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sorry if this is in the wrong category but i'm kinda worried cuz my period is 8 week late .. i'm 13 && first got it 2 years ago .. i kno it's not normal soo is that like bad or something? Last time i had it was June 17 which was like 2 months ago! && it still hasn't come. Any advice? thanks! (link)
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Consult the doctor of your situation because it's not normal you should get it every month.Try not to worry and I'm sure you'll be fine.
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Okay I like this guy and we've been going out and like he really really likes me too and my parents dont like him for some reason and i dont want to break up with him and my friends dont want me to go out with him anymore and want me to break up with him to but I rele dont want to what should I do ?
thanks
- xoxo Vanessa (link)
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Stay with him it's your decision if you want to be with that person don't let others decide for what you'll do in your life they should support you with your relationship.If your friends keep telling you or your parents just ignore them you just be happy with your partner.Anyways ask yourself did they ever give you a good reason why they don't like him just think about it.
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how do i know if he's with me 4 sex or not (link)
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There are ways you could know that he's with you for that like if he's always asking to have sexual relations with you,that is always what he talks about,and he doesn't talk about how much he cares about you or loves you.If he's not with you for that reason then he shows his love for you,appreciation,talks to you about how much you mean to him,doesn't pressure you into having sex,and he respects you for the decisions you make.
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alright... soo. A couple of months ago my mom`s boyfriend let me put my mom's $400+ computer desk in my room. I always ruin things and i told him i wasn't sure if my mom would really want me to put it in there. So he was like just put it in your room. My mom said i could use but not long.. Everything was going fine except like a month ago i had the door on the side of the computer desk like a foot open to let the deck of the computer breath and then i went to get up real quick and bumped my knee in it.. i didnt notice till later when it was broken!!! ahh just the top part where it holds the door is broken it cracked right at the part where nails go in and i seriously cried. i dont think i can repair it myself. but the worse part is ive been hiding it from my mom and everytime she goes in my room i make sure she doesn't see it or i stand in front of it. it gets worse.. my mom asked a couple days ago if she could have her computer desk back and she'd get me a new one.. i was like ooh i dont feel like taking everything apart and stuff. and she was like ok well i wanna do it soon. im so scared to tell her. she'll ground me and get really mad at me. i mean me and my mom are like best friends and she knows i can be clumsy and ruin things. but its an expensive desk. =/ like a year ago the keyboard part broke off when it was in the computer room and my mom was going to get a piece for it or just return it and never did. i mean the computer desk is a piece of crap too. i cant ask my moms boyfriend for help because he is strick and mean and will completely ruin it for me. my questions are how should i tell her? should i just let her see it herself eventually or confess soon? :/ what are some good topics to tell her.. thank you for giving advice. i hope someone can help.. (link)
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You should tell her little by little,confess,it's better for her to hear it form others,and once you get that over with you'll feel a lot better trust me when I say it.Say you're really sorry about it,maybe even crying will show how much guilty you feel that she would most likely not yell at you.But I'm not saying to confess right away but don't take too long to do so,and I would also pray if I were you that everything turns out fine.Hope that things turn out alright.
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this question is for both boys and girls.Let;s say you really like someone, and she/he is single.Would you still go out with them even though they have had two or three girl/boy friends in the past?or do people prefer girls/guys that haven't been attached before?
For instance, I prefer girls who haven't had a boyfriend before to girls who have. (link)
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It wouldn't matter to me if the guy had girlriends before as long as he's a faithful person I can trust,nice,caring,and respectful to me that's all I ask for in a guy.
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im 13/f
Well, to make a long story short..
There's this boy I've been crushing on for about a month now. I'm going to spend a week with him at his house for vacation with a whole bunch of people and i just want to know how do i let him know i like him? i really wanna go out with him but the thing is i've never really had a REAL boyfriend. and i haven't hooked up yet & i'm pretty sure he has. and if he asks if i've hu before do i say yes and lie so he'll hook up with me and think i'm experienced? or do i say the truth and say yes and see whatever happens from there? I really need to let him know how i feel but i don't wanna make it obvious, i wanna keep him guessing. he's 15. what are some ways i can play hard to get and flirt with him? PLEASE HELP! xox (link)
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What you should do is tell him the truth because he'll then find out that you're not experienced like when he kisses you or if you decide to have relations with him so it's best to be honest about that,there are some guys that like a girl that's not experienced for a couple of reasons like they want to be the first in their lives,and the other may be that because they're not experienced either.Some ways to play hard to get is like if he wants to kiss you what you would do is back up,say it's too fast,another way is like he wants to play with you say you don't play with people until you get to know them very well,and see something special in them.As far as guys they flirt,ask the girl lots of questions about their lives,and stare at her a lot.
