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I'm a 19 year old army wife. My husband and I have been married for 5 months and he just recently got deployed to Iraq. It's our first deployment and it's the longest we have ever been apart. He will be gone for 15 months. I was handling the deployment fairly well but recently I have been feeling depressed and I have been getting sick alot more and all I want to do is sleep. Everyone keeps telling me to do stuff but I can't think of anything to do I started scrapbooking but it got boring. Does anybody have any ideas on how to keep myself from being so depressed?

I am sorry that you and your husband are being seperated. Its hard.

But think about what you like to do. Maybe you could go to a place like the ymca and take up exercising everyday. Or maybe do yoga. Yoga is hard but i hear once you get used to it its very relaxing.

-hayley

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Ok, here's the thing. At school I never be myself because honestly, I act really crazy at home and I'm afraid people are going to think I'm weird. What if they start judging me, or they don't like me? Should I just forget what they think and start being myself? And if I do, what if they start laughing at me?

If you spend your whole life going based on what others might think of you, have you ever thought of what you might think of yourself. I say be yourself. And you know if they do start to judge you, just ignore them, or tell them off whichever you prefer.. ;) Its not like they dont act wild...

-hayley

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so my bra size is only a 32A and i thought that a push up bra but my mom and my friends said it doesnt do anything if you have nothing or not much to push up haha so i was wondering if this was true or if it will actually help make look bigger

Push up bras work! they make them seem perkier and fuller.. haha...they have these bras at walmart that are like silicon and water bras that make them look bigger....i hear they work.

-hayley

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what foods should i eat that will only enlarge my butt?

peanut butter.

-hayley

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Hey guys.

It's Valentine's Day again. And I'm pissed off. Why?

I used to be such a tomboy, lol. I would fight people, unfortunately. Looking back, I was such a disgrace, and I'm so glad I got anger management.

I'm still a bit of a tomboy, in the respect that I love seeing those gory action movies, but at the same time, I'm obsessed with fashion. Anyways, lol.

I just feel like, as usual, that guys never want me. I'm not girly enough, or soft spoken enough. I don't have a bad rep anymore, I dress pretty well. I have friends.

I just feel inadequate; that no one will ever be proud to call me their girlfriend. The guys at my school, they only date cookie-cutter girls.

Once, a friend described me as being "You're just too much. You're always up to something?" Could that be the reason people aren't into me? Should I force myself to be like everyone else? Guys don't even want to talk to me. Some have liked me before, but they are embarrassed to tell anyone. I could see it in their eyes.

I know they say "Just wait". I can't wait any longer! I want to know what it's like!

I'm concerned about the upcoming Prom. I don't have a date, and I probably won't.

well dont change yourself...im telling you if you do you will regret it later...Dont ever EVER change yourself for anybody...doesnt matter what the reason is...

And another thing, if a guy is too embarrased to admit that he likes you, then he probably aint worth your time any way. He is probably some immachure jerk. You dont ever deserve that.

And i go through the same thing honey. Except all the guys want to be my friend. Im just half and half. Half girly half tomboy, now see i love the gory scary movies, matter of fact i find them histarical. I dont know why but i do. But i also love clothes and make up. But i met this one guy over one summer and he gave me my first kiss and i was thinking man what does he see in me? But the reality is honey is that there will be a guy who wont be afraid. But you cant sit and wait for him. So i say that you make yourself viewable. Mind you, there is that possibility of getting hurt, but why dont you ask some of your guy friends if they would like to go with you, or some random hottie. ;)

-hayley

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I like to curl my hair but whenever it does it turns out terrible. My hair is kinda thick so I don't know if that is it. But when I do curl it nice it comes out, I use hairspray too. I don't know what I should do about it. But if any of you guys have advice on come cute ways to curl hair then let me know or if you have any idea how to fix my hair thanks. Oh if it helps any I am 13/f and I use a curling iron. Thanks!

well try to hairspray hair and then curl it....But if i was you i would try to use those rollers...I would sleep on them too...it gets them really really curly...but leave them in all night okay...

-hayley

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http://s64.photobucket.com/albums/h184/HAIRWEARfiles/LADY%20hair/LONGER%20THAN%20SHOULDER/LIGHT%20COLOR/?action=view¤t=cd93ffba.jpg

^^how do you get bangs to go like that?
cuz i straighten mine but they don't get that fringe-y look no matter what kind of product i put in

also should i put the product in when my hair is wet or dry?
thank you (:

You straighten them, then fill them full of hairspray and then tease them.

