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but I'm almost 12. You have probably heard this before but most kids who say they want to be published can't spell and can't write. Is it possible for a girl to publish a book? If so, how? Thanks, Ally (link)
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I will give you some advice that was given to me when I was younger. The chances you will have something published before you're in your 20s is pretty much zero. The chances you will be proud of something you published before you're in your 20s is pretty much zero.
So instead of worrying about how to get yourself out there, for now just write. Constantly, every chance you get, just write. Write short stories, write poems, write longer stories, write conversations, write whatever you want.
It's entirely possible and normal for girls to publish books, some of my favorite authors are female. But if you want to be an author, don't worry about how to get there right now. Just write, come up with ideas, and let people read some of the stuff you write so they can give you constructive criticism on it.
Last, as a writer you should constantly be looking for what you did wrong. The best advice someone can give you is a perspective on how you could have written something you wrote better. Not because you need to fix whatever someone tells you, but because the more people who tell you what they think about your writing and who tell you how they think you could do better, the more examples you have to draw from of what and how other people think to better your writing for yourself.
These corrections are about content. Content is what you write, grammar and spelling and sentence structure are about how you write it. You want criticism on both, separately. Content criticism is about your ideas and how well you form them, how much you think things out, asking people to find holes in your story or to find questions they have about what happened that you did not think of answering. Structure criticism is just making sure you follow all the rules of writing, and talking about how you phrase a sentence to see if you could have made a better sentence that says the same thing, which is helpful in it's own ways.
A last tip, as boring as this will probably sound get a comprehensive dictionary and sit down and read it. Right now, it won't help much. In 10 years when you've been writing for a long time you will have a much larger vocabulary to access for your writing.
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i am 14 and my boyfriend has asked if he can finger me he keeps asking and i dont no what to say because he has told me we will stay together if i let him but wont if i wont let him , i was worring that i am two young so what should i say ?? (link)
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You should say something along these lines.
"Dating isn't about you getting to finger whoever you want. If that's why you're here, leave. Now. You don't get to tell any girl that she has to let you be sexual with her or you leave, ever. Someday when you're not a little kid anymore you will understand exactly how disrespectful you have been and you will feel like a complete dick about it. For now though, we're over"
I feel like that's about the appropriate response here. His actions are unacceptable. He wants you for sexual contact and really nothing else. You have a right to not be treated this way. It's hard at 14 to feel that way, you don't really know what to expect out of guys and then someone treats you like this and you wonder if it is normal.
It is not. If any of the adult women on this website had a boyfriend say something along those lines to her she'd probably be chasing him out of her house with a frying pan 30 seconds later. Someday you will understand just how immature and offensive he was being, but for now just trust me that you're worth alot more as a person than what this kid wants from you and you should not hesitate in dumping his butt and walking away.
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Dear Readers,
I found my mom's vibrator and also alot of other digusting things in her drawer.....!!! I was just trying to find my car charger for my phone .....she even was the one to send me in there......!!! Was she trying to tell me that way or did she think I was just STUPID!!! Any way I found it ........what should I do?????........PLEASE COMMENT ON THIS........I NEED TO KNOW....!!!
Thanks,
Elizabeth Little (link)
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In 5 years this will make a funny story to tell your friends. Just try to forget about it until then. I doubt seriously she realized you would see that stuff, I had the exact same thing happen to me when I was younger. Was helping move some furniture around the house when all of a sudden there's a dildo in the room and my mom grabbed it and ran red faced out of the room.
Just pretend it didn't happen. Just because it's normal doesn't mean it'll be a comfortable conversation for anyone involved.
On a completely unrelated note, I would advise coming up with a pseudonym for your online postings. It's usually not the best idea to volunteer your full name out into the world. Makes you easy to google. Sign with your first name, or a nick name people use, etc.
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Me: 16/F
BF: 14/M
I tried to ignore this, but it's starting to drive me insane. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over two months and we're still kind of shy around each other. At first, I figured it was all right, he's cute when he's all shy like that. And I'm shy myself, so I forced myself to start hugging him and cuddling. He responded good, just hugging and cuddling back. Well, recently I'm starting to get, I dunno, impatient maybe? Or just feeling weird in general.
