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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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Well, at school i think everyone seems to think of me as a bit quiet, a bit shy ...... etc.
Thing is, i dont want them to think of me that way.
Tonight theres a school disco and i love discos, i dance alot, chat, and have a great time, but im not sure what to wear, and i was wondering what type of hair/makeup/outfit would make me appear fun, exciting and confident.
If you have any ideas, please tell me some makeup looks, hairstyles and clothes that would give that image.
The discos tonight, so i would like some anwers before then, but if its after still tell me because it would be good to know for future.
Thanks, xxx

Hmm, maybe if you have something with sequins on it wear that. But if you don't then just wear a really bright outfit. {yellows, oranges, pink, greens etc.} Put your hair in a side pony tail. And, you can get like 3 different eye shadows, and sorta make three vertical stripeson your eyelid { my school did that for our play"FAME" which was sort of in the time of disco. So, deffintly give that a go. Try to go for a old fashioned party disco look. Hope i helped! Have fun.

-Brina

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Ok, so i like this guy whom i think likes me too. but, the only problem is, i'm taller than him! and i think that is really getting to him and he's not acting himself b/c whenever we walk down the hallway he always has to look up to see me and i can tell he really doesn't like it. but it's not a big height difference, i'm 5'2 and he's like 5 foot. what should i do?

I would deffinitly tell him that you don't mind the height difference. 2 inches is truly not a big height difference. Let him know that you dont care about height difference, you care about the person. Hopefully he'll be understandable. He probably thinks you wouldnt want to go out with him because he's short. But, deffinitly talk to him, and dont be afraid either. Because, if you two like each other it shouldnt matter if theres a small height difference. Good Luck, hope I helped!

-Brina

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okay so I'm 13/f name JJ my friends and I used to be so very close, now ever since they tried out for cheerleading and I didn't(I'm more of a tomboy) they leave me out, it's always come on KK* let's cheer, come here KK* I want to tell you something that I dont want JJ to hear. And KK* always tries to includ me but CC* never tries to, KK* knows how it feels but CC* always whines because the boys are calling her gay and stuff, she talks to me like I care about her more than anything in the world then gets mad at me that I am more popular.... Do you think CC* and KK* are good friends or should I stick with my guy friends and other friends?

Ok so. In life, your going to loose some friends,and realize that they aren't the people you thought they were at first. Deffinitly talk to your girlfriends and let them know that you feel left out. But, if you feel like they arent the type of friends that you want, then stick with the people, that you do like. If they leave you out, its not very nice, unless its something that they like to do, and you dont. Like, if they leave you out of cheering, its not a problem since you dont like it, but they still could ask you if you wanted to come. But,deffinitly talk to your friends, and dont be scared to. Good Luck hun, hope I helped!

-Brina

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i have just started using tampons and at work i felt something (im 15) i went to the loo and i was leaking but i had only had it in for 3 hours im using normal type do i need to have a higher absorbancy or is it that i didnt put in in high enough??

Sorry this answer is short, but its quite simple. All you need to do is change your tampon more often. maybe leave it in for only an hour, then go change it. Hope I helped!

-Brina

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost a year. we're both 15. recently he's told me that he likes other girls, but would never cheat. he says he only likes them based on looks and anytime he sees them, he always compares them to me in the back of his mind and they always lose. but when i found out about this, i was upset. i feel uncomfortable that he likes other girls besides for me. is that selfish? he loves me and i love him but i don't want other girls to be on his mind. it hurts...should i try to be ok with him liking other girls or should i break up with him? i mean, people can't help who they like, right?

Actually, I sort of disagree with the other advicenator that gave you advice. This is how I would think about this situation, you should be the only girl on your boyfriends mind { unless its like an actress or a singer because everyone has celebrity crushes}, if he thinks that girls are hott, thats normal. But, there is no reason for him to have to compare other girls to you, even if you do win. Whats the point of comparing girls when your his girlfriend? Your not being selfish at all! I find it quite rude that he would actually tell you about the comparing thing. Not only is it rude to compare looks, but that he tells you that he likes other girls. You should be the only one he likes and loves. I suggest, if you dont feel comfortable with him telling you this you must talk to him. Its primal, girls and guys sort of have an "animal instinct" to like people. So, in a way, your boyfriend can like other girls { not going out with them or anything} but that he tells you about it is horrible. Hope I helped, Good Luck.

