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Going to a concert with my boyfriend, concerned
21/female. Tony- 18.
Me and Tony have been dating for about 3 months now. We're going to our first concert together this weekend, it's a country one.
I'm a little nervous. We're going with my two cousins (Tony's friends with them also) The reason why I'm nervous is because Tony said he's going to be singing along and dancing, and I'm not like that! I don't wanna be the boring one just standing there doing nothing -but it's just not really me to be crazy. Me and Tony can act dumb together, it's just how we are but when it comes to dancing ...forget it! It's my biggest weakness and something I get really embarrassed about because I'm horrible.
I don't really know how to act/what to do. I don't wanna make a fool out of myself. I shouldn't be worried about this, but I am!
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Be yourself. He isn't going to hate you if you don't dance. I didn't hate my then girlfriend for not headbanging at an Iron Maiden show back in the day, for example. Don't feel you have to be one with the herd. Only you can live your life, nobody else, so make yourself happy and comfortable and whatever others think is their problem.
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Whata re you afraid of? Are you afraid what people might think? Go to the concert and have fun. Act a fool. 'Dance like no one is watching!' I myself can't dance for my life but if I was going to a concert I don't care what other people think of me I'm going out there to dance. When I go out with my friends to a club and I want to dance I don't care what other people think about me. Why are you going to restrict yourself from having fun? Why because you might not be the best dancer in the world? It's not like you're trying out for 'So You Think You Can Dance'. Have fun and have a good time!
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This is no sweat. Tell him you dance like an idiot and would rather sit and take in the performance and that it's not a reflection on him or the relationship.
It's fine to sit or stand and not dance. I sit or stand and that's it. I'm sure he will get that it makes you uncomfortable but that you still enjoy being there with him. Don't make a big deal of it because it really isn't one.
The other option is to have a who gives a darn attitude about other people in the venue and what they may think or a who cares what the people I'm with think and just dance. Don't make it into something it's not in your mind. So you look like an idiot? So, what? Have fun with it 16,000 other people are there looking like dancing idiots so you're in good company. Relax.
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