We talk a ton after school on facebook and he's been over to my house millions of times and I just recently went over to his house. I felt like we were growing closer and closer, but now I feel like we never even budged. And I have no idea why I'm thinking this, but I'm wondering if I'm just too old for him or something. I know, two years is like nothing compared to five or ten, but I feel weird when I cuddle on him now because I feel like I look stupid or maybe I'm just making him uncomfortable. And then when we talk, I wonder if he's actually paying attention of free will or if he's forcing himself to so as not to be rude. I tried to ask him questions and get him talking, but he just says a couple words and it's done. And our relationship isn't sexual at all, we both know we're too young for that, so let's get that out there. Basically, I'm saying I feel too old, too cuddly, too gross, and too uncompatible sometimes. I'm used to a boy starting off our kisses and hugs and cuddling, the boy telling me he wants to hang out cuz he misses me. I feel weird asking this because I'm a really carefree person. I easily brush things aside and ignore stuff, just go on with life and smile, but for some reason, I just feel frustrated and self-conscious. Is there anything I can or should do? (link)
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Ha.
Two years is nothing when he's 24 and you're 26. At that age you could both be college grads who have a career, are thinking about a house, maybe want to consider marriage and kids down the line.
At 14 and 16 the difference is alot more severe. He does not have anything like adult male confidence. He's barely pubescent. He has little or no experience with women and isn't at a point in mental development where he's really capable of picking up all the important stuff. He's probably slightly intimidated by you because you're older.
None of these things would be a problem in a decade, but right now with an inexperienced 14 year old who isn't even sure what he wants out of a girl beyond "She likes me!" I don't think you're going to find the actual relationship you seem to be seeking. He's not old enough to give you a level playing field, break up amicably and tell him you like him but you need to date someone more your own age or maybe a year or two older than you (its true).
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When masturbating, I find the most success with targeting my G-spot. When I try to orgasm through clitoral stimulation, there isn't the same effect. I don't get the same rush. It doesn't even feel all that good. But when I read about masturbation, G-spot orgasms seem REALLY rare. What is going on? G-spot orgasms aren't hard for me to achieve on my own and I am sure it is an orgasm. (link)
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They're not as rare as you would think. Thing is, in many places (especially the US) there's a large degree of sexual shaming put on women and there's a lack of good sex specific education about the physical body out there. There are plenty of women alive who are entirely capable of GSpot orgasms who have never really explored themselves or had a partner explore them and found out. Too many people think sex is kissing->missionary->cuddle->sleep or something similar because they've had some moral authority telling them that sex is dirty and sinful and that lust is inappropriate all their lives.
Don't take sexual statistics too seriously, especially when you're talking women and orgasms. In the 50s scientists were still debating about the existence of the female orgasm.
Scientists. Not religion, not politics, not the every day water cooler conversations at work, scientists.
Every woman I've slept with in my life has had a GSpot and it's been somewhat sensitive. Not all women are capable of having an orgasm from just G-Spot stimulation, but based on my anecdotal evidence it's as common for a woman to climax from only G-Spot stimulation as it is for a woman to climax with only clitoral stimulation, and it's not uncommon that either alone works just fine and they work even better together.
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did anyone ever buy condoms online from walmart? do they ship them discretly like in a non see through box or package? i dont want people to see them haha..please answer! (link)
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I really would not suggest having condoms shipped to you. The heat in the back of a package truck in May/June could easily be enough to damage the condoms and put you at risk of using protection which will break the first chance you give it.
Just go to walmart and buy condoms. Consider it a rite of passage, everyone's got to buy protection at some point.
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i want to know that is there any injection or tablet for sucide and easy death? (link)
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There is not.
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Hey :)
okay. I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 2 months now. We are very close but i am still a virgin as i don't want to rush things. He has admitted to me that he wants to go further but is very caring and patient :) recently we got into a conversation about what would happen if i ever got pregnant,and when i asked him if he would stand by me, i was shocked at how hesitant he was to reply. He came out with things like, 'i'd probably jump off a cliff' and 'i don't know'.
I think it's an honourable thing for a man to stick by his baby's mama and even though i'm not planning on losing my virginity or getting pregnant any time soon, it still bums me out to hear him say that :( should i let it pass as a joke or doubt his character? (link)
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I'm 26 and married and I still get nervous and twitchy when my wife brings up kids. "Standing by your baby mama" isn't something most guys want to contemplate when there are other options and we are in a two month relationship being asked that question by a virgin.
