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Hey there, my name's pronounced like chan-dah, rhyming with panda. I'm 16 and a junior in an all girls Catholic high school.
Just a wee bit of a side note: I'm not claiming I know answers, I'm saying I can give options. I'm hoping with Advicenators I can learn as well as help others because, truth be told, I like helping people with problems because it makes me forget about my own & I love discovering and educating myself on new things.
Carrying on, here's some random tidbits about yours truly!:
I'm very diverse. Not only as a means of my heritage (Cambodian, Portuguese, Chinese) but also in reference to my wide range of interests. I've been hip hop dancing my whole life, I cheer for a D1 high school football team, I'm thoroughly involved in various clubs, I've shown much interest in the performing arts, and I am also a karate and MMA feen!
I love to meet new people! Seriously, I could spend hours and hours on Skype with someone just discussing life, politics, relationships,... anything! My crudy webcam never gets in the way of that! ;)
I'm always busy. One would think because of this fact I'd actually want to distance myself away from the computer, as a means of wasting time and what not, but I find it to be a nice reward after hard work with school, AP classes, Tumblring like it's my job, sports, online learning courses, and maintaining a social life.
I'm very crude and raunchy and know lots about the baby-making field, despite my nothing less than holy status. I guess it's part of my personality that loves to make "that's what she said" jokes and perverted puns.
Feel free to ask me anything! No question will be turned away from! That's a promise, xo
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HOw do you flirt?
Flirting can be done in so many different ways! The number one trick is to keep your flirting light, natural, and fun!
Texts/IMs are a great way to casually flirt. Sending smileys, such as the infamous kiss face or winky face, work great. Compliments are another form of flirting. It shows that you're interested in the other person and are best done in person - however to avoid awkwardness, they can be done via internet/message communication! Slight touching works as well. Just laughing or giggling while grazing the arm or playfully hitting are great ways to start. Joking around and teasing each other, creating insiders, are the best! Being forward then laughing it off is also a nice technique!
Just try new things and most importantly, as stated before HAVE FUN with it. Flirting shouldn't be tedious, it should be enjoyable for both people. Good luck!
Quotes for people talking behind my back?
"The only way you can get stabbed in the back is if you turn around"
"Keep talking, you're making me famous"
"Haters are just confused admirers"
"You talking behind my back doesn't annoy me. The fact that you don't think I'll find out that you talk behind my back does."
"Talking behind my back gives you great access to kiss my ass"
How to you tell when a guy is actually into you and flirting or if it's just his personality to be nice to everyone? Examples would be awesome! Thanks!
Here's the thing... some guys have a personality of being flirty so depending on the guy, it's hard to decipher. I know some of my guy friends are just flirty in nature so you have to really get to know this boy's personality before you can judge completely.
However, signs of flirtation include:
nicknames that are more endearing than those most: such as babe, love, sexy, etc.
being incessant about hanging out in the sooner rather than later future
winky faces, smileys, hearts, kiss faces, etc, in texts
constant eye contact or slight awkwardness
being very touchy feel-y
hugs for a long period of time, rather than the standard 5-7 second hug
choosing you over his "bros"/guy friends
obviously, asking you out on dates, etc, LOL
trying to make himself look better around you (make a good impression)
constant teasing or joking around with you... kind of like he's picking on you.
giving you compliments, liking your pictures on Facebook, calling you beautiful, etc
doing things he doesn't like but you do
And so many others!
A good tip I learned is when signs of flirting are evident call him out on it, in a flirty manner. It's playful, silly, but it also puts him in his place and lets you validate his true intentions with his response. If he says something witty, he's definitely flirty. If he's offended, and NOT in a joking way, then he's definitely not flirty. But then again, that also depends on the personality!
Hey!
So ive always had a dream to become a fashion designer since i were a little girl,but ive never really had the chance to apply to fashion school yet.So now ive finally got the chance!Ive been accepted into this "design a wedding dress" competition and ive got about 200 something likes on facebook so far and its only my third day!But,i need more votes!So my question is,if you guys think my dress is pretty,would you please help me by hitting Like at the picture??Please help me fulfill my dream =(
Thanks
It's so great that you're putting yourself out there and trying to accomplish your dream! I totally love the dress, so you definitely have my 'like'!
o.k. so my boyfriend calls me hotie but i cant come up with a cute name like that for him. hes girl before me called him cutie should i use that. his name is greg but i want something that ends in "ie". we are both 13.
Okay I LOVE giving nicknames to boys!
