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So recently I started talking to a man a few years older then me. Well, my question is do men care about stubble in the pubic region? On the mound mostly. I am very prone to ingrown hairs and such so i cant get it completely smooth. Yes I get that if hes a good guy he wont say anything. I just want to know from men's point of view.
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As long as it is at least neatly trimmed I'm good. Some stubble on your mound is okay and can be kinda hot.
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I am dating this guy, we'll call him daniel. we have been dating now for a little over a month and everything has been great his sweet and awesome to be around.
Now i use to have my best guy friend, we'll call him jackson. either way we were very close and i had the biggest crush on him untill he moved away four months ago, we didnt date but i never felt that strongly for another person soo.
And lately i have been having many dreams and thoughts about jackson. even while im with daniel. I feel guilty, very guilty. i dont know what this means,or what to do. I need some help, any advice (link)
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Relax, No big deal. Enjoy! Your boyfriend can't see into your dreams. It's not like you can call up any dream you wish. So you are blameless and therefore shouldn't feel any guilt.
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18 f
i have an on-going flirtation with this one guy that i go to school with. we openly flirt and will most likley hook up within the next month. i know he thinks im attractive and all but he recently said that i was a 9, as in a 9 out of 10. i dont know whether to be flattered that he gave me such a high number or insulted that he doesnt think im a 10. any opinions on this would be great.
thanks! (link)
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He said you're a nine and not a ten and you remember him because he said you weren't perfect. Mission accomplished. Plus doesn't it sound like a such a phony pick up line when a guy says you're a ten? Or like he is uber desperate?
You ought to look, though, at why you're so disturbed. It's a reflection of just how much women trade on their looks to get guys. You're freaked out because you don't want to lose to other women since all women are competitive with each other.
So just relax, strip away the bullshit verbiage and listen for real content. Usually, guys who use number systems for women don't have any.
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Kevin (my boyfriend) and I have been together for a little over a year and his parents did not like me since day one. The biggest reason is because I am two years older than him. He is 16 and I am 18. Before I was with him, I cheated on a boyfriend i had, but Kevin trust me and he hasn't told his parents about it. I love him so much and more than anything in this world, but I really wish his parents would like me. One day, Kevin, his sister and I went to the mall together and his sister ran into some friends and so she went to hang out with them. Later on, Kevin's parents called him and asked to speak to Kristina (His sister), but she was with her friends. His parents got so mad with me saying I am a bitch and it's all my fault that we let Kristina go. I found out that later on, Kevin tried to take the blame for all of it but his dad hit him with a gun and passed out, his parents did NOT do anything about his passing out except let him lay there. A few months later, we started to somewhat get along. We had dinner together and everything, but i soon found out it was all just a show. I found out from Kevin and Kristina that their parents talk bad about me everyday. Like how they wanna kill me or how i am a bitch or whatever. I don't let any of that stuff bother me, i just keep trying my best to set a good impression. I always said yes mam and no mam and yes sir and no sir, but no matter what i do, they just cant get to like me. They also say Kevin should date someone of his own kind (He is Vietnamese, I am Mexican).Many months later, after kevin turns 16 and it passes our one year anniversary so he wants a tattoo. Well it's illegal but he found this place that will do it to minors. I do EVERYTHING I can to convince him not to, but he really wants it. He said he'll do it even if i don't bring him, he'll find a ride. I really want to tell his parents but i was afraid he will get really mad at me and break up with me. Then finally he convinces me to bring him, which was a horrible mistake because his parents saw the tattoo and blames me 100% for it. Now everyday, Kevin tell his parents its his fault, but they don't believe him and threaten to kill him everyday and hits him everyday. There really is no evidence because he heals really quickly. And also his parents continue to talk bad about me and also in front of my dad and i don't know what to do at all. How can I show them that I am a good person. I got my diploma, i am in college, I get great grades, I never ever curse unless I am quoting other peoples words and i show them as much as respect as i can even though they dont show me respect. What can i do? My dad says i should just leave it alone and deal with it until kevin turn 18. Kevin also say that when he turns 18, he wont see them or speak to them ever again because he believes they don't deserve to be his parents. I also found out his parents always believes that they gave their children life so they have the right to take it away from the. Please help me. What do i do? (link)
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His dad is a nut. You aren't going to win here, so stop trying. It will only stress you out. At least you get a chance to partially understand how guys feel when a girl's parents don't like him being with their daughter.
