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Learning to accept
The last time I spoke to my father was in 2009, To make it simple he choose to a life with his wife and decided to walk out on my sister and I as well as 4 grandchildren. I was at a local super center walmart about 3 months ago and walked into a Subway while my dad and his wife just happened to be in the corner, I did not make eye contact nor did I exchange any words between the two. I am still very angry over the fact that he had choose to walk out.
My friend of 13 years decided 3 months ago that we've grown apart and are in different stages in our lives. I can't come to terms too how she doesn't even acknowledge my existence especially when she lives in the apartment building next to mine.
Now what I'm asking is, How can I except the fact that people have moved on with their lives so I can learn to move on with mine? Another issue I've always had is processing "time" My partner keeps trying to get me too realize that 2 years is a long time, 3 months is a good while and while it all feels to me just last week. I can't even come to terms with the fact that my own father didn't even acknowledge me.
Also, I don't carry pride around for ignoring my father (This is an answer I've gotten previously by asking another user) It hurt me deeply to ignore my own Dad but on the other hand I knew there wasn't much of a choice as he is the one who had chose to move on.
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My best honest answer is therapy. Truth be told, I haven't spoken to my parents since about 2007 and every time it comes up it still kills me. Different reasons, but same results. Coping is easier some days than others, and the more time goes on the more I realize that I want and need things from my parents they are both unwilling to and incapable of providing.
Vent about it. Schedule an appointment with a therapist. Try to fill the rest of your life with things that have meaning to you and which make you happy to whatever degree possible.
There's no real easy way to move past shitty family or friends. Wake up, get out of bed every day, and keep chugging along with life. Things get easier as you go along, so long as you work to maintain a positive outlook.
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