naimee's advice column

Yeah, I am exactly like that. I think it's more hygenic to be completely hairless down there. (: Some girls like it, and some don't! But, I totally agree with you.

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I need some dressy pants for chorus and the concert is coming up in about 2 weeks. Where can I get some dressy pants cheap? I know Forever 21 has some but where else?

Wal-mart or Target. I know maybe you don't want to shop there, I'm not sure what you like. But, Walmart definitely has nice dressy clothes that are cheap. I'd try Gap & maybe department stores like Ross's, Marshalls, Mervyns, Dillards, Foleys, JcPenneys, Sears, & Kauffmans. :)

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Right smack in between my eyes is this big bump!! It's not a pimple because I can see that it doesn't have pus in it. Its only red because I have been picking at which I have agreed to stop doing. I'm putting medicine on it and nothing is working!! I talked to my mom and asked her to take me to a derm but she thinks its just a big pimple! I read somewhere that it could be mila. If it is how can you get rid of them without going to a derm???

It might be a boil. Just DON'T touch it, seriously. Like that's the worst thing you could ever do.

Because boils are contagious, touching the skin after handling a boil or improperly treating a boil can cause spreading to other areas of skin. Multiple boils which appear on the skin as clusters of raw, red, irritated skin are called "carbuncles." These types of boils form small tunnels underneath the skin and are best treated by a physician.

Okay well ways that you can treat it, are:

Small boils will often heal themselves within 10-15 days, if no other infection or illness is present in the body. However, many boils do require treatment. Boils can usually safely be treated at home. Remember, if a boil fails to respond to treatment or symptoms become increasingly worse, you should seek your doctor's attention.

PREVENT spreading boils to other areas of your body by using fresh towels or disposable paper towels with each treatment and washing. Also, wash hands immediately after touching the boil. Cross-contamination is often worse than the original boil.

TAKE hot showers at least twice daily, instead of baths. The added heat and moisture will help the boil to open and drain on its own. Baths tend to spread bacteria to other areas of skin.

APPLY warm water heat to the boil using warm or heated cloths or a hot water bottle. This can be done 3-4 times daily for up to 20-minutes at a time.

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How'ed you loose all your weight? I really want to loose mine. I am 150lbs. :-( It really depresses me though. And I am really self concies about myself and I just want to be normal and have fun without having to worry about my weight. I am 14 by the way. PLEASE HELP?? Thank you in advance. You're a gorgeouse girl!

XoX Krista

Hehe, hey there Krista. I hope you don't mind but I'm just going to copy & paste an answer to this instead of typing it all out. I hope you don't mind. (:

Well, I was really overweight to begin with, and I was made fun of, ALL THE TIME. So, it was pretty easy for me to shed a lot of weight, because of how much I wanted to show all the people who made fun of me for like five years that I could do it.I don't know if you're overweight or if you're just interested in shedding a few pounds. But, if you DO get picked on. You know how much it can potentially hurt you. And getting made fun of from 4th grade to 9th grade about your weight, by everyone including your friends & having no one to stick up for you really DOES suck. Even my family members: my Grandmother would call all the time, living in England she never sees me, and only met me once when I was ten [when I started gaining weight] Would ask my parents if they're doing anything to control my weight, yet. & Would tell me my sisters call me fat behind my back and told her & she was just wondering if I lost any weight yet. I was TEN!! That's the worst part about it. Anyways, basically from that paragraph, I meant that you need self confidence in yourself first. You need to literally stand in front of a mirror and pick out things you like about yourself, just to lose weight. As stupid as that sounds. It works.

Well, basically when I wanted to start losing weight, it was seriously impossible. I was 15, living in a stupidass small town consisting of 700 people. With nothing but a movie store, grocery store, & a pizza shop. NO attractions like where I could exercise or anything. So, I decided to stay in the house & try out Pilates & Tae bo. Don't get me wrong, they both worked greatly. I felt great after exercising. I was eating different portions and everything. Drinking diet drinks. But, I wasn't losing ANY weight at all. I was actually gaining. That's when my rents decided to take me to a nutrionist! They told me I had an oversized uhh shiit I forget what it's called. But, it's something in your throat, that controls your weight, height, and just about everything else. If I remember, I'll leave it in here later. I'll have to ask my parents what it's called. Anyways, since it was oversized that's why I couldn't lose weight to start with. So, I started taking pills that automatically made them smaller. Which caused me to lose 10 pounds to start off with. I don't count that with the 30 pounds I lost myself though, because I didn't lose that 10 pounds myself which sucks.