So concentrate on pleasing him and not his parents. If the dad makes any threats against you then you need to go to the police, though. As I said, the guy is a psychopath and I mean that in a clinical sense and not in a hyperbolic way.
Your age isn't a problem, AFAIK, from a legal standpoint. So don't worry about it.
Incidentally, on the tattoo issue, in some Asian countries, especially Japan and Korea, tattoos are associated with organized crime. That may be why his parents objected so much to it.
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What does it mean when someone says your'e emotionally retarded? (link)
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It means, for example, that someone who may be 20 years old has the emotional responses of a 12 year old. Look at Snooki from the Jersey Shore (I'm deeply ashamed I even know who she is). She's in her 20's but is emotionally about 15. So she is emotionally retarded.
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I've kissed quite a few people before and they had never told me that I was a bad kisser. Most of them continued trying to kiss me and I thought I was a pretty good kisser, I can even tie a cherry stem if that means anything. Not too long ago I kissed this one guy and then we stopped because my friend came up. I tried to kiss him later on but he told me no because he had just finished eating. I knew he didn't want to kiss me so I was going to get off of his lap but he didn't want me to. A few minutes later he iniciated the kiss and it got pretty steamy. When I was talking to my bestfriend she told me that after our first kiss he told her I was a bad kisser but he kept kissing me because he didn't want me to feel bad. If that were true, why did HE start kissing me later? Does that mean the other guys thought I was a bad kisser and didn't want to hurt me as well? I've never been told I'm a good kisser but I've never been told I'm a bad one. All of the other guys seemed to enjoy it a lot, based on their reactions. Later on that guy seemed to like it? My friend didn't mention anything about the second kiss, just the first. (link)
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I've known girls who were bad kissers. God, that sucks. But I wonder if it is a chemistry thing. I've had women tell me I'm a good kisser, so I'm not the problem. It just could be that his kissing style doesn't match yours. It happens. Seven billion people, seven billion ways of doing things.
The other thing you have to realize is that kissing by itself isn't going to make a perpetually horny teenage guy boot you under the circumstance you describe. He also likes your soft body and you're probably a looker, too, so the overall experience with you is quite pleasant. Therefore, don't take what he said personally and put it down to just some arbitrary weirdness. That happens in life sometimes.
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Okay, I just got the HTC Evo, 2 weeks ago. I want to get the iPhone 4S in March of next year when I will have my Evo for about 6 and a half months, just in time for my trip across the world. It's only going to be about $100 because my contract would be up and since it would be up, I would get a discount. So, I told my mom that I would like to get the iPhone in March and she freaked out calling me spoiled, I just got a new phone, I don't need another. I am talking six months away AND I will pay for the iPhone with my own money! This is what grinds my gears, my brother smokes weed, he buys it all the time thus leading him to be broke constantly. She is okay with him using his money for illegal drugs and I can't buy myself a new phone with MY money? What is her deal? My dad agrees with her and they both said they aren't letting me get it. Why are they being so ignorant to me? I don't get it! Also, how can I talk them into letting me get the phone without them freaking out again? I love my Evo, it's a great phone, honestly. The only thing that makes me hate it is the battery, it lasts 4 hours and when I go across the world on my trip, I want to be able to take pictures and send them to the friends that I am there with and play games and find local restaurants on the internet without worrying about losing battery every time I click my phone on like I do with my Evo. Please help ): (link)
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Your parents see your brother as a lost cause and he'll probably be getting the boot the soonest they can manage it.
Now as for you and the phone issue, your parents may feel that you are taking them for granted. I also don't know your parents living circumstances when they were growing up, but I grew up working class and didn't get crap from my parents much less a cell phone because they couldn't afford it. And a lot of us who are your parents' age don't understand the need to be connected 24/7. I still don't own a cellphone. So your parents just don't want you to grow up looking at yourself as an entitled douchebag plus there is a little bit of a generation gap going on as well, methinks.
Show them a work ethic and all will be well.
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so, my friend is going through a really hard time, she tried to commit suicide, and she's getting really depressed. her mom doesn't pay any attention to her.. she used to be the peppy sunshiny person, now she just puts on a mask... I know what it's like I used to be the same way.... I keep telling her to talk to people, then I suggested for her to change up her normal life and listen to some songs she never would consider (my kind of music) and i'm just wondering... what else can i do for her? (link)
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What women want more than anything else is understanding. It's fine to give her advice, but I think if she gets a chance to air her feelings out she'll feel a lot better. Suicide is usually really a cry for attention. So ask her a lot of questions, especially about what caused her to want to kill herself, repeat back to her in your own words what she is saying ("what I am hearing from you is...."). Giving her a lot of hugs would also help since she isn't getting that from her mom.