My advice is not to use "cutie" because it might remind him of his ex which... is never a good thing, hahaha! You could always use nicknames like: greggie, gregy-bear, gregster (get it, like gangster but GREGster?! HA), mr g, etc. If you're looking for nicknames WITHOUT Greg in it, baby, honey, hun bun, sweetcheeks, silly goose, sexy (which is a wee bit too mature I think), boobear, babe, love, and lovie would work great as well!
Asking him what he wants you to call him would be cute! Next time he calls you hottie, you can joke around and say, "how come you can call me hottie but I just call you Greg. I want a nickname for you!" or something of that sorts!
Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
First and foremost, unfortunately :( there is no way to get a guy to ask you out. I wish I had that power 'cause lemme tell you, Zac Efron would be mine, but it's kind of impossible.
It seems like this guy is in a conflict. He obviously is showing interest in you but he doesn't want to let go of his single lifestyle. It's as if he's in a rush for everything... he's already saying "I love you"? It sounds a little too soon considering that there has only been three dates. Overall - with the exception of his self bestowed bad boy persona, he seems like a nice guy. Maybe he's saying he's a bad boy to attract you more? It is true that us girls do love bad boys!
My advice is that you give him an ultimatum. Tell him that you guys can't make out or kiss or go on anymore dates until he officializes it, because the way it is bluntly is that he's just playing with your heart, which is NOT good to do at all! This can lead to two things; 1. it makes you guys an official couple or 2. it pushes him away. If you're worried about number 2, another suggestion is to TAKE THINGS SLOW! Be upfront and tell him "listen buddy, we've already kissed. And you've already told me you love me. But, we've only been on three dates. Why don't we take a couple steps back and get to know each other more before we do anything else." This ensures that you find out if he's a nice/bad boy and he'll be able to discover if he truly does love you.
Take things slow. Become friends. Get to know each other better. Then process into boyfriend and girlfriend status! He obviously likes you, let's just make sure that his feelings are as sincere as they sound!
I am a simple 20 year old. I look like im in my late 20's and i have to ask, what are characteristics that women want in a man. I'm not talking about that confusing bullshit like charming, confident, gentle, strong, and all that crap. Everyone is different. I've traveled to 25 different countries and ive been alone since i was little. I've been to hell and back, and i just would like to find someone who isnt a heartless gold digger bitch, (pardon my french i mean no disrespect to anyone.) I'm culturally sound, I am wise and profound at times, I'm funny, im kind, and given we all have baggage so we all have problems no one is perfect. Why cant i find someone?
Being only 16, my answer is quite limited but just wondering... have you tried to put yourself out there? Do you go out to social events? Do you make an effort to be flirtatious and be inviting? Do you have mutual friends that you could meet a possible girlfriend from? These all play huge factors. I know sometimes it doesn't matter how much confidence, charm, or "swagger" a guy has, it's about if he has enough balls (to bluntly put it) to make a conversation with an unknown female. Being welcoming is key to finding someone.
It sounds like you're a well-rounded man. I believe with time you'll find the right woman. Don't forget to keep in mind that usually girls in their early 20s are looking for a good party versus a stable relationship. Don't take it personally at all! You WILL find someone, so be it the circumstances fit :) Have hope!
My boyfriend is my best friend. We have this insane chemistry, it's like we know each other's thoughts and we tell each other everything: our secrets and our dreams and stuff we'd never tell any of our friends. Our relationship is amazing. There's a strong trust and deep respect for each other and my boyfriend treats me like gold. He told me I'm the first girl he's ever loved and he won't abandon me or hurt me. I've had some tough relationships in the past but this relationship is everything I've ever wanted.
However, there's something happening. I hate to say it, but I am growing tired of him. We go to the same school, so I see him every morning, every break in between classes, and after school. Every Friday he drives me home and we spend the weekends together as well. I used to get that butterfly feeling but now it's died down. Lately I've been pissy and annoyed with him and I feel so stupid and ungrateful because he treats me so good. I want some space but I'll miss him and I don't want to upset him!
It's so common to have that feeling so don't think you're alone! Oftentimes when a person is around us too much, we feel suffocated and as if we need room to breathe - this is all a part of human nature!
