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HUGE friend problem
I have 3 friends, REALLLY good friends, and we all go to the same skool and in the same class. were besties. anyway, those 3 friends live pretty close to each other, and i live a little farther away, so they r always doing things without me (shopping, movies, hanging out ect.) and leaving me out. I know theyre not doing it on purpouse, but it still REALLY hurts becuase they talk about it infront of my face. Ive tried to talk to them about it, but they just get REALLY mad. what should i do?
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I know what you mean. I also have three best friends and I live in a different town. Just try telling them again. What I have done is whenever they plan to hang out or go to the movies they will call me to tell me them we arrange for someone to give me a drive so I dont feel left out. It really helps and makes you feel more included. I know it hurts but just try out my way and mayve theyll agree and itll stop hurting.
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I`ve had this problem before. and but they were 2 friends and i lived near one of them. and they talked about it in front of my face to. but all i did was forget about it and i know they dont do it on purpose. but dont talk to them about it. i know that kinda sounds bad. but then now my 2 friends dont hang out anymore and now one of my friends starts hanging out with me =] so i hoped i helped.
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I know exactly what you're talking about. I have a group of friends, there's five of us, and we all go to the same school, except I don't live in the same town, I live about 20 minutes away. I used to get really jealous when they'd all hang out. But, I turned the situation around. When they were all hanging out together and I couldn't get a ride or whatever, I would invite someone else to hang out. Just some random friend that maybe I normally wouldn't hang out with. We'd catch a movie, or they'd stay the night. It turned out well, because you end up with a lot of friends, and you have something to talk about when your friend are talking about what they did together. It shows them that you don't NEED them.
Plus, assuming that you don't have your drivers license yet, Trust me, It will get better when you get one. I've had mine for 4 months, and now I can always be included, since I have a way of getting there. =)
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they have no right to get mad at you for trying to express your feelings, as long as your doing it in a respectful, mature way. don't yell or constantly accuse them (you did this, you are mkaing this happen, etc), but instead tell them how it's making YOU feel, and how you could change this. i know you've tried to talk to them, but maybe try one more time and make sure you're suggesting ways that they can change this - if their parents don't want to drive out of their way to get you, maybe get your parents to drive you somewhere to meet them. if they continuously leave you out after you've tried to talk to them, and they get really mad at you for trying to talk to them, i would try hanging out with some of my other friends. they might realize they miss your company if you take a break from them, or they might not, but taht way you'll start devloping good friendships with other people you can hang out with that will include you.
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ok. well first of all i see whats happening because it happens to me too. alot. with my besties. just explain it to them and if they get mad just be like you probably dont realize what your doing but it really hurts if you were true friends you would understand. and then maybe you can try and make other friends that you cna hang out with too when there hanging out.
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Well. i say DUMP THEM. Really you can only do ohk with 1 best friend. 3 is a crowed. {get what im saying} if they leave you out and get mad when you talk to them about it; they are trying to tell you something...go out and look for some new friends.. its ohk to be there friend but maybe it isnt ment to be BEST FRIENDS. go meet new people. think of this as a chance to see what else is out there in the world. things happen for a reson..
Hope it helps;
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I know what you mean. It is really hard, especially if you can't drive/ don't have a car. The best way to work on solving this problem, is by bringing up ideas for things, if you're the planner, they can't do it without you, if they do, that's just super mean.
Also, if you invite them over to your house, if thats an option, then they may be mroe inclined to speend time with you.
It really sucks to live further away, but if there isnt any other way to spend time with your friends, you can consider making friends with some people who live closer to you, hopefully that wont be the case, but you never know, there may be some one who lives right down the street who has the same problem as you do. Hope that i help, good luck with your friends!
Love, Angie91
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You should grow up.
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