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it's driving me nuts
i have a friend who's dad recently died. (the boy is 14) he was really close to his dad. his dad passed a few days before christmas and this night of his funeral was his 50th birthday. the boy's mother isn't really protective. this boy used to be in a gang...and had been involved with bad stuff. he is still in a gang...but wants out. he has one brother who is in it too...he's 19, and he is nothing but a bad influence. the boy knows i am worried, but he can't get out. i feel like now that his dad has passed that he is going to look up to his brother the kinda replace his dad. I am really worried. This has been bothering me so much. i wish i could have taken his dad's place, because i feel like nows the time he needs a dad in his life. does anyone have any advice. because i love this boy (i don't like love him as in bf or anything) it's just that i love him in a way that i would be willing to do anything to help him..and i would be heart broken if anything happened to him because he has been through so much. i love dis boy in a way that i would do anything to make him happy...even if that wouldn't include me. does anyone have any advice? any would be appreciated...srry it's long.
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you should tell him that he can talk to you about anything. tell him you are worried about him looking up to his brother because he is nothing but a bad influence. tell him what you really think. im sure he will appreciate it that you care alot about him. and might be willing to do so. tell him you dont think its a good idea to be in a gang. and it will just start a whole bunch of trouble, and might end up where is dad is, and you will miss him terribly. tell him you are there for him 100%. make him fell like he can trust you. and dont let him down!
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i'm sorry to hear about your friends dad that is a sticky situation though. I know what it feels like to want to help a friend make the right decision but it isnt as easy as you both seem. Gangs are bad news and sometimes getting out means lossing your life, so dont take the chance of handling it yourselves. You could go to the police and they will help you and your friend or if you think that would make things worse for the both of you go to a guidance coucilor and they can handle it and keep your name quite cuz from what it seems your friends homelife isnt good for someone your age to be learning from. i hope this helps alittle.
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I am so sorry to hear that your friend is in a really bad place at the moment. If he is open to suggestions perhaps you could offer up the idea of getting a mentor (perhaps from school or social services). Someone that can help him to slowly get out of the gang without causing too many problems for him. At 14 he is still young enough to turn his life around and be someone his father could have been proud of. He may not know or, even admit to it, but he needs a friend like you and the best thing would just to be there for him. Listen to him when he needs to talk, offer him silence when he needs companionship and someone to tell him he is a good person when he is feeling down.
It won't be easy for either of you and you must not try to take on too much. If I can help any more please let me know. Take care.
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well me an my freind have the same problem.....very dimular infact. well we have screwed up really bad and we are trying to get out of it but the best thing i can tell you to do is keep up wut were doin....this is taylor right. lol srry i need to make sure
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