Now, it was really hard for me to lose weight at the beginning because I was just beginning & I was embarassed to run in front of everyone, even my family. So, I'd wake up everyday at like 4am & go running down the main street I lived on. I came from a shitty ass small town. So when I see Main Street - I mean a street that connects us to ANOTHER small crappy town. So, there wouldn't be any cars that would pass, which would be awesome. :) I stopped drinking soda for one, I just drank water all the time. 10 glasses a day :) Awesome. I didn't eat fast foods anymore. Like McDonalds, which was horrible because I loved McDonalds. :( I wouldn't even get their salads. lol. It was awful. I didn't have to worry about not eating candy & chocolate anymore, because I didn't eat it anyways. I just don't have a sweet tooth anyways. :P

I would have four small meals, a day. I'd wake up & have a bagel. Go to school - @ lunch I'd have a turkey sandwich, when I'd get home I'd have like cereal or something. Then at dinner time I'd have something else small, like chicken or tuna. That helped. Because, eating 4/5 opposed to 3 meals a day can speed up your metabolism. & Helps a lot when wanting to lose weight.

When I moved to this huge city, San Antonio. I knew I'd have to keep up the weight loss, so I joined a gym! It's been helping me a lot, now. Plus, I met a really good friend at the gym who's pretty much been in the same situation as me. And I'm helping her through it :)

To lose that 10 pounds from the pills, it took me about 4 days. But, the other 30, I'd have to say it took me 2 months. I lost about 15 pounds a month. Which is actually pretty good. Seen as I lost about 3-4 pounds a week.

My advice to you, if you're serious about losing weight. You really really really need to see a doctor about it. My doctor helped me SO much with weight loss, and I seriously wouldn't have been able to do it without her. You need to diet, portionize your meals & stop drinking soda & fatty foods. Start exercising, if it's only running around your house, or doing a video exercising program thing. See if you get results from it.

Good luck with losing weight, and seriously YOU can do it. I'm sorry if I forget anything, or if there's anything else you need.

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What would a 14-15 year old girl think if they saw the guys cock jus the shape of it from your shorts, cause theyre basketball shorts. Would they think its gross, hot!, orweird ?

Eww. That'd be so awkward. It definitely depends, if other people saw it too and started laughing, I'd join in. But, I wouldn't just laugh by myself because it might make the boy feel really stupid. :)

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I was wondering when you know you are having an orgasm. I know I've either come extremely close or have had one. Don't say 'Trust me, you'll know' because apparently I do not know.

Simply put, an orgasm is an intensely pleasurable physical response that results from the release of tension built up during sexual stimulation. When you're being aroused, your heart beats faster, your breathing quickens, your nipples become erect, and your genitals become engorged with blood. As arousal climbs, these sensations increase until you climax, i.e., orgasm, and your body returns to its unaroused state.

While the physical process is the same for everyone, the actual orgasmic experience varies from woman to woman. In fact, every orgasm is unique, even your own. You might feel a mild tingle one time and an explosive full-body rush the next. However, there are some general tip-offs, such as contractions in your vagina, pelvic lifting or thrusting, curling of the toes or fingers, heavy, rapid breathing and moaning, followed by a sense of euphoria.

Chances are, if you're not sure whether you've reached the big O, you probably haven't because the feeling is so distinct, it's unlikely you'd confuse it with anything else. If you suspect, then, that you aren't climaxing, you can learn to by becoming familiar with your body and how it reacts to sexual stimulation. Have you tried masturbating? If not, see Your Hands-on Guide to Solo Sex in Cosmo's Sex Articles archives. Once you've mastered your own domain, you'll be better able to let your guy know what turns you on. The trick is to experiment -- both solo and with him -- using different types of touch until you find the method that makes you tingle -- then go with it. It will also help if you try to just focus on the erotic sensations rather than worrying about the end result, which will just distract you.

The good news: While it might take some trial and error before you discover what gets you off, you and your guy can have a hell of a good time trying to figure it out.

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Do guys really find it sexy if girls gring with each other? im not quite sure and i wanted u guyses opinion

Well, I'm a girl. Hehe :] But I asked two of my guy friends, and they responded:

"Yes....Especially if somehow, i get invited to be in between. lol" & "short answer: No."

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I'm 13, and in 7th grade. I recently found out like half the girls in my grade wear thongs?!?! I thought this was a little young, is it normal? How could I ask my mom if I could start wearing them, I'm pretty embarresed to ask.