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please help me..........
you know how in highschool how you form "groups" that you hangout with party with do things with...... see it's always been so hard for me to find the right one. i'm very preppy but at the same time wild.
i'm on the soccer team and the girls and guys practice together and hangout together and so we end up becoming friends whether we like it or not. it's a very stuck up group. everyone talks about everyone. basically everyone's insecure but covers it up by teasing and shit. i'm the most wild one in the group. i'm crazy and on trips i always do random things and have fun. some people think it's hillarious but most started to constanlty tease me saying i'm so retarted and annoying. i come off like the crazy girl that doesn't care what people think but deep down i do. it bothered me. so i stopped being wild. but that didn't really work. even when i was serious they (mostly the guys) repeatedly said crap about me behind my back...........because i was "the girl" to talk about. anytime i mess up....... like run out of gass in my car, forget to turn in a paper, show up late, they're like wtf she's so dumb. my bestfriend (who's been my bestfriend for years) happens to be the most popular girl on the team. she sticks up for me but it doesn't really do that much to stop them. all i wanted was to be around people that respected me. so i stopped hanging out with them and quit soccer for a couple months. i tried mingling with other groups. it was hard because everyone already has "their people" they hang out with and has their inside jokes and parties to go to. i didn't have fun with any of them. but i tried and tried. i missed my bestfriend and the girls i hung out with in soccer (bc the guys were the ones that mainly were the jerks to me) so i was just like fuck it im going back to my soccer click and i don't care what the guys say. but when i show up at the parties now they're always like ugg why is she here and they try to ditch me and my bestfriend said it's hard always sticking up for you! and i really need a job. and theirs a job opening that pays 10 dollars an hour at the soccer club. my bestfriend works there so it would be fun..........but so do all the guys :(
i don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!
i feel so sad :( (link)
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It's like destiny brings those bad guys right in your life again but don't let that bring you do you want the job so go for it just tell yourself I'm going to do what I'm supposed to,earn my money,buy myself whatever I want,they could talk all the junk they want to about me,they'll just look like immature losers,and I'll come out as the mature one.Plus its temporary right?Don't feel sad it's not good to have that feeling inside it just brings you down,makes you feel very depressed,and you should be happy but I know it's not like that because of those guys.Have strength and don't pay any attention to them and the better off you'll be and act like whatever they say about you doesn't affect you at all.
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when you hang out with a group but half the people like you and half of them don't should that bother you? like should you stop hanging out with them all together or keep hanging out with them and forget the bully ones? (link)
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Just sop hanging with them all together to avoid conflict but it doesn't mean that you can't hang out with the other half that likes you.I hate when that happens it's just not right but I'm sure everyone goes through that stage just hang on up there that other half shouldn't matter they just like to judge without giving that person a chance.
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well the school year is about to start up and so that also means that sports are too! i'm gonna be a sophmore and i play volleyball and i'm really excited and nervous about tryouts. is there any kind of things i can do before try outs to kind of calm myself down and give myself reassurance talks that i know i can do it and stuff. because i'm so scared that i'm almost set on that i'll be on a lower team than my friends. i think i really need a selfconfidence boost but i'm scared of having one and then not making the team. HELP! haha thanks! (link)
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It's always good to relax,have some training,practice with volleyball,like play with your friends,against other people, and you'll get used to it.When it comes to a serious game only focus on the game,act as if the only people watching are only you and the people going against you.Stretching helps too for flexing those muscles and gets your body ready for some activity like volleyball.Good luck!
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I just got braces three days ago [I had them before when I was in second grade] However, I'm in intense pain! I can't eat anything, even soft foods like soft taco's hurt like crazy, and pasta! I'm on Tylenol, I ice my mouth several times a day, I use the bite plate they gave me, and I put on Orajel. But it still hurts so bad, What should I do? (link)
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Try advil or the new one which is better,don't lick your teeth if that eases the pain because it's bad.I had experience on this,yeah it hurted my teeth but for the next couple of days it goes away completely.A lot of sleeping helps so you don't feel the pain for a few hours.Don't worry it's just temporary ,then you'll get used to it,and it'll feel like nothing.
