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My friend and I went to the movies the other day and the whole movie she was making out with her boyfriend.
I found this weird because no one in my grade really does this. But I kept seeing her like rub his private parts over his pants.. and I know this sounds weird but I could hear him like moaning.
But question is, is this normal? Is this just like giving a hand job?
I know this question seems stupid, I'm just really uneducated.
Thanks in advance. (link)
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It's not a stupid question if you have never been in that situation before. In a way it was like giving a dry hand job (ie over the clothes), he was obviously enjoying it if he was moaning.
It is also normal when youngster are developing an interest in sex to start with fumbling over the clothes and then going inside the clothes. It is then a progression onto the next stage which can be dry humping (sexual organs together with clothes on) followed by hand jobs directly onto the sexual organs then sexual intercourse.
Obviously this is just a rough guide because everyone does things differently. Hope I helped.
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There is this discharge I get in my panties. I knwo discharge is normal. But it is excessive amounts. Like it is always there. I could take a shower and have it in my panties in like 5 minutes... I thas been like this for years and i am not sure of why.
Is this normal.. Or what? (link)
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All women are different and it sounds normal to me. If it continues to worry you the best thing to do would be to see your doctor. He/she will be able to reassure you. All the best.
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i feel lazy, have a constant desire to eat esp. sweets, getting forgetful, socially remorse, shouting everytime i get irritated, gaining fat and weight, sexually sterile, lost confidence in having a career again.i am 28, an MBA and a mother of a daughter of 2.5 yrs.presently at home.no friends but no problems with spouse.what can be the problem with me as i loathe myself bcause of my laziness and wont do anything even as i know that it is wrong.i am from india (link)
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I am not a professional but it sounds to me like you may be suffering from mild depression. The best advice I can offer you is to pop along to your doctors and ask for some help. If that is not possible, join a young mums group and talk to them about how you are feeling - I am sure there will be other mums feeling exactly how you are.
Motivation will be a bit of a problem because of how you are feeling, but if you can find some energy from somewhere, it will do you the world of good just to take your daughter for a walk.
As another suggestion, try telling yourself you are a worthy person, a good mother, a good wife and you have oodles of energy. The more you say it the more you will believe it. Good luck and stay motivated.
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after my dad died his side of the family completely abandoned us . leaveing my mom to do everything.
she has a lot of stress to deal with and im not sure how to help her. ive tried helping out with cleaning the house but i just get in the way.
and my little 9 year old brother is just makeing things worse. i dont know whats going on that little head of his but hes giving my mom big ass head aches. hes failing 4th grade. wich is like the easiest grade. and hes leaving all of his garbage every where. and is constantly doing stuf wrong.
weve tried everything to help him and i swear none of it works.
if any one has any sujestions PLEASE tell me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Your brother sounds like he is still grieving for his Dad. At 9 years old he is still very young and probably doesn't really understand why his Dad has gone or why he feels the ways he does.
Instead of berating him for being messy and failing 4th grade, try praising him for anything good that he does. Ask for his help and give him options on what to do - for example doing either the washing up or drying up. He may feel that as the main man in the house everything should fall on his shoulders and it is too much of a burden.
Give him time and your attention and things will probably improve, but it will take a while. There will also be times when it will all be too much and he may well regress again.
As for your Mum, she probably feels that as the only adult it is her entire responsibility to do everything. It may also be her way of coping with her loss and taking her mind off of what has happened. Just be there for her with a cup of tea or a quick cuddle. A few words of love will mean the world to her.
For yourself, please don't take on too much, lean on your friends and ask for help at school if you need it. People are much more understanding when they know what is happening in your life, good or bad.
I wish you and your family all the best for the future and hope that life gets better for you all. Take care.
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I have no piercings what-so-ever; I got my ears done in 2nd grade and they closed so i re-did them myself because my dad wouldn't let me get them re-done. He won't let me get anything pierced. I've been begging for months. It's seriously unfair. How can i convince him to let me get my lip pierced? (link)
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I don't think you will be able to persuade your father to let you have your lip pierced. If you are still young enough to need his permission, you are definitely too young to mutilate your face. If you are still determined to go ahead, then you will have to wait until you no longer need your parents permission.
If you do desperately need to have a piercing, then would he consider a tummy bar? At least you will be able to cover it up if he finds it offensive.
I think you will just have to be a bit patient and wait a while. All the best.
