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Well im 15 f andim a sophmore. I just got my plan(act) results back and i got a 16 which is like kinda below average! Ok and my family is really smart everyone my sisters and my mom but me i didnt get the smart gene. People in my school got at least 19 or higher. I feel stupid and im not pretty so im not smart enpugh for my family/ what i want to be when im older. I want to be a dentist or dental hygentist. Also my friends are super smart. Im crying i have to show my dad in a couple minutes. Its not fair! Im not a bad person and yet i get terrible qualities. I told my sister and she was like are you serious that goes on your transcript for colleges. But the plan test is just a practrice!!well my point is i feel like i shouldnt be here like i dont belong i kinda want to just die and not just bc im not that smart. No im not gonna kill myself but im not happy i havent been happy for a long time! (link)
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You know the ACT test and the SAT tests prove nothing. It's a bunch of information that I feel isn't even worth being tested on. I have never tested well in my life ever since 3rd grade I just never did well on tests. I would study my butt off but I would never get really good grades. My SATs I bombed...and it's not because I didn't try it was just how it happened. I put myself down when it happened and my friend told me it doesn't make me a bad person and it doesn't make me dumb either. I have a reading language based learning disability and I also have ADD. I thought for the longest amount of time that I would never amount to anything. I thought I was dumb and that for the rest of my life if I needed to understand something I would need help. I didn't think I would graduate high school or even go to college. And I did just that.
Give yourself more credit and don't let this test tell you who you are or what your future is going to look like. I know this has nothing to do with school but look at Michael Jordan. When he went to college in North Carolina he didn't make the basketball team and he use to practice like crazy. Now look at him, he's known as one of the greatest basketball players in history.
I know you might feel like the black sheep of your family but guess what you're different and thats something you should embrace. Do what makes you happy and find hobbies that make you happy. That test doesn't define you, you can create your own destiny. Good luck and keep your head up!
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I was with my boyfriend for 3 months, and everything was going fine, till one night he got to drunk to go home and stayed at mine; we are both 16 but stayed in seperate rooms. (To respect both our parents) and his mom stopped all contact between us, and its been nearlly a month and I haven't contacted him just because she said not to, but he phoned me once and she found out and threatened to get me beat up, then again for no reason she threatened to hit me if she sees me and now she is saying I was pregnant and everything.. What can I do to stop her ? (link)
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I would tell your parents about it! That's deifnitely not something that you should take lightly whenever someone threatens to hurt you physically. Tell your mother or father or guardian about what is going on. And if you don't feel comfortable than maybe talk to an adult at school whom you feel comfortable and tell them about the situation. And if I was you I would cut all ties with him completely. Be careful!
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Its this girl i met a month ago she said she had a real good time with me. She also told me when shes was around me everything was clearer. i told her she special to me and i really enjoy talking to her, she responded by saying the feelings mutual. When we talk our conversations usually last for an hour or more. But the problem is i haven't seen her sense the day we met, she blames her job should i leave her alone or keep pursuing her (link)
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Well do you know her job schedule? How many times has she used her job as an excuse?
Maybe talk to her and see if you can come up with a day that works for both of you or something. If she has said it's her job schedule that is getting in the way maybe leave her alone and have her come to you or move on. I don't know whether she's lying her not but if she continues to tell you it's her job maybe it's best to move on and see what else is out there.
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
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I don't know this guy personally but he sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants. He would rather not be official and act like a boyfirned rather then putting the title of boyfriend. I'm not sure if you can get him to ask you out either it sounds like he's trying to figure out what he wants or needs.
What I have always been told that if a guy likes you he will go out of his way to make sure you know. I've dated several guys and some have been interested and some not so much. If this guy really wants to be with you he would make it official and make it known that you're his girl. My boyfriend and I had problems with the title of boyfriend and girlfriend. We were young and I truly thought something was going to happen between us but nothing came of it. I finally walked away from the situation but eventually we worked it out.
Maybe have a talk with him and if he still doesn't want to make it official I would suggest moving on. I know you don't want to but don't you want someone who is going to show you off to his friends and family? Don't you want him to call you 'my girl'? Think about it and do what is best for you and what makes you happy. Good luck!
