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ok my friend jessica has a HORRIBLE problem! she never stops sweating. even shes sitting down shes sweating. People usually sweat when there hot or doing physical activity but she sweats when shes sitting on the couch and watching tv. she was too embarased to ask this question online so i told her that i would do it for her (ima good friend lol) shes tried ALL diff deoderants and NOTHING can stop it. its only under arm sweating and its gotten so bad. please help her! thanks!

signed..
trying to help a friend!

HeY hUn! u DefInaTeLy r a good friend! LoL! sweating problems can be sOoO embaressing... but are easliy treatable... have jessica try certain-dry u can get it at walgreens! its a good sweat beater!! its super cheap and when i use it.... i dont sweat a bit! if that dosent work...she should talk 2 her dermotolgist 4 other options! (i've heard u can get sweat glands removed!) HoPe i HelpeD! xOxO, aLeX

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Well i am 14 years old and I am a female !! Ok me and my friend always get in big fights and she is always tellikg me on how i am such a baby for liking some of male stars like aaron carter and Dream street ! And I don't know if she is a good friend or not !! I feel like she doesn't like me for who i am !! And she always wants to get together with me but she is always busy when I am and I am always busy when she is !! Well i hope u can give me some advice if ahe is a good friend or not !! thanxs !!


Needing advice !!!

whats up sweetie? well this friend of yours might not be such a great friend.... let me just say that i am 16 and i would DIE to have aaron carter. if ur freind is going 2 judge u on ur musical tastes.... and call u a baby 4 likin some hot guys.... then she isnt the best friend ever. if u 2 r always busy at different times... u should try and plan somethin way ahead of time 2 get together..... go shoppin or 2 the movies but 1st confront her on why she treats u like this... if shes ur friend she shouldnt judge u like that! gIrLs CaN bE sOOoO bItcHy! LoL hope i helped! xoxo, aLeX

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Hey, My name is Megan, and i'm 15. I've always been treated pretty bad in school. I don't think i'm fat or ugly, but everyone calls me ugly. I don't know why they would say things to hurt me, and it makes me feel bad all the time, though I try to hide it. Today at lunch, someone gave me a joke love letter of someone I know asking me to homecomming. (The one who gave me the note hates me) When I opened it, a fry with ketchup on it fell on my white skirt, and ruined it. They all laughed it up, while a friend of mine yelled at them. I don't understand why people do the things they do to me, I try to ignore them, but you know, it hurts. I just wish people at my school would treat me like a human. I'm not mean to people, i'm nice. I don't talk about people I keep to myself...what is wrong with me?

Hey hun! well sweetie...nothin is wrong with u! its those freak-a-leak people that have a problem! i'm really sorry that they treat u like that! Bullys r soooo annoying! ur right....it is hard 2 ignore somethin like that because it really does hurt! a possibility is that they could be jealous of u... the most popular girl is jealous of ur clothes, body, grades.... and she could have gotten every1 2 gang up on u.... in my faMily... my siblings tease me all the time and my sister told me its becasue i'm an easy target. bullies enjoy wathcing u suffer, cry and mope around... so next time they attempt to tease u... dont let it get 2 u (or dont let them know that it gets 2 u) stand up 4 urself 2! dont be afraid of them. trying acting really confident and telling them 2 leave u alone. they are just doin this 2 try 2 look cool and they r probably insecure with themselves! in middle/high school girls are bitchy!!! I hope I helped ya! Good luck with this and ask me ne thin ne time! xOxO, aLeX

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I have thick hair and a lot of it....and its layered. School starts next thursday and i want a new style. Ive been tryin to get my hair to flip up on the ends but no matter what i try (curling irons, gel, blow drying with a rounded brush,) i cant make it work. My hair is also really wavy in the back and i want to know what works good to make the front look like the back. (tryed scrunching) If you have any style ideas plz let me know!

hey babe! well the only thing i can suggest is 2 straighten ur hair... they are a miracle worker on my hair (i use 1 everyday!) maybe get ur hair thinned out then after u straighten it...then flip it out... its super easy and you'll get the hang of it! GoOd LuCk hUn! ask me ne thing ne time! hope i helped! xOxO, aLeX

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so...i was giving this 1 guy head...and when i was he started pushing down on my head...why did he do that and what does it mean?! Thanx so much!

hey hun! well... the guy just wants u 2 go deeper... thats pretty much all! haha hope i helped ya! xOxO, aLeX

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im supposed to be in a band with my best friend and were all like ready and everything but the thing is i dont have a drumset!!! im supposed to be the drummer but i dont have the money to get it!! i mean my family has money but my mom wont give me any!! its so annoying so i was wondering if sumone can give me m$$lah making tips please?!?!? its needed VERY much!! A.S.A.P!!!
(14/f btw) p.s i rate very HiGh.......

