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17/f
Hey, so there's this guy I like and we've been out a couple times and we always end up together at parties and stuff, but he goes through phases it seems of always wanting to talk to me- where he texts me like all the time then sometimes he acts like he can't be bothered with me.
I'm just kinda confused with him, he always says he doesn't want a relationship but then he asks me out on dates every so often. Then I don't know if I should go out with him because I really like him and I don't know if he will ever want to be in a relationship and I could end up getting hurt.
Any advice or ideas will help thanks :)
it kinda sounds like he's interested in dating you, but not getting into a serious relationship. if you're okay with this then it wouldn't hurt to go out on a few dates and you never know, maybe after that maybe he'll change his mind. if anything happens, let him ask you out though, just so you don't come on too strong or scare him off.
ok brandon rubel, this boy who i am totally in love with, he no's i like him but he says he doesnt like anyone in this skool. now josh, one of my x's, just broke up with his girlfriend today and asked me out. i didnt want to hurt his feelings so i was gonna say yes...but he just called me and said he was sorry but his girlfriend didnt actually brake-up with him, she was joking around! he asked me what my answer was going to be and i said it didnt matter and hung up. what do i do now???!!!
forget josh. he was just using you as a re-bound, or a second choice, you shouldn't have to deal with being second. and you shouldn't go out with anyone just not to hurt their feelings. if you don't like them, don't go out with them because its not fair to lead them on like that. just play things cool for awhile and be friends and only friends with this brandon kid and don't push him into anything or scare him off or you'll ruin the friendship too. if he starts to fall for you, you'll know. don't be pushy.
there is this guy at work that i have hung out with several times and we have hooked up. i thought things were going great on both sides and that we were on the same page and then i think i scared him off. i told him i had feelings for him and i dont think he was ready for that. either way, how do i get him to get back the interest in me? i feel like i may have fucked this one up. but i would really like to get to know him.. how do i get him to start calling and texting me again?
first things first: hang out as friends and only friends. if things start going good from there you can flirt a little, but don't over-do it because you don't want to scare him off again. also, let him bring up the whole "i like you" thing first. things work out better if you take them one step at a time. goood luck :)
I need some good over you songs, or i cant take it anymore songs that would fit a description for a guy to a girl, please.
my favorite is without you- Hinder :)
i'm 15 and female. i'm from south africa. i kissed my boy friend and a few days later i got a cold sore. i think i now have the herpe virus. i really cant stop thinking about it.
now i really want to know, should i be worried?
will i get sores around my virgina?
is the any way of preventing that from happening?
there are different kinds of herpes. if you have oral herpes then no you can't get it on your vagina, unless you have sex (possibility). cold sores will go away in a few days- week. people get them randomly even when they don't kiss someone so relax, you'll be fine.
hey! (:
okay well my question is about handjobs. im with this guy that i RLY like and he like actually loves me. hes shown me love and cared for me like no one else ever and ive been with a lot of guys. anyway that leads to i want to go a little farther with him. hes fingered me and ive touched his penis but i havent actually given him a handjob. i really want to but i feel clueless. hes experienced and im not.. haha. we mean the world to each other and really have a future so i feel like if i do it'll be something really special for us. he keeps telling me i dont have to and that if i do itll be amazing just because its me.. but i want it to be legit good too haha. he tells me that no matter what i do he'll love it but can you give me some pointers? i want to know what feels super good to guys cus i have no idea. the head of the penis has the most nerves, right? and i know i hold tightly onto it and move my hand up and down but im sure other girls do other little things to make it better and stuff. and also he takes a while to cum even if hes super turned on like whether hes doing it or a girl is so what do i do to make it feel good for a good amount of time and maybe help him go a little faster? lol, cus id rather it not take tooo long. :P thank you so much! i just need some instruction and pointers haha.
haha well there's really not much to it. you said you touched his penis before so just do the same thing only move your hand up and down. yea the head of the penis has the most nerves but its also really sensitive so you don't wanna be too hard up there. and also make sure your nails don't go anywhere near it, cut them if you have to. just be gentle and glide your hand up and down, thats really all it is. good luck ;) haha.
my boyfriend of 2 years and i just recently broke up. i started hooking up with this other gorgeous guy and now that guy is confusing me. i have just realized that i no longer have someone that gives a shit about how my day went. its hard to swallow. haha. i am used to being with this man everyday and i never had to figure out something to do. i miss it. i miss having a someone. a something. what do i do? im already tired of being alone. damn.
i just got out of a long-term relationship so i know how you feel, it sucks =/. but honestly, you can't let a guy ruin your life, remember all of the fun times you had before you dated him and replay them, go out with friends, throw parties, just get out of the house and get your mind off of it. love yourself and then he'll come along :)
I think i am pregnant and i have only been with this guy for 2 months. We havn't even said I love you to each other. He means the world to me and I can see us together for a long time and so can he but I think I am pregnant and I told him he said it was a good thing and that he would be there for me and the baby, but I am only 16 and he is 17. I dont want his life to go down the drains because of me he had a life planed out and now I screw it up like this. On top of all that I jsut made a huge mistake. I took off my birth controle 2 weeks ago just incase I was pregnant and we had sex again with out a condom. I dont know what to do I am head over heals for him but dont want to rune his life like this.
i know you don't want to ruin his life, but he made just as bad as a decision as you, so its good because both of you guys should be responsible for the mistake. just don't worry until you know for sure that you're pregnant and if you are make sure you get medical help and tell your parents, but its really good that this guy wants to help, most of them at this age would just leave, so good for him.