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My boyfriend is my best friend. We have this insane chemistry, it's like we know each other's thoughts and we tell each other everything: our secrets and our dreams and stuff we'd never tell any of our friends. Our relationship is amazing. There's a strong trust and deep respect for each other and my boyfriend treats me like gold. He told me I'm the first girl he's ever loved and he won't abandon me or hurt me. I've had some tough relationships in the past but this relationship is everything I've ever wanted.
However, there's something happening. I hate to say it, but I am growing tired of him. We go to the same school, so I see him every morning, every break in between classes, and after school. Every Friday he drives me home and we spend the weekends together as well. I used to get that butterfly feeling but now it's died down. Lately I've been pissy and annoyed with him and I feel so stupid and ungrateful because he treats me so good. I want some space but I'll miss him and I don't want to upset him! (link)
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You don't have to be with him everyday. My boyfriend and I love each other but we have things going on in our lives so we have the weekends to spend together. That gives us time during the week for ourselves such as work, friends, and anything else that we need to do. I love my boyfriend but that doesn't mean I have to be with him all the time. In my last relationship I was with my ex constantly and he drove me nuts. Come up with a schedule where you have some time to yourself and he does too that way you get some time to actually miss each other and you're not stressed out or overwhelmed.
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ive fallen for someone and i do not want to have feelings for them anymore. i know in the end that hes only going to hurt me, as he already has begun too. the problem is that i like him so much. he got what he wanted out of me though, and now i feel that he is slowly distancing himself. so i need help or advice on getting past him and these feelings. thanks.
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I've been there and it stinks.
Caring about someone that knows what to say to you and what you want to hear. I've had a few guys like that and it makes me wonder about guys in genereal. These types of guys really give guys in general a bad name.
My advice would be to think about what is bad about him and what you can't stand about him. The more and more you think about the bad things the more and more unappealing he becomes. Stay away from him and ignore. Cut off all ties with him if you can. You can do better!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months but have been friends for a long time. I tell him everything and we are practically best friends. He treats me like gold. He is so sweet and appreciates me and can take me at my worst and my best. In the past I've been heartbroken very badly and abandoned, but he always assures me he'll never leave. I had a hard time believing that at first but somehow now I know he's here to stay. He says we'll only break up if I say the word. I think I fall in love with him all over again everyday!! He and I spend so much time together and it's like he's my other half.
Every Friday I go with him from school to his house. His parents don't come home until about 5, and we get to his house around 3. His parents are very laidback so they let us do what we want as long as we keep it light, just cuddling and kissing. But usually we take a nap together in his bed before his parents come home. We recently just became sexual, and he really likes it when I'm making the first move. Well yesterday I didn't feel like doing anything and he just kept kissing me and I'd turn my back and say no and push him away when he hugged me or something. That day he was just somehow getting annoying to me, which is so strange. I feel so bad because he just wanted to cuddle and I was being a jerk. I feel like I'm doubting "us".... Help! (link)
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Does this happen often or was it just that one time?
Sometimes you're not going to be in the 'cuddling or kissing' mood and that's okay. That doesn't mean you're doubting your relationship it just means you're not in the mood. I don't think you have anything to worry about and I think you just need to relax and realize that this guy truly does love you. From what you have written it sounds like he absolutely loves you and I have a boyfriend is exactly like that and I'm so thankful. Just live in the now and appreciate what you have!
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I'm afraid im not really a 'family' person. We use to have it all when were little, the nicest clothes, bla bla bla but now the economy is bad and everyone saves every penny (I'm 14 and I still dont understand what a penny will do) But yeah, I've been through some chaos before. And I put this gigantic smile on when in public and you dont know what's going on. Things have simmered down, but now it's me that feels burnt...I just wish I could leave home and go to college and live my OWN life. Tired of living in a household. I just want 4 yrs to go by fast, get out of cruel mean public school and go on with my life. Unlike some bums at school, I actually want to be successful, do the right thing, and make something out of my life. I know I'll need my fams support and my mom will be there. But right now....it just seems like the second to worst time in my life.....ugh!
So I ask.....what should I do? What will help me get through 4 more years? And how will it all go fast? (link)
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Don't rush it! You're going to miss it. If you rush your life right now when you look back in 4 years you wish you hadn't. When I was 16, I wanted to grow up and be an adult and now that I am I wish I hadn't rushed. You can create goals for yourself in the future. Live in the now, and do the best you can right now. If you want to go to college get good grades and pick great schools. You need to not rush things and take things slowly.
