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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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society tells us that having premarital sex is wrong, (risk of pregnancy, stds...) but also emotionally, that you cant handle a breakup after you lose your virginity to someone, it changes your life forever, etc. I know all of that, but is it true with EVERY SINGLE relationship that if you have premarital sex, it'll drive you two apart and you'll eventually break up. How wrong is it to have sex in highschool (only with 1 person of course and you keep it between yourself.) my boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and I want to have sex with him eventually but I'm afraid it'll make us break up... why does that happen? like think back in the 1940's, if you got pregnant both of you would drop out of highschool and GET MARRIED...why cant it be like that these days?

Pregnancy is serious. You may not think so right now but if it ends up happening to you then you would understand. Research about it. Sex has nothing to do with breakups. With or without sex people will break up. Some may not if truely in love. So no its not true that EVERY SINGLE relationship will end up apart. Some acually might. Because soem guys && girls are jerks. If you and your boyfriend want to have sex then go for it but I dont think it will cause you to break up after. Im glad its not the same as back ib 1940's. Back then that was normal but now its not. We know better then that and most of those marriges didnt work out. They ended up short some with abuse. ♥ xO`

Ok,i really want my eye makeup to look shimmery,and notacebal but not to over the top. You know,i nice pretty shimmery look. I mean i dont want over dramatic but i do want nice shimmery colors.I dont know what kind of eyeliner or lip gloss,or even eye make-up and blush to use for me. I have big brown eyes,long eyelashes [[i want to add volume to my eye lashed though to make them look darker but not longer]] and oval/round face,olive skin,and short layers with my hair cut to a little lower than shoulder length [[i also have natral caramal highlights]] I dont no if my hair has anything to do with it but i just would really like to know how to style my hair also. Thanks in advance!!!

ps--im sorry this is so long

I watched on style that if you have brown eyes use plums, purples, and greens. Golds , browns and silver look cute too. The best eye shadow to get is Mac! It gives you that shimmery look and it stays on and its just awesome. Get Mayboline mascara or even Revlon. I use Lancome and its the best! Eyeliner get Revlon. Covergirl makeup isnt that good unless its powder. You can get any lipgloss you want and like that doesnt matter. If you want to wear foundation then get whatever brand you like and something a bit darker then your natrual skin color && then get powder and put it over. For eyeliner.. dont get N.Y.C seriously it is not a good eyeliner && it gets off fast. Again Mayboline or Revlon. Blush.. it doesnt really matter what brand just get a good color that doesnt make your face look like you have soo much makeup! I think your hair seems cute already so if I were you I wouldnt cut it. But since you do want a new way to style is you could straighten it if you dont already. I mean who doesnt these days lol. Scrunch it && that always looks cute on any type of hair. Put it half way up or in a messy bow and tie a ribbon in your hair. < Lol thats what I do && it looks cute! Hope I helped! ♥ xO`

ok my friend and her friend always gang up on me and are like michelle quit and i ahve another friend but she hates when i hang out with these two girls and i cant stop and i am egtting snottyier by the minute i dont know wat i can do casue these are my bffeaeaeaeaeaeaea

No best friend would gang up on you && they are not your best friends. Thats just what you think. Seriously when you start loosing your friends because of them && your attitude then it will be too late. Stop hanging out with them and go out with your other good friends. You can stop cuz they're not an addiction. They deserve a good kick in the ass! Some friends they are..you dont want to be snotty.. so start getting your act together. They are being bad people so just tell them to stop ganging up on you && whatever else you want to say. ♥ x0`

what does it mean to "sweat" something? like ex- "i sweat this song" what does that mean?

You like it a lot! ♥ x0`

what are some fun, spunky, and different ways to dress?

I dont really know what you mean. But you can dress preppy, sporty, gothic, punk, glam, things like that. If you are preppy just add a lot of jewerly && dont always match your clothes because then it wont be fun. Sometimes try making something of your own and wear it. ♥ x0`

what is (sp?) ppl always write that what is it?

Its when you are'nt sure if you spelled something correct so we just write (sp) ♥ x0`

Ok well I'm 13 and I'm very intrested in umm..playing wiht myself...I cant buy anything...and what i'm really intrested in is vibrators.I rate real high!

You could just finger yourself or use things you think might get you pleasured. ♥ x0`

ok, well i am 13, 5'4" and i weigh 123lbs.Is that ok, cause my sister is 16, the same height, and 110 lbs. am i over weight???

Not at all. If you go to www.am-i-fat.com it will tell you. I did it for you and it said perfect! Stay the way you are! .. Your weight is healthy. ♥ x0`

im fat and its hard to lose wieght and i want to be poul,ar how can i be?

Being skinny doesnt mean you can be popular. Go to this webbie. http://www.toneteen.com! Were you thinking about going on a diet? I know you dont want to hear eat healthy && exersise but thats the way. Its hard but in the end you will love the results and feel better about yourself! ♥ x0`

what does this mean "to all you virgins thanks for nothing" i have no clue what that means

Do you know what a virgin is? A person who hasnt had sex. Was the question about sex or something? If it was it means thanks for nothing obviously they didnt know anything about sex or things like that. ♥ ex_oh

What are the physical advantages of having medium/dark brown? Do you think that it brings out features such as your eyes, skin, etc?

