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gettin excited!
wow.. so i've tried to have
sex with my boyfriend 2 times already
and both times he failed to get
hard. so we never finished the deed!
i feel like its my fault.. i dont
know what to do.
what can i do to get him more
excited?
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Both of you probably just need to relax. Turn the lights off and give each other a full body massage. Be very sensual about it. Before having sex, try going down on him to get him excited. That usually works.
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It's not your fault or his as both of you are scared about doing this for the first time. With guys being nervous can affect the ability to get and maintain an erection for sex or even the ability to feel anything or climax and release semen.
You should talk to him and reassure him that he needs to relaz and it's okay to feel tense or excited here because you feel the same. I would then work your way up to the actual act talking eachother through it and see what happens.
Now, I don't know what the law says in your area about entering stores that sell exclusively condoms and lubricants before you are 18 but if you legally can there are cheap devices that they sell that are designed to trap the blood in the penis if a male is having trouble staying or getting erect for sex.
Otherwise, if you are not 18 just talking him through things at a slow pace and working up to actual sex will probably get him to relax and make things easier. Bottom line, tell him how nervous you are too and just joke about it. It's supposed to be fun not intimidating.
Communication is key! I think you should ask him what he is afraid about or tense over? He might have a fear of getting you pregnant or of disease or any such thing or maybe even strange myths about the vagina having teeth or being able to trap his penis etc. Who knows? you just have to ask him. nce you talk him through things I'm sure it will all go smoothly.
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This may sound wierd but jerk him off then ride him hard
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