-hayley

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16/f! My aunt Linda and her son john live with us and they both treat me like dirt and i can't stand them. For example they are messy and one time some food spilled on their carpet and they blamed me. Then once they got porn downloaded on their computer and said i looked at it. Then one time me and my mom were fighting and my aunt linda was like "she is way to fat and lazy to run away" because i jumped out my window and i no this be cuz m brother told me and he wont lie. Neither my mom or dad will do anything bout her and ive tried asking her y she's so mean to me and now shes meaner. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!

Well i am very outspoken...I just say whats on my mind...So if it was me, i would probably say "Well Linda, i cant take it anymore! Its not my fault that your son is a porn addict and this was my house first so let me tell you something. This blame game is gonna stop!" Just show her and him where they and you stand....

But if you want the classic old advice....Just sit down and talk to your parents about how you are getting treated and how you are feeling.

-hayley

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Well my best friend is popular, and really pretty, but she doesnt think so or just likes to be reassured. She is always like im so ugly, noone likes me, im fat, etc. But the thing is, a lot of guys like her, they think shes pretty, and every time i start to like a guy, they start to like my bff I really started to like this guy, like i would do anything for him. I was planning on telling him and my bff this weekend, but he had always had a thing for my bff. Well the day b4 i was going to tell her, she imed me, "OMG "Chris" (code for guy i like) just told me he liked me!!!"

She didnt know i liked him so i told her, oh cool, and shes like i like another guy but i think i might like "chris" too. I was crushed but i didnt know what to say. SHe could get any guy she wants, and i cant even get one guy. I am really sad about this. What can i do to make her stop saying shes not pretty, but make her not think im mad at her? And how do i tell her i like "chris" when she likes him, well KINDA likes him, even though i REALYL like him? and i cant just say, oh well i like chris, its not that simple. Thanks 14/f!

well really it is as simple as you said it. You know how they say the truth will set you free? Well... just tell her that you like him, and believe it or not there are guys that like her and she is pretty...(But hint to you, guys find girls like that a big turn off. They want self confident girls... ;).....But just tell her what you told us!!!! You will feel way WAY better! and tell him how you feel about him.....

Maybe he could like you but think that you not like him so he went to your BFF....just give it a shot...

-hayley

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okay, so you know that thin line of hairs on your stomach? i'm a girl, btw. and so my friend was like, "just shave it, that's what i did." so i did. and now my stomachs all hairy. like you can't notice unless you look really close or like rub all on it. haha. but yea, can i do anything to get rid of it or something?

Well you should know before you shave any other part of your body ;) that it will just grow back darker and quicker...

but if you want it to go away if it like gets out of control size then use nair or just shave it again.

But if it is barely noticeable just leave it alone. One shaving shouldnt hurt it too much so just let it be.

-hayley

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I have 2 ferret's; a boy & a girl. They both hack alot, and cough. I've bought some stuff to help it but it doesn't seem to work. Can this get serious, and if so what will cure it?

An occasional cough might be caused by dust or swallowed fur, and can be treated with a bit of cat hairball preventative.
A cough from a cold can be treated with children's cough medicine; ask your vet for a recommendation and dosage.
A persistent cough is most likely a respiratory infection, probably viral.
A fever, yellow or green discharge from the eyes or nose, or congestion indicate a bacterial infection. In either case, see a vet. Another possibility is cardiomyopathy. Which is a heart disease.
But like the person before me said, you could just need to give softer food and cleaner water.

-hayley

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how do you spend your time? not just free time but your life? im at a loss. i waste too much time doing nothing at all. and it seems like everyone else is doing something glamorous or something. :`(

its okay you feel that way! everyone does at one point or another! i have too.

In my life really i just have fun with it. I look at life like a game. Well somewhat. Ha ha. I get serious when it is time to be serious, and i have fun when it is time to be fun. Cause you know, life is too short.

I go to all the school teams games, except for the away ones. I flirt- a lot! ha ha. I go hang out with friends. I dont pretend to be anything im not. I just have fun with it. I dont worry. I just go with the flow.

-hayley

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15/f

i have a dog, who just turned one. so obviously, shes still very much like a puppy. so, ive been working hard lately at school, and have been very tired. so, ive been going to bed at like 9:30. my dogs cage is in my room. [she gets scared sleeping in a room with no one in it.] so anyways, usually its fine, she goes in her cage and everytihng. well, my dad or whoever forgot to put her in her cage, so, my dog comes up on my bed, since i was really tired, i was just like whatever. and let her sleep there. i let her do that for a couple of days. well, i went to put her back in her cage, and she kept crying and crying, till id take her out, and let her sleep with me. [she litterally woke me up 4 times at night.] how do i fix this?