Hehe. Aww. Well this is actually ironic, because I just asked my mom tonight if I could start wearing thongs. :) It's normal for girls definitely around 13 to start wearing thongs, of course I think it's a little too young, but you know - whatever floats their boat? But of course everyone falls into peer preasure, like me :) Hehe. Well. Basically on my Xmas list, I wrote - Underwear ALL TYPES and emphasized the word ALL because I really wanted her to get the hint I want to wear thongs without telling her because it's embarassing. :)

Of course, I know how you feel. Then she said to my dad, I'm pretty sure she doesn't want those panties that go up her butt! & I go but, Mommmmmmmmmm everyone's wearing them, I'm 15!!! Then we had a convo about it, and she said she'll buy me some for Christmas. :) Hehe. I was super happy, because I was too scared to ask her for like the past 2 years. But honestly, just tell her the reasons you want to wear thongs. It'll be so much easier then keeping it in.

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Okay...I've had my period for exactly 2 years as of December 5. I want to use tampons, and I know how to put them in and all the dangers. But I have a few other questions:

Does it hurt going in/while its in/coming out?
What is an appropriate size?
What exactly does Toxic Shock Sydrome do to your body?
How do you know that you have TSS?

I rate.

:) hehe. It varies from girl to girl. But heres how it is for me.

No, it doesn't hurt while it's going in. But it took me a few tries when I first started using tampons. While you start using tampons the first couple times it feels a little discomforting while it's in but usually you can't feel it after having it in for a while. It hurts sometimes when it comes out, it's probably the worst part about having a tampon in.

Depending on your flow is the appropriate size. If you're just starting out, you should use "juniors" or "regulars". But as you get more accustomed to wearing them. You'll wear regulars on your 3-4 day, and super ones on your first couple days.

TSS can cause:
High fever that comes on all of a sudden
Muscle pains
Dizziness or fainting
A rash that looks like sunburn
Bloodshot eyes
Strange vaginal discharge (fluid)
Feeling of confusion
And of course shock.

Signs of TSS: Look for fever; rash (especially a rash that looks like sunburn); nausea and vomiting; watery diarrhea; confusion or other mental changes; and decreased urination. If your daughter uses tampons, ask her to tell you immediately if she notices any unusual vaginal discharge, especially if it smells strange or bad. Most of the time that will be due to other causes, but no matter the cause, it still rates evaluation.

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When I first found out I was pregnant, My boyfriend and I automatically started coming up with girl names. As I got further along, everyone just knew that I was having a baby girl. My boyfriend wanted a boy over a girl because he says that they have more attitudes, but he kept saying girl names. Well, when I went for my ultrasound at the end of my 19th week, the lady that did it seemed crazy. First, when she pulled out the leg part on the table that I was suppose to lay on, she pulled it all the way out and it fell. She started laughing like she was nuts. Anyway, she asked us if we wanted to know the gender and we said yea, then she said it was a boy real fast, and that was that. The thing that made me feel like their could be a big chance that she could had made a mistake is that she found out the sex a little too fast but she acted like she couldn't find my baby's head!!!!! Her excuse was that the baby was moving alot. It took her about 10 to 15 minutes just to get a wierd angle picture of it and give it to us. When I showed my doctor my ultrasound picture, she said "why did she even give you this?" So basically, she really had me confused. So do you think I should believe her completly about my baby's gender when she couldn't even find the head?!!!!!

Dude honestly. Why would you ask this question on an advice site? How old are you first? Like because obviously you're pretty damn young if you are on an advice site asking such a dumb question. Like how are we supposed to know? Go back to the friggen hospital & get another ultrasound. It isn't that hard. My god.

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does anyone know where to get etnies that are less then $40?
will rate 5s for anythingg

Try Journeys. I don't know if you have one in a mall near you, but try www.journeys.com because my friend got Etnies on sale for like 35$ (: Also, PacificSun, but I doubt it'll be under 40, maybe a little over.

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As you all know Christmas is comming up and i dont know what i should get my bestfriend for christmas..should i make her something ?? or buy something ?? I dont know..im lost!! lol so if yall could help me that would be great..im 14/f and my bestfriend is 13/f ( almost 14 ) if that helps!!

I rate high!!

It's really up to you. Do you think if you made her something then she'd really appreciate it, or do you think she'd think something negative & wish you would've bought her something? Honestly, I would rather get something bought for me, but that's just my personal opinion. I don't really like gifts that are made for me, unless they are from my boyfriend. It's strange, I know. But if you decide to make her something, make her a photo album or scrapbook with a bunch of memories of you guys, she'll probably like that. Or if you buy her something, buy her what she likes, maybe she has a certain favorite band like, "The Used." for example. Buy her a poster of the used, and a cd, & a tshirt! Orr, buy her socks, make up, lotion, or mayyybe just a gift card at her favorite store! (: Take care.

