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so there's this boy...
13/f
ok well i like this guy who really really likes one of my other good friends. i told him how i fealt (only a couple of hours ago) and he was basicly like ok, and the five seconds later hes like i got to go. i mean he's a nice guy, he won't make fun of me or anything, but he didn't even have the decency to openly reject me. and i know he likes my friend a whole lot, is there anything i can do to A. make things less wierd now B. get him to notice me as more than a friend?
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Guys can be difficult. I don't think he left because he doesnt have the decency to reject you, I think he was alittle shocked. You know what I mean? I don't think you should be upset with him. Guys can't handle new situations easily.
And, maybe the reason he didnt reject you is because he didnt want to. Maybe he likes you back.
A) Hmm... how to make things less weird. Well I think that you should think of ten conversations to bring up when you see him next. Find anything to talk about, but if you have planned conversation, then when he is like: "Oh God, what do I say," You can hop in and talk about something other than the weather or what you ate for dinner, because that will make him want to flee (which happened already remember, if you had thought of things to say to move on, that might not have happened, not that I'm blaming you or anything,)
As far as B) You can't force him to like you, everything is out there now, and I don't think you should do anything to make him notice you as more than a friend. He knows that that is how you feel, and he may be inclined to give you that, but if he isnt then you have to accept that and move on. Because otherwise, he may feel even more awkward.
Well, I hope I helped a bit, good luck with Mr. Right!
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Since you say that he's a nice guy, he probably doesn't know the right thing to say which will not hurt you. Don't worry bout it. Communication thru internet can create a lot of misunderstanding.
Just continue talking to him like normal times. He wont act wierd if you don't act wierd. It'll A. make things less wierd and B. he'll notice you more as a friend since things are back to normal and you can continue building up on your friendship.
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Okay, well him having to go could've been just weird timing. It doesn't necessarily mean that he's running away from the situation so don't assume.
Anywhos, when you get to school (or as soon as you can contact him) ask him if he would please keep this a secret and not go around saying it to everyone. And that you hope that he will act like nothing happened and etc. You do the same.
B. You can't change what a guy feels. In fact no one can change what someone else feels. He already knows you like him, that might kinda creep him out a little since 1-you guys are friends and he probably didn't see you as more than a friend and 2-this might make it weird for him to go out with ur really good friend (if he does decide to ask her out) since u and his crush are good friends. Just be yourself and don't try to act like someone else or someone he would like because you want him to like you for you and not someone else.
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