You feel you're in a position to doubt his character because you're a virgin teenager who has absolutely no real idea what child-rearing, pregnancy, etc are like. It's harder for him because unlike you he's actually got a level head when it comes to being a teenage parent (it scares the shit out of him)
Two months in that's a loaded question to ask someone. You apparently haven't even got the beginnings of a clue how loaded it really is. Children generally last a lifetime, there's absolutely nothing abnormal about anyone being ambivalent about their own reaction to a surprise pregnancy.
Also, are you approaching this from the ideal that if you ever got pregnant you're definitely keeping it? Because personally before you have sex those are views you need to share. He has a right to break it off or not sleep with you if you are of the opinion that any baby you have is being kept and abortion or adoption are not options and he has a problem with that.
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The last time I spoke to my father was in 2009, To make it simple he choose to a life with his wife and decided to walk out on my sister and I as well as 4 grandchildren. I was at a local super center walmart about 3 months ago and walked into a Subway while my dad and his wife just happened to be in the corner, I did not make eye contact nor did I exchange any words between the two. I am still very angry over the fact that he had choose to walk out.
My friend of 13 years decided 3 months ago that we've grown apart and are in different stages in our lives. I can't come to terms too how she doesn't even acknowledge my existence especially when she lives in the apartment building next to mine.
Now what I'm asking is, How can I except the fact that people have moved on with their lives so I can learn to move on with mine? Another issue I've always had is processing "time" My partner keeps trying to get me too realize that 2 years is a long time, 3 months is a good while and while it all feels to me just last week. I can't even come to terms with the fact that my own father didn't even acknowledge me.
Also, I don't carry pride around for ignoring my father (This is an answer I've gotten previously by asking another user) It hurt me deeply to ignore my own Dad but on the other hand I knew there wasn't much of a choice as he is the one who had chose to move on. (link)
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My best honest answer is therapy. Truth be told, I haven't spoken to my parents since about 2007 and every time it comes up it still kills me. Different reasons, but same results. Coping is easier some days than others, and the more time goes on the more I realize that I want and need things from my parents they are both unwilling to and incapable of providing.
Vent about it. Schedule an appointment with a therapist. Try to fill the rest of your life with things that have meaning to you and which make you happy to whatever degree possible.
There's no real easy way to move past shitty family or friends. Wake up, get out of bed every day, and keep chugging along with life. Things get easier as you go along, so long as you work to maintain a positive outlook.
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My situation seems to be different from anything I’ve ever heard of or read about. I love my wife dearly, but I’m about ready to walk out the door because my own emotional ‘love bucket’ has run dry.
My story starts in the 15th year of our marriage: at Valentines we had a marriage vow renewal ceremony then shortly after (March 5th) she told me about her infidelities during the previous years. Actually, she told me about 4 and it wasn’t until much later that I found out the number was way higher.
She’s said she was sorry, that she’d never wanted to hurt me, that she’d been ‘sick’, that she’d only done it for the attention and she just wanted me to forgive and forget and we could just go on as if nothing had ever happened.
When I cried and told her how much this hurt, she got angry and defensive. My position was (and still is), “You destroyed something that was very precious to me: what are you going to do to make up for that? I don’t know if I can ever trust or believe you again: what are you going to do about that?”
Her position: “Nothing! I stopped, didn’t I? Beyond that I don’t owe you anything.”
Even if our sex life hadn’t dried up, I doubt that I could muster much enthusiasm for a woman who turned out to be so much different from the girl I thought I’d married.
If only she hadn’t told me! My advice to every adulterer is: don’t ever tell unless there’s a burning chance that he/she will find out – in which case you need to tell them before they find out on their own.
I don’t want much: I was promised love, honor and faithfulness and I want that! If I can’t have that then I at least want a substitute I can live with.
The other side of the coin is that during this time I was a radio / tv broadcaster. The opportunities for me to have been unfaithful to her were abundant. Nope! Not once. Not even close.
Which leads me to the other edge of my sword of frustration: had I taken advantage of those opportunities then right now, we’d be on equal footing.
What would you do?
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I'd divorce her, personally.
Fifteen years of marriage is alot of investment. I don't make that suggestion lightly. But her unrepentant behavior and "I don't owe you anything" is flat out selfish. She wants to have whatever she wants when she wants it. She wanted to cheat, now she wants an honest relationship and thinks that she should just get it, and if she decides she wants to cheat in the future she will again.
Make no mistake about that. Someone who responds "I stopped, didn't I? I don't owe you anything beyond that" is flat out wrong. Marriage isn't about what she thinks she owes you, it's about what you need, and you need trust you will never get from her, fidelity that she hasn't and will continue to not provide.