It does bring out your features. I used to have dark brown hair and it made my eyes seem darker and bigger. But now I have light brown so it doesnt as much. If you wear a lot of bold accesories it will look fabolous. `` ♥ ``

this girl we can call her danny and i used to be good friends but then we got in a fight and our group that used to be really close split up and she and this one girl became super good friends and i was friends with that girl and i knew something that danny and her boyfriend did and i thought that her good friend knew but she didnt and i was talking to her about it and she just went along with it like she knew exactly what i was talking about. So then she goes to danny and is all like oh this girl(me) told me all about what you and your boyfriend did so she got super pissed at me and we dont even talk anymore and she puts all these stupid quotes on her away message and profile like to put it nicely i hope you choke and its obvious its about me and im so tired of it and i dont know what to say to her

Thats pretty harsh of her! You need to try && fix things with her. Since you guys were close friends you have to talk to her. Just tell her its ridicoulus (sp) that you guys are fighting and that you are really sorry about what you told that other girl! Just say you thought she knew since they were such good friends. So be nice to her && talk to her. Try to ignore the away messages. I dont think she means them she is just really upset. Try to work things out with her. `` ♥ ``

hey im not comfortable(sp?) writting this but i have to know....am i a les or a BI because i mean les sex turns me on and my friends are lesbian so when they kiss i get so turned on but no i dont looke at a girl and think i like her or something......and i son know if i am a les or a BI.. help!!!!

Well if you like both girls and guys and if they both turn you on then you are bi. ♥//

how do you finger yourself like wat do you do? please help

Wow.. lol well you put your finger up your vagina. ♥

ok so me n my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 or 9 months and we both love each other very much! today he told me that he thinks we should move on with our lives and go out with other people. i was devastated! he kept telling me that he still liked me n everything but then i dont understand why he broke up with me! i mean it doesnt make any sense! why did he break up with me if he still likes me??

I dont want to be rude but I think that was just his way of breaking up in a nice way. If he still liked you he wouldnt of broke up with you. He was just trying to be nice but dont take it the wrong way. He was being a jerk in a way. He should of told you the truth. Im sorry tho! ♥//

Ok so im 13/F and ive had one kiss and ive never made out....i feel like a loser b.c basically everyone else in my grade has...i really want to too! What do i do?

A lot of people even older then you havent made out. When you get a boyfriend then you will probablly make out. Until then you have to be patient. But nothing is wrong with you and dont feel like a loser! ♥//

(16/f)Does anyone know a work-out I can do to work my lower abs? I've been doing crunches/sit ups and all i've gotten is a 2-pack. Would leg lifts help? I don't want a work-out video-and i belong to a gym so i have access to medicine balls and what not, but i'd prefer just a movement i could do at home! thanks!

http://www.toneteen.com/exercises/stomach.htm
I think leg lifts would help a little. Just continute doing crunches. A reverse crunch works the lower abs.♥//

level 1 mods., wut do the smileys represent? like wuts the rubric? i kno :( is 1 nd so on, but wut IS a 1, 2 or 3??

Go here babe! Too much to type and this will explain it. http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=11

If i walk 1 mile a day and do about 100 crunches a day, how long till i see or feel a difference?

Depends. Walking and doing crunches wont do it for you. I mean you have to eat healthy && have a good diet and crunches and walking will help out. Like I said it depends on your body. You have to stick to it and if you do you should see results in a couple of weeks. ♥//

I am 14/f and i am 5'6'' and i weigh around 160 lb
(my scale isnt accurate...)
but people ALWAYS mistake me for around 140 pound
and i know i am fat...ohh harsh me.. i mea overweight. but i do try to lose weight.
i exercise regularly. every monday wednesday and friday (it was on health magz that its not good for you if you exercise everyday when you get older) anyways so i lost 10 pounds around already yes i know i was even fat loser then.

and i dont eat alot, although i snack sometime like eating desert like little bit of ice cream but not a lot.

so what is normal for my height and weight and my age? and how can i get my self to stay exercising?
because during those times i been quiting in and out and technically i only exercised for a month
or 2. so its pretty good losing 10 lb in those month because i dont want saggy skin...talk about ew. no offense... to people who do have those ...

anyways and i am thick in the leg. and arm... and i cant do lifting dumbels anymore because i kinda got hurt from that...

so how do i get my legs to be slender?

and keep on track and any tips on losing weight faster?

please i need help ! i havent had a boyfriend ever! i know people say its not about what's on the outside becaue then its not true love or stuff but i really want a boyfriend and i WANT to look good for him (well future bf ) and i want to feel better about my self...

so please help me

Okay well.. go to this website. http://www.am-i-fat.com I did it for you and you need to loose 26 pounds. Im not trying to be rude trust me but thats what it said. It said you are overweight. Diet and exercise required! Its good that you are doing all that && you just need to try to stick to it! Just keep telling your self you can do this! And you will feel so much better when you loose more weight! Honestlly if you stick to it you will be so proud!! Drink tons of water! Even tho you will pee a lot its really healthy for you and you will burn calories and fat faster. When you have a craving for sweets eat like a bananna or a fruit salad or even a healthy smoothie. If you didnt have a boyfriend its not because of your weight. That what you may think but these days guys are just so.. I dont know they dont really try to get to know you if you dont look the way they like girls to look like. Its such BS! But hun, honestly if you keep telling yourself you can do this all the guys will be after you! I mean so far you got the personality and Im sure you look beautiful already. But .. remember you are doing this for YOU not anyone else! Good luck with everything! ♥//

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