Just put her in the cage and let her cry. She thinks that she will be babied. It is better to teach her at a young age that crying will not help her get out. And for every night that she sits in there without crying love on her and give her a treat so she knows she did good. And if she begins to cry then just ignore her. Dont say anything to her, because if you do that is just giving her attention which she enjoys.

-hayley

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hey i realy need advice this boy just broke up with me and i still want to go out with him i dont know wut to do "HELP"

Ok well thanks for the inbox. And sorry it took so long.

I am sorry. But i am going to tell you something. If he dumped you then all you can do is sit back and let him figure things out. He might just be going through something. Think about what he told you. What did he say when he broke up with you? I'm sorry i know guys suck, well just the ones that break your heart anyway...

But you need to get over him. Dont act like you are going to die without him, because that might scare him a bit. When i told this guy that i liked him i got so depressed, why? because he lied to me and told me he was gay. And it hurt like crap. And to make it worse, the girl who i thought was my best friend was telling me that i was crazy and just forget about it everytime i said something. But she liked him too. But i got over it. I will tell you what helps. I listened to katherine mcphee-over it...the more i listened to it the more i cried. The more i cried the better i felt. And dont let anybody tell you crying doesnt help, because crying releases pain...

once again i am sorry about this, but you just got to let him take his time. Let him figure it out...if its meant to be he will come back...but dont be the girl that sits at home waiting for it...dont let him hold you back...just live your life because it is a short time...and who knows maybe you will meet someone new??

-hayley

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umm ya well i told my bishop that i needed help that i wanted to live with my grandparents because for the past 5 to 6 months i have had to hear things between my mother and father and it would take forever to write it all down but there has been alot of stuff going on like arguing and stuff but nothing physical like fighting. my parents are divorced.. but see my bishop, my grandparents, and i all sat down and talked about it and well my bishop said to my grandparents that my dad abused us and i didnt say anything like that...he misunderstood me. but see even if that didnt happen i think i made everything worse. they desided that with all that is going on and with my dad being "hot headed" that i should take two peices of paper and write down everything that i want to change and i need to sit down with my parents one at a time and talk about it....well i have been trying for about 3 out of 5 to 6 years to try and get them to listen and change some thing with them selves that would be better for them and everyone. my dad wants me to live with him starting after my next birthday and i dont want to. i've told him but well you guys dont know my dad. he can scare me sometimes he has never tought me but well he is really loud, big muscles, and well everytime we go to church on wednsdays i hid in the church i mean be by friends and stuff because i am afraid he will find out about how i really feel or start talking bad about my mom or sister (she is my half sister and doesnt talk to him anymore). but you guys he scares me and it isnt easy! 14/f

well get your bishop and your grandparents there with you. They wont let him hurt you.
and the first thing i would put down is that you wanted them to listen to you. And i would explain to them how you are feeling. And correct your bishop that he dont abuse you, that they just dont listen. But that still could be a type of mental abuse. And tell them that you wish they would stop bad mouthing each other.
good luck!
-hayley

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i swear i am not in love . . . but i wouldnt know cuz i have never fell in love, other than admiring celebraties like Arron Yan from Fei Lun Hai or G-dragon from Big Bang (p.s check them out they are dreamy !)

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in my school, between all of the people i know, they know me as the 'tomboy' .

sometimes i ask my 'girly-girl' friends to help me become girly but . . . i hate it ! they tell me all these rules you have to follow . . . and its very annoying ! so i said "i'd prefer to be a tomboy so LEAVE ME ALONE !" (they wont stop leaving me alone !)

most of my friends have a love life and i LOVE getting involved wether it involves me or not !(:
the pretty much only reason i get involved is because my life is very , very NOT interesting so i get invovled with others !^^ but my friends dont hate it . . . because if there are problems i am always there for them !

anyway~
i have been told by most people that i REALLY REALLY act like a guy !

quote "sydney, you DO act like a guy ! when i see you around your guy friends i always see you . . .you . . . you know ? fooling around like guys do ! and you surely are not girly at all !" un-quote.

im not offened at all . i like it that i have that kind of appreance . . kinda .The only false impression is that i wont have a good love life .