- San diego rocker

p.s does anyone know a store or a place online that sells cheap drumsets?!?

hey hun! well being 14 sux....cuz theres not alot of work options.... try babysitting...i put out a flier and made over $2000 this summer. or u could do yard work/mow lawns.... my cousin did that and made sooo much money. or just ask neighbors 4 random chores they need done.... i am definately not a drummer (i wish) so i cant exactly help ya out on the drum thing... but look online i would suggest! and good LuCk with ur band! xOxO, aLeX

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Hey..
I already have my ears pierced but I would like to either get my cartilage pierced or my ears double-pierced..what do you prefer? Which looks better? Hurts more/less? THANKS*PAST EXPERIENCE IS GOOD TO STATE TOO*

i would say BoTh! alot of people i kno (including myself) have both and it looks great! neither hurts....so i would definately suggest it!

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im only 14 and about 3 days ago i got hit in the side of the face with a softball during warm up to a game... my mom took me to the doctor yesterday and he said that i had a concussion and to watch it closly because i might have a slow internal bleeding in my head... he said that if i started to act funny and get slurred speech and can barly walk that i probably need a cat scan to see what all happened for shure.. in the short time that ive have this the back of my head behind my ear has swelled up (i was hit in the front of the head) and i have really bad headaches... im getting to the point where i walk really slow and i almost fall over.. i scared of what will happen and when my friends found out they all started crying... the person who threw the ball that hit me in the head cant forgive herself and i dont know what to do.. i dont know whats gunna happen and i just need some help

HeY sWeetie! well i jsut wanted 2 say that i hope ur alright! that sounds super scary!!! i dont know much about medical stuff.. but i know that this can be serious! if the chick wont forgive herself... sit her down and let her know that ur not mad... in person is the best way 2 talk 2 some1... tell her that u know she didnt try and give her medical updates on how u are. as for ur friends. this can be sO freaky! when i found out that my friend got in a car accident i was freakin out! because ur friends r gonna be super concerned! as 4 u.... until the cat scan comes... u wont kno exactly whats wrong... but it sounds serious. ask ur doc if these are long term effects and make sure 2 get plenty of details. I hope ur gonna be alright and i'll pray 4 u hun! Good luck and let me know how u r doin! xOxO, aLeX :)

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okay i am on my sis computer again- > i go bac to school thusday and i really need help. I am about 5'4. I already know what i am going to wear. I am wearin dark blue jeans with no pockets in the back and a green shrirt that i got from WeT SeaL . I am getting my hair done tomoorw and i am getting it conrolled half of my head. My hair is madd curly. Ont eh frsit day of school should i wear my hair in a messy bun my hair down the curls or strightin my hair ..
please dont selate this i really need help

*I rate*
Nicky

HeY hUn! well back 2 school looks can be super over whelming... cuz u want 2 remind the people that u havent seen the whole summer how hot u r! ur outfit sounds super cute! (wet seal has the cutest clothes!) if ur getting ur hair cornrolled on half ur head...then 4 school i would suggest that u straighten it at least on the 1st day just because it looks neater and hotter. and by lunch time...ur hair might be curly again... so bring a hair binder and go 2 the ladies room and put it in a messy bun. sccchhoool suckks and there are so many days of it....so you'll have plenty of days 2 wear it curly, messy bun or straighten ur hair! Hope i helped! drop me 1 ne time! Good luck in school! xOxO, aLeX :)

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k, im the girl who asked the ? about askin my mom to wear thongs. Do ne of u no where the sell cute ones. I jus like to be accesorized. I WONT SHOW IT!! lol. I jus would like to know where they sell some cute ones so when I go to the store, I can look and pick??? THANXS!!!!

hey! UmM they have cute thongs at victorias secret (and the "pink" line is sooo cute there) also charolette russe, forever 21, wet seal, any department stores even target has super cute ones! Hope i helped ya! xOxO, aLeX!

