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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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doesnt the mayo make your hair smell bad? do you wash it first the put it in or put it in then wash your hair in the shower... and what does it do... and how long? sorry a lot of questions but please answer them lol. thank you so much!(:
Ask as many questions as you would like its okay I am happy to answer them.... Mayo will make your hair smell funny... So after you keep it in for 15 minutes you wash you hair with shampoo in the shower... Mayo makes your hair soft and shiny and heathy looking :)
Is it normal to pretend you're pregnant? I don't want to actually be pregnant until I'm married, but I'm always curious what it is like. Thanks.
Well I cant say that it is something you typically hear of someone doing... but if you are just pretending while you are ALONE and you DO NOT tell anyone that you are and make them believe a lie I dont really see any harm in it... you are just having fun... but dont tell people that you are pregnant when you are not you dont want to get yourself stuck in a web of lies.. have fun
sir i paratice mediatation meditation reguraly my timings of mediatation is morning 2-15am to 4-00am if fell my body temperature rises why it is so
I did a little research on the effects of meditation for you... Below I pasted two links that I found to be very helpful and filled with information... hope this helps you :)
link one~
http://www.project-meditation.org/a_wim1/effects_of_meditation.html
link 2~
http://www.noetic.org/library/publication-books/physical-and-psychological-effects-meditation/
Why does pussies stretch
I am not really sure if you are being serious or just trying to be funny but the vagina is made to stretch because women have the wonderful responsibility of childbirth... When giving birth the baby comes out of the vagina if we did not stretch the baby's head would be way to big to come out you should really look into getting yourself a sex education class hope I helped :)
If school is about learning then why do you have fun?
Having fun while learning can make time go by faster and you are not bored just sitting and listening to the teacher talk .... I actually found it easier to remember things when we did fun actvities in school because when I was having fun I paid attention and didnt daydream :)
ok, so i shave down in that area. and everytime i shave i CANT get it perfectly smooth. i can still see the black little hairs where my hair folicule is. its sooooo annoying. is there anything that will work? how are you supposed to shave down there? i read that you are supposed to go side to side. but that doesnt get the hair down there. i need answers please!
try nair for bikni lines it will remover the hair without you having to shave and it is painless and it makes it smooth thats what I use :)
f/17
My mom is a hard working woman and she's already in her mid-fifties. She's also got a ton of health problems and my sister has severe depression, so my mom is always stressed and worried about things. She pays ALL of our bills and she cleans the entire house, she makes the food. And my father does nothing about it. He just lays around the house or goes to work, saves his money so he can spend it on himself, and then he talks crap about my mom to my little sister and I. It's outrageous!! They've been married for almost nineteen years! I mean, my father is Mexican and he never learned English, so he's a bit hindered in some places, but he could at least help pay the bills, even so, he doesn't! He told my sister that he's sick of paying all our bills and doing all the work, but he does nothing! And not to mention, he's almost as depressing as my sister and having him around her is just making her worse!
My mom keeps saying she'll kick him out, but I think she's too scared to. She'll be lonely and she doesn't want to hurt her husband. I understand this, but she's just hurting herself by doing this! I really want to help my mother, she's miserable now and I know she is, even though she smiles and says she's fine. She's just bottling it up. She broke down a while ago when she found out my dad had used some of her money to buy a new car or something like that. I'm not trying to sound heartless or anything, but my mom's husband has got to go. He treats everyone, not just my mom, like crap. He's even abused our dogs!! And, I'm not quite sure, but I THINK my dad MIGHT be saving money away to move out. I'm not quite sure, but there's no way I'm asking him. I don't talk to him very much. He's more like that annoying neighborhood kid to me than a father, which actually kind of makes me upset sometimes because I try and talk to him about things, but he just tries to start a pity party on how he's the hard worker and I just get so fed up with it... What can I do about this situation ):? I really want to help my mom because it actually sounds like she might hurt herself with all this stress... (According to her doctor, she's already had a heart attack because of all the stress last year and that's terrifying my sister and I.)
