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hey well my bday is soon and ive decided to have an all-girls party. (btw im 13/f) about 12 girls will come. umm im trying to decide what to do!! lol..i mean the usuall movie and makeup is getting boring now and i wanted to know are there any games we should play or anything? any advice will be great thanks! (link)
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I have a few ideas for you. I know you have undoubtedly heard about murder mystery games where the guests each take on a role. They usually come in a box with a DVD to lead you through it. That's one idea.
I like the Scene It! DVD series of games that test your knowledge of pop culture, entertainment and DVDs. It's a lot of fun and it's like trivial pursuit but unlike trivial pursuit anyone can win based on points on the board and how much a card is worth.
I have no connection to the people who made the game so providing a link to info is just to give you and others an idea of something that may be interesting. I have to say that as there is a policy about sharing links http://php.screenlifegames.com/scene_it.php
You can get it at any Toys R Us outlet in the U.S. or Canada. I hope this helps out.
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okay so i'm a little scared i'm 13f and my boyfriend wants to have sex with me and i havn't even started my period yet and i'm afraid if i have it with him something bad might happen can someone please help me i'm afraid. (link)
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The key word you mentioned more than once is"afraid". If you are afraid of having sex you are not ready yet. Tell him you love him but you just aren't ready physically or emotionally yet. If he persists with trying to get you to do this get rid of him as he's showing he cares about himself and not you or your wishes.
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Ok, so a while back,i asked if my bf was cheating. I found out he isn't, but my friend really likes him. She is my friend, and she knows i LOVE him to DEATH, but she dosen't get it. She wants him, but he can't stand her because she is always flirting! He dosen't know how to get her to leave him alone, and neither do i. How do i get her to understand he is MINE and not hers? ♥Please Get Her Away From Him♥ (link)
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Your boyfriend needs to tell her in a tactful manner that while he appreciates the attention and is flattered by it that he is dating you and that is not going to change and that he is not now nor in the future going to date her. But he should say he would rather be a friend than nothing at all to her. This usually works in situations like yours. It has to be done gently so as not to crush her.
If this gentle way of trying to ask her to stop does not work he will have to ignore her (she want's the attention in that case) until she gets it's pointless to continue such behavior. Nobody, not me nor you can make her do anything or "get it" but we can give her hints like these.
Anger will get you nowhere as it will make you an enemy you cannot afford to make. I think another good thing to do is offer to introduce her to some single guy friends who would be a better fit, a perfect fit in fact than your boyfriend.
You might want to do all of these things or just one. A heart to heart might work as long as it's done calmly and you tell her how you feel about the situation in a non-ambush, non-confrentational style and let her know if it does not stop you might have to break your friendship off. Do the heart-to-heart thing if nothing subtle works.
Good luck!
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1. What is Canada's most economic product?
2. What province or place in Canada is most known for growing wheat?
3. Were the Ukarainians the first Europeans to settle in New France? If not who were they?
If you can answer any of them, THANK YOU. (link)
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You need to find this information out by researching with an encyclopedia (not online) and in the library. Anybody could post a response to this and be wrong about it and then your teacher could give you bad marks and ask "where did you learn that info?" You don't want to be caught saying "advicenators." do you?
The opinion of most people around here is that people need to do their own homework themselves. Your teacher doesn't care what we think or have learned about Canada or do not know. They want to know what you think and have learned.
If you get called up to the front of the class one day to read from your report or tell the class what you know about Canada and you know nothing but what we told you it will cause you problems. In a nutshell, head to the library and open a reference book.
Ratings on here do not mean anything, I'm about giving sound, quality advice even if telling the truth has to sting a little so rating this a 1 or 5 means nothing--if my words got you to think differently about this--that means something.
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theres this kid in my class that like sits across from me on a diff table (our tables face forward, and its two people per table) and like everyday if i glance at him or something, or he notices im there, he like grins at me or comes up to me and sings like a funny song, dances, or something. He's friendly and stuff, but what do I do back? All I do is smile.. or do I like bring up a conversation? ahh how do I do that without sounding like.. eager or just bad? lol Or sometimes he just stares at me for a long time smiling and im like "what?" and then he keeps staring... anything funny or witty or whatever that I should do back? Im not gonna stare at him back cuz that would look retarded. or is he making fun of me? i doubt it, though. (link)
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Sounds to me that he may in fact like you and has been trying to get your attention any which way he can. While his methods may seem strange to you one cannot fault the guy for trying. I think the only thing you can do is talk to him and get to know him.