I recently met this girl online.
She is a sophomore, and i am a senior that graduates in a week. She is about 45 minutes from where i live. we have been texting each other nonstop for the past like three days, and we have sent each other multiple pictures and what not(not nude, just of ourselves). I guess my question's are, if this continues should i like ask her out without meeting her in person, or should i wait to meet her in person?
And how could i convince my parents to let me drive out to meet her(i have never driven to where she lives).
i wouldn't ask her out before you actually meet her in person. you should hang out with her a couple of times and make sure she's somebody you would want to date.
as for the convincing part, tell your parents that you really like this girl and will pay for the gas and stuff to drive to where she lives. if your parents have a heart and as long as you don't go like everyday, i'm sure they will let you.
I gave my boyfriend a hand job in my bed and he cummed. Can I get pregnant from sleeping on my bed where he cummed?
not really. he would have had to cum then right then and there you would have to sleep naked on it for it to get in you before it died, and even the possibility of that is really low. so no you're fine, you should probably just wash your sheets though, its unsanitary.
are you soposed to shave up top above your vagina or no?
you can do whatever you want. i do cause i think it feels better, but if you do make sure you use shaving cream and a good razor because its a sensitive spot.
if i have some slight tummy fat, should i lose weight first before getting a naval piercing or does it not matter?
it doesn't matter, like the hole won't get bigger or smaller. you can lose weight if you want it to look better but if you're just afraid of what the hole will look like, it won't change.
i wanna gett my belly pierced soooo badly you
don't even know, but idon'tknow how much does
it really hurt and if your skinny does it her
more? whats the chance of infection? and whats
the cost of getting it done? and i wanna convince
my mom to let me get it done but she keeps on
saying no, is there anyway to ensure to her
that its safe? please leave something (:
-toriii ;DD
i don't think being skinny or fat affects it at all since it's just skin. it feels like an ear piercing only on your stomach, just a little pinch. and make you sure go to a place with good reviews and clean it everyday and do it right and you'll be fine. to convince your mom you can have her read the reviews of the place where you're getting it done so you both know its a good place.
I asked my fiance if he masturbated, expecting him to say no because he knows that I save myself for him, and never please myself unless he's there. He said around once every two weeks, in the shower. I think he's probably lying about how many times he does it because when he saw I was upset he said only four times since we've been together. We've been together for a Year and a half. It just doesn't add up. Not only that but I feel so hurt that he would rather do that than me. I can only think that he's in there fantasizing about other women. I feel like I can't satisfy him, and sex will never be the same. What do I do?
don't worry so much about it. alot of guys do it when they're in relationships and it doesn't mean that the girl is necessarily doing a "bad job" or that they'd rather do that then with you, and most of the time if you guys are really attracted to each other, he's probably fantasizing about you...its just you're probably not with him as much as hes with himself or he could think that you don't want to do anything because you said you're saving yourself for him (until you get married i'm assuming) so maybe he thinks he's respecting you. and honestly i give him creds for being honest and telling you because theres many guys that do it and don't admit to it, especially to their girlfriends/wives.
well i went out with this guy and we have been on and off for like a year , he is all i ever thing about . But on new years eve we broke up for stupid reasons .It broke my heart beacause i love him so much. People say " he treated you soo bad just forget about him " but the thing is i cant and dont really want to . We havent been together
for about 5 months and i saw him the other night and he told me to my face that he had no feeling for me and it broke me ive been crying for 2 days now and the pain wont stop .. what do i do? i want him but he doesnt want me?
i went through this exact same thing. his feelings just changed i guess and the last month he wasn't treating me good. i was completely devestated when we broke up and i cried for days and tried for a few weeks to get him back, i said to myself i would do anything...then after awhile i really thought to myself, why fight for someone thats not fighting for me? alot of people have probably said this to you but seriously, theres so many guys out there that will treat you 10x better than this guy did and you need to believe it. it's going to be hard but your friends will get you through it and you'll be so much happier you broke up when you meet that guy that treats you right.
