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Is this for the best?
Well, a little bit ago I just had a serious discussion with my boyfriend and we decided to take a break and just be friends. We had been dating for half a year and it just got to the point where [ he's very outgoing 24/7, I'm mostly serious and have fun when I feel it's truly a fun moment ] he'd always have a sort of complaint of me every month whether it be I didn't hold his hand he always had to do it, I never talk about my emotions and have deep emotional conversations, etc. He just seemed very sensitive, which I find nothing wrong with, I just like a LITTLE sensitivity in my guy but for the most part to be a typical guy. I know it doesn't sound too bad on here, but whenever you're in the moment, it's weird. Well it just started feeling to me like I was some big empty shell of a human to him and I felt bad about myself and everything. But I tried anyways more but then everything just began to feel forced like I'd think "am i holding his hand enough? am i being emotional enough?" which isn't really a relationship then. So it just seemed like he wasn't getting what he wanted out of the relationship and I wasn't fully getting what I wanted either. ( There's so much more to explain in the contrasts of our personalities and how we handle relationships, but it'd take forever ). It just felt more like a role switch; I the male, he the female and I don't like that.
So we talked and decided to just take a break and be friends for awhile. But there was just this weirdness in the air like obviously we didn't want to break up, but we did at the same time.
I guess what I'm asking is; does anyone think this was the right thing to do for us? It's just an awkward situation where you want to be together but it just doesn't seem like it's working, so it's sad, yet relieved. I've just never been in a situation like this; usually with a break up it's like, fight, stop talking, and either talk months later or never talk again. But we're going to hang out in a couple days like everything's cool.
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honestly only you will know if this will be for the best and it will be some time before you know. you do have a few things going on here and i'll try to address them. first off, with your emotions, your body and mind knows when to feel them. you shouldnt' have to fake them or have to over do them to keep someoen happy. there are some people that have issues and are do feel nothing but it's less than 5 percent of people. i'd assume you are just normal and probably are more of an introvert. you're guy seems very touchy feelie. it's like he was raised around a lot of women and just has that side to him. it's not bad if you have reversed roles if both people are comfy with it. you aren't though. it seems smart to step back and reevaluate the relationship. but he doesn't really have the right to change you. you know what's natural to you. i will say this though. if there are emotions you wanted to share with him but were unable to then he may have a point. but nobody shares everything or every thought with who they date. i'd think that to a degree your guy comes off as insecure or is insecure. it's almost like he wants to check every 2 minutes how you are doing or how you are feeling. sometimes we just aren't feeling a thing. we are in the moment and have no thoughts about it. this is why guys get angry when girls ask "what are you thinking?". in a way you got to see how it is for the other half. anyhow, i'd say you did the right thing. it's not bad to step back sometimes.
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this pretty much just happened to me. you've gotten through half a year with this guy so you should be his friend already. nothings awkward unless you make it, i promise. i think its a good thing for you two because it gives you some space and lets you guys figure out if you want to keep this relationship going or not. if you want to be together but its not working out because you two are so different, you're better off just staying friends, at least for awhile until you both can give to each others needs.
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