Your best bet is to take a mental health weekend. Tell your boyfriend you have something planned with your girls or your mom, anyone really, and actually follow through. Go out with your friends to go shopping or see a movie with your dad, whatever it is for you to get out there and spend some time away from him! You're not ungrateful, you're just BORED. Maybe distancing yourself from your boyfriend isn't even needed, maybe you just gotta spice things up a little more. Go on double dates. Go rollerblading. Do something out of the norm! If all these don't end up working, just vocalize to him how you feel. Relationships are built on three things: 1. trust. 2. communication 3. honesty. You should trust that if you honestly communicate your feelings that he'll understand!
Best of luck!
i started my senior dance solo and i don't like it at all. i can't connect to the music and the dance is just weird. the song i'm dancing to is "roses" by meg and dia. i want to change my song to "it doesn't hurt" i think by katie thompson? i dont know. but the thing is i'm already a minute through the solo. i'm scared to ask my dance teacher to change the song and dance. i would pay more to change it but i'm nervous about her reaction. what should i do?
As a dancer myself, I know the importance of connecting with a song. If you're not fully into it, your facial expressions and dancing will not be to its prime. Your best bet is to tell your dance teacher and be upfront about it because in the long run, it doesn't hurt her, it's actually good for her because she can make some more money, haha! If you prolong and wait off telling her, you're gonna end up hurting yourself even more! You should tell her ASAP so that way you can start working on your new song. Who's to say she won't like your song selection even more?! You never know... :)
Just remember: dancing is an art that combines not only motions and music but also passion and without both, you're left with nothing.
Ok so I this guy he's a year older than me and I've liked him over a year. I think about like everyday but the thing is we dont talk/text he switched schools last year so I rarely see him. But we had a small history we would talk hangout and text constAntly. I miss it so much. He was different for me then he is to other girls now. But I'm scared bc we never talk and I think I need to talk to him to get over him. But it could just make it more miserable.btw our "thing" fizzled out no reason why. AnywAys I like other people it's just he's on my mind. What can I do to get over him. And should I text him? Like for closure. Ugh I wish every night that he would text me I miss him and I can't get over it.
It never hurts to send a text. Of course, be aware that you might not get a response or even worse you might get one that says "who's this?" since he doesn't remember or something of that sorts, but if you miss him, you should make an effort to reconnect. Hit him up with a text saying "hey stranger" "remember me?" "where have you been?!" "you went ghost!" something like that just to get the conversation going! It'll make him feel special that you made the first initiative! This can either 1. rekindle your friendship 2. get the closure you desire for 3. go into a status quo ante bellum, as a means where nothing changes. Hopefully it'll be number 1 and 2! (lol) The thing with us girls is we always expect boys to text us first and make the first move but in actuality, boys expect the same thing. Break the system - send the first text!
He's on your mind for a reason. Don't live life wondering "what if I contacted (whatever his name is)"... Live your life knowing the outcomes!
Hiya I'm 15f and my softball season is coming up for conditioning and I want to prepare this year so I'm not A's tired so I need like help because I'm not the fastest im actually quite close to being the slowest how far should I run to start and how can I become faster. Also it might start snowing and getting Icey so what exercises should I do when there's snow
Building upper body strength is crucial, of course, to softball. To do this, start lifting small weights, focus on push ups, and things of that sort. You also should strengthen your endurance and core by doing scoops, holding your abs in a low push up position, and doing reps of various ab work outs.
Since winter is approaching, finding other ways to do Cardio will become a necessity. You could always run up and down staircases around the house or at a public location (in between bleachers also work great!). Getting a gym membership or having access to elliptical machines could also be very useful! I'd recommend running for twenty minutes then working your way up to an hour. If you want to become a faster sprinter, start by using an elliptical and sprinting for five minutes. Work at that goal until you can achieve it without feeling excessively tired and begin upping it by two minutes. Once again, building endurance is crucial!!
Good luck and hope you have a good upcoming season, :)
do i need braces
If your teeth are crooked or if you have an overbite or under-bite, braces could be very useful. I'd only recommend braces if you have an over/under-bite or if your teeth are very much not straight. Other alternatives could consist of just getting a retainer or Invisalign.
Your best bet is to talk to your dentist to come up with a solution. He or she will most likely set you up with a consultation with an orthodontist and you can discuss things furthermore!
Okay, so i want to lose a bit of flabber on my stomach what's the best way to get rid of it?
To break it down into five tips...
1. The best thing you can do to target a wee bit of stomach fat is to burn it off with Cardio workouts. Running, swimming, kick boxing, will not only slim down the tummy but also tone up your whole body!