( i read a lot of mangas so i often pick up idea from it, like when this girl and this other guy hate eachother during most of the manga but end up together anyways, so i often start off with a best friend relationship, but i know my limits and i know whether i should like him or stay away, [i never told anyone this . . .NEVER !])

. . well so here is asking thingy . . .

umm. . . ok i REALLY dont like anyone right now . . . AT ALL ! but . . .

i am sometimes thinking about 'him' and whenever things involve love, i think about him . @.@
but i most certainly dont think of him that way .
my friend says that she always sees us together .
but i mostly only think of him as my brother.

im pretty sure he only thinks of me as his friend also . im not bothered by it because im not fragile . when we stand next to each other we look like really good friends rather than a couple .
i dont see why my friends keep saying i like when most CERTAINLY !!! dont . but i think about him a lot and i often care for him if gets a scrath or something . . . as if i was his mom .
i always(somtimes) help with school work and stuff.
and i am always kind to him . always lending him stuff . . .
why am i this way ?
i really dont like him at all ! hes like a brother to me , really !

soo . . . can ya answer this one ?

Well....that is different. Ha ha.

Anyways let me tell you something. I know its such a cliche' but its true. Be who you want to be. If those girls were really your friends they would respect your wishes to stay a tomboy. (I would tell them that) I cant speak for tomboys because i am a girly girl but i am not so girly that i cant get dirty. I just am half and half. Im me. And if you want to be girly some more, then just half it. Like wear nice clothes and make up and fingernail polish or something, but just dont be afraid to be rough. And i think you have a good thing having a guy friend. I have a guy friend that is like a brother to me and i dont like himm like that. Guys dont judge you when you are a girl unless they know. And somehow they find out. They are way WAY nicer than us girls, well most. (e.g. look at fighting style: guys-punch each other and are friends afterwards...girls-call each other names, pull your hair, spread rumors, hold grudges) see how it works?

And another thing, maybe you just have a good heart. He is like your best friend. I dont think about my guy friend about love. But maybe you just have gotten to know him and your heart is trying to tell you that there is a little spark there that could turn into a forest fire. And your brain is telling you that it could never happen.

-hayley

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There was a conversation about lotions and essential oils. Usually, certain oils are used in lotions to help with dryness such as almond oil or other vegetable oils. I heard that if they are absorbed by the skin, it can actually turn into fat. That seems completely ridiculous to me. Has anyone heard of this or is it just rumor?? Is there any lotion that does this?? Or does the skin just not work that way?? Any ideas?? thanks!!

That sounds ridiculous. It is probably just a rumor. If it was true then everyone would be huge. Cause lots of people use them.
-hayley

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what do you tell to a hella cute guy that keeps asking you "you wanna mack on me?" but he says it in a joking way coz I KNOW he's just joking


and i definitely DO NOT want to mack on him but i dont wanna be mean and say "NO!" or "Hell No!" coz i dont wanna seem conceited.. you know?


But this guy is cute .. and sometimes i act the act that people do when they like some one.. ok well whatever my main point is what do u say to a guy when someone asks you "wanna mack on me"? (but you KNOW he's just joking!)

well if it was me, and i knew he was joking, then i would say oh yeah baby you know it---but i would say it sarcastically. But then again i am just an open person. So i would say joke back. I mean if you know hes joking then it shouldnt be a big deal what you awnser.
-hayley

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ok so last night around 6:05 i finished my highlights and did the toner and everthing else it said to do. well today i knew my hair would be dry so i just put it up and didnt wash it or blow dry, straighten. ect. is it okay for me tonight to wash && condition it and then tomorrow morning wake up wash and condition it again then dry and straighten? [back to my normal sch. before school]
thankss in advance.

it should be just fine. I dont think you are supposed to wash it in the next 24 hours. So yeah you should be good to go
-hayley

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16/f im really big into working out and staying healthy. I am on a strict diet too. Don't worry i know what i'm doing, im betting all the nutrients i need. I really want someting to lose those extra pounds that i cant just lose right away, something to give me a boost. I heard about the venom diet pills, but i am so iffy on pills. Anyone know anything about these? I have done alot of research but now i want personal opinions. Thanks.

The pills are just gimics to get more money. Really all i could think it would do would be to give you a hyper energy boost or something. But the fact that it says venom as its name, i wouldnt mess with it...
Also muscles weigh more than fat, so if you wanted to see your body mass, you could just use a body mass index tester thing. It tells the percentage of body fat. here is one online i found:

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

Really considering your height, there is a certain weight limit. The limit that is right for you.

http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk/logout/news_features/idealweight_w.htm

-hayley

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