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my 15 month old son keeps bittind me and wont stop. ive tried rubbing his gums and give him meds to help with the teeth pain. but everytime i smack him when he bits and say no he just laughs at me and does it again. how can i get him to stop? (link)
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It is very tempting to bite your child back or smack him, but that only tends to enforce the need for attention by being bad.
When he bites you again try crying very hard and telling him he hurt you badly. Say that you love him very much but you don't like that he bites you. If he is sorry make a big fuss about forgiving him and tell him that you love it very much when he doesn't bite.
I know it sounds a bit crazy but it might be worth a try. If you praise the good and try to ignore the bad, it does work quite well.
Obviously he may just be in pain and bites you because you comfort him. Tell him it's wrong every time, but please try not to smack him.
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This is a long story but please read it I need help. My current boyfriend Kahn had a gf when i started to like him. He liked me too and we decided to go out when he dumped his other gf who was one of my good friends. But before he dumped her people found out what me and hi were planning to do. We ended uop going out but then i dumped him cause i didn't like him anymore. Then i started going out with robbby who i REALLY liked but all my friends started saying i was a slut to him. so we broke up and then i asked out Kahn again, even though i don't really like him. Should i dump him AGAIN, or shuld i stay with him because i dont want to be mean????????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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My suggestion is you go out with neither of the boys. Give yourself a break from romance for a month or two. Maybe in that time you will meet someone else that you really like. There is no point in going out with someone that you don't like very much in the hope that it will get better. Just explain to Kahn that you need some time to yourself and it would be better to stop seeing each other for the time being. Good luck.
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im 14 i lost my fist born over the summer and im pregnant again it broke my heart when my daughter died i refuse to get an abortion what can i do (link)
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Believe that you are doing what is right for you. I agree that you really are very young to be having a child, but you are pregnant and must now deal with the consequences.
It is really difficult to relax during pregnancy when you have already suffered a miscarriage. You just have to hope that all will be well this time. If it happens again, then there is nothing you can do about it. It will be awful, I know I lost two babies, but I went on to have two beautiful daughters. Life does work itself out eventually.
You need to take care of yourself and the best way to do that is trust the medical profession to help you. Listen to their advice and make sure you attend every check up.
I hope that your pregnancy progresses well this time. Take care.
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Long thing cut in half. I'm 14/f and I'm bi and I'm not out of the closet and I'm not planning to come out of the closet anytime soon. I have a lot of gay/bi friends and I love them to death and I don't mind. They're out and they're carefree and don't give crap about what others say. But all good things have the iffy side. Some of my friends are homophobes, my family is a huge homophobe, and the school..80% is homophobic. It's really hard to get along with people now that I'm in high school. Some people tend to tease me because I have so many nonstraight friends. One time a group of guys that make fun of me and my bff--who is gay--on the bus rammed me with their shoulders on purpose because I was friends with gay guys. Some people won't even talk to me. And it's really getting hard to keep up this little image where I look perfectly find and don't mind as long as I have my friends. I don't know what to do about that.
And also, one of my gay friends always goes "You're the only straight person in our group. We need to turn you bi" And I don't know what I'm suppose to say. I just laugh it off. But I'm already bi and I can't risk telling them because I feel intiminated and they're really gossip-y so heh no way. Some people ask if I'm bi also because I have so many gay/bi friends. ANd I don't want to say no but I have to or else it gets iffier.
So my questions are: what do I do with the school people situation and what do I say with the "be bi"/"Are you bi" statements said to me? (link)
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Just tell people you are who you are and for the moment you are happy with that. You don't have to give direct answers, nor do you have to lie. You are not ready to come out yet and you should respect yourself for that. It is easy to say laugh it all off, but it is obviously getting to you at the moment. Try being a little enigmatic for a while. Give off an aura of being unique. Once you are ready to show yourself, be prepared for all the flack that will come your way.
Most parents will love you for the way you are and will eventually come around if they are having a problem to begin with.
Hold your head up at all times and believe in yourself. All the best.
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I get really tired and sick of people going "OMG I LOVE THAT BAND" -- like bands that has existed for a while and had just not become recognized and popular like P!ATD and MCR and Flyleaf and etc. It gets really annoying because I've known the bands for a long time and they assume that I just another one going crazy for that band and later ditching it for another newly discovered band. How do I disconect myself from this and make it known to people that I've known them for a long time before they evern appeared on MTV or even came on the radio?
