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My boyfriend and I have had a fairly successful sex life for the past seven months or so. But lately, whenever we have sex, my hips start hurting really bad and I have to stop him so I can stretch it out. Needless to say, it interrupts the mood. And no matter how good it feels, once my hips start hurting, we HAVE to stop. Does anyone know any positions that won't put as much stress on my hips? Should I do any exercises or stetches to help fix the problem? (link)
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Have you tried placing a pillow underneath your hips for support? It can and does work for some people. The other position that would likely work for you is doggy style or reversed missionary.
There are Web sites that show with diagrams and dolls different sexual positions. We cannot provide links though for obvious reasons.
A search engine will bring up a multitude. There's also books that deal with this issue too that you can both pick up with info and diagrams on them. The problkem you mentiuon with your hips is very common and by reading books on the subject you'll be able to come up with a psition that doesn't hurt if my tip above doesn't ease the problem.
Yopu might also want to have sex less often than you do now to allow your hips to actually stop aching. Too much of a good thing may be causing the soreness and inability to handle sex at all because it hurts so bad.
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I'm a virgin (15), and my boyfriend is not(17). he doesn't care that I am, or anything like that, he has a girlfriend for a long time and she's only the other person he's had sex with.... Well I'm really scared to do it, and it's not liek he's pressuring me or anything, I just want to know, what his reaction will be like. because I'm really afraid, and do guys usually have patience with girls during their first? and how bad does it actually hurt? (link)
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When it comes to sex it's all about what you feel comfortable and ready for and with. If you are afriad of sex it means you are not ready yet and that's perfectly normal.
Don't make the mistake of having sex to please him or any other guy you are with. you're in control and right now your instincts are telling you the right thing here that you aren't ready. Most guys are fine with a girl who is not ready yet as their relationship is based on more than sex.
If he's not okay with it or tries to get his way ditch him. There will be many more boys entering and exiting your life. you want to be sure you lose your virginity to the person worthy of sharing that moment with you.
Most guys are considerate with girls during their first experience and will even talk them through everything to ease tension. There are some who are not considerate and think only of themselves and not the girl. Hopefully, the person you decide to have sex with for the first time is compassionate and considerate enough to care about those things.
Does it hurt? That question is hard to answer. Each person has a different perspective on what pain means and a different level of pain tolerance. Usually what occurs is mild discomfort from the friction of thrusting during intercourse. Be sure you are well lubricated and you should be okay.
The other thing that may hurt a bit is if your hymen has never been stretched through tampon use, masturbation etc. The best thing for you right now is to read books and research more about sex until you become comfortable with it and your questions are answered.
It's the only way to erase your fears and feel confident about it for the future. Once you learn more about it you'll be armed with all the information to make the right decisions about sex when the time comes to have it. The right time just isn't now.
If you think your current boyfriend will be "the one" in the future you might want to tell him you just aren't ready for sex now but want to research it with him and get both your concerns out in the open and talk about your fears.
If you cannot talk about it or confront questions and fears about it alone or together you won't be ready to do it either now or in the future. You have to communicate with your potential sex partner and go over these things before you ever decide to have sex. It keeps you safe, happy and healthy.
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i am saving my self for marrige and my bf doesnt want to wait until we get married. he sometimes puts me agasnt a wall or kisses me and doesnt let go. this things exite me alot and im afraid they might lead to me giving in.
Is this normal for me to get exited sexually at such things? (link)
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It's natural to be turned on and excited sexually from this kind of behavior that the two of you have recently been engaged in.
As far as giving in goes you have to know inside your own mind what doesn't feel right or where your boundaries are set. If things get hot and heavy and you think it may lead to sex gently push hin away. tell him you are not ready for sex yet and stop your make out session completely.
Any time you think you might give in remind yourself how you feel about wanting to remain a virgin until marraige and gently push him away or off of you. Once you do that once or twice he will have learned how far he can take things without it crossing boundaries you have set up for the relationship and about sex.