No, if you'd cheated too, you'd not be on equal footing. Because you want things out of her and out of this relationship she seems incapable of providing for you. She doesn't think infidelity is what you think it is. She's minimizing it because she wants what she wants and you married a spoiled fucking brat.
No offense, it's not your fault she was willing to lie and you trusted her. I trust my wife with stuff like this every day. If I found out that trust was invalidated I'd walk immediately.
If you want to try to make it work, go see a counselor. If you're looking for permission to divorce her, consider such permission granted. I don't think she will ever give you the peace of mind you need to recover this relationship, personally.
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Me and the guy I have been fooling around with have talked about having sex in a canoe. Has anyone tried this? Like what would be the best way to go about it? And please don't say don't do it because we still will, whether we succeed or not lol. (link)
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Just remember they tip sideways really easily, so the closer you are to the water the less top heavy the canoe and the less likely to tip you into whatever body of water.
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im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
my bestfriend that ive liked for months and months asked me to be his girlfriend only 2 days ago.. and now that im in the picture as his girlfriend, it would seem his ex wants back in too.
Him and his ex girlfriend were together for 5 years, and im worried about her coming over and catching up with him, just cause im scared that his feelings will come back and he'll return to her.
she also has a boyfriend, but that doesnt stop her from being flirty with him
he asked me if it was okay that he catches up with her, and that he promises nothing will happen. and although i trust him that he wont DO anything, im scared that he WILL get stronger feelings for her, then what he has for me...
i mean they were together for 5 years, been broken up for 8 months and we've only been dating a mere 48 hours..
im just really scared :( (link)
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Ohhhhh.
Ok. You aren't crazy or ridiculous. I say this because I kinda did that once, I broke up with my girlfriend (now wife) for four months and dated a girl for a week, then got to talking and well, now she's wife and I haven't talked to the other girl in like four years.
I can't really see any other way out of it though. He wants to catch up, he has that right. Bringing up your insecurities isn't really a great option either. Sharing and communication are great, when you're comfy enough to communicate. 48 hours in isn't a few months in where you talk and share and trust, though.
Let him go. Welcome him back enthusiastically. Make some plans together the same day or the next day and go have fun together.
Back on the sharing part for a second, you might consider talking to him about their relationship. Go with the line "If she's your friend I'd like to know more about her, if you'd like to tell me." and invite him to give you a rundown of the relationship. If he's into talking you might be able to have some good mutual understanding and bond over what now seems like a scary event that cropped up.
I also somewhat agree with Voice at the bottom. Wanting to catch up is one thing, but incessant flirting or overtures should be considered unacceptable. If she actually expresses desires to get back together or gets physical in ways she wouldn't if you were in the room with her, even though it's not on him that she's doing it it is on him if he tolerates it and pretends it's nothing.
Guys sometimes have a tendency to allow ego stroking. Even if he isn't interested in her at all he might indulge or otherwise quietly tolerate the things she does that feeds his self image and makes him feel wanted. Things that would make you feel threatened and uncomfortable.
Make sure that you communicate clearly about how things go. Don't get aggressive and accusation, but I don't think you'd be remiss in directly asking him how he'd react if she tried and he wasn't interested. "I'd just ignore her and continue hanging out" not being an acceptable answer.
This is where that talk about their relationship from earlier helps out. Getting a feel for how he feels about her and what he thinks without it coming in a "do you still like her? Huh?!" context will help you gauge his likely responses and figure out if you've got anything to get upset about at any point.
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My husband and I did just fine until we said "I do" and then he became a control freak. He has been married 4 times including me and has abused all of them, even me. I didn't know about the abuse until I did some home work and saw the Div. Decrees. He has got the idea of taking sex away he can ontrol. I guess he can. I just want to know what kind of personality disorder this is? (link)
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Do you really think you're the first wife who thought "I can save him! I can fix him!"
You can't. Fourth marriage proves it. Run.
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I am a 15 1/2 year old girl. I am thinking about going out with this guy, he's 20. We really like each other. If we did end up going out, how far would we be able to go? (link)
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Ugh. No, Adviceman, a 20 year old cannot be charged with statutory rape without having sexual contact with a minor in any country in the world. Platonic relationships are absolutely fine.
So is kissing (the not-making-out-or-heavy-petting kind). That's about it, by the letter of the law, pretty much anything else you do can be interpreted as sexual contact, even above the clothes touching. Respect those boundaries because you're a minor and technically you can date whoever you want.