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Be honest. But just don't yell at me or lecture me. How bad is it that I like my teacher? He's pretty young.. like 24. I know it's not good. I honestly just want to know if there's anyone out there who's having a dilemma like this like me. or really anything anyone thinks about it. more importantly, how do i get over it? He's literally everything I've ever liked in a guy.. even guys my age. I need to SHUT UP about him. Jeez. Thoughts? (link)
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You need to realize that he is your teacher and for anything to become of it is inappropriate. It's fine to have a crush but nothing should become of it. Maybe hang out with your friends and meet some new people. That is always a great way to meet new people!
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Im 20 years old and dated this guy for 2 years. We broke up about 3 months ago and all though I finally ended it..it was pretty mutual cause he couldnt give me the attention I deserved. Well this has been sucha hard time for me and my friends and family have made it so much easier but I still feel like I dont have that best friend who I could tell anything to and not be embarrassed. Ive been out and tried to get over things and sometimes I really feel like its working but I just dont know if ill ever be the same.
Well about 2 weeks ago he messaged me on fb and we had a casual conversation and caught up with one another. And I totally got my hopes up thinking we would maybe think about getting back but im very stubborn so I didnt let him see that. Then I cried for 2 days and picked myself back up. Then this morning he messaged me again. He keeps it very casual but I just dont understand whats going on? I dont want to put myself out there if hes just checking in. he just never seemed like the kinda guy that checks in. we broke up cause he needed to focus on school, he has a new hobby, and we live pretty far apart. But we broke up so weird..we talked about dating again in like a year and I thought he was just saying it out of pity or something but he seemed to sincerely mean it. I guess its just a time thing and if we werent meant to be, our feelings would fade. I just need some guidance and hoping maybe someone cab offer some words of wisdom. Do you think he wants to get back or stay in my head or something? (link)
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Now I have definitely been through this and it's been a crazy roller-coaster let me tell you.
I have known my boyfriend for four years and he's been great. We have been on and off. The first time we dated we went out for a month and we than mutually decided that it was best to break up. I felt at that time that we weren't meant to be. He contacted me a lot after the break up and I wasn't sure as to why back than but I realized now it was because that wasn't what he really wanted. I felt like I was always playing this cat and mouse game with him. We are now together for 2 years and I couldn't be happier.
For some couples it works for others it doesn't. What my boyfriend and I did was we worked on our communication and we just said what we wanted/needed from the relationship. Maybe have a dialogue with your ex if you feel comfortable and tell him what you want. Or maybe wait for him to say something. For right now watch what happens and figure out what you want. Don't depend on him coming back and keep an open mind to what else is out there. Keep your head up!
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So a year ago me and my ex broke up-he ended it.
I didn't talk to him for months, however recently contact has started again.
Like he texted me happy birthday in June, he gave me a sorry note at prom, and then we texted each other every day for the summer holidays.
Now however, texting has stopped and whenever I log onto facebook he grabbs me on chat to talk. What does he want and how to ask him? any advice welcome :) (link)
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It's hard to say he could either be wondering what you're up to or he might want to get back together. My advice is to see how it goes and see what he says. Maybe he just wants to be friends, so for now just take it easy and watch what he does. I find it a bit weird that he stopped the texting and now he just chats with you online. I guess just keep talking to him and see where it goes. Good luck!
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Alright, so I had been friends with this guy for two years, then we went out for about four months. I broke up with him about a month ago for a variety of reasons-he was taking things to far too fast, I stopped liking him in "that way," and he was too... physical in public. I wanted things to go back to when we were friends. So I broke up with him at school, he was crushed and I felt like shit for a week because he's a really nice guy and probably my best guy friend. But anyway, he still hasn't gotten over me and it's been a month. He comes over to my lunch table EVERY day to talk to me, whenever we're in a group situation he ALWAYS has to stand next to me, and if I am talking about a guy with my friend he will run and stand next to that guy and stare at them. He also keeps making these "subtle" comments about how he's sorry for whatever he did (he didn't do anything, we are FOURTEEN for Pete's sake) and once I was playing ping pong with my friend and he,of course, had to come over ad e on my team . We lost, and he put his paddle on the table, hugged me while quietly saying " I'm sorry" and walked away. WTF??? He makes little remarks like that all the time. I don't feel bad for him anymore... I mean, were 14, what did he think was going to become of it? That we were going to get married? He won't leave me alone and he turns off other guys because he's ALWAYS there. I've started to be kind of a bitch to him as of late, simply to get him to stop liking me because it's driving me crazy. Help! What do I do about him??? He won't leave me alone! I'm fourteen I don't want to be tied down to him! (link)
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He clearly hasn't gotten over you and its only been a month. I think you need to seperate yourself from him and I think you need to tell him that. It's hard being just friends after a break up so maybe you guys need sometime apart so he can move on and then maybe in the future you two can be friends again. You should talk to him and have a serious conversation about it and then if he doesn't get it ignore him. If you ignore him he'll eventually get the picture. He fell hard for you I'm sure...I'm sure he wasn't thinking of marriage but maybe you were his first girlfriend or maybe his first love who knows. I hope everything works out and good luck!