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thanks for the advice! seems like
your really kno what your talking about
now can you tell me more about them
devices that keeps a boy erect? or what
ever you were saying???
thanks alot
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It's a small plastic ring that goes around the base of his penis and it traps the blood from flowing out of a penis during sex. It's dirt cheap usually a buck or two. Most condom shops sell it as do the stores you have to be 18 r older to enter. Just tell the sales-person what you need and they'll be able to assist you as it's an item they sell oodles of.
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wow.. so i've tried to have
sex with my boyfriend 2 times already
and both times he failed to get
hard. so we never finished the deed!
i feel like its my fault.. i dont
know what to do.
what can i do to get him more
excited?
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It's not your fault or his as both of you are scared about doing this for the first time. With guys being nervous can affect the ability to get and maintain an erection for sex or even the ability to feel anything or climax and release semen.
You should talk to him and reassure him that he needs to relaz and it's okay to feel tense or excited here because you feel the same. I would then work your way up to the actual act talking eachother through it and see what happens.
Now, I don't know what the law says in your area about entering stores that sell exclusively condoms and lubricants before you are 18 but if you legally can there are cheap devices that they sell that are designed to trap the blood in the penis if a male is having trouble staying or getting erect for sex.
Otherwise, if you are not 18 just talking him through things at a slow pace and working up to actual sex will probably get him to relax and make things easier. Bottom line, tell him how nervous you are too and just joke about it. It's supposed to be fun not intimidating.
Communication is key! I think you should ask him what he is afraid about or tense over? He might have a fear of getting you pregnant or of disease or any such thing or maybe even strange myths about the vagina having teeth or being able to trap his penis etc. Who knows? you just have to ask him. nce you talk him through things I'm sure it will all go smoothly.
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Ok so I am 16 and I'm losing my mind. I feel like I can't remember some simple things like where I left something I was using the day before. I know that you could loose your short term memory later on in life but not now! I am going out of my mind looking for this ring I lost. It is very special to me (a gift) and I really can't remember anything about it. I realized I lost it about a week ago and when I went to retrace my steps, I couldn't remember the last time that I had the ring. I can remember things that happened years ago, as clear as day, but why can't I find this ring? Is there something wrong with me? I don't know what to do anymore because I'm beginning to loose other stuff and then I go out of my mind looking for it. Please help. (link)
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Is there any chance you might have started a new medication recently? The reason I ask is that some medications can at first affect your ability to remember anything at all until the dose is right.
If you are not on medication and just having trouble remembering what you did with something it's normal. We all have experienced it. My tip for you would be to get a little box or if you choose a shoe box and put your valuables and other things such as keys or stuff you don't want to misplace directly into it.
Then put that under your bed or on a shelf and always return the items to it. What I also do is use my parent's file cabinet and create a file with my name on it where I put bills, concert tickets etc and any valuables in a box at the back. This ensures you never loose anything again of importance.
I know your ring will turn up again. Don't stress about it but try cleaning your room again and look to see if it rolled off a shelf or under your bed if you took it off while sitting on it.
Perhaps the key thing that will help you locate it is to ask yourself what are the reasons I would take this off? What would i have been doing? Where and or what are the only places I would take it off my fingers? Start with that and start to look again and ask others where they last remember seeing you with it.
Definitely be sure to check out bathrooms or ledges on the shower or tub where soap goes etc as you may have taken it off in the shower and never looked there. Stranger things have happened when an item is misplaced. Good luck!
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13/f
ok, a couple weeks ago i went to a party in miami.
i used to live there so i knew a few people there.
but there was this one guy that i didnt know.
and i was dancing with him all night.
before me and my friend left i made out with him.
EVERYONE knows about it.
even at his school.
im going out with him now.
and he was the first guy i ever made out with.
but, do you think im a slut?
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The dictionary definition of slut is prostitute, whore etc. or someone who sleeps around a lot usually with random partners they met an example is one-night stands. So, no you are far from being a slut.
What you did was consensual and normal behavior between two people who are now boyfriend and girlfriend. If the school is a abuzz about this they'll soon turn their attention to something else if neither your boyfriend or yourself react to this.
The people spreading the story around will stop when they realize it doesn't phase you. Most people who hear others telling such stories just brush it off as usually those telling them were nowhere near the party or people in the story. It's all fragments and second hand knowledge that most people won't be caught up in or label as BS in their minds.
