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I need some space but I'll miss him.
My boyfriend is my best friend. We have this insane chemistry, it's like we know each other's thoughts and we tell each other everything: our secrets and our dreams and stuff we'd never tell any of our friends. Our relationship is amazing. There's a strong trust and deep respect for each other and my boyfriend treats me like gold. He told me I'm the first girl he's ever loved and he won't abandon me or hurt me. I've had some tough relationships in the past but this relationship is everything I've ever wanted.
However, there's something happening. I hate to say it, but I am growing tired of him. We go to the same school, so I see him every morning, every break in between classes, and after school. Every Friday he drives me home and we spend the weekends together as well. I used to get that butterfly feeling but now it's died down. Lately I've been pissy and annoyed with him and I feel so stupid and ungrateful because he treats me so good. I want some space but I'll miss him and I don't want to upset him!
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You don't have to be with him everyday. My boyfriend and I love each other but we have things going on in our lives so we have the weekends to spend together. That gives us time during the week for ourselves such as work, friends, and anything else that we need to do. I love my boyfriend but that doesn't mean I have to be with him all the time. In my last relationship I was with my ex constantly and he drove me nuts. Come up with a schedule where you have some time to yourself and he does too that way you get some time to actually miss each other and you're not stressed out or overwhelmed.
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Space is what keeps the fire going in a relationship, You two clearly spend way to much time together.
I would try to take a little time apart, Nothing serious but little things to balance it out. Instead of seeing him between classes try saving it from after school. Instead of spending every day with him change it too every other day etc. I know you stated you'll miss him but clinging onto someone constantly is going to make it become overwhelming. The time apart is what keeps the spark going, When you see him again you two will have something to talk about and it will be more exciting. By spending constant time together you are not allowing yourself to breathe, Try the simple things. Skip the break between classes and try to see him every other day if possible, If you two have a strong bond and trust each other as much as you say you do then you should respect each other enough on the choice to tone it down a bit.
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It's so common to have that feeling so don't think you're alone! Oftentimes when a person is around us too much, we feel suffocated and as if we need room to breathe - this is all a part of human nature!
Your best bet is to take a mental health weekend. Tell your boyfriend you have something planned with your girls or your mom, anyone really, and actually follow through. Go out with your friends to go shopping or see a movie with your dad, whatever it is for you to get out there and spend some time away from him! You're not ungrateful, you're just BORED. Maybe distancing yourself from your boyfriend isn't even needed, maybe you just gotta spice things up a little more. Go on double dates. Go rollerblading. Do something out of the norm! If all these don't end up working, just vocalize to him how you feel. Relationships are built on three things: 1. trust. 2. communication 3. honesty. You should trust that if you honestly communicate your feelings that he'll understand!
Best of luck!
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