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My bf always tells me to ask him questions, but i never have any, i know alot about him already. can sombody give me a list (as long as possible please) (link)
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Here's the list of several for you to ask to him 1)What are his future plans? 2)What would make a perfect world to him? 3)Does he have any fears? 4)What does he dream about and what do they mean to him? 5)What would be his ideal place? 6)What does he feel about change? 7)What was his most difficult time? 8)What were his most saddest moments he went through? 9)What were his happiest moments? 10)How was his life before he met you? 11)What are his favorite idols? 12)What are his best interests? 13)Does he believe in supernatural things like ghosts? 14)How does he feel about society and politics? 15)What does he feel about being in a religion? 15)Does he like to make all his decisions by himself? 16)What he loves to do for fun?
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I like this guy and he likes me. We kind have thing with eachother. The problem is everytime my bestfriend finds out we hang out she gets mad and we end up in an argument. This is the second time now. It kills me to fight with her but i love this guy. What do I do...do i go for the guy and risk losing her as a friend??
Female age 15 (link)
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Go for the guy since the girl isn't a good friend to you because she's always getting angry at you.And a real friend will be supportive and lookout for you.As well be there in the good times and the bad times.Another thing is love may only come once but you can always make a new friend.
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I need help on a guy, let's name him Bill. So Bill and I flirted for a while and it soon became a what you could call friends-with-benefits relationship (while he had a girlfriend) . After a while I told him that I really did like him, he stopped talking to me and cut off our friendship. (Apparently he didn't feel the same and I was just another girl to flirt with.) I ended up telling him i was really hurt and sent him a long paragraph telling him how i felt. he sent it to his girlfriend and she blew up at me. Let's name her Sue. Me and Sue are friends now and so are me and Bill. Bill and I are going to the same high school while Sue is not. I want to have a relationship with Bill during high school but I'm not sure if he'll still be too attracted to Sue to even consider me or if they'll still stay together. This is really long... I'll give credit to anyone who even tries. Thanks. :] (link)
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If you really like him then take the risk,plus you too will go to the same school,which is a big advantage to gain that interest again,and go for it.Do what you feel is the right thing to do,if it doesn't go the way you wanted at least you tried,he'll regret it one day because you were that girl who cared about him,and liked him the most.
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i get pimples on my chin. gross i know. but they are like under the skin and hurt like a bitch. is it best to just leave them alone. or should i get the crap out of them quickly. and what can i do so i stop getting them. i dont get pimples anywhere else. (link)
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If they're white then you could pop it but if not you could apply an acne treatment or a cream for it like proactiv solution,clearsil,or other acne products.To stop getting them is to drink a lot of water,not too much greasy foods,and not too much fat foods.
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I have a best friend and we are extremely close. She had a boyfirned for only 3 months..and he broke up with her. its been about 3 months since they broke up. well we are frineds still. and he IMed me the other dayand wad like do you want to hang out. and i said sure. so we were driving in his car for awhile at night and then he wanted to kiss me. so he did we hooked up. well now i feel horrible becuase that was my best frineds ex. i mean we never made a pact to get wit each others exes..but she already got wit two other guys since the break up. i need help please..what should i do... (link)
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If you tell your friend she may not forgive you,you can't go back,fix the mistake but the only thing you can do is not to make the same big mistake,and make yourself a better person.Trust me that you'll be a whole lot better.
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Ok heres the deal. I've gone to private school since 1st grade except for one time at the beginning of 6th and I switched back to private later that year. I left bc the work was too easy and I didn't fit in, I was really quiet. Now I'm not as shy. Now I HATE my private school it's 25 minutes away and they all have more money that me and I don't like most of the kids! Also, there's only 12 kids total in my grade! I'm going to a public highschool and private's a lot differnt. My mom talked to the public schools new principal and he said he'd put me in a more challenging class that fits me and they would give me more work if I needed it. The only thing is my mom's the secretary at my private school and I don't know if I should leave her cause I'd feel bad and she tells me don't worry it might work out better. The only reason I would stay at my private school is bc it's my 8th grade year and we get class trips that are fun. Yet, at my private school we only have a few teachers, we have 3 main teachers and thats it. I hate one of them too. I know a few people at my public school and they tell me I should go to their school. I'm still afraid I won't fit in at public though? What school would u choose. Thank u!!! (link)
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The school I would go to is the one where
I'll fit in,people accept me for who Iam,where it suits me best,I'm sure your mom will understand, and want your happiness.