The key thing is you must not react to people spreading this around as they'll stop when they see it doesn't affect you. After all, why would people care so much if he's your boyfriend? If someone nothers you face to face about this you can say "He's my boyfriend"
Walk away or point that out to anyone who brings it up in your presence. That will spread like wildfire and your problem could be solved. There's really not a story for them to be interested in if you made out with him and started a relationship after.
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How do you know if you have had an orgasim or not? My boyfriend had fingered me before, and it has felt great but I don't know when I have an orgasim or not. I know when I do it myself sometimes, I get this chilling feeling in through my legs and back. Is that when I get one, or does it feel different than that? (link)
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Everyone discribes an orgasm differently. Essentially, what happens is that your muscles below start to tighten up and then you feel a release in a series of little ripples that arepleasurable or one big one like that.
Judging from the feelings you are mentioning when you are by yourself I would say you are experiencing them as that's indeed what does and can happen during one. It can feel more intense than that too.
As far as wanting to achieve one with your boyfriend don't get all concerned or stressed about it. It happens naturally and getting stressed or upset that it isn't or hasn't will actually make it so you don't experience it at all.
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i have a boyfiend, but we never talk. we dont even say hi in the hall, we just kinda smile at eachother. i like him alot and i no he likes me, so thats not the problem.
he is i guess really shy and im kinda shy too so we both don't really have the courage to go upand talk to eachother. i really want to like after classes and stuff and i try to get myself too but i just can't!
how do i get my self to talk to him and once we say hi what should we talk about? please help! (link)
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You need to understand that he is as scared of approaching you as you are of him. Both of you are sweating bullets here for no reason. It's obvious you both like eachother but are too shy and scared about being boyfriend/girlfriend as you are both not experienced with relationships.
He might be wondering right now as you are why the hell is she not talking to me or asking me to hang out? I'm supposed to be her boyfriend right? or vice-versa.
What you need to do is really simple. Walk up to him and say "You know it's okay to talk to me silly. I'm not going to bite you." Then hand him a piece of paper with your number, e-mail and IM and tell him "Let's chat online tonight." Once you start chatting invite him to hang out at your place on the weekend or see a movie.
That takes care of it right there. All you have to do is use the one line in person and invite him to chat online later and ask him to come over.
From there you can develop your relationship and learn to loosen up with eachother. You'll have to if you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend because if you cannot interact what's the point? There would be no kissing, cuddling, normal stuff otherwise.
Think of it this way you "want him" but you have to go after him to get this relationship going. When it comes to talking to a guy you like and you feel shy treat it like you were talking to your friend or anyone else. Visualize talking to a friend of yours as you talk and just blurt out the lines above. You'll do fine and the relationship will be right on traget.
As I mean, and to be brutally honest what's the point in being called boyfriend/girlfriend otherwise? You just have to get in there and blurt this stuff out as it's something both of you want. Until you make a move he's not going to either. You can do it!
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I love music. I don't really like rap or country or pop though. But i like stuff like, bullet for my valentine, underoath, silverstein, etc. Can yoou name some good songs? pLease? (link)
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I think you should give John Mayer's Continnum a try. It's jazz crossed with blues and the lyrics are memorable and quite powerful. Check out his Web site http://johnmayer.com/
Have you heard of Buck65? If not he's a really cool guy (I've spoken with him on Myspace) who is writes songs that are more like free verse poems or rants or spoken word set to music. It's much cooler than it sounds, trust me. Check out buck65.com His latest Cd is called "Secret House Against The World"
Also wonderful are The Barenaked Ladies. They have really upbeat, infectious and quirky songs. You might recall their hit song "One Week" and "Brian Wilson" as both got heavy airplay when they released their best album Stunt in 1998. Ironically, their new CD just came out called "Barenaked Ladies Are Men" this past Tuesday. It's quite good.
BNL have their own Web site at www.bnlmusic.com and a Myspace site where you can listen to 5 tracks off of the new CD at www.myspace.com/barenakedladies
Their music stays with you especially the lyrics. If you ever get to see them in your city do so as it's quite an experience unlike any other concert you may have been to. They're also known for " If i Had A Million Dollars. Fans used to pelt them with Macaroni and Cheese flavor packets during the line "and if we did have a million dollars we wouldn't have to eat Kraft Dinner (macaroni in a box). Anyhoo they're fun and I think you'll like their songs.