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I guess im asking this cuz im looking for comfort because i just got rejected by a guy i like he didnt say he did not like me just that he had a girlfriend so now im sad but things could change right? (link)
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Don't take it personally. You guys are at an age in which your brains, and along with that, your sensibilities, are still evolving and so he may come around to you at a later time.
The thing is that you really shouldn't tie yourself down anyway until at least your mid to late 20's. Date different guys, have fun, explore life. The more people you meet the more likely it is you'll find the one you're supposed to be with.
And by the way, while you've been putting your eggs all in the one basket with the guy, there were probably ten others around you who want to ask you out. Make sure everyone knows you're available.
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21/female. Tony- 18.
Me and Tony have been dating for about 3 months now. We're going to our first concert together this weekend, it's a country one.
I'm a little nervous. We're going with my two cousins (Tony's friends with them also) The reason why I'm nervous is because Tony said he's going to be singing along and dancing, and I'm not like that! I don't wanna be the boring one just standing there doing nothing -but it's just not really me to be crazy. Me and Tony can act dumb together, it's just how we are but when it comes to dancing ...forget it! It's my biggest weakness and something I get really embarrassed about because I'm horrible.
I don't really know how to act/what to do. I don't wanna make a fool out of myself. I shouldn't be worried about this, but I am! (link)
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Be yourself. He isn't going to hate you if you don't dance. I didn't hate my then girlfriend for not headbanging at an Iron Maiden show back in the day, for example. Don't feel you have to be one with the herd. Only you can live your life, nobody else, so make yourself happy and comfortable and whatever others think is their problem.
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i have a test tomorrow on quotes from the story of agamemnon. i have to identify who said what. how do i go about studying for this!? its about 100 pages long and the language is very difficult for me to understand (link)
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My second language is Japanese (both speak and read). I found that if you really want to nail a foreign language the best way to that is just think like a baby again like you don't know any language at all and just try to immerse yourself for as many hours a day as you can in it. You have to really want it. If you don't have that drive you aren't going to get anywhere. It also helps to then go to the target country and have to use it every day to reinforce it. Everyone should live overseas after they graduate college. What a tremendous experience that is!
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I have never been to USA, so I just wanted to know. How's the life in USA ? People's attitude, Government's attitude.... Anything you wanna tell about the lifestyle of people in United States. Thankyou. (link)
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I've lived and worked overseas and every country has its quirks and its good points. The political discussion here in the U.S. is about the level of a bunch of squabbling eight year olds and the economy is for crap right now. But I still consider myself very, very lucky to have been born in California. What a wonderful place to grow up and live, at least for me.
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Im an almost fourteen yearold girl who hasn't had her first kiss yet, I don't have q boyfriend at the time but there's a guy that I like that likes me. Hes aleady had his first kiss but he regrets it. I want mine with him. Any advice on how to kiss Good and stuff, tell me please! Thanks! (link)
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The first rule of being a good kisser is to relax.
The second rule is to be in a comfortable position to do it. This will vary by individual.
The third rule is to focus more on communicating something with your kiss rather than the mechanics of it.
After that, the rest is pretty much up to the two of you.
In your case, just tell him, if he doesn't already know, that you've never kissed a guy before and so you want to take it slow and not use any tongue yet. Start with a peck on the lips and then just slowly feel each other out with your lips. Caress his cheek with your hand because that feels really good because your hands are soft.
Kissing is something that I think is instinctual and trying to describe how to do it is pretty hard. I've known women who were bad kissers and others who were excellent. My last girlfriend was out of this world in that department.
I knew one girl who, when she was about to get her first boyfriend, practiced kissing with another girl who was a friend of hers even thogh she was completely straight.
Anyway, instead of one "first kiss," make that plural and look at it more as a "first series" of kisses because the accumulated communication you build up with them is really what matters, not the mere act. With the aforementioned last girlfriend, for example, I think we spent the first five minutes we ever kissed each other just exchanging short pecks trying to get a feel for our kissing styles. Once we established that, it was all hands on deck and things got rather passionate and hot.
