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Well, my two best friends (who are both girls) are in a huge fight, and I don't know why but I never even bothered to ask. It's been going on for SUCH A LONG TIME! They won't talk to each other, but they talk a lot about each other behind their backs. Well, Carrie was telling me how awful Brittany was, and I, of course, didn't say anything or even agree with it. But, I just couldn't help but to tell Brittany everything Carrie said. After all, I kind of like Brittany as more than just a friend... But, i told Brittany not to tell anyone, but she told me she was going to tell her other friends, and told me that they were really trustworthy and wouldn't tell anyone and she assured me that Carrie wouldn't find out that I told her.
Well guess what? About two days after that, Carrie comes up to me and asks, "Did you tell Brittany anything I said about her?" and I really didn't want Carrie to know I said anything, so I said "No...Why? What happened?" and I just acted like I had no clue. And Carrie thinks I didn't say anything to Brittany.
Was that ok to do? Should I tell Carrie? Its just that i thought Brittany had some right to know... I really wish Carrie and Brittany were friends again, and I wish it was all three of us like how it used to be...
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Yeah, that sucks. Girls get in these weird little fights all of the time, and often they try to get other people involved. I think you should just stop talking back and forth to them, if they wana diss each other you should try and change the subject. If they actualy have feelings they want to let loose then thats fine, but if all they want to do is gossip about each other, you shouldnt be part of it. Try and change the subject, or tell them that you feel uncomfortable talking like that. It isnt your place to choose sides. As far as whats happend so far, I'd just avoid telling carrie, and stop talking about her to Brittany. it can get pretty confusing when girls fight, but the best thing is to try and avoid losing their friendships over it. Life will go on, and they will eventually be able to go on, they may not be best friends anymore, but they may makeit alittle easier to handle. And lets hope for that. I hope I helped a bit, I know it can be confusing, but if you try and make yourself the guy who isnt on either of their sides, it should work out okay. Good luck!!
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If you want it to be all best friends again, you shouldn't have encouraged stuff by telling Brittany what Carrie said. And you know that you shouldn't have done that by now, so I won't lecture you.
Just to warn you - if Carrie finds out you like Brittany, she won't be happy. Just tell them both that they both need to calm down about this whole situation, because it's stressing you out. Also if you're going to keep it from Carrie that you told Brittany then tell them both that now you're being dragged into the arguments, and that's making stuff 100% worse for you cause you don't want to fall out with either of them.
Maybe then if they feel bad about hurting you they might keep the bitching to themselves for a while and stay quiet, and eventually they'll get over it hopefully.
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It wasn't really right to tell Brittany anything that Carrie said about her.
It's really hurtful to repeat things that were said about the girls and it's not important for her to know. Now, lets face the facts, you told Brittany everything so that maybe she would like you more for telling her everything and being honest, right?
Whatever the reason was, it was wrong for you tell her anything that was said. If they really need to know, they should go and ask each other themselves. The best that you can do is stay out of it. Especially when it's a girl fight. They get catty and they say horrible things about each other that they hardly even mean and it's best for you to just nod and listen, and then change the subject. If they start asking you what you think or whose side you're on, start talking to them both about how you are not going to be forced on sides.
Maybe it's time to tell them separatly that it's best for them to go their own ways and quit talking about each other. Which may not happen, but as long as you stay out of it, then things will eventually get better for all of you.
-TheTeenGirl
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