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Why won't she admit it?
Ok, so a while back,i asked if my bf was cheating. I found out he isn't, but my friend really likes him. She is my friend, and she knows i LOVE him to DEATH, but she dosen't get it. She wants him, but he can't stand her because she is always flirting! He dosen't know how to get her to leave him alone, and neither do i. How do i get her to understand he is MINE and not hers? ♥Please Get Her Away From Him♥
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come on now. Girl this is YOUR boyfriend. tell her to back off. i know that this sounds harsh and i am not trying to be rude but if she was a good friend and you told her how you felt about it she would back off. I know that she is your friend and all but enough is enough. if she was a real friend she would respect your wishes. so dont be afraid to tell her how you really feel. I hope that i could help.=)
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Well, of course (as I'm sure you already know) people can't control the feelings they develop for somebody. But, they can control what they do and say and how they act. You need to sit your friend down alone and tell her how you feel. Easier said than done... i know. But, letting her know that it bothers you so much and that it bothers him (your boyfriend) as well will possibly make her open her eyes and realize that whatever it is she's trying to accomplish, it's not exactly going to work. He's YOUR boyfriend and as your friend, she needs to respect that. You shouldn't have to fight to keep something that's already yours. Don't get so worked up over it though. He's with YOU for a reason, not her. :] Hope I was able to help you out :] xxo Hannah
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He's Your Boyfriend GIRL! you tell her to back off, if's your friend she will, and if she doesnt, she's not worth your time. you just gotta tell her straight up to back off of your boyfriend and thats he's yours and not hers.
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Okay if I where you I would tell her to back up. and that he is yours and she can't have him and that you care about him like a lot and stuff. but don't let her get to you and him. I mean I know what you mean I went throw the same thing. just tell her that you love him like a lot more then air. and maybe she will back down and if she doesnt then just tell her this time its real and she better back down cuz she ain't gonna get him. I hope this helped you!
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Your boyfriend needs to tell her in a tactful manner that while he appreciates the attention and is flattered by it that he is dating you and that is not going to change and that he is not now nor in the future going to date her. But he should say he would rather be a friend than nothing at all to her. This usually works in situations like yours. It has to be done gently so as not to crush her.
If this gentle way of trying to ask her to stop does not work he will have to ignore her (she want's the attention in that case) until she gets it's pointless to continue such behavior. Nobody, not me nor you can make her do anything or "get it" but we can give her hints like these.
Anger will get you nowhere as it will make you an enemy you cannot afford to make. I think another good thing to do is offer to introduce her to some single guy friends who would be a better fit, a perfect fit in fact than your boyfriend.
You might want to do all of these things or just one. A heart to heart might work as long as it's done calmly and you tell her how you feel about the situation in a non-ambush, non-confrentational style and let her know if it does not stop you might have to break your friendship off. Do the heart-to-heart thing if nothing subtle works.
Good luck!
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Honestly...
this girl your calling your friend doesn't seem like of much of a friend to me.
if you truly love your boyfriend stick to him. and if this "friend" of yours doesn't get off your back about him. dump her. you deserve way better. you dont need the stress of having to deal with a building relationship alongside a "friend" trying to steal your boyfriend.
if you dont want to loose her try talking to her about important he is to you and hopefully she will understand =]
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i had a friend like that. its a really long story.
i just got rid of her. she wasnt too good of a friend anways.
before you do anything like that - consider this : who has done more for you, him or her? who has been there for you the most? who is the person you can ALWAYS turn to? and how long have you dated him?
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