This does not mean you are going to have a relationship but at the very least getting to know who he is and what he is about is alright as you can use a friend right? As far as witty or sarcastic remarks I wouldn't bother.
If he stares at you etc just say "I noticed you were looking my way do you want to say something? Then he will know that you caught him and that his glaring at you is bothering you. He will stop then if you find the attention unwanted. Jus be sure whatever you do here that he does not get the wrong idea about whether you like him or not more than a friend.
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i really enjoy singing and i want improve
i think i do some things wrong.
-first of all i am trying to breathe out of my diaphram, but i don't really understand how to do so...
-i want to improve my range, and i'm wondering if there is anything i can do to work on this? and i really want to learn how to sing runs and belt out songs
-also my voice is kind of weak and cracks at times and i'm wondering if there are any ways to strengthen it
-and my throat often hurts and i get really tired after singing a song and i don't think this is normal
so if anybody knows any ways to fix these problems or can find out any information, please let me know because i'd really like to improve! (link)
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Hi,
The throat issues probably have a lot to do with not drinking enough fluids. If you are singing a-cappella especially or trying to belt things out you need to keep your throat lubricated by drinking lots of bottled water before a concert or going to the side of the stage for a bottle. If you see singers in live concerts go to the side of the stage for water it's to keep their voice solid and avoid the throat from drying up.
I think you need a voice coach as they will teach you how to sing what you want to acheive and take good care of your voice. Make sure you get a really good coach with years and years of experience by asking teachers involved in the performing arts or music about this.
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Does water really help your skin? I have really bad skin so I started to dirnk 8 glasses of water a day but as soon as I'm done I have to go to the washroom right away and all the water just comes right out! =S (link)
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Water is extremely important when it comes to taking care of your skin as is washing your face three times daily. When it comes to needing water to stay hydrated or control acne a doctor told me drinking four regular sized bottles of water is enough throughout the course of a day. You can also drink Green Tea and Gatorade as that helps but avoid juices, stuff from concentrate, frozen drinks you mix as they are detrimental here.
Here is a great link on tips to keep your face clear of acne. http://www.acneteam.com/ways-to-avoid-acne.html I hope the link helps. If i can be of any other assistance to you feel free to click on my column and send me a note.
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i have an iPOD nano, one of the newer ones(the silver one). ive had it for about 3 months and had no problem, but recently when i plug in my iPOD it doesnt pop up on the itunes screen and i cant put any songs on it. i thought it had to do with what cord im using but ive used all of them(i have 4 cords total because my sisters have ipods).i would like to know whats wrong with it and how i can fix it if there is a problem.thanks (link)
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Do you have an Apple Care plan to protect your Ipod and get free technical support directly from Apple? If not I would recommend you get one as they will fix your Ipod for free for the next three years with a no fault guarentee.
When you call technical support they'll tell you exactly what is wrong with it based on you telling them exactly what you wrote above. It's best to contact them rather than people here who may tell you to try something that does not work and further screw up what is wrong with the Ipod you have.
In the United States the technial support line for Apple is 1-800-275-2273 and in Canada it's 1-800-263-3394
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what are some things I can do to get great skin? Please don't list make- ups because i only beleive in natural beauty (link)
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There is a great tip sheet at this link abiut treating acne and how to avoid it http://www.acneteam.com/ways-to-avoid-acne.html. Among the things it tells you to do are two very important factors drink a ton of water each day (at least 4 bottles of spring water daily) and wash your face three times daily.
They are also correct about keeping your hair away from hitting your face due to oils. I think the link will help you the most because it has 10 or so tips on it. Good luck!
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I'm 22, F. My whole family is certain that my mother has bipolar disorder. Her mother (my grandmother) had it too. I've looked up information about it, and my mom fits the classic case:
-bouts of depression, paranoid thoughts/feelings
-obsession--especially about weight/food--she practically tortures my poor sister about this, to the point of almost being a spy.
- manic thoughts/actions: she frequently does things to draw attention to herself. (for example, at parties, she dances really crazy and laughs the loudest)..she also complains (abnormally) if she has even the tiniest amount of pain
-yells like a maniac when she gets mad.
- she denies that anything at all is wrong with her, and frequently accuses family members (especially my dad) of being paranoid...as a reminder, we are all normal, and she's the only one causing excessive problems.
the root cause of ALL our family problems is my mother. I swear..everyone knows it. If it weren't for her, everything would be fine. I've heard things from my brother/father, and see things with my own eyes--we all know she's bipolar, but she does not acknowledge that she has a problem AT ALL>
So, I'm 22...and I've never, ever displayed any signs at all of bipolar disorder. But I know it's mainly genetic, and I'm concerned that it could show up later on in my life, or my siblings..