Also, any bands out there that aren't discovered yet? Thanks. Most of the bands that I knew are not on MTV... (link)
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Our Time Heroes. A local band in Dorset, England. Look them up on the internet. They play music that you can mosh to. Songs like "What you wanted", "Spilling guts" and "Plea for freedom".
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i might be prgenate and if iam im not to sure of how to tell my parents .. wat should i do (link)
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Firstly, make sure you are definitely pregnant before you say anything to them. Once you have established the facts, then decide how and when to tell them. If you are pregnant do some research into how you are going to proceed next. Whether or not you are going to keep the baby or if abortion is an option, even adoption. If you intend to keep your baby, work out how you are going to continue with your education or get a job. I know it is a lot to think about but if you show that you are intending to take full responsibility for the consequences, then they are more likely to support you.
Honesty is always the best thing in such cases. Tell your parents that you are expecting their grandchild and that you need their support and help. Tell them that you have thought long and hard about your future and give them some idea of what you would like to do.
They will be angry and upset but I am sure they love you. You are their daughter and, if they are like most parents, will want to be there and support you through this.
Please listen to what they have to say, you may not like it but try and understand how they are feeling.
Above all else keep strong and know that this situation will sort itself out eventually. Nothing stays the same. Good luck.
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i have no idea if i'm depressed or not. but i keep having really scary thoughts of me dying tragically. like i'm just walking down the street, and i picture myself getting hit by a car lying on the street.
i think a lot. too much actually. like one minute i'm completly happy knowing that i'm loved by people. the next i'm so scared that everybody's being fake and i'm going to get hurt by someone i love. it scares me. is this normal? i don't know why i'm having suicidal thoughts. and i hate over thinking.
should i go get depression pills? or no? and what exactly would they do for me? and where can i get them? (link)
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I think we are all very much aware of how mortal we all are. It is not uncommon to picture ourselves leaving behind those we love whether it be through our own doing or because of an accident..
Self doubt plays a big part in those thoughts and it helps to remind ourselves about who and what we would leave behind if we did commit suicide.
I believe it is normal to think that killing oneself is the easy answer, but unfortunately it is not.
From what you say I don't think you sound depressed or suicidal. However, if your thoughts do darken and you feel that you need help, please see your doctor. They will be able to talk you through your feelings and will know whether you need medication or counselling.
Medication will help you feel more relaxed and chilled out, and counselling will help you explore your inner feelings and help identify and deal with them effectively.
I hope this helps. Take care.
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how do i say goobye to some one i love more than any one in the world with out hurtng him or me? because i have to do thi but i dont no how help me (link)
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It won't matter how you say it - it will hurt. Saying goodbye to someone who means the world to you is probably one of the hardest things to do.
Always offer an explanation no matter how vague it is, don't promise anything you can't follow through on and hold on to the knowledge that it is the right thing to do at this moment in time.
If it helps, try writing a letter explaining the reasons or circumstances that this person can take away with them after you have spoken. It may help you to clarify your thoughts, and it could possible help the other person understand more clearly.
Good luck with what you have to do and if I can help any more please just ask. Take care.
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ok so im overweight and right under where my fat is on my stomach theres like this weird skin irritation thats been there for a long time. its reddened but towards the center it gets lighter, its along a broad part of my stomach and sometimes it hurts to touch. anyone know what the hell is up with this and how i make it stop hurting?
please, serious answers (preferably no "go to a doctor") (link)
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Ok, so you don't want to go and see a doctor - that's fine - not a good idea though.
However, it could be something as simple as not drying yourself completely after washing and the skin is staying moist. This would encourage the skin to break down and become sore to touch. It could also be a fungal infection that will need a cream to clear it up - ask the pharmicist for advise. If it is too sore to rub dry try blowing it gently with a warm hair dryer until it is completely dry.
Nobody on this site can give you accurate advice because they cannot see what it looks like. A professional will be able to diagnose the cause and suggest a treatment. You don't need to see the doctor but it would help. I know my information is rather vague and if I am of no help I apologise. Take care.