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I have always been so scared of needles. I have a mild blood condition so I've had to get blood taken a few times in my life. That and shots, I do not remember ever cooperating with the doctor getting it done. Today I had to get a booster shot at the doctor's, which I honestly didn't feel at all... but when I heard I had to get one I was freaking out inside. I hold in all my fear until I see the needle, then I am just completely overcome by fear and I burst into tears. I refused to get a shot today until my mom walked out of the room embarassed and I felt bad so I did it. When I get blood taken I stall with the nurses for as long as I can. It's not the pain that bothers me, but I just can't handle it. I don't think I was ever traumatized or I would remember it pretty clearly, correct? My mom always gets mad at me and says I embarass her when I do this, but I can't help it. Today she was angry at me and I didn't know what to tell her. How can I get over this, or at least explain this to her so she understands it, if I don't even understand it myself? (link)
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This brings to mind a funny story about me having a fear of the same thing you do. I was probably six or seven at the time and the nurse and my mother were doing all they could to keep me still enough to get the booster shot done.
While my arms may have been held down my feet sure as hell were not. I kicked that nurse so hard in the gut. Afterwards, some other kid went in for the same thing and having warped humor even back then I told my mother "How much do you want to bet he's getting a shot too?"
The reason I tell you this is maybe humor is your key here. Think of a funny story like this one or something that makes you chuckle, turn your head and it will be over. avoid thinking about the needle but put your focus on something like your favorite music, book etc and even talk to the nurse about that or what you are doing at school.
When you are at home try to remind yourself that when you had your last shot that it didn't hurt. Go in knowing it won't and it will be over really fast. Another tip I can give you here is talk to the nurse and explain your phobia and ask her to use the same size and kind of needle they use on children as it will not hurt you.
Trust me, I had an IV in once and that's what they did as I wanted no part of a needle period. They have special needles for babies and kids. Ask about that as I know from having an IV go in that they did that for me at least.
Also, are these vaccines and booster shots really considered neccessary by you or your parents? If you are freaked out by them you don't need to have them or suffer through it. Legally, you can go to your health department office and get an exemption form (it will say for religious reasons) and no school can question it.
So, after that you'll never be asked to update an immunization record or take a shot. This info is 100% verifiable as I had the form applied as a kid after that story I related. You did mention a certain medical condition where you occasional need a shot--that you'll still have to do but when it comes to the other shots that may not be needed or your school asks for you have an out through an exemption form.
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ok, I have a guy friend who I'm pretty close with, and he's stopped jerking off as part of a little quest to see what he can do. I've only talked to him on the internet lately, but:
he's become overly aggressive and easily annoyed. it's good to talk to him, but not like this.
Any views on this? I can't narrow it down to a specific question, but I just want to get him in a state where I can talk to him where he isn't bouncing off the fuckin' walls. Thanks D: (link)
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Well, whether your friend still masturbates or not is really not your concern an is his issue to grapple with. The guy could be surly about a variety of things that you don't know about that are affecting or were affecting him that day.
If his attitude continued where he was nasty towards you and others I would ask him what's bothering you? He will likely tell you and things will soon be resolved.
If the topic of masturbation should ever come up again you should mention to him that it's natural and that nearly all men and boys as well as girls and women do it unless they have religious reasons not to. Point out it's safe and not a sin and that doctors have even said so.
I mean, why try to quit something that is completely natural and everyone does but doesn't talk about? Clearly he is ashamed of it or himself and need not be. If it comes up again just sk him why quit?
Find out his reasons and set him straight on the subject. The thing is unless he brings this up to you again it's his private business to deal with and should not be brought up by you as it may embarass him otherwise and get him angry for real for trying to discuss a private topic.
