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Slut?
ok well this really isnt about sex but i didnt know what it was really classified as..
anyway well on Valentines day a guy and i were talking and walking around town in the dark. Well we stopped in the park and were sitting on the stage, he asked me if i'd flash him. I told him no a million times but then he was like ok well i will kiss you if you do it. Well it was like my first kiss and i really wanted it soo well i agreed, We kissed and after i was thinking about it and said i dont know if i can do this soo he stuck his hand down my shirt and pretty much took my boob out and looked at it ((awkward (SP?)moment))then he put it back and then we got up and well we were just like glaring at each other in the eyes and well he kinda came at me real fast and kissed madeout with me.
He told his best friend about it and well now im scared the whole school will find out and i will be called a slut..
do you think that makes me a slut or a whore or anything like that.
I regret it soo much!
he also told me that he cared about me and was thinkging about going out with me..and would tell me the next day but he didnt and now he wants me to do even more and i really dont wanna do it
what should i do.?
and does what i did make me a slut?
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no this does not make you a slut. this is really unfair for you though. since he pressured you into flashing him, he will pressure you into doing something more. i wouldnt go out with this guy.
hope that helped :-D
~stephi
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You are not s lut he is the slut is you were a slut you would want sex 24/7 so dont worry and if you dont want it again stay away from him. Hope this Helps. God Bless
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no it doesnt make you a slut...and if i were u i would go out wit em be4 you go any futher wit em. that happened to me be4 except in a diff waybut this guy just wanted pics (bad ones) nd he talked me into it then i regreted doing it...sorry im like tellin you my story..just dont do it b/c i totaly regret what i did..just if he says sweet things you gotta tell urself dont give in untill he ask you out
HOPED IT HELPED!!
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no your not a slut but hes using you. so don't go out with him.
ex_oh
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no it doesn't. but if you don't want to do anything with this boy then don't do it. stick up for your self. if he says he wants to have relationship with you and hasn't started yet. he is lieing he is just trying to get in your pants. so tell him you don't want to anything with him cuz your not in a relationship, & if he does ask you out then tell him you want to wait till your comfortable to do anything with him, if he respects that then he wants you for you, if he doesn't he just wants to get in your pants and feel you up.//but don't ever think you are a slut bC of something you did. girl life is rough, even if a roomer does start that you are, just keep in mind that your not, you know what happened and you know you didn't let it go to far.
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The word slut means either prostitute or a woman that sleeps around. As your schoolmates do not know the proper meaning of the word it may be easier not to be upset when and if they try to apply it to you.
What happened here was a situation where it was consentual for him to see your body and to makeout as you didn't stop him. It seems innocent enough and between two people who knew what was happening and could have stopped it.
You did nothing wrong that night nor did he as you gave permission to him to kiss you etc. None of this makes you a slut and I can guarentee there are classmates of yours who might poke fun that have done things far worse than you have with boys and vice-versa guys with girls.
What you did was in my opinion normal adolescent behavior and explortion. It's too bad this first kiss etc happened with a creep like him who cannot keep his mouth shut. The best thing to do if someone brings it up to you say "Where and who did you hear that from? Listen to their answer and walk away.
Usually, when it comes to school people who hear stories from the guy who had a romantic or sexual encounter with someone else believe that he never did.
Almost always the guy who tells stories about a girl he was with was never with anyone. So, with that in mind don't react to what your classmates or him say to you as the majority will think he's lying and the others won't care with a small percentage of people who might and or are envious etc.
You'll be fine as you id nothing wrong. As long as you do not react to anything that people bring up they'll soon move on to other things that do not include having their nose in your business.
Bottom line: If this comes up around school ignore it and do not add fuel to the fire. They'll stop when they see they cannot get a rise out of you.
So what if this rumor is spread around school? It will not kill you in the end or change who you are but it sure as hell will do one thing and one thing only it will change your male friend as nobody likes anyone who kisses and tells.
He will be undatable after that I'm sure. If the rumor spreads you can make him look like the creep he is by telling girls you know exactly what he is like and admit you made a huge blunder with him so he becomes unpopular real fast for kissing and telling.
Finally, he may not go about telling another soul besides his friend and the issue may have died there with nobody bringing it up around school.
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he sounds like a real asshole. excuse my language. i can tell right off the bat that he's the type of guy that only wants one thing. and i`m pretty sure you know what that is. he just wants to get in your pants. if he cared about you, he wouldn't have pressured you to flash him. don't ever let a guy get the best of you. if you don`t want to do something, be assertive about it. he has no right to make you do anything you don`t want to do. you have to make that clear to him.
-kayla
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I really don't think this makes you a slut at all. The guy sounds like a real jerk. I mean, he grabbed your boob out of your shirt. What a freak. You couldn't have helped that. Now, If you were to say, "hey let me show you my boobs" then I would've had reason to think you were a slut. Don't worrie too much about what other people think. If they can't find something to talk about, they will make something up anyways.
Hope I helped. =]
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No, you really didn't do anything. This guy sounds like a creep. Just forget about it and if people start talking about it, just deny that it ever happend. Then find another guy who will treat you right
Kate
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not at all! you didnt even do anything slutty. it wasnt your fault at all. this guy sounds like a complete asshole. no boy should EVER treat you like that or disrespect you like that after you told him no. stay away from him, please.
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