Does anyone know what the chances of it showing up are, given that I'm already 22 and have never shown any signs at all?
Thanks (link)
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This does not sound like bipolar disorder to me. I have had battles with it. The depression, paranoi, suicidal thoughts can be signs of mental illness but not neccesarily bipolar disorder. Yelling like a maniac when one is angry is not a sign of bipolar disorder or mental illness it's a sign that a person really, really loses it when upset and for some that's normal.
Manic thoughts and actions are almost always when a person thinks they are someone else, influences the world, is delusiuonal and cannot tell reality from unreality. They also talk super-fast and could pose danger to themselves or others. Your mother drawing attention to herself dancing oddly is not a sign of mania or being manic.
It is true that a person that is really manic will not think anything is wrong, denial etc. Nothing you have written again makes me think she is manic or even bipolar.
It seems to me everyone wants to gang up on this poor woman and blame their problems and issues on her. No matter what the situation problems we face are ours to deal with and you again have not shown how she is a problem. Perhaps, she's denying she has a problem with bipolar disorder because she is not bipolar.
Only a psychiatrist who assessed her and observed her for an extended period can label her bipolar. Your family may think she has a problem but cannot help yourselves or her unless you do get her assessed.
Until that happens do not worry about you becoming bipolar. Just because it is genetic does not mean you will ever experience it. If you do not have any symptoms try to live normally--deal with it if it occurs but do not live every day afraid of it as that's pointless.
I know you have read books etc etc and know about mental illness but it's important not to self-diagnose or diagnose others in your family based on genetic history. If there are no signs of illness now do not worry about later or what if. You will cross that road with your doctor/family when you get to that bridge.
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im soooo bad at giving speeches. i dont know why i am. but whenever i get infront of a crowd my voice starts trembleing and my hands start shaking. i practice all the time doing my speech before hand...like to my friends and parents and i do fine. but whenever i get in front of a crowd its like i freak, it feels like im out of breath. even sometimes in class when i get called on to read out of the book i panic and my voice gets all shakey and i mess up on words. i can read fine i just dont no what it is about talking in front of a crowd. Even if i practice tons. any help? (link)
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Th thing is you know what you want to say but feel too scared to say it in front of a crowd. First, believe in every word you want to say and secondly, when it front of a crowd look into the eyes of one person in the front row and start talking to them. Nobody else matters at that point and you'll be done in no time.
I have given tons of speeches and acted in local productions for a while. I always looked at one person in front of me and delivered my speech or at the other actors and just did my thing. You also need to remember that you are the authority, the expert on the topic you are talking about and people need to hear what you want to say. Picture yourself as someone with authority--it helps.
The other thing I strongly recommend you do is get involved with student government as your confidence levels will go up as you are forced to speak up and share opinions with others and adults too. I hope this works for you. E-mail to let me know how you progress.
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Well, our second sememster (sp?) just started, and i have p.e. tommorow. yeah, i suck at p.e. i think i am a little bit overweight, and i am really bad at running and stuff. well, one thing that brings my self-esteam (sp?) more is A LOT of the "popular" and "skinny" people are in my class this year. And, the guy that i have a huge crush on is in my class,and i don't want to look like a fat freak infront of him. should i just concentrate on me and what i'm doing, insted of what the people around me are thinking? or should i try to loose alot of weight? help me please!!!!! thanks ppl! (link)
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You did not mention if your classmates were bullying you or causing you grief over this. That's an important factor as you can approach your gym teacher and tell them exactly how you feel about the class and see if they can make things any better for you.
If your teacher cannot make gym class better for you then talk to the administration to show you are serious over what this is doing to your self-image. The fact you badly want to diet and feel insecure over a few people who are a little thinner signifies a self-image problem that needs to be addressed that is not about weight.
This kind of teasing, or self-loathing or insecurity can lead to psychological stuff later on: depression etc. I had the same problem you did with gym. Nobody would listen at that school as i was being roughed up over gym etc.
The one person they will listen to is a psychiatrist or psychologist (not a family doctor) who will go at it with them to pull you out of that class over severe self-esteem issues that may affect your mental well-being. Then, on your own to fill class requirements attend self-defense courses that they monitor the progress of.
do not diet without a doctor's assistance either as you may not be overweight etc as you may think. Even if you were the doctor can assign the proper diet and get a nutritionist to monitor your progress and set up a meal plan.