-Brina

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i wanted to go get my permit tomorrow & now i freaked myself out too much. i don't think i want to go anymore. i took a few online tests & some of em i'd do good & others i'd suck. it juss seems like there's too much info. in the book to study. idk what i should do!! idk if i should take it er wait. how should i relax??

thanks!!

Ok, don't be so stressed about it, because if you fail you can take it over again. Think about it this way, either way your going to take the test, so why be nervous about it? Some tests are different then others. Most likely you'll do fine. It's a very simple test. Good Luck!

-Brina

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i have a parakeet and he poops seriously about every 5 minutes, and its not normal poop either.its sometimes watery and yellow/white.could he be sick?if so do you know what he might have?

thanks in advance.

Deffinitly don't know what type of sickness it is. But I do know that he is sick. My friend has a parakeet and hers doesnt poop that often. And, since its a yellow white, something is deffinitly wrong. It could most likely be the food your feeding it. Take it to the vet to make sure its not going to die or anything. Good Luck to your parakeet! Hope I helped!

-Brina

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Well this kid i like isn;t in any of my classes so i like never get to see him during the day wchich is kind of depressing so my best friend and i kind of like "stalk" well his locker is righ across the hall from ours so we just kind of like go there when not needed and also when we have certain periods before lunch we can foloow him down to lunch I think maybe he notices especially wehn my friend is kind of loud and I'm not sure if he thinks I'm a crazy stlaker lunitic but its the only way i get to see him plus its become kind of like a really fun insider wiht my friend and i...should i continue "stalking" or what..?

I deffinitly have to agree with the other advicenator, he'll probably think it's cool if you just go up to him and say hey or something. As for the "stalking thing" Maybe only make it for 3 times a week. LOL. No, it isn't necissarily stalking, it would probably be called " A girl who is too afraid to talk to the guy she likes and does this because she likes him" type of thing. lol. Hope I helped.

-Brina

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In my P.E. class, we're playing volleytennis and I'm not athletic at all. the problem is that I have a hard time hitting the ball over the net and I always screw up. so my partner who is always fustrated with me keeps complaining to everyone about me saying shes so stupid and lazy and she can't even play at all. No matter how much I try, I'll never get better. How should I deal with this?

Don't say you'll never get better, because with that attitude you really won't. Who cares what the girl is saying, volleyball just isn't your sport! I'm sure one of your friends, or even the PE teacher can help you out. Or, like the other advicenators said, ask to trade partners. And, if i'm sure if you explain to your PE teacher why you want to, she'll probably not only put you with someone who's nice and doesn't care if your bad at volleyball, she/he will even offer to help you out, without you asking them. Good Luck love, hope I helped.

-Brina

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I asked a question about a month ago about my situation with an ex-boyfriend who I became pregnant for, and then lost the baby. (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=421121)

Not long after, he called and apologized for everything, and gave me his side of the story. I finally showed him ultrasound pictures and he saw how depressed I had become, and after hearing it from soo many people he believes me. He says he would have been there for us, which I believe, and we are now friends. He's helping me deal with my loss.
But the last time we talked, he asked about getting a second chance. I don't want him to think I'm this easy to get back, but at the same time we've been through so much, and I think he's learned his lesson. I still care about him, not only because he's the father of my child, but I care about him as a person.
I told him if I did give him a second chance, it would be a long time from now because I'm not ready right now after what I went through. Do you think he deserves a second chance? I need an outsider's opinion on this. Thanks!

