not the most reasonable type, so asking her what's the matter or why she acts this way doesn't really help. So I was hoping one of you might have the insight it takes to shed some light on this mystery. Why does she act, no, overreact like this all the time? (link)
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Lots of girls are like that. See girls are extremely complex. We have random emotions, but we don't like it when guys act as though they are superior to us, and by feeling sorry for her, you were (without really knowing it) acting superior. And by saying certain things when she is already upset about her boyfriend (and most likely doubting the whole male popluation, you know thinking that they are scum etc.) she may not feel like shes too happy with men. she probably feels like she just needs support from her male friends, and it is your job to remind her why guys are so great.
Also, girls go through regular emotional dipps, as most likely you learned in health class a few years ago, and we are sorta insane for about 2 weeks a month, so more likely than not shes just going through that.
Or shes just tired of people being jerks, and you and your headache were just the last thing to tip her off. So if I were you, I'd try my hardest to comfort her, and try and get over your head ache. She really needs you to be there for her and you can't do that by pissing her off. Try and be a great friend and be understanding.
Like I said girls are complex, and we need you guys out there to be there for us even if what we say and do doesnt make sense, because thats what we think of you as, big teddy bears that can talk, lol. You basically are our foundation, because you are stronger, and in more control of your emotions.
Well I hope I helped a bit. good luck, hope your head feels better
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f/19
This has never happened before but lately I've started to have real trouble recognising people - sometimes somebody i know will come up to me and it'll take me a minute to work out who they are (obviously embarrassing!). The other thing that's happening is I keep on thinking I see someone I know (sometimes it's someone who couldn't actually be there, like they live on the other side of the country) and I really think it's them, but then I realise after looking at their face for a while, that it's not them. Any idea what's going on? Am i going mad?? (link)
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Well, I saw something similar to that on primetime medical mysteries. It happened to this woman named Heather Sellers, it was called prospognosia, she couldnt recongize people, and there was no cure, and she had to tell every person that walked up to her about her situation and that if she even looked away she would forget that it was them. I don't know if you have the same problem though because you can reongize them after a little while, but I would talk to my doctor if I were you. If you are really embarrased by it, and it actually is something medical, then at least when people are like why dont you remember me, you can tell them its not your fault.
Here is the link to the ABC site with some information on it. Or you can type prospognosia into google. I hope that I helped a little. Good luck, I hope its nothing serious.
http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/story?id=2400808&page=1
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Lately ive been having large amounts of trouble sleeping im only 15/m andi just cant seem to fall asleep ive lied in my bed for hours on end with my eyes closed and i cant fall asleep even if im tired idk why im having so much trouble. can someon please give me ideas to help me the sooner the better b/c its 1 am not and argh! (link)
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I have the same problem, it's called insomnia. It means that you are too stressed. I have been trying to find other ways that work, and I haven’t been completely successful yet. But I have been able to lower the amount of time at night that I spend lying awake.
If you study in advance more for tests etc, and are more organized that often will help, because you wont have anything to think about at night, however sometimes that just makes you think of other more interesting things. So what I often will do, if build in extra time to just lie there and think, because that is actually a beneficial way to work out problems. So sometimes I think ok, I need 7 hours of sleep, I have to be up at 6 I should go to sleep around 11. Then I should actually go to bed around 10-10:30. That way you can still lay there and relax and slowly drift off.
Another idea I found that will often help is a routine. If you build in certain times for things every night it can help. Like if you say brush your teeth at 10 every night, and set your alarm clock at 10:05 every night, then soon your mind will begin to adjust to that. Also I good idea (which may seem completely unrealistic, it did to me when I heard it, but it does work) is to try and set that routine on Fridays and Saturdays too. (I was like... my social life...:() but it did help. Because I didn’t sleep so late in the morning and it didn’t through off my schedule as much.
Another Idea is to regulate your eating schedule. (I know you're probably like.. wth? What does eating have to do with sleep?) If you eat at 9:30 and you attempt to fall asleep within two hours after that, it will be nearly impossible. Your stomach will be busy digesting. So bed time snacks are a horrible idea (so are midnight snack btw)
This is getting super long, so I'll end it there, but if anybody else has this problem and has tried those already, and they don’t work, let me know, (ask me a question) because I have other things that work. Sleep, I hope I helped, and I hope you can find a way to get rid of that insomnia if not, just let me know. Good luck!
