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Facebook and social life
14/f
Right now, I feel like I am in some sort of down-spell and am feeling unwanted and excluded. I feel like I have friends at school, and my friends always talk to me and laugh at what I say. But recently, I realized (via facebook) that I haven't been included in their plans and that makes me feel really crappy. I was in this group of friends with guys and girls, but then two of them started going out and being really exclusive. Like for Halloween, they invited everyone (including me this time) to go trick or treating with them except for my ex-boyfriend (who we're all still friends with) and my friend. Apparenty, my friend's boyfriend doesn't like my ex. But I think it's mean to exclude him from a large group, and I told them that. And now I feel like crap because on my facebook news feed they all tagged each other in an inside joke from something tonight that I wasn't invited too... I don't know what I did wrong. I'm a nice person. I'm kinda mad at my friend and her boyfriend because they seem to be calling all the shots, and it doesn't seem fair. And it doesn't help that my mom keeps asking me why I'm not hanging out with them much. What can I do about this situation? I feel like everyone has more friends than me and I'm not wanted. And by the way I think facebook is a giant waste of time; the only reason I use it is because I feel like I will be left out or behind if I don't. Thank you for reading this, please give me any comments or advice you have. Adolescence sucks.
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I've been there. And it does indeed suck.
Truth be told, it probably has nothing to do with you personally. Your friends probably have just unintentionally left you out. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. They'll never know how much this feeling of exclusion feels if you don't vocalize it. Of course, try your best to discuss this calmly and nicely. Also, maybe you should try calling the shots. Invite a huge group to hang out at your house or at the mall, wherever. If you become the event coordinator, there's no way you'll be excluded!
And so be it that they are leaving you out on purpose, there's never a better time to start meeting new people and making new friends! Social networks, especially Facebook, can be pointless so don't get too upset over it. Your best bet is to talk it out with your friends.
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SO WHAT! You have to take that type of attitude when you deal with people that behave like they could care less. Are they your friends? Not really! The reason why young people tend to exclude people from different things is because they are not STRONG enough to be leaders. A LEADER doesn't follow behind everyone. A LEADER does just that LEAD. If someone is truly your friend you never have to get any validation. They make it known because they behave like they care. Don't change that about you because I can see that you are a LEADER! So LEAD! Ignore the stupid little jokes and fake plans they make on FACEBOOK! Do your own thing and stop making yourself upset over what THEY - the followers are doing. Walk to your own song and see who starts to follow who!
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