First off, terribly sorry about your loss. I personally agree with the other advicenator, he doesn't deserve a second chance, but it truly is your decision. And, I read your other question and that was rude how he treated you. Have you been to a doctor to clarify if you actually have Depression? Deffinitly don't start the relationship off quickly, like you said, be friends for a while. And, if you know you can trust him again, then you are the only one to make the decision of going back out with him.Be sure, that if your ever in this sitation again, he won't leave you. As for that guy who kind of lead him to think you weren't having his baby, well, seems to me that your ex is easily cornered into a type of peer pressure. This type of peer pressure makes him think what other people say is true. Which isn't good at all.Maybe look to find someone else, who makes you feel happy and not "depressed" Good luck love, Hope I helped!


-Brina

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okay well the guy that i have liked for a long time just started liking my best friend. she has a bf that she loves very much and i dont think she would leave him. i dont think he knows i like him but idk. should i tell him straight up?...but if he dont like me like that then i will feel weird around him..me, him, my best friend and a few others are going to the movies on friday but i dont know if thats a good idea considering he likes her. she knows i really like him and i know she wouldnt do anything like flirt with him in front of me. but i dont want him paying all the attention to her..should she invite her bf that way he cant?!?!?

ill rate high =)

Deffinitly tell her to invite her boyfriend. Most likely she wouldnt dump her current boyfriend for the guy you like. Because, you like him. Tell your friends to sit so that you'll be able to sit by him. Or, you could always have your best friends boyfriend talk to your guy, and see if he's into you. The guy wont be freaked out by it because it will just be "guy chat" know what I mean? He wouldnt pay all th attention to her, it would be rude if he did that. This is what you should do if the guy chat doesnt work, tell him you like him, and if he doesnt like you, be like ok, and the next day { so that things arent awkward between you} go up to him and tell him you dont like him anymore. lol, it actually will most likely work. Good Luck love. hope I helped.

-Brina

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Im Graduating on the 6th of June and i need help to figure out a song. What song should it be? I want something about saying goodbye and probably upbeat but slow is cool.

"Good Riddance" by Green Day

Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road
Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go
So make the best of this test, and don't ask why
It's not a question, but a lesson learned in time

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.

So take the photographs, and still frames in your mind
Hang it on a shelf in good health and good time
Tattoos of memories and dead skin on trial
For what it's worth it was worth all the while

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.

It's something unpredictable, but in the end it's right.
I hope you had the time of your life.



Hope I helped!

-Brina

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My friend (she can be A) is dealing with a very difficult person. It is beyond my advice so I'm looking to others for some. Well, her friend (let's say K) has done the meanest things I have ever heard to A. They sit at a cool lunch table but they started ganging up on her. For example, today they (even they admitted online that they) were watching her at lunch to find things wrong about her. Also, K curses at her online. K is like Satan. I sware, she is the most coldhearted girl in America. Anyway, my friend tried to talk to her but that's just not in the cards for K. Sometimes they exclude her and say that she wants to be the center of attention all the time. I was just shocked when I heard this. And another thing; K talks stuff about this other girl too. Not only was this girl my best friend for almost all of my life, but she is my neighbor too. I don't know how to help my friends! They come to me for answers but this time, I'm clueless. What can I do?

The same thing is happening with my group of friends, except a bit differently. My friend has been treated rudely { not to the extent of how "K" has been treating her} but, it still hurt her. So, my one friend and I took our friend "under our wing" and decided we wanted to be friends with her no matter what, because she really is an awesome chick. Me and my friend have talked to the people who have been mean to her, and told her its not nice. Hopefully, you understand that "K" is doing this for attention, and to make herself feel better. Since your not friends with "K" maybe get a group of people to go up to her and let her know that what shes doing is not right. And say it in front of people, so that she gets embarressed. As for your friend, tell her on aol, print out all of the nasty things they say and bring it to the guidence office/counselor. You need to tell her not to be scared to do this. No one, absolutely no one should have to feel uncomfortable to be in school or out of school. And you can't be afraid to make a stand and stick up for this girl either. Good Luck.

-Brina

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I'm 14/f...I like my best friend and unfortunatley its a girl (no offense to anyone). I want to tell her just so I can talk to her about it but she seems like she could care less. So what do I do? Do I just blab it out or not tell her at all? Thnx in advance.

