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nothing for his birthday =[
hey, well last night my boyfriend and i were fighting. i had my mind on the fight and had a lot of stuff to do. todays his birthday, i didnt get him a present -- worst mistake ever. now hes sad cause i didnt get him anything. i asked him if he was upset and he said not really but kinda. so i no hes upset. i havent been going out with him for a long time at all. we`ve only been together for about a month, so im not sure what to get him. i know everyone says its the thought that counts and he should like whatever i give him, but its not like that. i dont want to buy something for him tonight and go to his house and give it to him just so he can return it. i want to give him something that he really wants. i would just ask his sister what to get him but shes out with the rest of the family eating for his birthday [i didnt get invited cause were in a fight]. he wont answer his phone at all. i didnt even try my real number first. i just dialed *67 both times and he wouldnt asnwer. we are still in a fight and i wanted to make up wiht him by getting him something but i dont see that working out unless he calls me back and tells me what he wants. i think i might just ask him tommorw but then he will be getting his gift 2 days after his birthday. do you think thats bad? what should i do? p.s hes really hard to buy for so i dont really want to get him something without asking.
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To be brutally honest a gift at this point no matter what it is will not solve your problem at all. Although you never intended to hurt him that badly he's feeling the worst he can feel at this moment (kicked in the gonads) and right now you are in the dog house with him and his family considering they as well as him snubbed you over the birthday dinner invite. Families always protect their own.
The fact he will not talk to you period seems to mean the relationship is over. His family will dislike you even more than he does over this until the two of you decide what to do with your relationship.
Do not talk to his sister about a gift either as the fact you did may make you look even more worse. It will look as though you rushed out to get him something trying to save face and cover your behind. She's not apt to help you as she loves her brother and right now he's angry and you and so will she. If you have a friendship with her--it's toast too unless he forgives all.
What you need to do instead is try and apologize face to face alone or in front of others and tell him how bad you feel about everything and really, really mean it and think out in advance every word of it.
Your sincerity, love, respect for him really has to leak out of every pore at this point as so far he's not seeing how sorry you are. The true gift here is of giving him your love for his trust in exchange.
It's best to try and imagine exactly how he must have felt here as that will help you figure out what to do and what to say and feel inside to truly make it up to him. It's got to be from your heart gift or no gift when approaching him about anything now. Good luck. I think you have a shot at fixing this.
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what sounds good to me is.. just cheer him up and maybe invite him to go shopping. then, when you're at the store or mall, surprise him and say "pick something out. my treat!"
that way, you won't have to know what he likes. orrrrr, you could just give him money.. ?
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