To wrap up, just remember that your body is your own and nobody can tell you what to do with it. Be assertive about stuff you don't want to do and be willing to walk if it's necessary. You're pretty unlikely to marry anyone you meet between now and somewhere in your 20's, so don't do anything stupid and be willing to say no to the whims of the herd.
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I was unemployed for five, almost six months because of my unemployment situation I've been applying almost everywhere, recently I applied at Burger King, Blockbuster and a Halloween store.
I just took a job today at Burger King, the day after I interviewed with Blockbuster. I told the manager who interviewed me that I would definitely give him a two week notice if I was going to quit, because I felt like that was only courteous.
The hiring process at Burger King is still incomplete, he will give me information about my schedule on Sunday. I'm a little worried about their reliability only because when I first went in to interview today, he wasn't there and one of the team leaders asked if I could come back at 3:00. He did apologize, telling me that the shifts had been screwed up.
My question is that when I interviewed at Blockbuster she told me that I had to run a background check but that I seemed friendly and outgoing. There's a lot more opportunities to make money, and to advance within the company and their parent company Dish Network, meaning that I could work at Blockbuster for a year or two (it's a commissioned job, depending on how well I do) and then transfer to Dish Network.
If I get a call from Blockbuster, is it okay to tell Burger King that I have a better offer? Would that look bad or unprofessional of me?
I have mainly office experience working with a temporary agency, and he had asked me if I got a call back from the offices if I would go back. I told him that I would be that I would give him a 2 weeks notice. I don't think that I need to give him my two weeks because I haven't even started
working there.
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As unpleasant as working fast food is (I used to be an assistant manager for a store in a well known ff chain), Blockbuster, iirc, is on its last legs financially. Take the Burger King job since you'll know it will be around six months from now.
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21 female
Last night me and my boyfriend started making out, which lead to us both being really horny. I took my shirt off and he started rubbing my boobs and licking my nipples. Then he pulled down his pants and I started touching his penis.
The thing is I've never given a hand or blow job before! So when i tried giving him a little hand job, it basically turned out horrible. My hands were clammy/sticky so my hand wasn't sliding right and it just seemed awful. Then I started feeling something come out of his penis and I thought it was cum, and it went on my leg. I freaked out a little bit because I made it clear I didn't want him to do that on me but then he said noooo it's not that I wouldn't do that to you. So I don't know what it was like pre-cum or what? So I basically made a fool out of myself and stopped.
I am terrified to try this next time. I want to do it so bad but I feel like i failed miserably. Should I use some type of lotion or at least Vaseline to make my hand move more smoothly? How cam I make next time better, I have no idea what I'm doing! :\ A little embarrassing. (link)
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Why did his cum or pre-cum going on your leg freak you out? It isn't going to hurt you and you can just wipe it off with a tissue or a towel.
As a guy, I concur with the other posts. Get some Astroglide and oil your dominant hand up and go to it. Keep the muscles in your hand limp so that it won't fatigue. When he starts to cum, don't touch the head, just milk the shaft as if it was a cow's teat. If you don't want the cum on you, just point his penis toward his stomach. You can also use your nails to lightly tickle his balls while you stroke him.
There are flavored lubes if you want to mix hand and mouth action.
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I have sort of an odd situation. My boyfriend and I who recently, about 2 months ago, got back together after being together for 8 months and breaking up, called me F*ed up. He calls me all sorts of names, and tells me to stfu, calls me crazy, nuts, and all other things. When were argue this is what he replies back with. He can't communicate right. He is getting better but I can't make him understand how disrespectful it is to call your girlfriend those names. How do I make him understand what he is doing is wrong and no matter who he is with no one will take that from him? Should I break up with him? I am so comfortable with him and I have a great time with him but he doesn't connect on an emotional level with me. (link)
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The guy is an abuser in waiting. Show him the door. And look at yourself and see if you're codependent in that you have a need to fix people.
Btw, was your dad like that? Sometimes women choose partners like dear old dad and that can be either good or bad, depending on the individual. If your father was like that you may need to see a therapist to kinda deprogram yourself from choosing men like that.
