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umm ya well i told my bishop that i needed help that i wanted to live with my grandparents because for the past 5 to 6 months i have had to hear things between my mother and father and it would take forever to write it all down but there has been alot of stuff going on like arguing and stuff but nothing physical like fighting. my parents are divorced.. but see my bishop, my grandparents, and i all sat down and talked about it and well my bishop said to my grandparents that my dad abused us and i didnt say anything like that...he misunderstood me. but see even if that didnt happen i think i made everything worse. they desided that with all that is going on and with my dad being "hot headed" that i should take two peices of paper and write down everything that i want to change and i need to sit down with my parents one at a time and talk about it....well i have been trying for about 3 out of 5 to 6 years to try and get them to listen and change some thing with them selves that would be better for them and everyone. my dad wants me to live with him starting after my next birthday and i dont want to. i've told him but well you guys dont know my dad. he can scare me sometimes he has never tought me but well he is really loud, big muscles, and well everytime we go to church on wednsdays i hid in the church i mean be by friends and stuff because i am afraid he will find out about how i really feel or start talking bad about my mom or sister (she is my half sister and doesnt talk to him anymore). but you guys he scares me and it isnt easy! 14/f
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well get your bishop and your grandparents there with you. They wont let him hurt you.
and the first thing i would put down is that you wanted them to listen to you. And i would explain to them how you are feeling. And correct your bishop that he dont abuse you, that they just dont listen. But that still could be a type of mental abuse. And tell them that you wish they would stop bad mouthing each other.
good luck!
-hayley
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Ive been through exactly the same thing. And my dad again is a big guy very muscly, only difference is that he did beat me, kicked me down the stairs etc etc
He only had to point a finger and I cried, I know how you feel and I sympathise majorly.
I would suggest saying to your Grandparents, thats it I want to come and live with you to give my parents time to think about what they have lost. Once they realise that not having you around is upsetting, such as the phrase ''you dont know what you got till you have lost it''then they will maybe talk like respective adults.
If this doesnt work...then unfortuneatley you have to be cruel to be kind, and its for your best safety, and thats to ring a helpline and talk through exactly whats going on, how you feel about it and they will have hours for you on the phone thats what they are there for, they arent going to send your parents to prison or anything drastic, but if anyone will get through to them it will be them. Or you if you are told how to go about it.
Good Luck heres the childline number : 0800 1111
Let me know how it goes yeah? <3Marizzlexx
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