really when it comes down to it making your father leave it totally your mothers choice she has been with him for a very long time and is most likely afraid to be alone talk to her and tell her how you feel and your veiws on the situation and remind her that she can do better and that you and your sister will always love and be there for her good luck
16/F
I finally got a great boyfriend! He's so nice, he talks to me when he can, and he even came out to eat with me for my birthday. I was so happy that I cried when I met him because he was just so perfect. At first. Now I'm kind of confused because we don't cuddle as much and whenever he even just hugs me or holds my hand, his face turns a bright red and he looks extremely uncomfortable so I feel kind of hurt... And when we talk, he acts like he's not all that interested in the conversation or he's just way too nervous to talk. I mean, he says he loves me all the time and I say it back, but I don't know if he means it and I don't know if I mean it because... I dunno if it's weird, but I don't know what love is exactly. Romantic love anyway and when I asked my mom about it, she just said she feels sorry for my boyfriend that he has to date a heartless person like me, so I was like whaaat? I mean, I guess there's just not enough passion in this relationship? I'm not talking about sex, I mean, the least he can do is kiss me back like he means it? He just pecks me on the lips real quick, then takes off looking all nervous and relieved that it was over... What do I do about this whole situation? I mean, we've been dating for almost four months now...
He isnt trying to hurt you in anyway ... by the way you explained this it seems like he is just a little afraid he doesnt want to do the wrong thing and lose you... tell him how you are feeling and talk to him about what he is feeling to me it just sounds like he is trying really hard to be perfect for you and he might be pulling back because he thinks he may smother you or you might not like what he is doing
Okay, so I'm gonna keep it short. I'm 20 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been together steadily for six years. Our sex isn't all that I feel like it should be, and I'm wondering why not and how should I go about improving this. Even when the experience feels pretty good, I rarely EVER get my 'big finish", and he ALWAYS gets his, and he always thinks I've gotten mine. I don't know what to do! I want us to fix this problem asap! Please advise me! Thanks =)
Oh the big finish..... what every girl wants and needs and very few men know how to help us achieve... try bringing sex toys or vibrators into the mix... you can help him get you to that "big finish using one of those... or help him out guide him tell him what it is that you want .... good luck :)
I have just been feeling disconnected, alone, frustrated, and hopeless lately. I feel like I can not do anything right. I feel like no one cares about me. When I talk to my friends and they say that I am just being too emotional or too dramatic. I just feel that way and I feel like no one understands. I just want to disappear most days. I have also been thinking about cutting again. It just makes me feel less bad. I just do not know what to do. What should I do?
Well I think that you really need a good friend to talk to and go to for advice someone you can trust to talk about anything (btw if you ever want to talk I am here and you dont have to worry about being judged or me telling anyone your secrets because well I dont know anyone you know haha) You are not hopeless or unloved you are just depressed try going to counseling maybe get on an anti-depressant medication... Dont go back to cutting!! you are an amazing person and dont let anyone convince you otherwise I here if you need to talk good luck and I wish you all the best
Well I have had stomach problems for over a year now and I'm just wondering what it could possibly be. The pain is in the right side of my rib cage so I'm thinking it might have something to do with my gall bladder but I'm not sure. It will sometimes randomly hurt and it other times it will twitch or pulse or something along those lines. I have gone to the doctor but he talked really fast and he had an accent so I didn't catch all of it. I have had tests done like blood tests, some sort of IV test thing, an ultrasound,and I'm scheduled to get a camera down my throat. I'm just wondering the possible things it could be so I have an idea of how serious or how minor it could be. Please and thank you.
I have a stomach ulcer that makes my stomach hurt and twitch or "spaz" as i call it... sounds like you have the same thing you can get medication to helo you with this good luck feel better soon
Okay My boyfriend claims he has hacked my phone which is pre paid and can see all who i text and call. I am very hypocritical to this. I have done a lot of research and everyone always says you have to pay for a service like that. i know dang well he didnt have the money for that, but he is smart with computers. My question is only for people who honestly know for sure if it is possible to do that? He always seemes to know what ive said and shit and he doesnt go near my phone usually. It is always in my sight if im around him. I know people are going to say i should dump him but that isnt my concern at the moment. Can he acutally hack and track my phone calls and texts like he says?
