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Does he even like me?
Okay, there is this guy I've been going out with now for a bit over a month. When my friend hooked us up, we had never even talked to each other before, but she insisted that he liked me, so I said yes to give him a chance. His friends say it's hard for him to admit to things. My boyfriend talks about this girl a lot, but he told me that he USED to like her and that it wouldn't be fair for him to like her while he's going out with me. But sometimes I wonder if he's going out with me because he likes me, or if he's going out with me because he wants to have a girlfriend. He's never had a girlfriend before me. He honestly doesn't show much interest, but he is shy. His friends say he never talks about me. I don't know..is there a way to get him interested if he's not? I don't even know if I should bring up these issues if he has a hard time admitting things. Ugh..I really like him, and it would hurt to have him not like me at all. Please help?!
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Well there are a few things that could be going on.
-Like you suggested, he may just like the idea of having a girlfriend more than actually having a girlfriend.
-Or he may be trying to become attracted to you, but he just isnt quite there yet.
-He may only be going out with you because your friend set you up (but this is unlikely, because most likely he would have broken it off along time ago if he didnt like you)
-He may be totally happy with the situation, he just doesnt talk about you because he doesnt want others to be jealous
-He likes you, but he likes that other girl too.
There are probably alot of other ones that could be occuring, we just havent considered them. In either of these situations, I would talk to him. It doesnt matter if he is bad at admitting things, a lot of guys are like that, you should still try and figure out what's going on, and if he makes it seem like he dosnt really like you, he just wants to have a girlfriend, you may want to break up with him, but thats just my opinion. If he's not dating you for you, then maybe he shouldnt be dating you at all. You seem like a great person, and hopefully you are just worying a bit too much. Good luck with your bf.
Love,
Angie91
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just ask him whats going on. ask him for the truth because your relationship needs to be based on honesty =]
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Its always better to live knowing the truth than to live a lie. you cant just sit around about this kind of thing. you have to ask him exactly what you just asked us. sit him down and say, "do you like me.. at all? or .. am i just.. your girlfriend because you want one?" you have to know. if you dont want to do this, then try getting him to talk more. maybe then you'll be able to tell if he likes you. talk to him about simple stuff that guys dont mind answering.. like maybe about classes or something? if you have same classes then maybe- "uggh, i hate _____(fill in blank of teacher). i cant believe she gave us so much homework!" or something. a conversation starter.
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