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does anyone know cheat codes for sims 2?? (for money), and can you explain what buttons to press so i can get money? w.o having my sims get jobs and such. Ill rate!

< 33
xo

Kaching gives you 1000 simoleans PLUS if you press ;!;!;!;! and so on after it you will get an xtra 100 simoleans for each one AND if you end it with 1 and hold down enter it will say sorry no such cheat but your money will still go up another 1000 simoleans.

Website for SIMS 2 cheats:
http://www.cheatgenius.co.uk/cheats/12043/PC-cheats/The-Sims-2-Cheats.html
http://www.gamespot.com/pc/strategy/thesims2/hints.html

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can anyone tell me the codes for myspace like to make things bold and bigger?..and any other codes that u know?

thanks in advance
ill rate all 5's!

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=myspace+html&btnG=Google+Search
All the websites you need for HTML to myspace.

Make sure you put everything together though!
< FONT SIZE= #sizeOFtext > TEXT HERE < / FONT >
Bigger font.
< b >TEXTHERE< / b >
For bold.

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I have this friends who makes fun of me all the time and she makes fun of me around other people too. It makes them think that its ok to make fun of me becasue she does. What can i say to her to make her stop.

You need to have a serious talk with her. If you don't she really won't stop. Trust me, I know. I've been in your situation before where everyone + my best friends picked on me. & I got sick of it & realized I needed new friends. I don't know if that's a choice for you, but maybe you should try and think about that? Friends don't make fun of other friends, and if they do they're fucking stupid. End of story, you need to tell her to stop what the hell shes saying because it's really starting to piss you off! You deserve so much better & you don't need someone lowering your self esteem just so they can just gain attention from making stupid jokes about others.

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My mom wont let me have a boy friend and im 15 years old. I cant have him over becasue I live in an apartment and theirs only one room that everyone stays in. How can i convince her that im old enough.

Let them meet, she'll probably think totally different after seeing him. You could just let him stay in the living room or something. I'm not allowed to sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend, so in a way our mom's are the same. But seriously, invite him over just to hang out & let them meet a few times.

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does it hurt to have sex the 1st time for girls?
will the guy leave you?
and im to scared to wear tampons so do you think it will hurt?

dont be a bitch.
i rate high

Well, I'm still a virgin, but from what my friends say about it, IT HURTS. But everyone is different, so it might not hurt for you, but may hurt for someone else, y'know? Depending on what type of guy you're dating & how far into the relationship can also vary your second question. Honestly, no one knows if the guy will leave you, but there's a chance. Wearing tampons doesn't hurt. Well it didn't for me, but it might for you. Again, it's totally different, you might be completely opposite of me. But I'm not completely sure. But the first time you try a tampon it's very discomforting, and unusual because you're not used to having something in your vagina pretty much all day. But you just get used to it after a while!

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You know them free offer ad's where you have to hit something and then they say you get something free. Do they really work has anyone here ever tried them and they actually got a laptop, or ipod from them or are they just a scam ?

Thanks Alot. I'll rate 5's!

It's a scam, & I'm pretty sure it can cause viruses, but I'm not a computer genious so I'm honestly not sure. They aren't real though, if you click on the Free IPOD crap it'll come to a screen that says, enter your name & address, then you click next and to "win a free IPOD" you have to like sign up for a mastercard or something of that sort. Something that costs A LOT of money. It's like neverending that crap. So, I really wouldn't try it if I were you.

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im 13 female and im like so scared right now. i was just in the bathroom and i wiped and there was brown liquidy stuff on the toilet paper. no i didnt go number 2. ive never had my period b4 plz help

You probably just started your period! :)
The best advice I can give you is go tell your mom, or a female in your house right away! Welcome to womanhood. Hehe.

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14/f...i just met this new girl named Kate about 2 months ago. She has this whole group of friends that I've gotten to know a little. I've only actually went over Kate's house and that's it. Well she has been spending a lot of time with me lately and she says that some people are jealous of mine and her friendship and I feel really bad. And I have also been getting a vibe from every in her group that they don't like me very much...I don't know what to do. please help.

Woah, I totally understand what you mean. I hang out with a group of girls & I'm closer to one of them because she's the one who started talking to me first because I just moved. So, of course I'm going to hang out with her more just because she's the reason I have friends now. But, I try my best to make sure that they always are together. Like when we're walking, I'll make sure they are standing by each other, and I'll try not to interrupt when they are having a conversation. Because of course they were best friends first before I came along! Just try your best by letting them all talk to her first & stuff like that. Show that you aren't trying to keep them apart. (:

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