I thought this site would help you answer your question good luck http://www.blurtit.com/q8993236.html
Three weeks ago I put hair dye in my hair and I have something important coming up and I've washed and washed my hair and it won't come out and I don't want to go to the salon to pay money to have it fixed cause I have a lot of hair. What can I use to make it come out ? Its bright blue
I have never done this so I cant really tell you if it works but I have heard of people using toothpaste to remove the koolaid from their hair good luck
I'm 18, and female.
I've never been on a date, and i've never had a boyfriend. Is that normal for someone my age?
I'm told i'm pretty, and I know I have a good personality. I have a lot of close friends. I do a lot of community service and work with my church... i'm the type of person that just loves to help people, and I love most everyone I meet. I'm great with people.
But i've never been asked out... My best friend says it's because my heart is closed... I don't know if I believe her though... I really want a relationship more than anything. I'm self-conscious, but I don't think I let that get in my way... But no one i've liked has ever liked me back.
I guess i'm just wondering what's wrong with me. All of my friends have had multiple boyfriends, and i've never even had anyone interested in me. Not that I know of... I mean, i've never really flirted or put myself out there, but still... it scares me.
Dont put yourself down you are a wonderful intellegent beautiful young girl and the right guy is out there waiting... try being a little more open and outgoing and flirty... if the guys are not giving you the attention you want than approach them and start the flirting... there is nothing wrong with you lots of people dont get romantically involved right away.. you got this good luck
So all summer long my moms been complaining about how I haven't gotten a job.
I'm getting really sick and tired of listening to her constantly complain and belittle me because she's jealous that I'm on summer vacation and get to stay home while she works.
Every summer she treats me like crap and it's pretty much like being grounded for 3 months and i'm tired of sitting around because she never lets me leave the house and listening to her scream and whine and complain about how I "never do anything" and she even told me earlier it pisses her off to see me not working when she is and that just seeing my face or hearing me talk makes her angry.
So I went to the Barnes and Noble Website and downloaded an Application and now i'm filling it out and I intend to send it to them and I think I have a better chance at getting the job then most people do since I have a pretty much perfect school record along with being a certified associate of Microsoft Office and the Adobe Suite (they ask on the resume if you know how to work with Microsoft Word).
My only worry is that I'm only 16 (minimum age) but in a month and 14 days i'm going to be 17. I'm very charismatic and I've been a counselor at a camp for the past few years during the summer so I know how to deal with people as well. I'm also a member of FBLA and have the Presidents Volunteer Award among other certificates and I've taken "Leadership Training".
I don't see how it could be a bad idea so I think I'm going to just go ahead and do it even though I haven't asked my mother. I mean she's the one who always complains about me sitting at home "doing nothing" and has told me on multiple occasions that I need to get a job.
I'm filling my resume out on the computer so everything will be neat and tidy but I want to know, should I should put all of my achievements down on an extra sheet of paper and attach it to my resume or would that be overkill?
Any advice helps :)
I think that it is very great that you are trying to get a job and listing your achievments sounds like a great idea... Your mother is so wrong for treating you this way you are still a child and it is her job to take care of you and her saying those mean things to you is just messed up I am so sorry you have to deal with it... go ahead with your plans I think you will do great!!!