Angie91
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Well, my two best friends (who are both girls) are in a huge fight, and I don't know why but I never even bothered to ask. It's been going on for SUCH A LONG TIME! They won't talk to each other, but they talk a lot about each other behind their backs. Well, Carrie was telling me how awful Brittany was, and I, of course, didn't say anything or even agree with it. But, I just couldn't help but to tell Brittany everything Carrie said. After all, I kind of like Brittany as more than just a friend... But, i told Brittany not to tell anyone, but she told me she was going to tell her other friends, and told me that they were really trustworthy and wouldn't tell anyone and she assured me that Carrie wouldn't find out that I told her.
Well guess what? About two days after that, Carrie comes up to me and asks, "Did you tell Brittany anything I said about her?" and I really didn't want Carrie to know I said anything, so I said "No...Why? What happened?" and I just acted like I had no clue. And Carrie thinks I didn't say anything to Brittany.
Was that ok to do? Should I tell Carrie? Its just that i thought Brittany had some right to know... I really wish Carrie and Brittany were friends again, and I wish it was all three of us like how it used to be... (link)
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Yeah, that sucks. Girls get in these weird little fights all of the time, and often they try to get other people involved. I think you should just stop talking back and forth to them, if they wana diss each other you should try and change the subject. If they actualy have feelings they want to let loose then thats fine, but if all they want to do is gossip about each other, you shouldnt be part of it. Try and change the subject, or tell them that you feel uncomfortable talking like that. It isnt your place to choose sides. As far as whats happend so far, I'd just avoid telling carrie, and stop talking about her to Brittany. it can get pretty confusing when girls fight, but the best thing is to try and avoid losing their friendships over it. Life will go on, and they will eventually be able to go on, they may not be best friends anymore, but they may makeit alittle easier to handle. And lets hope for that. I hope I helped a bit, I know it can be confusing, but if you try and make yourself the guy who isnt on either of their sides, it should work out okay. Good luck!!
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okay, so my friend just broke up with her [ex]boyfriend after 10 months of them going out. she said she doesnt like him like that any more and just sees him as a friend and wouldnt ever go out with him again. she even told me that if any of her friends were to go out with him after this, she would want it to be me. and recently ive really started to like him and so i flirt with him every once in a while. i know he is really bummed about them breaking up, but he is such a nice guy, and has every perfect quality, and i just cant help but to be attracted to him. am i a bad friend for this?? what should i do?! (link)
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I definatly wouldnt consider you a bad friend. But I dont think you should flirt wih him if you an help it. It is okay to like him, but if she just broke up with him, seeing him with you may not be exactly what she needs. So I think that you should talk to her, but not right away. Wait a while, like a couple of weeks. You have to give her time to cool down. And then if she still says she doesnt mind, then I would talk to him, but he may not even be ready for another relationship right away, so I think that you should just play it cool He is probably a little confused as where he stands with you and stuff, so I'd just be a friend. I hope I helped a bit, Good luck, hope it all works out
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I had a friend last year, and we werent like best friends or aquatences (sp) either. this year we joined the same club, and i was like right next to her and she didnt even look or say anything to me. its like she didnt even notice i was there. why would she do that? she was paying attention to only the other girls there who were also my friends.. but like idk why she'd be pissed at me or somethin. (link)
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My friend (female) just went through that with a guy friend who she had a crush on. he was friends with her back in junior high, but he's a year older, so she hadnt really talked to him in about a year. At the beginning of the year, she started talking to him, and they became friends, they had a lot in comman. Then she started to develop a crush on him. And things sorta went insane. He started to act all weird and ignore him. Then she got mad and stopped talking to him. But he had no idea. Then he got upset with her, so she decided to finally tell him why she was mad. He totally had no idea. And now they are friends again.
So basically what I'm trying to say is, that if you dont ask she wont tell. You dont HAVE to talk to her, and the other advicenator is right, she may have been preoccupied, but who knows. Hang out with her again, and if she does it again, maybe talk about it to her or something. I'm sure you are just worrying about it for no reason, and next time, she'll be glad to hang out, but dont let her take advantage of you, if she only wants to be your friend sometime that sucks. So if thats the case try and make other friends.
I hope I helped. Sometimes hearing about someone else going through the same thing helps. Good luck, and I hope your friend and you are okay.
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