2. Drinking lots of water will also help to detoxify your body of excess fat.
3. A trick that can work wonders is just to tightly hold your stomach, just enough for it to suck in a wee bit, not to the point where you can't breathe! This can help pull in the pudge.
4. Strength exercises resembling Pilates will do amazing things to not only your stomach but overall, everywhere! :)
5. Check out this video for more information:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-R14Gvj1VWc&feature=channel_video_title
i need a nickname for my guy friend
I always reference my guy friends as "bro" or anything that can emphasis bro like brah, brotato, brock brobama, anything like that! Also adding -bear to a name workd great, i.e. Joe-bear, or something of that sorts.
Also, I'll ask them to give me a nickname and in return I'll give them one. It sets the tone as to what kind of nick name they'd like. My friend gave me the nickname "sweet cheeks" so I now call him "teddy bear". Nicknames can also stem from inside jokes as well. For instance, say your guy friend likes Pokemon (lol), give him a Pokemon nickname, like Charmander! Haha, the possibilities are endless!
Is 5'7 tall for a girl?
Not at all. I'm 5'7" and although when I take pictures, I tend to tower over everyone, in actuality, I'm not that tall.
I'd say 5'9" and above is tall for a girl, considering that's the minimum average height for a model.
14/f
Right now, I feel like I am in some sort of down-spell and am feeling unwanted and excluded. I feel like I have friends at school, and my friends always talk to me and laugh at what I say. But recently, I realized (via facebook) that I haven't been included in their plans and that makes me feel really crappy. I was in this group of friends with guys and girls, but then two of them started going out and being really exclusive. Like for Halloween, they invited everyone (including me this time) to go trick or treating with them except for my ex-boyfriend (who we're all still friends with) and my friend. Apparenty, my friend's boyfriend doesn't like my ex. But I think it's mean to exclude him from a large group, and I told them that. And now I feel like crap because on my facebook news feed they all tagged each other in an inside joke from something tonight that I wasn't invited too... I don't know what I did wrong. I'm a nice person. I'm kinda mad at my friend and her boyfriend because they seem to be calling all the shots, and it doesn't seem fair. And it doesn't help that my mom keeps asking me why I'm not hanging out with them much. What can I do about this situation? I feel like everyone has more friends than me and I'm not wanted. And by the way I think facebook is a giant waste of time; the only reason I use it is because I feel like I will be left out or behind if I don't. Thank you for reading this, please give me any comments or advice you have. Adolescence sucks.
I've been there. And it does indeed suck.
Truth be told, it probably has nothing to do with you personally. Your friends probably have just unintentionally left you out. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. They'll never know how much this feeling of exclusion feels if you don't vocalize it. Of course, try your best to discuss this calmly and nicely. Also, maybe you should try calling the shots. Invite a huge group to hang out at your house or at the mall, wherever. If you become the event coordinator, there's no way you'll be excluded!
And so be it that they are leaving you out on purpose, there's never a better time to start meeting new people and making new friends! Social networks, especially Facebook, can be pointless so don't get too upset over it. Your best bet is to talk it out with your friends.
I love singing but I don't think that I'm that good. My friends say that I should post a video on Youtube but I don't know. Should I?
If you like to sing then SING! Make a fun video and showcase the talent that you've been blessed with. Even if you aren't that great, at least you'll be doing something that you love.
Be aware that even the best singers in the world receive hate on YouTube (or any form of media) so if that's not something you can handle, maybe you should hold off on the whole YouTube thing until you feel you can be ready for that. Other than that, I think posting a video on YouTube is an amazing idea!
Be honest. But just don't yell at me or lecture me. How bad is it that I like my teacher? He's pretty young.. like 24. I know it's not good. I honestly just want to know if there's anyone out there who's having a dilemma like this like me. or really anything anyone thinks about it. more importantly, how do i get over it? He's literally everything I've ever liked in a guy.. even guys my age. I need to SHUT UP about him. Jeez. Thoughts?
I totally understand where you're coming from. We've all had crushes on people we know we can't date. Maybe that's something that wants us want them even more... we all want what we can't have, am I right?
The fact of the matter is, you have to find a way to get over him. It's 100% illegal to pursue any physical interest in him. Yes, having a little bit of a school-girl crush is okay, but you need to realize that there is NO way that there can be a relationship when you're still a minor and he's still your teacher. Infatuation is normal, just control your impulses and desires! It'll take time but eventually you WILL get over him, or who knows, find someone better!
'Cause let's face it, we all can't have a relationship like Aria and Ezra from Pretty Little Liars! ;)