-Duckie

Hm, your 14 and you already know your a lesbian. I suggest you wait it out a little bit. Your friend might get creeped out by it. First make sure you can absolutely trust her. Second, don't tell her you like her, tell her that you are a lesbian, and then tell her you like her, so that she can process the whole thing of you being a lesbian first. Unfortunately, some people don't like hearing there friends arent straight, so it really is up to you to tell her or not. Do you think she'd still be your friend after telling her? Hopefully she will be. Good Luck hun.

-Brina

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okay...
1.my friend nikki called me a bitch and started a "I HATE JC" club.
2.she called me a bitch again, then said that she was sorry, and that it would never happen again.
3.i tell her that i'm too big a bitch to continue to be her friend, and get her to cry.
4.told out by most of my friends and people at school that i don't even like.
5.my crush helps me out by talking with me
6.lost 10 of my friends in 1 day

NEED MAJOR HELP!!! will rate good answers

Hm. First off, you definitly don't need a friend that calls you a bitch. If your friend called you a bitch jokingly, to you and you knew it was a joke that would be fine, but the way she did it isnt nice. She probably just did it for attention. She deserved to cry for being mean to you. Your friends evidently dont konw what happend and dont know what to do because they think if they hang out with you they'll be less of a person. Its excellent for your crush to talk to you. Maybe he'll become your friend soon, unless you already are. You lost 10 friends...well, if they stopped being your friends for such a thing they are really probably not good friends anyways for ditching you. Just relax, you'll make up with a couple of your friends probably. As for that chick and the club, thats just immature and you shouldnt worry about it. Good Luck love, hope I helped!

-Brina

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I am 15 years old. And I know that I shouldn't be worrying about this, but is it ok to expect to find a guy whose a virgin and wait with me until marriage? Or is that something that I likely won't find today? I'll rate, thank you.

It is deffinitly ok to want to find a guy whose a virgin as well with the same feelings you have about sex. There are probably lots of guys that would do that with you. And, there might even be some guys that have had sex, but decide when they are with you that they dont want to have sex until your married. Hope I helped love.

-Brina

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Is it true that if you don't wear a bra, your boobs get saggy? THanks. Ill rate. Sorry if its in the wrong category.

Sorry that you didn't like my answer, i was just trying to help. Didn't have to give me a 3. No your breasts wont get saggy if you dont wear a bra. Better answer?

-Brina

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After writing an essay about something we liked were gunna have to speak in front of the class for a timed 5 minutes about it. And i'm scared out of my mind. Whenever we have to talk in front of the class i start talking fast (which doesnt help me reach 5 min easily) and like moving my legs back and forth. Its weird, cause usually i'm really up beat and talk real loud and stuff like that. But yeah i'm super nervous. And suggestions that would help me not be so scared?

Sorry its a bit late answering this, considering you have 8 others that answered it. Most likely you have a friend in the class right? Well, before you recite your essay, tell your friend that you are going to read it on them. And only focus on reading it to your friend in your class, just look straight at your friend. It will be much more easier. Good Luck!

-Brina

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14/f
I have this headache that is so bad that I end up crying. When I cry, that makes it worse. I know this sounds stubborn but I refuse to take medication. Does anyone have anything they do to get rid of headaches? Or at least make them feel slightly better?

Put a warm washcloth on your forehead. Soak your feet in warm water. Actually, i know it sounds weird, but have someone rub your feet because the nerves in your feet go to your head, and if your feet are relaxed then your head will feel better. It truly does work also! Good Luck, hope you feel better love.

-Brina

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ive always wanted to make-out with this boy. one day he asked me to. but i said no and just kissed him regularly. im so afriad that im not going to know how to do it, that everytime i get asked i deny it. i need serious help.
--confused

Just relax. The boy probably knows how to make-out already. He'll be "the leader". And if he's a first time make-outer, you two can solve how to make out together :). Just when you kiss, open your mouth and such. Good Luck.

-Brina

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