That said, it's not really the best idea. High school guys fit into high school relationships better, and at 15 that's what you need to be in, a high school relationship. A 20 year old guy is going to be looking for something a little more serious, in a few years he might be at a point when he wants to move in with someone, which means by the time you move out of your parents house if you're still together he'll want you to move in with him immediately.
Don't set yourself on that road of having to conform to what an older guy is ready for. The best advice anyone can receive about dating in high school is to date people you won't mind leaving behind after high school. It's a little early to lock yourself in. You aren't going to be able to take the relationship at your own pace with a guy who's 5 years older and in a different stage of life than you are. Not right now. You'll have to be an adult in a more adult relationship, and while you're working that out other things you're actually supposed to be putting your energy into at 15 will fall by the wayside.
Dating a 25 year old guy at 20 is not the same as dating a 20 year old at 15 for a reason. I'm sure he's cute. Put him in the spank bank and move on.
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When I was younger I had a relationship with a girl. It was forbided by my mother so we had to sneak around. anyway For years I have dated men because of that. People have questioned me even my own children and I have denied it only because I didn't want to break my moms heart. My mom passed away a little over a year ago and I feel as if it is now okay to tell people and I just dont know how for fear that they will be mad because I out and out lied for so many year. How do I let them know now. (link)
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Rereading, are you a gay woman? I think I misread that, I thought dating men was what made you gay. Ok, so you're a mother, and everything still applies. Or I was right the first time, and everything still applies.
Except change "wife" to "husband".
Glad we cleared that up.
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Coming out is never easy.
Expect alot of surprise. Expect some negative reactions. You're a gay man who had kids with someone, and the reason you never told anyone nor even fully admitted it to yourself was because you didn't want to disappoint your mother.
You stopped being a child a long time ago. Your children are old enough to question your sexuality themselves, which means you've been lying for decades about this. There is no easy way to turn back that much lying and deception. If you are married your wife will probably hate you and will be somewhat justified in it. Your kids, if angry, will be justified in that as well.
You never trusted them to understand anything, you held part of yourself back until it was "safe". That kind of cowardly lie is not something people who care about you will forget. You aren't a teenager or a kid in their early 20s forming their identity any more. People expect more from adults, and you have not acted like one.
It's time to start. Sit them down, be honest, get it the fuck over with.
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I stopped smoking probably 3 days ago (May 22-2011) and I did usually smoke a lot. At least a bowl to three a day. I exercise quite frequently, as well as I drink plenty of fluids (water and green tea). My metabolism is I suppose ..average? I can lose 10 pounds a week if I wanted to. My body weight varies from 140-170. I was wondering, how long would it take if I continued exercising (mostly bike riding for the cardio) at least 1 hour a day for THC to leave my system? (link)
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A month tops for urine, a good bit longer for blood.
The low weight helps, times vary some with individual biochemistry but since THC is stored in fat cells and you're an active person cycling fluids regularly that should speed it up. I'd say probably at least two and a half weeks. If you need to self test you can find self administered drug tests at some pharmacies. It'll take at least a few weeks though because you can only lose a certain percentage of your stored concentration per day. The more exercise and fluids the faster it'll out.
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my daughter is 10 and she wants to work at mackedonals so i was just asking plz she rilly wants to earn money to get her blackberry plz can she work there xx (link)
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No, you cannot work at McDonalds. There are laws against it. And your mother would not have posted a question that says "Plz can she work there?xx" like she's a 10 year old asking for permission.
You can live life without a blackberry. A 10 year old has no real use for one, you don't have a life you need to organize and be in touch with.
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Okay so i was reading about this doomsday cult called Pana Wave. Apperantly It si a cult or a group of " Scientists" that believe that the electromagnetic waves of everyday modern appliances ( i.e. Cellphones, computers, televisions, etc. etc.) arewhat is the cause of some of the earthquakes and wheather conditions, and even though i know there crazy, could there infact be some sort of factual evidence to support this? (link)
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No, there is not.
