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My ex can't let go
14/f
Alright, so I had been friends with this guy for two years, then we went out for about four months. I broke up with him about a month ago for a variety of reasons-he was taking things to far too fast, I stopped liking him in "that way," and he was too... physical in public. I wanted things to go back to when we were friends. So I broke up with him at school, he was crushed and I felt like shit for a week because he's a really nice guy and probably my best guy friend. But anyway, he still hasn't gotten over me and it's been a month. He comes over to my lunch table EVERY day to talk to me, whenever we're in a group situation he ALWAYS has to stand next to me, and if I am talking about a guy with my friend he will run and stand next to that guy and stare at them. He also keeps making these "subtle" comments about how he's sorry for whatever he did (he didn't do anything, we are FOURTEEN for Pete's sake) and once I was playing ping pong with my friend and he,of course, had to come over ad e on my team . We lost, and he put his paddle on the table, hugged me while quietly saying " I'm sorry" and walked away. WTF??? He makes little remarks like that all the time. I don't feel bad for him anymore... I mean, were 14, what did he think was going to become of it? That we were going to get married? He won't leave me alone and he turns off other guys because he's ALWAYS there. I've started to be kind of a bitch to him as of late, simply to get him to stop liking me because it's driving me crazy. Help! What do I do about him??? He won't leave me alone! I'm fourteen I don't want to be tied down to him!
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He clearly hasn't gotten over you and its only been a month. I think you need to seperate yourself from him and I think you need to tell him that. It's hard being just friends after a break up so maybe you guys need sometime apart so he can move on and then maybe in the future you two can be friends again. You should talk to him and have a serious conversation about it and then if he doesn't get it ignore him. If you ignore him he'll eventually get the picture. He fell hard for you I'm sure...I'm sure he wasn't thinking of marriage but maybe you were his first girlfriend or maybe his first love who knows. I hope everything works out and good luck!
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hello! i do think your to young to be dating but anyway,i had a boy that was also in to me .so you know what i did? i had to be mean to him to get him off my back ,but i ended up sorry for hurting his feelings ,you should try talking to this boy in a nice way and telling him that you don,t appreciate him wanting to be more than friends maybe he,ll understand or you can try ignoring him completely he might just leave you alone ,peace and love :)
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You need to be stern, Tell him his actions are a bit too much and he needs to back off. Tell him in a calm but stern manner. Let him know that you accept his apology but the relationship is over and he needs to leave you alone and after you do so I'd try to avoid him for a while as much as possible until he gets over it. A month isn't long, Sometimes it takes people longer to get over things. If he doesn't respect your wishes to back off then I would let someone know that he is bothering you before he really becomes obsessive.
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