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I have a problem, I secretly still like my ex-boyfriend. We went out for a while then he dumped me. Then a while later we went out again and he dumped me again... I dont know why I still like him though but I do. And it has gotten to the point to where I love him now... What should I do about it!?!?!?!?!?!? I'm 14 and a . I am confused with this right now! What should i do? (link)
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My question is why would you want to go out with someone that is so 'up and down'? He's hot than he's cold. He flips than he flops. I think you get the picture.
Maybe the reason you like him is because you want a boyfriend. He gives you that feeling you get when you like a guy. Maybe you want to find a guy with some of the qualities that your boyfriend posesses. Why did he break up with you? Was it a valid reason? Or did he jusmp around the bush? I would say move on and maybe try socializing with other guys.
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IT's almost 12 at night and I have school tomoro. I'm tired of my oldest sister living in our home. Her time is overdue and she runs the entire upstairs and the house, eats up the majority of our food, is greedy,selfish,and disrespectful. She has no common sense at all. I can never sleep in my room or down stairs on the couch cuz I hear the her showering since she doesn't close the door and her room door light is on as well. Our house is a ipen house, it has normal walls with openings like a window with no glass so you can hear everything. It's like arches. So I can't ever sleep. I'm only 5 feet and am 14....what do I do. My mom doesn't take it seriously yet she is always scolding me on getting to bed on time and all of that crap. Can someone help me? I want to start going to bed early but cant because of my sister. If only YOU KNEW...... (link)
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No one has the perfect home or gets along with their family all the time. I'm the oldest and I have a younger sister and we bicker a lot. I always thought when she was younger she was disrespectful and ignorant. Now looking back I didn't help much with the situation. When my sister listened to her music she would blast it like her room was a bar or club it was so obnoxious. Maybe what you should do is get some ear plugs and maybe a sleeping mask. And remember there might be some things that you do that might annoy sister. At the end of the day she is your sister and you're going to have to learn how to live with her. And later on when you move out you'll have to deal with whomever you are living with because there is always going to be something that bothers you with the perosn you are living with. Good luck!
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i have a self esteem ,self image problem .i know it effects everyone and everthing in my life but do not know how to fix it.i take evrything said the wrong way and respond the wrong way. i dont trust anyone.i gained weight because someone called me a skinny bitch a few times and over heard a women tell another that they should watch their husbands around me.now 10 years later i am 50 lbs over weight,have now friends,no job,no life.i went to see a counciler and she basically said until i want to change she cant help me, somehow i think that was what i was paying her for?maybe i am just ment to be this sad pitiful person that i am (link)
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No one deserves to be a sad or pitful person!
I know it maybe hard to believe but everyone has a problem with themselves some just cover it up better than others. I always question myself in everything I do and I always analyze things it drives my friends crazy. I usually get over it but it always seems to come back once in a blue moon. I would say try seeing another therapist because that one sure as hell doesn't know how to do her job. It's best to talk things out with someone or to even rant once in awhile that way you aren't holding it all in. I sometimes hold things that are bothering me in because I just do. Eventually when I talk it out or I say something to someone about it I feel a lot better and I have a huge sigh of relief.
As far as your weight, if you're unhappy then you need to change. Maybe start exercising more and maybe start making healthier choices.
As for people talking, you're always going to come into contact with that because unfortunately some people in this world didn't leave high school. I was recently on a train and there were two women (both in their 40s or 50s) and they talked about me right infront of my face. I couldn't believe that women at that age would do such a thing. Normally it would bother me but I go the strength to stand up for myself so I got up out of my sit said "Excuse me" and than "I hope you ahev a great day". That pissed her off so much but it made me smile and it made me so proud of myself. It's all about standing up for yourself and not letting other people walk all over you. If you're not going to stand up for yourself who will? And if their going to talk let them talk it's makes them look immature.