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ok i have acne and i tryed ever face wash all it does is make me face brake out more and i have no money to get a face docter and i wanna know how i can llok better and what kinda face wash works and i have blonde hair and brown eyes is pink eyeshadow and black eyeliner good for my makeup (link)
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Hi,
You will not need a dermatologist just to get a prescription for acne medication. Your regular doctor can look at your acne and either provide a sample tube of medication or a prescription for some.
He/she would always be the one to have to refer you to a specialist as you cannot get that kind of appointment on your own. I would call your doctor's office and explain to the receptionist exactly why you are coming in and set an appointment.
The reason the over the counter remedies you can buy are not working for you is because they contain no medication at all as an active ingrediant. It's the medication that eats away at the pimples and prevents them from spreading or even forming.
The only other things I can recommend is washing your face twice a day with soap and water as you have been and to also keep your hair which contains oils that can cause zits away from your face.
Bottom lne: In order to be rid of the acne for good you need something a lot stronger that can eat away at the pimples and prevent them from forming. You can only get that in a prescription cream that will burn the acne right off in about a week.
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ok well this really isnt about sex but i didnt know what it was really classified as..
anyway well on Valentines day a guy and i were talking and walking around town in the dark. Well we stopped in the park and were sitting on the stage, he asked me if i'd flash him. I told him no a million times but then he was like ok well i will kiss you if you do it. Well it was like my first kiss and i really wanted it soo well i agreed, We kissed and after i was thinking about it and said i dont know if i can do this soo he stuck his hand down my shirt and pretty much took my boob out and looked at it ((awkward (SP?)moment))then he put it back and then we got up and well we were just like glaring at each other in the eyes and well he kinda came at me real fast and kissed madeout with me.
He told his best friend about it and well now im scared the whole school will find out and i will be called a slut..
do you think that makes me a slut or a whore or anything like that.
I regret it soo much!
he also told me that he cared about me and was thinkging about going out with me..and would tell me the next day but he didnt and now he wants me to do even more and i really dont wanna do it
what should i do.?
and does what i did make me a slut? (link)
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The word slut means either prostitute or a woman that sleeps around. As your schoolmates do not know the proper meaning of the word it may be easier not to be upset when and if they try to apply it to you.
What happened here was a situation where it was consentual for him to see your body and to makeout as you didn't stop him. It seems innocent enough and between two people who knew what was happening and could have stopped it.
You did nothing wrong that night nor did he as you gave permission to him to kiss you etc. None of this makes you a slut and I can guarentee there are classmates of yours who might poke fun that have done things far worse than you have with boys and vice-versa guys with girls.
What you did was in my opinion normal adolescent behavior and explortion. It's too bad this first kiss etc happened with a creep like him who cannot keep his mouth shut. The best thing to do if someone brings it up to you say "Where and who did you hear that from? Listen to their answer and walk away.
Usually, when it comes to school people who hear stories from the guy who had a romantic or sexual encounter with someone else believe that he never did.
Almost always the guy who tells stories about a girl he was with was never with anyone. So, with that in mind don't react to what your classmates or him say to you as the majority will think he's lying and the others won't care with a small percentage of people who might and or are envious etc.
You'll be fine as you id nothing wrong. As long as you do not react to anything that people bring up they'll soon move on to other things that do not include having their nose in your business.
Bottom line: If this comes up around school ignore it and do not add fuel to the fire. They'll stop when they see they cannot get a rise out of you.
So what if this rumor is spread around school? It will not kill you in the end or change who you are but it sure as hell will do one thing and one thing only it will change your male friend as nobody likes anyone who kisses and tells.
He will be undatable after that I'm sure. If the rumor spreads you can make him look like the creep he is by telling girls you know exactly what he is like and admit you made a huge blunder with him so he becomes unpopular real fast for kissing and telling.
Finally, he may not go about telling another soul besides his friend and the issue may have died there with nobody bringing it up around school.
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HI! Last night my boyfriend fingered me. I have been fingered before but after last night it really hurts. He was very aggresive, I like that but my private still hurts. It looked like I might have bleed a little bit, what does this mean? (link)
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Youch! If you are bleeding, feeling sore or hurting after a fingering and it was supposed to be pleasurable than something clearly isn't right and he is is being far too rough here.
You have to learn how to communicate directly to him what you want him to do, how fast, how rough etc versus what you don't want him to do as he is performing this activity with you.