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Here's something I don't understand. When you clear your history on FireFox for Windows 7 it erases like it's supposed to. However, the minute I type a letter into the address bar to go to a site it comes up with a list of sites starting with that letter that you can go to. How do I make it so the address bar doesn't bring that up when I type? I hope you understand what I mean. I have no other way of putting it. (link)
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Using CCleaner, which is free, will clean out history and log files and cookies that the the normal Firefox clear history misses. I run it daily and believe me, it takes loads of garbage off of your computer.
http://www.piriform.com/CCLEANER
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I'm 18 years old and I'm between a C and a D cup in bra size. This problem has been going on for a few years and I just don't know what to do anymore, it's interfering with my love life.
I think I have big pores on my breasts, and it often looks like there are black heads on the skin. When I squeeze then, sometimes I get a white pus, sometimes I get something that kind of resembles a blackhead but are very different from the ones on the face, and sometimes I get nothing and it just bleeds. Needless to say, this causes scabs with sometimes cause a little scarring.
I know the obvious answer is to stop picking, but I have a impulsive problem with that. I need to figure out how to stop picking, but at the same time I want my boobs to look normal and not have those big pores with things that look like blackheads. Any suggestions?
I feel like I'm the only person in the world with this problem...I get insecure when I wear low cut shirts, bathing suits, etc. Especially when I'm being intimate with a guy, if it's really bad that day, I won't take off my bra or I'll even keep my entire shirt on and that is frustrating sometimes cause I feel insecure when I don't want to be, and I know it's frustrating for him cause he wants to be able to look at my chest when we're making love. If it's not that bad, sometimes I even put make up on to conceal the little spots so and if it's dark in the room, I'm comfortable showing my boobs.
Anyways, I'm in college and this boob problem with the skin has been going on since early high school. Help please! (link)
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Different people have different problems. Yours isn't that severe compared to others. I can imagine the insecurity it causes, though.
You need to see a dermatologist and the sooner the better since he/she would be most likely to be able to solve your problem. You'll be fine. Just see a professional.
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Hey guys!
Thisis kind of a long story but I could really use any advice..
My boo and I broke up around a month and a half ago and I cant shake him from my head. Its not that im sitting at home moping...i just cant stopconsidering if maybe he was the one for me. We just werent working out and the break up was mutual although he talked about dating in the future. He hasn't said reallly anything to me except wish me a happyyy birthday and tell me he loves me.this was like 2 weeks ago but nothing since.I'm so scared that me going and hanging out with other guys is going to ruin my chances of him coming back but my friends insist that I'm doing the right thing and he isnt whats best for me. I wish I believed them but I just keep thinking of him coming back like he previously has. I know it won't work right now but I feel so empty and like I'm going to be alone forever.it's noy that I have a bad personality or looks, guys seem to be interested in me alot..its just I find things I dont like about them and consider waiting for my ex who honestly kindatreated me badly at times. I reallly want to move on and trust that if its meant to be then it will but I cant help thinking that everything worth while ids hard work...although he should put in the work since he wasthe one who began pulling away. Can someone please help me. I know I cant go back but I'm confused if I'm making a mistake letting him go...please help, havent been this messed up in a while..:( (link)
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Humans are like animals in that we like to keep going back to the same safe place or at least one we take a great deal of comfort in for whatever reason. When we are deprived of that then there is a sense of loss. So everything you're experiencing is very common.
The thing that would help you get over this the quickest is to just completely cut the cord. Don't talk to him at all. Let things just evolve as they're going to without harkening back to a dysfunctional nostalgia. You're not going to die alone because if he wanted to be with you then there are plenty of other guys who would be more than delighted to welcome you into their arms. Like yourself enough so that you realize that.
One thing that might help is to just give yourself 3-6 months in which you are going to do for yourself without worrying about matters of love. It's sort of getting back to the foundation of who you are as an individual rather than what you were when you were coupled.
Now in the far off future, and you should give it a few years, if he decides he wants to give it another go and you're good with that then fine. But see this as a chance to reinvigorate yourself, explore some new things, find some new folks to hang with. Sometimes in loss there is opportunity.
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I just moved out of state to live with my boyfriend of two years. We just got in an argument and he was yelling at me, while putting his hand in my face. Out of reaction, I lightly slapped him.
He slapped me back on the head, then threw me off the bed.
I know hitting should never be tolerated in a relationship, but it's not exactly easy for me to pack all my stuff up and go home.
What do I do? :/ (link)
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The hand in your face isn't acceptable, much less the hitting. The guy is an abuser. Get out NOW. Go find yourself some roommates and move into an apartment.
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