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well through out my life i have always been pretty sad and thinking how ugly i am when people all the time say im so pretty and everything i just dont belive it well anyways i never seem to be happy about anything and i dont know what to be happy about i guess im sorta depressing but love being happy and smileing but i never seem to feel that why ever can you tell me some things i should be happy about cause i dont know anything and i dont wanna turn gothic?

hey gorgeous! well i know totally how ya feel! most teenage girls are like this though! totally insecure and think... if i could just have her eyes... lips... or butt... u kno what i mean. if people constantly tell u ur pretty...then chances are u are pretty. ur friends arent going 2 lie 2 u and tell u ur pretty just because. concentrate on ur good features... like thank god i have high cheekbones... and try 2 enjoy what u see in the mirror. i know its hard and can be depressing.. but even the most gorgeous girls go through this stage. spice up ur look a bit.. get some hot new highlights or sexy new pants. chances r ur not gonna turn gothic from being sad about what u look like. gothics are people who choose 2 be gothic and if u dont wanna be gothic.... u dont have 2 be! ask me ne thing ne time! hope i helped ya hun! good luck! xOxO, aLeX!

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Okay, please Mods PLEASE do not delete this as I'm REALLY concerned!

Well, this girl at my school, she's not my friend or anything I don't know her that good, but she's pregnant. And, she's only 12. We're in 7th grade and all that, and she's expecting TWINS, she should get an abortion and all that but she wants to go through with it. At least that's what I heard, (I hear a lot of gossip. -__-;) Well, anyway, she also smokes and drinks, and she has purple hair and a ton of piercings, and I'm afraid if she goes through with it, her body won't be ready with all those drugs, and she's so young, and she might die...

She's got a pretty bad life, and nobody really likes her, but I still worry about these kind of things...and well, I'm not quite sure what to say to her to try to convince her not to do it. Can anyone give me ideas?

Sorry this was so long. =\

HeY hUn! well i just wanted 2 say that u r so sweet 4 being so concerned with this poor girl who u dont really know and nobody really likes. i'm sure most people dont really like her cuz they judge her and dont get a chance to know her but it sounds like she dosent have 2 many friends...and thats probably exactly what she needs. when i have a problem i turn 2 my friends and thats what most teenage girls do. her parents could be really pissed off at her for being pregnent and possibly could have shunned her so she might have no one. if u feel comfortable.. u should maybe try talking 2 her she needs some1 young and mature and willing to help her and not judge her or refer her 2 a counsler or trust-worthy adult. i am totally against abortion... i mean why should she kill the twins when she was the one who messed up... so i wouldnt suggest that. maybe if she isnt ready 2 be a mom (which at age 12 she really isnt) then she should consider adoption or a realitive. and the worst thing that she can do when shes pregnent is drink and smoke. the baby could have fas (fetal alcohol syndrome) which is a totally messed up brain disease and occurs when the mother drinks with pregnent. so sounds like this poor girl is in need of a lot of help right now and i'm sure she would love it if u helped her! good luck! hope i helped! ask me ne thing ne time! xOxO, aLeX!

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A boy deep kissed(first kiss) me and i am very paranoid about catch HIV through kissing, but should i be worried?

HeY hUn! u probably shouldt be worried about it at all! most people catch std's from oral or intercourse and not 2 commonly from kissing. u can get herpes (cold soreish thing) but i wouldnt be 2 worried...u can usually tell if he would have it. HoPe I hElPeD yA! Ask Me Ne tHinG nE tIme! xOxO, aLeX

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ok well i cut and stuff but i really want to tell my mom about it because i meen i want to get help but i just was wondering like how could i like talk to her about it? me and my mom are like really close and stuff but i think it would like kill her! should i tell her or no?

Hey sweetie! I just wanted 2 say that I am so sorry that u are going through this. I've heard that it can be a scary and addicting thing and you may feel scared to tell people too. But before anything drastic happens. you should definately tell your mom. if u say ur close with her... then that should make it easier 4 u. first...u should ask 2 talk 2 her in private so a snotty sibling dosent get the 411. and sit her down and tell her the truth. ask her not 2 judge u, but tell her that u want 2 stop and get help. ur mom is most likely going 2 be proud of you for coming 2 her and telling her that u need help. i know u said that it would kill ur mom... but what would devestate her the most, would be looing a child. u need 2 get help be4 ne thing serious happens and ur mom with help u do that. Good luck and i hope i helped u! ask me ne thing ne time! xOxO, aLeX!