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hey, well last night my boyfriend and i were fighting. i had my mind on the fight and had a lot of stuff to do. todays his birthday, i didnt get him a present -- worst mistake ever. now hes sad cause i didnt get him anything. i asked him if he was upset and he said not really but kinda. so i no hes upset. i havent been going out with him for a long time at all. we`ve only been together for about a month, so im not sure what to get him. i know everyone says its the thought that counts and he should like whatever i give him, but its not like that. i dont want to buy something for him tonight and go to his house and give it to him just so he can return it. i want to give him something that he really wants. i would just ask his sister what to get him but shes out with the rest of the family eating for his birthday [i didnt get invited cause were in a fight]. he wont answer his phone at all. i didnt even try my real number first. i just dialed *67 both times and he wouldnt asnwer. we are still in a fight and i wanted to make up wiht him by getting him something but i dont see that working out unless he calls me back and tells me what he wants. i think i might just ask him tommorw but then he will be getting his gift 2 days after his birthday. do you think thats bad? what should i do? p.s hes really hard to buy for so i dont really want to get him something without asking. (link)
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To be brutally honest a gift at this point no matter what it is will not solve your problem at all. Although you never intended to hurt him that badly he's feeling the worst he can feel at this moment (kicked in the gonads) and right now you are in the dog house with him and his family considering they as well as him snubbed you over the birthday dinner invite. Families always protect their own.
The fact he will not talk to you period seems to mean the relationship is over. His family will dislike you even more than he does over this until the two of you decide what to do with your relationship.
Do not talk to his sister about a gift either as the fact you did may make you look even more worse. It will look as though you rushed out to get him something trying to save face and cover your behind. She's not apt to help you as she loves her brother and right now he's angry and you and so will she. If you have a friendship with her--it's toast too unless he forgives all.
What you need to do instead is try and apologize face to face alone or in front of others and tell him how bad you feel about everything and really, really mean it and think out in advance every word of it.
Your sincerity, love, respect for him really has to leak out of every pore at this point as so far he's not seeing how sorry you are. The true gift here is of giving him your love for his trust in exchange.
It's best to try and imagine exactly how he must have felt here as that will help you figure out what to do and what to say and feel inside to truly make it up to him. It's got to be from your heart gift or no gift when approaching him about anything now. Good luck. I think you have a shot at fixing this.
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ok i'll first start this off as i am 19 years old and not immature. i just dont get how some s enjoy giving head i mean it just seems completely disgusting. like sucking on someones dick then all that cum going in your mouth? it just seems really gross. if anyones ever done it can you tell me about it and if you havent can you tell me what you think? thanks lots. (link)
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I'm a straight male and I certainly agree with any girl who does not want to swallow bodily fluids to please a guy. You are doing them a favor really and should be calling the shots. If I were you, I would insist on flavored condoms or ask him to tell you when he is about to reach climax so you can he can use kleenex and clean up.
On the flipside, guys may feel sqeamish about fluids from females if performing this type of sex on a girl. Certain barriers like a dental dam or saran wrap are ways to keep fluids away there and not affect pleasure. I hope this helps you.
If it still disgusts you--that's fine as you do not have to do this if you do not want to despite his protests etc as guys in my opinion are owed nothing by girls when it comes to sex in a relationship.
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ok there are all kinds of good diets and stuff but..the problem is that alot of the foods that they include are things i dont like!!
like salads when i have a salad it ends up being a soup because of ranch (im not a big fan of salads) && i dont like a lot of vegez!! does any one know i good diet that doesnt include a lot of saladz and a bunch of vegies??
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Great question! The only way to get a diet that suits your physical and health needs that contains enough of the things you like to eat is to see your doctor. He/she will figure out what you should weigh based on your height and then let you talk with a nutritionist that will chart your progress and give you healthy choices for eating.
Contrary to what you may have thought just because you are on a diet does not mean you cannot still have your cake and icecream too. The nutritionist needs to teach you about proper portions. You can eat all the stuff you like but it's about proper portions and moderation which they will teach you.
Also, I must stress this to you or anyone else reading to NEVER start dieting without the assistance of your doctor who will know what is safe for you. In some cases you may be at the weight you should be and dieting could put you under that "safe" weight and cause health issues.
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(my chest)
im super flat,its not even funny. how do you get bigger boobs, without getting plastic surgery and such. is there anything natural you can do?
and please don't say i should just accept myself, and live with it. (link)
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I will not say "just accept yourself" as that would not be right or help you out any. The problem here is that there really is not anything you can do as some girls bloom faster than others. It's all in your DNA. It comes down to that and just waiting on puberty to take its natural course.
