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Pregnant but not sure =/
I think i am pregnant and i have only been with this guy for 2 months. We havn't even said I love you to each other. He means the world to me and I can see us together for a long time and so can he but I think I am pregnant and I told him he said it was a good thing and that he would be there for me and the baby, but I am only 16 and he is 17. I dont want his life to go down the drains because of me he had a life planed out and now I screw it up like this. On top of all that I jsut made a huge mistake. I took off my birth controle 2 weeks ago just incase I was pregnant and we had sex again with out a condom. I dont know what to do I am head over heals for him but dont want to rune his life like this.
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First of all, calm down and wait until your next period. If you miss it take a pregnancy test. It's possible that you have nothing to worry about (and if it's still the day after sex without the condom, see if you can get some plan B).
If you believe yourself to be pregnant but don't want to "ruin your life" as it were, you should seriously consider abortion or adoption. It's great that he'd be supportive of you should you have a baby, but even so you probably would have a hard time raising it given the stage of life you are in.
If you are morally/personally against abortion, I would suggest you look for others that would be better able to handle a baby. There are plenty of couples that would love to have a kid but can't conceive; you could be helping them out by taking a difficult situation off of your shoulders. There are also options of open adoption if you feel bad giving away a kid of yours completely. This way you would still have the option of being involved in your kid's life without having to actually raise a child.
If you are not morally against abortion, that would be the easiest solution. There are many people that perpetuate information that abortions may cause cancer or infertility; this has not actually been proven (I believe there are studies that prove both). And while of course there is some emotional/physical pain involved, it would be a lot less than the physical pain of birth or the emotional pain of giving away a newborn child.
Take a deep breath and discuss these things with your boyfriend. Hopefully, the pregnancy test will come back negative.
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Have you taken a pregnancy test? Sometimes you might skip your period due to stress or natural variation. If you do take a pregnancy test and it comes out positive, you should definitely see a doctor. Perhaps if you are pregnant you could consider adoption? A child at the age of sixteen would definitely alter your options in life. Of course, abortion is also an option, dependent on you and your boyfriend's moral convictions. This is a hard choice to have to make, and I hope you both are certain of your decision before you make it.
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Ruin his life? Are you aware, that If you decide to keep the baby, you are the only one who is actually tied down. He is at fault here two you know, and on top of it, you screwed up your life. You really want to be a teen mom, who can't go out and hang out with friends, needs to get a job, and is going to have to live pay check to pay check. I think you need to go and get a test, see what that says, regardless of positive/negative, go to the DOCTOR! You need an expert to look at you and say what he thinks. However, you should have used a brain, and not had sex. I'm sorry for being blunt, but did you think this trough?
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i know you don't want to ruin his life, but he made just as bad as a decision as you, so its good because both of you guys should be responsible for the mistake. just don't worry until you know for sure that you're pregnant and if you are make sure you get medical help and tell your parents, but its really good that this guy wants to help, most of them at this age would just leave, so good for him.
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Well there's nothing you can do about it now, and hopefully you're not pregnant so that you can make smarter choices. Just wait until you miss the day of your period, which may be a little screwed up since you came off the pill - but if you miss it take a pregnancy test & see what is says. There are plenty of places that can help with you pregnancy if you are pregnant & there are also alternative decisions you can make besides keeping it. Keep those in mind too, also be smarter when you're having sex. This can happen to anyone, but you shouldn't be having sex without a condom when you're 16 - it's just childish. You should be old enough to be responsible.
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