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i have a friend who's dad recently died. (the boy is 14) he was really close to his dad. his dad passed a few days before christmas and this night of his funeral was his 50th birthday. the boy's mother isn't really protective. this boy used to be in a gang...and had been involved with bad stuff. he is still in a gang...but wants out. he has one brother who is in it too...he's 19, and he is nothing but a bad influence. the boy knows i am worried, but he can't get out. i feel like now that his dad has passed that he is going to look up to his brother the kinda replace his dad. I am really worried. This has been bothering me so much. i wish i could have taken his dad's place, because i feel like nows the time he needs a dad in his life. does anyone have any advice. because i love this boy (i don't like love him as in bf or anything) it's just that i love him in a way that i would be willing to do anything to help him..and i would be heart broken if anything happened to him because he has been through so much. i love dis boy in a way that i would do anything to make him happy...even if that wouldn't include me. does anyone have any advice? any would be appreciated...srry it's long. (link)
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I am so sorry to hear that your friend is in a really bad place at the moment. If he is open to suggestions perhaps you could offer up the idea of getting a mentor (perhaps from school or social services). Someone that can help him to slowly get out of the gang without causing too many problems for him. At 14 he is still young enough to turn his life around and be someone his father could have been proud of. He may not know or, even admit to it, but he needs a friend like you and the best thing would just to be there for him. Listen to him when he needs to talk, offer him silence when he needs companionship and someone to tell him he is a good person when he is feeling down.
It won't be easy for either of you and you must not try to take on too much. If I can help any more please let me know. Take care.
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k,my bf & I have sex. We always use condoms (the spermicide kind)..he never gets off in me...and afer sex,he always checks to see if the condom has broke. The thing is... I skipped my period this mth-& it is the 1st time that has happend.
I do not feel ay different or anything--Just super nervous!
Two Questions:
1.)Should I be worried that I'm pregnant?!
2.)Can you have a late period from having alot of sex?
thank you so much!!! (link)
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Sorry I took so long answering you - away over Christmas.
It is always possible that some sperm could have escaped through a small pin-prick in the condom. I suggest that you do a pregnancy test just to be sure.
A late period can be caused through worry over pregnancy, a change in hormonal levels, a change in your natural cycle as well as being pregnant. You may not feel any different to begin with if you are pregnant - every woman reacts differently to pregnancy.
At this moment in time, take a test and try not to worry too much. If I can help you any further please let me know. Take care.
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i know this sounds like a totally weird question- but its for all the mommy's out there. im not exaclty sure what to pack when i leave for the hospital. you all would obviously know what is needed, so please, someone help me out, i dont want to feel rushed when im leaving for the hospital, and i want to be fully prepared when i get there. thanks in advance. (link)
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Make sure you have all your toiletries with you including sanitary pads, spare panties and a good supportive feeding bra. A couple of clean nighties and a cardigan to put round your shoulders should also be included. Tissues, facial wipes and a drink to sip throughout labour may also help. Pack your bag several weeks before your due date and place it in view of your front door. That way you can grab it on the way out.
Baby needs nappies, clothes, blankets, and if the hospital doesn't supply it - cotton wool for washing baby's face and a small flannel for the other end.
As YoungGrandma said - a car seat is essential for taking your newborn home in.
Good luck and best wishes.
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I had protected sex on the 16th, saturday. I started my period late sunday night [right on schedule] Is there a chance that I could be pregnant? My period wasn't as long as normal & definitely not as heavy. Is it possible that having sex just made it irregular?
Thanks =] (link)
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I doubt very much that you could be pregnant if you had protected sex and your period came on schedule.
It is quite possible that it could just be a light period this month and you are just more aware of it.
I shouldn't worry too much about it, but if it still concerns you in a couple of weeks time, take a pregnancy test just to put your mind at ease. All the best.
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what should i get my gf for christmass, i suck at choosing out gifts. im thinking maybe jewlry? (link)
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A bit of jewellery like a bracelet or a pair of earrings would be nice. A CD of her favourite band or a DVD of her favourite film is also a good idea. I think that she would like just about anything you buy for her. Have a lovely Christmas.
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Would it wrong to take a nap with your boyfriend or girlfriend? on the sofa or something?
I dont know, for some reason, I dont think my mom would agree. I'm just wondering too, I'm curious, what most parents would think of this? (link)
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I can't see there being a problem with having a nap on the sofa with your boyfriend/girlfriend. Where is the harm in relaxing together in full view of the home? If I found my daughter or son asleep on the sofa with their partner it wouldn't bother me in the least. If I found them both tucked up in bed, that would be another matter altogether. Hope this answers your question.
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