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ok theres this girl in california who ilove iknow its love because if she asked me to give her the moon id give her the whole sky but the thing is i live in alabama i would do anything for her but she doesnt know that i love her we have been friends for about 5 years now very good friends but she thinks im a stalker and annoying but the truth is that i love her and cant get her off my mind and i dont know if i should tell her how i feel about her she might think im even more a stalker and it might even ruin our friendship and i dont think i could take it but because she doesnt know she says and does things that makes me want to have never have known her to escape the pain and she wont tell me the truth on things because she thinks im invadeing her privacy thus being a stalker in her eyes but it couldnt be farther from the truth if she was dieing and the only way to save her was for me to give her my heart to save her live but it wwould kill me she wouldnt even have to ask but i know if i should tell her how i feel because if i tell her and she hates me for it i dont know how i would keep on living i might just stay in my bed till i died (link)
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You are an annoying stalker.
You do not know what love is. Love is not admiring someone from a distance taking friendship and pining for more. Telling her how you feel is probably still the best course if only because she'll probably tell you to go to hell and you can begin the process of letting go of someone half the country away from you.
If someone tells you you are invading their privacy, you probably are. If someone tells you they think you're a stalker, you probably are. If someone tells you you are a stalker and you think for one second that it means they have zero romantic interest in you and never will (it does) she really has no romantic interest in you.
You are beating a dead horse. Stop. For the horse's sake if nothing else.
Someday you will look back and read this post, or think about it, and you will feel embarrassed as all hell for how young and stupid you were. When you feel down because there is no real relationship between you and this girl and there never will be, remember that you'll feel stupid about all the time you spent whining about it and feeling sorry for yourself and try to stop and not be a pit of mopey depression so you don't continue to feel embarrassed later.
Date girls you're close to. It says something about a guy when he's making up relationships with girls he talks to online because he's too scared to go talk to girls in the real world. Girls pick up on that. It's not attractive. Go talk to some people face to face and form relationships that way so you don't end up stalking someone else from across the US in six months.
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Hello I am a 16 year old male and I recently applied to a McDonalds near where I live. The application made me really sad at the sort of questions they asked and I just feel like there is a much better way I could be spending my time that mindlessly working at McDonalds. My parents want me to get a summer job but I do not really want to work here. Am I being too picky or snobbish. I get straight As and I don't know it just seems like a waste of my time. Writing this now it seems elitist but it is how I feel. Any advice on this matter would help. Be critical of me too it will only help me. (link)
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Yes and Yes. You are a snob and you are right.
I've worked more jobs in food service and customer service than I want to think. If I ever made a resume that was entirely truthful there would be alot more instances of the word "Cashier" on it.
They're all terrible. The job I work now, my bosses boss who interviewed me for hiring went on and on about how he makes a ton of money and all he had to get was a high school diploma. To someone like me this is not a selling point, but it pays the bills so I work a shit job and continue going to school.
It is beneath me. So is every job I've ever worked up to this point in my life. There is not a one among them that has used a hundreth of my available brain power.
But without a college degree, and you in high school, we're unfortunately suited to "monkey pushes button, gets candy every two weeks" kinds of jobs. And I'm 10 years older than you, so imagine how depressing this is for me =/
On the other hand, for the rest of your life you are slightly less likely to be that asshole who ruins some poor retail employees day because you're a self centered piece of garbage. You will understand how shitty it is at the bottom of the ladder so that when you hopefully get a college degree and do something with your life you can appreciate what you end up with.
It's harder at 16, honesty. You don't have a good reason to do the job, so you just feel like you're wasting your time entirely. I have bills to pay. I can hate my job all I want but I also am using that job to put my wife through school so I get a bit of pride in being a provider and all that, you'd be surprised the difference it makes in coping with a crap job.
One thing to keep in mind and keep things in perspective you should think about regularly though, is that this is not the last stop for you. It's a McJob, it'll give you money for whatever you want right now. But look around once in a while. Some of the people you'll work with, that is the last stop for them. There will always be people who disdain things like serving someone else's fries, but someone's gotta and some people are never getting more out of life than that.
When you do get more, eventually, be thankful for it and remember the people who will be fast food managers until they get fired before any kind of pension kicks in. Your 45 year old manager will be working at burger king doing the same job and waiting to get fired from there for something stupid just like they got from McDonalds in 20 years.
And ignore adviceman entirely. There is nothing good about McDonalds as a career choice and their training is an absolute joke. They don't teach you to manage so much as indoctrinate you into the corporate culture so you can be put on a sub 35k a year salary and be worked overtime without being paid overtime. And it's not like anything they teach you gives you any manifest qualifications for any other job. You get fired or quit and go work somewhere else you get to start all over at the bottom. And if you don't you have a lifetime of managing teenagers like yourself who hate their shit job when you aren't one any more to look forward to.
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