Well, a little bit ago I just had a serious discussion with my boyfriend and we decided to take a break and just be friends. We had been dating for half a year and it just got to the point where [ he's very outgoing 24/7, I'm mostly serious and have fun when I feel it's truly a fun moment ] he'd always have a sort of complaint of me every month whether it be I didn't hold his hand he always had to do it, I never talk about my emotions and have deep emotional conversations, etc. He just seemed very sensitive, which I find nothing wrong with, I just like a LITTLE sensitivity in my guy but for the most part to be a typical guy. I know it doesn't sound too bad on here, but whenever you're in the moment, it's weird. Well it just started feeling to me like I was some big empty shell of a human to him and I felt bad about myself and everything. But I tried anyways more but then everything just began to feel forced like I'd think "am i holding his hand enough? am i being emotional enough?" which isn't really a relationship then. So it just seemed like he wasn't getting what he wanted out of the relationship and I wasn't fully getting what I wanted either. ( There's so much more to explain in the contrasts of our personalities and how we handle relationships, but it'd take forever ). It just felt more like a role switch; I the male, he the female and I don't like that.
So we talked and decided to just take a break and be friends for awhile. But there was just this weirdness in the air like obviously we didn't want to break up, but we did at the same time.
I guess what I'm asking is; does anyone think this was the right thing to do for us? It's just an awkward situation where you want to be together but it just doesn't seem like it's working, so it's sad, yet relieved. I've just never been in a situation like this; usually with a break up it's like, fight, stop talking, and either talk months later or never talk again. But we're going to hang out in a couple days like everything's cool.
this pretty much just happened to me. you've gotten through half a year with this guy so you should be his friend already. nothings awkward unless you make it, i promise. i think its a good thing for you two because it gives you some space and lets you guys figure out if you want to keep this relationship going or not. if you want to be together but its not working out because you two are so different, you're better off just staying friends, at least for awhile until you both can give to each others needs.
Hey there:
Sometimes there are girls that I want to date no matter of what religion they are in and there are other times that I only want to date someone who is catholic which is what I am. In this question, I'm kinda asking for advice on this matter and would like your personal opinions as well. What do you think of the idea of dating someone who isn't the same religion as you? What are the advantages and disadvantages of it?
I don't think religion matters in dating. marriage is a little different story because you both have to decide and agree on what religion you are gonna bring up your kids with. I'm actually dating someone right now who's Muslim and I'm Christian and we've been dating for almost 9 months and religion hasn't gotten in the way of anything. point is, if you care about each other enough, then you will both decide on what to do for the kids and you will accept each others beliefs and it won't come between you.
15/F
Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months ago yesterday. And for those 9 months I feel like im the ONLY ONE trying to make any effort keeping us together. For example im usually the one to call him I call him when I wake up and before I go to sleep. I see him over the weekends and sometimes at my house during the week. I think the reason he doesnt call me so much is because my parents told me I cant see him so I have to keep our relationship a complete secret from my family for 9 months. He says he loves me but I mean I talk to him maybe 3 times a day MAX and maybe 5 mins each if even that. And he says stuuff like this when I call "Hey , yeah Im doing chores right now ill call you when im done." Thats his excuse right now he said that at 11 this morning and its now 5:30 and still no call from him. I highly doubt it takes him that long too do a couple chores. And then that makes me have mixed feelings, like I try to hard to keep us together. I told him yesterday about how it makes me mad that he doesnt call me after he says "ill call you in like 10 mins" and it takes him hours or I just end up calling him. He makes me feeel like im the only one trying to keep us together and he doesnt care about us. I do want to stay with him so dont say break up with him. Do you think just not calling him for a while and see if he makes the effort to call me would be the best thing to do? Thannnks(:
Sorry it was so longggg.
wow... this is pretty much EXACTLY what i'm going through right now. that's so crazy.
but yeah i think you shouldn't call him until he calls you. see if he's actually in this with you. maybe he's just lazy, does he act different when you guys are actually together? i think you said he's been doing this since you guys have been together? that's actually a good sign, its probably just his personality, it drives you crazzyy i so understand you but i'd definetly try not speaking to him for awhile and see what he does. thats what i'm doing at the moment. good luck :)
I'm going to the gyno for the first time next week. I'm hoping to get birth control thanks to my insane periods.
When they ask if I'm sexually active- I don't know what to say. I've participated in mutual masturbation and oral. Does that count? Do I specify and say "Yes, I've done oral." Or simply say "Yes," and leave it at that?
Any advice on going for the first time or what to expect? Thanks guys, er well girls I guess lol!
you should tell them about the oral sex since it is possible to pick up STD's from it, then just say no to vaginal.
Okay I heard that when you should brush your teeth until your gum's bleed is this true??
no you shouldn't, that usually means you're brushing way to hard or have a small case of gingivitis (gum disease) but don't freak out if you do, i had it and it's easy curable. theres usually no pain or anything your gums just bleed when you brush/floss. the only thing i had to do to get rid of it was floss more often (everyday) so try that if you don't already.