He's a guy and trust me at his age he doesn't have much experience with touching females in a sexual way nor does he know what is too soft, hard or rough.
You have to tell or show him exactly what you like, how rough is too rough and where to touch before he begins fingering you. You also have to develop an understanding here that if you say "ouch, stop, quit, or that hurts that he stops completely.
You also have to tell him that your vulva and clitorial area is ultra sensitive much unlike his penis is and that if he's touching you in a sexual manner that he has to be very gentle around that area.
As far as rough stuff goes and liking that sometimes too much of something like that will eventually lead to soreness and maybe bleeding as you have to establish here how rough is too rough or you're going to continue to inflict pain in that area.
The bottom line is you have to educate him about all of this before you try this activity again or you're going to wind up bleeding and feeling hurt again. I take it that he has no clue he hurt you at this point unless you told him recently.
Communication before, during and after such activity is crucial so both parties can enjoy a sexual experience and not wind up sore, bleeding or hurt as that's not pleasurable is it? After all what is the point of doing this activity?
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I'm really questioning my mental health here...
13/f
Ok so...
There used to be this guy I was talking to about things & I liked him a lot. I actually fell in love with him. Anyway, I'm not still in love with him. But...everytime I said the wrong thing or felt guilty about what I said I would pray to God and ask him to tell him that I didn't mean what I said until I got to the obsessive point where I kind of felt like I was talking to him through my mind...like some weird physcho thing...
And there was this little voice like pretending to be him and talk to me back...maybe because I was lonely???
& Then i would keep doing it with other ppl until i got to this point...-
where i started to think really erotic thoughts and then the next person that came into my mind i felt like i was sending them those pictures of erotica after i blinked...
like emailing someone's mind????
i think i have a problem!!!!!
help!! (link)
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It sounds as though you do have an issue here that you should definitely look into with your doctor. I am hesitant to say this is part of a mental illness as it may not be and I'm not a doctor nor is anyone on here for that matter.
However, having said that I remember when a family member of mine dealt with a and mental illness that they thought they were reading people's thoughts, sending messages or pictures to them telepathically from their head to the other person's and hearing voices back and forth. As well they thought they were talking with them through their own mind without uttering real words.
At the same time my relative was also having delusional thoughts, their thoughts also raced through their heads, they made impulsive decisions, spoke super fast and were gradually becoming delusional to the point they needed medical attention.
I think you ought to tell your parents about what is going on here. If they brush it off see your doctor on your own as it could save you a lot of problems later and they could assess whether you have mental health issues or not.
Do not fear the hospital either as they will make you well again if you must go there. Here's hoping this is not a problem, though we both agree it likely is.
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16/f
my boyfriend of 2 year's birthday is coming up soon and i want to get him somethng nice. he's going off to college this coming up year anf i was thinking about getting him something for there but his parents are doing that. i want to get him something nice. any suggestions? the price should be between $100-$300.
thanks.
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Hi,
The fact of the matter is that you know your boyfriend better than anyone from here that replies to your question. What is something he has longed for or hinted about? If he's been wanting something badly and doesn't have the money for it maybe you can get it for him or give him money to go towards it.
If you are not sure what to get him ask his mother if there is something he has been asking for lately or if she knows of something he really needs at university that you can buy for him.
It's always the best bet if stumped to enlist help of your partner's mother or siblings (provided they can keep secrets) with this. Gift cards also work for his favorite stores if you cannot come up with something.
If he likes music a lot and doesn't have an Ipod perhaps you can buy him one and or a gift card for $100 at a record store chain, same thing with movies.
The best thing to do is talk to his mother, siblings or your parents about what you should get him and get some ideas from them as they know him as much as you do. I'm sure they can think of something or spark your creativity that would make the perfect gift. As we don't know him there's not much advice givers can tell you beyond that,
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Currently I am working in a Govt sector bank as an Asst Manager(Systems)for the past 8 months in India. I am an MCA(MAsters in Computer Application) by qualification and have passed out in June 2006. My problem is,
1. Though the bank gives me good perks and facilities, compared to the private IT industry salary is much lower.Also since it is the Govt sector, increments are meagre and promotions will be few and far between.