Dear advisenators
I need your advice please. I have 2 beautiful twin girls, who is 1 year old now, and a wonderful husband. He works in his own business and I am a full time student studying–neither of us are home often or together because of our busy schedules. I got married at 16 and divorced by 17. Yes, I married young. That guy was cheating on me and when I confronted him, he was so angry and became so abusive. I don’t want this to happen again with my new marriage because we are so happy together. Here is why I wrote because some thing similar is happening to me. My husband and me hired one of my best friends who has become a even more a very good friend to me–she looks after our little girls and lives with us. She is 19. We are Muslim. She was pregnant with my husband's baby now 2 weeks ago. we went together to get the abortion. He does not know she was pregnant and she never wants him to know. I have learned to accept him and love him no matter what. As long as he is not hurting me or anyone else. And he is not. He is such a good man. She is so concerned about her baby and her family and of me of afriad of me being mad at her begged me to stay because she needed the money and supports her family with it too, they are old and need her help so I let her stay. I promised her I would not send her back or tell him about the baby.. She said she would please us and do anything for us. She is very sweet. I do feel weird about her and my husband.
I don’t want to lose him and want him to be happy too, she is just a young girl and he may just have a weakness for girls like her. It seems harmless–she is a virgin. I am afraid to confront him. You see my mother told me that she had to put up with my father for our sake and because she valued her family more than sex.
My mother told me that if the girl is a virgin, and she is, I should not worry about STDs or anything else. I should just be a good wife like she was and leave him alone otherwise this husband will leave me too. Mom says he is a good man who comes from a good family, he supports me, i only have a high school degree with some modeling experience. What if I just let him alone? Allah commanded us girls to submit to our husbands. My mom said the prophet had many wives and slave girls. His wives needed to accept that, and she did with my father and i should too.
I dont know what to do about her pregnancy. I just want us to be happy. Please advise,
What harm would it do to keep ignoring it?
I am dependent on him for my support and for my girls too.
Please reply to
jjordan2011@mail.com
I cant really reply to your email at this time so I hope that you recieve this... I am sorry for all the trouble you have gone through... But in my opinion you should confront your husband if you dont than you are going to end up hating him for it... we have a saying aroung here that goes once a cheater always a cheater... it is wrong what he did my advice leave the man you can do so much better!! good luck
well i am 15 years old and theres this guy who comes up here during the summer, he is basically my neighbor and he likes me. I kinda like him too but i didnt want to start a relationship with him because he is my neighbor for the summer, but ive been hanging out with him for the past couple of weeks and we ended up kissing yesterday and we made out today. So now i feel bad because i didnt want to start anything with him but i really like him:/ should i stop or what should i do?
Well honestly at 15 I think that you may not be ready for a friend with benifits or anything of that nature but you are going to do what pleases you so I suggest that you tell the boy your intentions and make sure that he is in agreement with it also make sure that if you have sex you use condoms and some other type of birth control you dont want to end up pregnant so youg good luck to you :)
how long will a hickey last
I have had them many times before and they useually only last 4-7 days for me hope i helped
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I am skinny, yet my face is chubby, Hair cut advice, its looking dull and flat.. and makeup advice? thanks How old do you think i look in this picture?
Fisrt let me tell you that you are a very pretty girl!
If you would like some helpful hints on makeup hair care ect you can visit this website that i like to go to its called freebeautytips.org amazing website... have fun
21 female
I'm going to try and make this as short as possible..
There is this guy. He thinks I have big boobs, but I only have B's. The reason he thinks this is because I wear the miraculous bra from Victoria's Secret that's supposed to make you look 2 cup sizes bigger.
Now I'm afraid to ever take off my bra. It's not that I'm insecure of a guy seeing me naked, it's just that he's gonna be disappointed i feel. Every time he says something about my boobs I'm like "you're crazy, there not even big" and stuff like that.
What should I do? I am way to embarrassed to be like "yeah I wear a push up bra with ALOT of padding in it" And the thing is he's not experienced when it comes to being physical with a girl so I'm thinking maybe he would just be happy to see me topless but I don't know. What do you think I should do??
If he really wants to be with you he will like you the way you are. Dont be embarrassed God made you perfect the way you are so yeah say it just like you have it up there.. there is no reason to be ashamed and If he really likes you and cares for you his feelings about you shouldnt change when he realizes that your chest is not as big as they appear :)