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We broke up because he didn't give me the attention I deserve
Im 20 years old and dated this guy for 2 years. We broke up about 3 months ago and all though I finally ended it..it was pretty mutual cause he couldnt give me the attention I deserved. Well this has been sucha hard time for me and my friends and family have made it so much easier but I still feel like I dont have that best friend who I could tell anything to and not be embarrassed. Ive been out and tried to get over things and sometimes I really feel like its working but I just dont know if ill ever be the same.
Well about 2 weeks ago he messaged me on fb and we had a casual conversation and caught up with one another. And I totally got my hopes up thinking we would maybe think about getting back but im very stubborn so I didnt let him see that. Then I cried for 2 days and picked myself back up. Then this morning he messaged me again. He keeps it very casual but I just dont understand whats going on? I dont want to put myself out there if hes just checking in. he just never seemed like the kinda guy that checks in. we broke up cause he needed to focus on school, he has a new hobby, and we live pretty far apart. But we broke up so weird..we talked about dating again in like a year and I thought he was just saying it out of pity or something but he seemed to sincerely mean it. I guess its just a time thing and if we werent meant to be, our feelings would fade. I just need some guidance and hoping maybe someone cab offer some words of wisdom. Do you think he wants to get back or stay in my head or something?
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Now I have definitely been through this and it's been a crazy roller-coaster let me tell you.
I have known my boyfriend for four years and he's been great. We have been on and off. The first time we dated we went out for a month and we than mutually decided that it was best to break up. I felt at that time that we weren't meant to be. He contacted me a lot after the break up and I wasn't sure as to why back than but I realized now it was because that wasn't what he really wanted. I felt like I was always playing this cat and mouse game with him. We are now together for 2 years and I couldn't be happier.
For some couples it works for others it doesn't. What my boyfriend and I did was we worked on our communication and we just said what we wanted/needed from the relationship. Maybe have a dialogue with your ex if you feel comfortable and tell him what you want. Or maybe wait for him to say something. For right now watch what happens and figure out what you want. Don't depend on him coming back and keep an open mind to what else is out there. Keep your head up!
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I think you have to ask him.
You are both game playing right now. All this talk of 'maybe... in the distance future...' is a way of avoiding talking about what you are thinking and feeling now. It's understandable - cause you are scarred and confused, and he probably is too - but one of you is going to need to 'put yourself out there' or continue to suffer in confusion and fear, and if you wait for him to do it, you might wait forever.
Be brave. If you'd like to talk about getting back together, admit it. The worse he can say is that he doesn't - and then, you never need to speak to him again if you don't want too.
Does it he want to stay in your head? Does he just want to catch up? Does he want to get back together? You'll never have an idea unless you start to ask.
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