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you see i have been insulted and ridculed since grade five so much that i find it relly relly hard to talk to new people can anyone help me. (link)
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Things will change in high school because that's a school filled with a lot of new different people and a new environment.You have to be able to know that not everyone is the same don't lose hope you can make friends those people were so not your type there will be others that will open their doors,let you join them, and not judge you for what's on the outside but what's in the inside.
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ok, i was talking with my frineds the other day and they said i should dump my girlfrined, and i asked why and we went into a whole list of shit, ok here it is,
1. when we are together, we don't talk much, i mean we talk alot, but not as much as i and her normly do with other people.
2. when she kiss me, it's more of a peck, and we don't kiss that much anyway.
3. she does not return some of the same feeling as i do, we both love each other very much,
and other little things, like i'm veyr romantci and she's not, i don't know what i should do, my friends mabe right, but i don't want to break up, i'm always question the relatioship, like hsould i stay init, and the problem is that i really don't know if i love her, i do, but the feeling is wirde, it's more of'should i stay in this ti make her happy at the lose of my own happyness' and things like hat, i'm her first boyfriend and she's my 3, my last two hurt my really badly, and i'm not sure if i can every love again, any advice?, if you need more info. just tell me and i will update (link)
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You can work things out,don't listen to everything your friends say,it's how you feel that really counts,talk to your girlfriend about that you want things to change , she should put more effort into the relationship,and that you will also.You too should talk more and show that you too have a lot of interest of each other's lives,when you argue it's always good to apologize,and make up again.There was this young woman who would always do that and that's why her relationship with her boyfriend lasted for a long time.
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I always do stuff with the same two people. Their my best friends but I want to do stuff with other people. I just find it hard. When ever I call my friends from school they have something going on. I also have like no social life. I'm sixteen years old (female) and I've never been to a party (like a high school party). I really want to be more social..please help. (link)
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These are just some suggestions to be more social like if you happen to see someone with no company go up,introduce yourself or ask them something first then introduce yourself.Another way is since you said you have these two friends get close to their friends,you could get easily in their crew, and that was one way I made a lot of friends.Go out more,you could also do some volunteer work to work with others in a group, and make some friends there.
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You can skip the background and just tell me if the poem is too personal to give to someone you've only met a few days ago if you want.
Ok so I met this guy a few days ago and he's perfect but I'm still not over this other guy. This guy is seriously awesome, he's -very- good looking, he's a cook and he spent all of today helping me fix my dining table because he fell on it the night before and broke, and he even paid for everything to fix it and extra stuff to make it look better because he said it was totally his fault. Anyway, he got out of a long relationship a few months ago and he today he had a first date with a girl he likes so there isn't much of a chance of us working out and I'm too hung up on another guy. Keeping this in mind, his birthday is coming up and he asked me to write him a poem because he likes personalized presents and he heard I wrote sometimes.
We met on Thursday and spent about four days in a row together. I'm writing him a poem and framing it. I wrote it directly from my heart and now I'm thinking it's a little too personal for someone I haven't known for more than a week. He said he wanted something really truthful because I warned him but I don't want to look foolish and I still want to be his friend. So is it too close?
What a guy.
You’re such a man
You're such a boy.
Your naive miniscule hopes and dreams
leave me in tears every time
you venture to say a word,
blinking with the beat of your heart.
Wrench my stomach into knots,
why don't you?
As I think of the clarity in your eyes
and I surmise
it's been a while
since you've been hurt.
The way you talk
and smile when you recall
how you were together
and refrain
from saying her name
and just refer to her as her.
Fictitious daydreams in my mind,
And I ask the world
to make you feel that way about me
not out of love or lust,
only for the sake of having you.
How strangely perfect
you are for me,
but cupid knows
that the subtle ache in my chest
and those cardiac arrests
aren’t for you
But wow, you’re such a guy. (link)
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Maybe its way too personal since you are just friends but mostly because you met him for a short time.But then I'm thinking he he reads this of how you feel about him he will most probably respond back the way you want him to or get you too much closer.So you decide if you want to change it and if I were you I would take the chance you never know what may happen.
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