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me and a friend well we just found from both of each other (were both females) that we might have this connection between us.. or something. I try not to make it uncomftable and i know we have actually talk about it and stuff. But im kinda scaried shy to bring the subject up. I dont know how to bring up and how to make it less uncomfertable for the both of us??
any ideas??

hey sweetie! well i'm guesing ur talking about having a romanic connection... but i'm not exatly sure... u should definately bring it up though, and it can be uncomfortable.... but if u guys are friends and say u have a connetion with eachother... that should make it easier. i suggest u 2 go somewhere private and a relaxed setting, so it will make it easier on the 2 of u! like a bedroom or something. if u dont bring it up she may never and she'll be way glad u did! HoPe I helped! good luck babe! xOxO, aLeX

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i need a new bra..where would you suggest i get one? what kidn should i get?

hey hun! well i personally love bra shopping! so your really lucky! since i'm not big on droppin big bucks on the bra.... i usually just go 2 target. they have a wide variety of bras in all sizes that are cute/cheap and comfortable. i also have a couple bras from victorias secret, but they are quite spendy! anywhere from $30-$80! but they are the best bras ever! when u go 2 vicki's they also give u a free bra fitting because 85% of women wear a bra that is not their right size! it all depends o n the style u should get. most girls like bras with a little bit of padding in them/push up. cuz there sexier. other things 2 keep in mind: lace always shows through and also i have this really cool bra that is a 4 way bra! it can be strapless, regular, halter and cris cross back! so it all depends on what ur lookin 4! Good luck sweetie and hope i helped! xOxO, aLeX!

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i just want to know if i am normal

do you masterbate?
if not answer these questions to how you think most people who do would please =)
How often?
Since when?
Where?
How?

Thank you this will help so much.

masturbation is completely normal! its just a way for people to be sexual by themsleves. (and is quite pleasurable) HaHa! Most people masturbate a couple times a week. if your doing it 2 much like skipping things 2 masturbate then you are addicted to it. most people masturbate when their in the mood. make sure you have privacy though cuz that would be one of the most humuliating things in the world for some1 to walk in on u! haha like in ur bedroom or somethin! i'm guessing ur a girl... so heres some ways girls masturabte: dildos, vibrators and most commonly with their hands! GooD luCk and explore ur sexuality! ask me ne thing...ne time! xOxO, aLeX

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Hey guys! My first day of skool is Thursday (9/02) and I go to a trade skool( I just transfered into it for soph year). Im taking auto repair and I'm not really sure wat I'm supposed to wear. I know I'm wearing jeans. And im goin to wear a T-shirt. But should it be a cute one or just a normal one? I mean it is the first day of skool but its still goin to be messy shop. And wat should I do for make up and my hair? Up or down? K.. thanks guys!

You should definately waer jeans and a t-shirt. you dont want 2 dress up 2 much on the first day of school... but jeans and t-shirt still say: "i'm hot" without going 2 overboard! I would try hollister (or hollister.com) for some cute t shirts because they are cheap, cute, fashionable and perfect for any occasion! i'm guessing the first day of school, that your not going to get 2 down and dirty in auto repair so i wouldnt worry about keepin clean 2 much! the buckle www.buckle.com also has really cute jeans that fit sOoO perfectly and last u 4ever so i would try that! BuT good luck! hOpe I helped! xOxO, aLeX

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I have a wedding to go to in about..a month in a half and I need a skirt like knee lenthy kinda wavy and layered kind of skirt solid color i prefer maybe with a little design i dont care but anyways do you guys know any sites online to order cute skirts and shirts to go with it and a cute shoe site with high heels or sandals too. thanks so much!

HeY! well lucky for you get a reason to get a new skirt! I love dressing up! I would suggest going to the store and buying the outfit (always works better) but if u dont have ne good stores by you, or at your local mall, then u cant help it! (forever 21) www.forever21.com ww.abercrombie.com, www.wetseal.com, www.hollister.com, Marschall fields also has cute/cheap skirts especially now cuz there all on sale now that summer is almost over now! HoPe I hElpEd ya! xOxO aLEX!

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does anyone know of any good websites with aim icons that are cute...not the dolls or original gay ones but cute ones??

badassbuddy.com! they are hilarious there!

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