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It's my money, Idk what the big deal is!
Okay, I just got the HTC Evo, 2 weeks ago. I want to get the iPhone 4S in March of next year when I will have my Evo for about 6 and a half months, just in time for my trip across the world. It's only going to be about $100 because my contract would be up and since it would be up, I would get a discount. So, I told my mom that I would like to get the iPhone in March and she freaked out calling me spoiled, I just got a new phone, I don't need another. I am talking six months away AND I will pay for the iPhone with my own money! This is what grinds my gears, my brother smokes weed, he buys it all the time thus leading him to be broke constantly. She is okay with him using his money for illegal drugs and I can't buy myself a new phone with MY money? What is her deal? My dad agrees with her and they both said they aren't letting me get it. Why are they being so ignorant to me? I don't get it! Also, how can I talk them into letting me get the phone without them freaking out again? I love my Evo, it's a great phone, honestly. The only thing that makes me hate it is the battery, it lasts 4 hours and when I go across the world on my trip, I want to be able to take pictures and send them to the friends that I am there with and play games and find local restaurants on the internet without worrying about losing battery every time I click my phone on like I do with my Evo. Please help ):
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Your parents see your brother as a lost cause and he'll probably be getting the boot the soonest they can manage it.
Now as for you and the phone issue, your parents may feel that you are taking them for granted. I also don't know your parents living circumstances when they were growing up, but I grew up working class and didn't get crap from my parents much less a cell phone because they couldn't afford it. And a lot of us who are your parents' age don't understand the need to be connected 24/7. I still don't own a cellphone. So your parents just don't want you to grow up looking at yourself as an entitled douchebag plus there is a little bit of a generation gap going on as well, methinks.
Show them a work ethic and all will be well.
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We parents are a strange breed aren't we? If I'm reading this correctly your saying you're the good child and your brother appears to be the bad child. He gets away with everything short of murder and you are held to higher standards.
Relax your not alone in this dilemma there are probably a couple of million children like you. Your parents are not sure where they went wrong with your brother but they are damn sure there not going to let it happen with you, so they overcompensate. How do I know this, I'm a grandparent and this bit of wisdom comes with the age of being a grandparent.
I'm fairly certain there is a bit more to this story than what you have had time or space to share. In the same vain I'm sure your parents, if they shared their side, would put an entirely different spin on this story. I'm not going to try and explain what being a parent is like or try to be a referee.
What I will do is make a suggestion: It is the middle of October, your contract renews in March. Anytime after March you can purchase a new phone and receive the discount. So for now as far as purchasing the phone is concerned let it drop. On a grander scale of things at the moment it is far from the top of your list of priorities.
What you may want to do and I believe you should be doing as far as having a phone for your world trip is concerned. Is looking into the need to purchasing a phone once you get to Europe or wherever you are going. It is my understanding that our phone do not work well oversees and it is recommended that if you are spending any amount of time in a county, count Europe as one country, that it is suggested you purchase a cell phone designed for use over there.
While doing this find out what companies are best to contract with and which phones will be able to be converted to a carrier or your carrier of choice when you get home. Also check on the reverse side. Find out which phone from here will work best or can be converted to work there and which carrier.
Once you have done this and have the information at hand you have a valid argument to use with your parents as to why you need to purchase a new phone.
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Did they buy you the HTC evo? If so, that's why they're upset. It's rude to tell them you're going to get a new phone if they've just bought you one. It's pretty much like a slap in the face to them because you sound ungrateful for the gift they've just given you. In this circumstance, I would advise an apology.
But, if you bought the phone with you're own money and now you're thinking of buying another phone, then I don't know what their problem is. They might just be being parents and trying to look out for you by helping you save money. I'm pretty independent but my mum still gets frustrated at me for buying things I don't need because she knows I could save that money and use it for something better.
If you want your parents to back off a little, I would suggest opening a savings account. These are usually cheap or free, but go to your bank and ask them about it. Bring one of your parents with you and promise to put a small amount every week or every month, whenever you can, into it. This shows them that you're independent and mature about your finances, and they'll be more trusting and understanding of future investments/purchases.
It doesn't seem fair that they're getting on your case about money and not your brothers, but it's difficult to deal with someone who buys drugs. Of course they can't stop him from buying weed and most parents don't know what to do about drug addictions so they tend to avoid it. They just care about you and want what's best for you.
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You could calmly explain all these reasons to them. Tell them you wouldn't even consider getting a new phone, if the one you currently had - had a better battery life.
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