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Loser in need of help..
Hey, My name is Megan, and i'm 15. I've always been treated pretty bad in school. I don't think i'm fat or ugly, but everyone calls me ugly. I don't know why they would say things to hurt me, and it makes me feel bad all the time, though I try to hide it. Today at lunch, someone gave me a joke love letter of someone I know asking me to homecomming. (The one who gave me the note hates me) When I opened it, a fry with ketchup on it fell on my white skirt, and ruined it. They all laughed it up, while a friend of mine yelled at them. I don't understand why people do the things they do to me, I try to ignore them, but you know, it hurts. I just wish people at my school would treat me like a human. I'm not mean to people, i'm nice. I don't talk about people I keep to myself...what is wrong with me?
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maybe because you're so nice they see you as a target to bully. you should start standing up for yourself and tell the kids to grow up and to leave you alone. there's nothing wrong with you
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People are just stupid. If I went to ur school they would be more dead than roadkill iff they did that in front of me. Keep to ypur own group of friends and try to learn to tell them off somehow (take advice from the friend who yelled)And if they keep on doing this stuff to you, tell a teacher. (if you just keep taking it, they'll take advantage of you.) They will respect you more if you stick up for yourself. I cant garentee that they will stop all together, but they most likely will not do it so much as it will make you really upset. If you do tell a teacher try to tell the principal(they will take matters into their own hands)I hope i helped you!!! And take my word for it, There Is Nothing Wrong With You!!!!!! <3~Rosie~
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nothing...they might just be jealous of you.
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Hey hun! well sweetie...nothin is wrong with u! its those freak-a-leak people that have a problem! i'm really sorry that they treat u like that! Bullys r soooo annoying! ur right....it is hard 2 ignore somethin like that because it really does hurt! a possibility is that they could be jealous of u... the most popular girl is jealous of ur clothes, body, grades.... and she could have gotten every1 2 gang up on u.... in my faMily... my siblings tease me all the time and my sister told me its becasue i'm an easy target. bullies enjoy wathcing u suffer, cry and mope around... so next time they attempt to tease u... dont let it get 2 u (or dont let them know that it gets 2 u) stand up 4 urself 2! dont be afraid of them. trying acting really confident and telling them 2 leave u alone. they are just doin this 2 try 2 look cool and they r probably insecure with themselves! in middle/high school girls are bitchy!!! I hope I helped ya! Good luck with this and ask me ne thin ne time! xOxO, aLeX
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There's nothing wrong with you. The question is, what is wrong with them? They seem totally mean to you. People who like to pick on others tend to be not too happy with their selfs. They pick on people to make their selfs look good and bost their ego. Just keep on ingoren them, I know it hurts, but you have to be strong. If you show them that everything they have been doing is getting you you, they'll keep on doing it. If finally they realize that you don't give a shit what they do/say about you, they'll stop.
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First of all, let me start by saying, There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. They are the ones with the problem.
When I was in junior high, someone wrote 100% FAT, in green ink on the back of my brand-new pink jacket. I couldn't wash it off, and I couldn't buy a new jacket, so I painted a cool design over those mean words. The next day everyone wanted to know where I had gotten my jacket, and they all wanted me to make them one.
Oh yeah, the girl who wrote that on my jacket was jealous because I was friends with her boyfriend. The summer after this happened, she told him that he had to choose her or me. He said that he'd choose me over her any day.
My point is...Don't let them get you down, because you are a better person than they will ever be.
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They only do that to make themselves feel better! You only have a few more years to go, dont worry bout wat they think! Your education is far more important! Ive been in your situation to! I just let go of it..and let them know what they said bout me didn't bother me.. after awhile they stopped, they got to know me! Now im friends with everyone! When u get older you will meet new people out there and there will be people who accept you for who u are! I hope i helped you! Id like to continue to talk to you! My sn is x BaBii DawL x3 im me whenever you want to! I hope I helped! Good Luck
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well all i kno is tht the ppl who are makin fun of u r jus doin tht to hide their imperfections.. im not sayyin u should go yell at them or anything like tht but u should deffend urself.. maybe u should talk to a guidance couselor or teacher.. if u chose nott to it may only get worse.. i only kno all of this cuz i used to be one of those ppl who would do tht to some1 for no reason.. so take it from me.. although it might be hard u should try to gnore or u should def. tryy and do something about it by talkin to some1.. well lots of luck! hope i helped!! xo0ox
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All that matters is what you think of yourself, and it seems as though you think OK thoughts. If you go around school being a victim, people will notice and pick on you more, if you have confidence and brush all the negativity off, people will start to realize it and leave you alone. Stick with the people who are nice and treat you with the respect you deserve. Believe me, in about 3 years when u get out of HS, it won't matter who your enemies are, just your true friends.
~KiKi
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Some common reasons this might be happening are: a) because they need a target to make themselves feel better about themselves and to keep their positions of power in the hierarchy of school cliques; or b) there's something about you that they envy, and they want to keep you down so you can't replace them in the eyes of everyone else.
You could talk to your counselor or a trusted teacher about it - sometimes, after they talk to your class about it, it wears off after awhile. If things get really bad to the point that you don't feel comfortable at your school anymore, you could try changing schools. Or, you could try asking one of the people who's teasing you about why they're doing this to you.
Some recommended reading on the subject is Rosalind Wiseman's Queen Bees and Wannabees (which sparked the movie Mean Girls), Odd Girl Out and Odd Girl Speaks Out by Rachel Simmons. Queen Bees and Wannabes is a very good and comprehensive book, and it even includes stratagies for talking to people you have a problem with.
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nothing is wrong with you at all. its the way of school--people just need someone to pick on. prove to them that it shouldnt be you. if you know you're not a dork and that they really shouldnt be making fun of you, try talking to them for real and do things to let them know that yes, you are human and you can be accepted as one of the group. it would be one thing if you were always mean to them, but it sounds like they're just doing it to you for no reason. so try letting them see that you're a normal person and that you dont deserve to be treated the way that you're being treated. good luck
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there is NOTHING wrong with you.. those stupid people are jerks and will probably always be. kids can be mean and you gotta just shrug it off.. think.. someday you could be rich and famous and their lousy d-grade asses will be working in construction or mcdonalds or something.. what they did to you was awful but at least you have a good friend who will stick up for you. i'm always here if you need nething
xoxox-kenzi
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its not you, its them. really! they just need someone to pick on u, and they think that you are an easy target. just bristle against it. instead of getting upset, you should just ignore them. if you have confidence, then it wont matter anymore, and pppl will start to treat you differently.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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