2.The learning curve in the bank is not much and I feel that I am in one hand, forgetting what i had learned during MCA, and on the other hand not gaining enough knowledge in the bank.
3.I am in a different city from my hometown. Situation at home demands my presence at my home.
So with all the above three situations I am in a dilemma about what to do. Sometimes I feel like quitting my present job but I dont know if that will be a sensible decision on my part. Please help me in taking a decision. (link)
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I think you have answered your own question here but just need affirmation that your instincts are right. Let's face it, you are not happy in this job and that's not about to change any time soon.
Your opportunity to advance and excel at what you are good it is next to nil. You also feel that everything you have learned and have a degree and talent for never comes into play and won't down the road with you forgetting some of your training already. T
The only thing that is good here is the salary but it cannot buy you happiness. You also said you need to be near home because of your family situation and that this job takes you away from your home town and family.
What should you do? I would start searching for work in the field you are trained for near to home. Once I found something I would quit this dead end job and move on and be happy and actually see my family as much as I needed.
Bottom line, the job just isn't right for you as you have qualifications that go above and beyond it and you cannot ever advance from there because of the way things are structured.
You need to leave that company and get on with your career and find what you ultimately were meant to do. I wouldn't leave this job until you found another one.
Having said that, if you left now you would have severance pay and depending upon the laws where you are unemployment cheques until you found another job. If you really feel you need out quitting before finding another job may be your best option if you emotionally cannot take the enviornment you are in at work any longer.
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Okay Well Im having my birthday party soon and i want it to be a dance party.. my parents said that we might not be able to get the dance hall that i want.. so what are other ideas for a good party?? btw im 13/f.. thanks in advance!
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If your parents end up renting a banquet hall and get you a DJ for a dance party there's not much else you need to plan except for the music, the cake and what your friends will be eating before the dance while they are at the actual hall. Set aside a place for presents and you're set.
If your parents cannot get you the dance hall I recommend going to an indoor go-kart track and buying a party package there where all your guests can complete laps around the track or race agsinst you.
This is quickly becoming the rage with teenagers of both sexes. It's less expensive than a banquet hall. What you could also do is hold your own murder mystery party where the guests are suspects in a murder. This tends to work well with teens.
You should also look into places where you can play paintball or laser tag with your friends. Movie theatres also have party packages for kids and teens where you buy a package for X number of guests and yourself and see a film of your choice with cake and lunch served in between.
Also, you should look at a new game called Scene It that you can get at a Toys R Us that tests people's knowledge of pop cultre. You will end up playing that all night as it's quite fun and easy to get swept up in.
I don't know what city you are from but perhaps there is a play or concert going on with your favorite singer/band and you can phone the ticket outlet and arrange seats for a group of 20 that your parents would pay for.
Anyway, these are just ideas. I hope that they can help you or inspire you to be creative as well.
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Okay, so I got fingered for my first time.
Problem is, I didn't even feel it.
Like I mean, you know how when you put in a tampon, you aren't supposed to feel it?
Well are you supposed to feel getting fingered? (link)
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Yes, you are supposed to feel it when being fingered. You should have felt warm, wet and a tingling sensation and perhaps orgasm as well. The problem is your boyfriend has no idea when it comes to female anatomy where and how to touch your private parts when doing this to you.
What you need to do is guide your boyfriend here when he tries this with you again and show him where he should be touching, rubbing etc and that way things will work out better.
You have to communicate with him about this or he's going to be totally clueless poking and prodding around your vagina wondering why you aren't enjoying it.
You have to show him what feels good to you. Generally, you'll have a good sense what feels good from your own sexual exploration and or masturbation.
Don't be embarassed to tell him either that he's doing it all wrong when he is in the process of doing it wrong. You'll just be wasting your time and sitting there frustrated at him when you are supposed to be feeling good.
Most people put the emphasis on clitoral stimulation here but not always. This could be a reason you didn't feel anything then again some girls find such stimulation too strong or do not feel anything from it. Keep talking to your boyfriend and guide him until you learn what is pleasurable for you and a comfortable situation for both of you.
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