No doctor would ever perform plastic surgery on anyone your age to increase size here. It's illegal (number one) and number two they know that you are still growing. It's a drag sometimes but we cannot control nature I am afraid. It sucks no doubt, but your friends feel just as awkward about their breasts and changing as you do and those girls could not control what has to occur naturally.
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ok i am a female 13
ok i like my FRIENDS brother
i think he sorta likes me but he neve rliked a girl before except like celeb girls
okay, well thing is i am 13 he is 15
see age diff. and he says tht i am my friends only friend that is nice and cool.
i want him to like me the way i like him an i want to get to know him but we have ntohing in (school,projects,etc.) common so what should i do?
(the last one i made my sister was yelling at me so instead of friend i types sister yes it was a typo) (link)
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Are you sure you like him or is it a crush (lust)? If you do not know much about him and think you have nothing in common odds are you will have nothing in common when it comes time for a relationship. I think you ought to become friends first and build from there. Why not invite him over to play Nintendo or to see a movie or to a party etc.
You could also ask him if he would like to hang out some time and leave it at that. This is a good way to see if he has any interest in you. A simple "would you like another friend?" question when you see him can get things rolling.
It's hard to understand your question as you typed too fast but I think you said you had a friend that knows him and you are that person's friend. If so, talk to your friend and tell them I really like so and so and wanted to see if he was interested in being friends/hanging out. Your friend could then get you together.
I hope this helps out.
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hey im not the best with covering up zits
is there anyway to do it to make it look like its not even there?
any advice will make me happy:) (link)
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Well, you know any kind of product like Clearasil and Oxy or stuff from the aisle at the drug store are not going to help with even the mildest acne all that much. I guess makeup may conceal blemishes but your best weapon is seeing a family doctor or dermatologist who can put you on prescreption medication that you apply that will keep acne off your skin on a permanent level as it contains medicine were other products cannot and do not. A prescription cream stops the situation from growing or even starting now and in the future.
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well alot of these questions have such young girls talking about sex and all that stuff. im 13 and ive never had sex. i finger myself but can only fit in one finger in with out it hurting. i mean i guess im tight and all. but should i be able to do more with myself? and when ever i finger myself i feel this little thing inside my vagina which makes me scared to go in father, what is it?
i no it sounds gross, but i need the help.
thanks (link)
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Anythig about sex is perfectly natural and not gross including masturbation. I hope you are not ashamed or others reading this are of anything like this. Tons of girls do it, same with guys.
I think I may have (being a guy I hope I got it right) found out what you are describing. I think you are hitting your cervix there if t feels cone like or hard. Definition from Wikipedia: The cervix (from Latin "neck") is the lower, narrow portion of the uterus where it joins with the top end of the vagina.
"It is cylindrical or conical in shape and protrudes through the upper anterior vaginal wall. Approximately half its length is visible with appropriate medical equipment; the remainder lies above the vagina beyond view. It is occasionally called "cervix uteri", or "neck of the uterus".
That sounds ike what I think you are talking about. I'm not sure what to recommend about more than one finger. Maybe you need to relax more before trying two. I hope this helps you relax a little more and have fun rather than worry over it.
Trust me, if it were not your cervix or something that is supposed to be in your vagina you would be feeling pain or sick by now because when something is wrong there's a hell of a lot of warning signs.
If there are none present I would just relax or mention to your mom what it is. Foreget about feeling embarassed there as she was your age once and knows about this stuff. or ask an older female you trust Also google Scarleteen on the Web as it's designed for teens to help answer these kind of embarassing questions with a staff of experts there. This is not to advertise as I have nothing to do with them but when confused sure, i turn to 'em and friends do also.
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ok so me and boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we both want to have sex but im scared that i will get pregnant i cant let this happen and hes really cool about not doing anything but i want to im jst kinda scared. (link)
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The key word you just used was "sacred." That should set off an alarm signal in your head. when it comes to something like sex if you are feeling scared about any aspect of it DON'T do it--at least not now.
Talk with your partner more about it, learn about contraceptive devices and plan. If you are too fearful of sex or anything about it and you end up having it odds are you will not be safe and furthermore won't enjoy it.
I would (with him) go get info on birthcontrol or get yourself on a method of birthcontrol nd keep talking about sex together and build up your security and knowledge, erase the doubt and fears and have a good time as that's what it ought to be about or it's not worth it. Protecting yourself is paramount--pleasure is secondary.
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