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please help me..........
you know how in highschool how you form "groups" that you hangout with party with do things with...... see it's always been so hard for me to find the right one. i'm very preppy but at the same time wild.
i'm on the soccer team and the girls and guys practice together and hangout together and so we end up becoming friends whether we like it or not. it's a very stuck up group. everyone talks about everyone. basically everyone's insecure but covers it up by teasing and shit. i'm the most wild one in the group. i'm crazy and on trips i always do random things and have fun. some people think it's hillarious but most started to constanlty tease me saying i'm so retarted and annoying. i come off like the crazy girl that doesn't care what people think but deep down i do. it bothered me. so i stopped being wild. but that didn't really work. even when i was serious they (mostly the guys) repeatedly said crap about me behind my back...........because i was "the girl" to talk about. anytime i mess up....... like run out of gass in my car, forget to turn in a paper, show up late, they're like wtf she's so dumb. my bestfriend (who's been my bestfriend for years) happens to be the most popular girl on the team. she sticks up for me but it doesn't really do that much to stop them. all i wanted was to be around people that respected me. so i stopped hanging out with them and quit soccer for a couple months. i tried mingling with other groups. it was hard because everyone already has "their people" they hang out with and has their inside jokes and parties to go to. i didn't have fun with any of them. but i tried and tried. i missed my bestfriend and the girls i hung out with in soccer (bc the guys were the ones that mainly were the jerks to me) so i was just like fuck it im going back to my soccer click and i don't care what the guys say. but when i show up at the parties now they're always like ugg why is she here and they try to ditch me and my bestfriend said it's hard always sticking up for you! and i really need a job. and theirs a job opening that pays 10 dollars an hour at the soccer club. my bestfriend works there so it would be fun..........but so do all the guys :(
i don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!
i feel so sad :(
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I have that problem to,if people talk about you,dont let it get to you,as long as your happy with what your doing who cares wat anyone else has to say.
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I hate that their are "groups"
in highschool, for me, I have my one special group of best friends, then I have just friends that I dont know me tooo well but I dont know them that well either.
But thats so horrilble about your soccer team, and how you had to quit. You need to try talking to some of the guys , or just one, about how it really makes you feel. If they arent mature enough to understand that they are hurting you really badly, then they truely are jerks, it could be because they have a crush osn your or something? But and talk to your best friend, it shouldnt be hard for her to stand up for you, because I mean your her best friend. I think you should rejoin soccer, try to not gossip when they do, bite your tongue for a little bit, and see how thing worko ut, things scould get better, and they could learn from you.
If you need anyone to talk to,
you can IM me @ kaylehmae on aim,
but atlesat give me the link to your question,
since i get a lot of IMs from adviceantors.
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It's like destiny brings those bad guys right in your life again but don't let that bring you do you want the job so go for it just tell yourself I'm going to do what I'm supposed to,earn my money,buy myself whatever I want,they could talk all the junk they want to about me,they'll just look like immature losers,and I'll come out as the mature one.Plus its temporary right?Don't feel sad it's not good to have that feeling inside it just brings you down,makes you feel very depressed,and you should be happy but I know it's not like that because of those guys.Have strength and don't pay any attention to them and the better off you'll be and act like whatever they say about you doesn't affect you at all.
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Oh God!!It is hard for you i know...There is only one thing you should do!Be yourself...Be spontaneous be you...You should tell your best friend stop telling others treat well to you...You should do it yourself...If you have a problem with guys then you should be the one who has to deal wiith it not your best friend...Go and work there if you are sure that you will not give up...Stop giving up and stop running away from your problems...The best solution is to deal with them...And being with those friends doesn't mean that you don't have to have other friends too...Right?Ok i hope i helped!Bye and good luck!
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