I have been through a lot but right now I'm staying positive and thinking positive because I know my worth. Keep your head up and if you ever need to talk please feel free to email me at: ohthatgirl1987@yahoo.com
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I have always seemed to come across to people as hard faced-fiesty , but deep down I'm just a big softy , and no one gets to know that side of me because they see me and think I'm someone different- but they don't know the childhood I went through- is there anyway I can change this? (link)
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I guess just try opening up a little bit. I was told I was intimidating at one point because I didn't smile. Rumors went around that where I was from I wasn't someone you wanted to mess with. And although it was great that people didn't pick on me or anything it was hard talking to people. Just try to smile a bit more and be friendly. Come out of your shell and it will help believe me. I started making a lot more friends when I came out of my shell. Good luck!
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ummmm..... nwdays i always had some arguments with my boyfriend.... he dun wan to spend time with me bt i'm expecting him to be with me for sumtime...when i dicussed this with him v had a big argument..... until nw i cnt sove this prob.... i just love him a lot.......and i need him bsde me.... please help me 10q (link)
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Well the fact that your boyfriend argues you with you that you want to spend more time with him sounds lame. Do you suggest it or demand it? Made make sometime for you and your boyfriend like a "date night" or what days you can hang out. You also have to give space as well, you should also hang out with some friends so you're not smothering him. I understand you lvoe him a lot but you need to be an individual and not lose yourself by catering just to him. Your life should not revolve around him! If he continues to act this way about you wanting to hang out with though I would question the relationship and think about possibly moving on. If you move on maybe you can find someone who wants to spend more time with you. Good luck!
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I'm 18 years old and I had my tonsils removed at the beginning of June, and it's now November but I still get sore throats which my doctor said should not occur as often, if at all. But I'm getting them just as often as before. Why is this? Could my tonsils being removed have not been effective? This is miserable to keep getting sick with (link)
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I would try to book an appointment to go see your doctor right away. I'm not a doctor but I think that's the best advice I can give you. It might possible be an infection or something so it's best to get it checked out. Hope you feel better!
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I have a very small sore throat and a bit of a stuffy nose. I wake up every morning with a sore throat and it goes away by the end of the school day, which is around 3. I've started taking a lot of vitamin C and dietary supplements because I am a vegetarian and also drinking a lot of liquids. My boyfriend doesn't want to get sick, so he said he can't get sick if he kisses me when I have a sore throat, so he and I don't french kiss now that I am sick. Can I still get him sick just by kissing him regularly? (link)
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It's possible that he might get sick. My boyfriend was experiencing cold symptoms such as a stuffy nose and sore throat and we just kissed regularly. I am now unfortunately experiencing the same symptoms he's been having! I hope you feel better!
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I am 18 years old almost 19(female) and my ex-boyfriend is 20. We are both at the same college. My ex-boyfriend and I were dating for six months, and he recently broke up with me because he wanted to focus more on his fraternity. I've come to the conclusion that because of his reason, he obviously does not care enough about me. I know that he definitely still has feelings for me and still loves and cares about me. My question is, what can I do on my end to try to make things work? It has been especially hard because we were extremely close and he was my best friend. Now that we have been broken up, we barely talk or see each other. At the same time, we went to the movies yesterday, but that's an exception. But I recently decided to not talk to him for a week, which has already been extremely difficult. I just want to know how I could increase the chances of us getting back together, without being pitiful. I would've let this go if there wasn't real love and connection involved. (link)
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I'm sorry to hear about your break-up.
After a break-up it's really hard getting a long with an ex or even trying to talk. I haven't had the best experiences in the past. I believe in love and I believe that if you feel something for someone you need to fight for them. If you truly lvoe this guy fight for him and let him know you care. I'm not saying to come off as desperate but lay it all out on the table and tell him how you feel. The thing is, is that he broke up with you and his reason was a fraternity. If a guy likes or even loves you nothing will get in the way of the relationship. Times may get tough but you have to pull through them and that's what keeps a relationship strong.
You're in college right now and you should go out have fun and don't concentrate so much on him. There's plenty of fish in the sea and I know right now you may think he's the one but you never know what other guys are out there. Keep your head up!
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