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How can things workout with my ex?
I am 18 years old almost 19(female) and my ex-boyfriend is 20. We are both at the same college. My ex-boyfriend and I were dating for six months, and he recently broke up with me because he wanted to focus more on his fraternity. I've come to the conclusion that because of his reason, he obviously does not care enough about me. I know that he definitely still has feelings for me and still loves and cares about me. My question is, what can I do on my end to try to make things work? It has been especially hard because we were extremely close and he was my best friend. Now that we have been broken up, we barely talk or see each other. At the same time, we went to the movies yesterday, but that's an exception. But I recently decided to not talk to him for a week, which has already been extremely difficult. I just want to know how I could increase the chances of us getting back together, without being pitiful. I would've let this go if there wasn't real love and connection involved.
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First, guys don't break it off with their girlfriend because of fraternity issues. What likely happened is that he either got what he perceives to be a better offer from another girl or your relationship just ran its course. At your age, you guys are still growing psychologically and so sensibilities change, too. Yes, he can still love you as a friend, but he just isn't feeling it when it comes to the intimacy issues. There is nothing you can do about this.
Keep in mind that often in loss there is opportunity. You are now free to date around and explore life unfettered by the opinion of your now ex about it. Do that exploration because if you don't you will regret it later.
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I'm sorry to hear about your break-up.
After a break-up it's really hard getting a long with an ex or even trying to talk. I haven't had the best experiences in the past. I believe in love and I believe that if you feel something for someone you need to fight for them. If you truly lvoe this guy fight for him and let him know you care. I'm not saying to come off as desperate but lay it all out on the table and tell him how you feel. The thing is, is that he broke up with you and his reason was a fraternity. If a guy likes or even loves you nothing will get in the way of the relationship. Times may get tough but you have to pull through them and that's what keeps a relationship strong.
You're in college right now and you should go out have fun and don't concentrate so much on him. There's plenty of fish in the sea and I know right now you may think he's the one but you never know what other guys are out there. Keep your head up!
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