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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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I saw this weird symbol it looks like uhhh well there's this circle and inside it is the letter "A" and a line going across it.What's it mean? Hope I described it well enough.

It's the Anarchy symbol. It means "against the government."

Ok my mother is forcing me to go for a medicals check up cause i havent had one in like years and for some reason she thinks i could have diebeties cause she sees me eating too many sweets (rolls eyes) i know its rediculose but now im freaking out cause i just relized there gonna check my urine, blood, ect.. and... im just wondering if they can see that i have marijuana in my system. I dont smoke it all the time just once in a while last time was like friday nov 17 my check up is on tuesday can find anything if there not looking for it? help anyone who knows cause if they can im just gonna stale untill maybe another month if i can

any advice will be greatly appreciated

Thanks!

Marijuana can stay in a person's body for as long as 3 to 90 days after smoking. The most common period of time is anywhere from 3-30 days, depending on your metabolism and the amount of marijuana that you've smoked. Marijuana could still be detected in a urine test up to a month after the last time it is used. If you smoke it occasionally it will remain in your system for up to 10 days. If you smoke marijuana on a regular basis it will stay in your system for as long as 45 days, and if you smoke marijuana at a constant pace, it can stay in the body for 90 days.

How do you make something a link in your advice column?? Like, in your 'about me' section how do you make it a link for someone to click on?? thnx

< a href="WEBSITE HERE" >WHAT YOU WANT THE LINK TO SAY, HERE< /a >

Then just simply remove the spaces between the < >'s.

Ok I heard of sayings like "bite me" and "I got laid" and "Someone got stoned" but I heard different meanings from different people about them and it just makes it confusing. So will anyone tell me what they ACTUALLY and REALLY mean???

-- Bite Me; leave me alone or screw off.
-- I Got Laid; I had sex.
-- Someone Got Stoned; someone was high on a drug, more than likely pot.

Hi
Me and my cousins are trying to make our own video with cool features . Some of the things we would like is (i cant explain this very well but..)when you you see something happen and then rewind and happen again.For example say you were seeing some1 slide down the stairs on a tray or something
you would see them slide down then like go back up again and then you see them slide down again .
I hope ya know what i mean.Another thing we want is to be able to make things zoom around and blur ect.
I know this sounds confusing
if you want ask me a questain and ill add some info on later.

does anyone know a good program that does all this and is cheep if not free to use .
thanx
xx

I'm sorry, but I don't know any programs to do with making videos.

I have been at college for three months now, and I can't seem to make friends. I'm friendly enough and get along well with people in my classes and my roommate, people I see every day. But I haven't made any close friends. I'm very unhappy here. This was my second-choice school to begin with, I only came here because my parents told me that it was too expensive for me to go to my first-choice school. I'm getting top grades in all of my classes, but when I'm not in class or doing work (I also have a job) I feel like there's nothing to do. I'm scared to go out and talk to people - it's so awkward. I don't know how to get people's numbers or make friends. Everyone said that making friends in college would be easy and come naturally, but they're so wrong.

I've gone home almost every weekend to see my boyfriend. (One weekend we went out with my highschool friends, and I plan to meet up with them over Thanksgiving break as well.) I love him dearly and he's my best friend. I could see how this might affect my relationships with people but I also don't think that it's it. For one thing, the reason I'm going home is because I'm so unhappy at college! There's nothing to do here. I missed an audition for a group I wanted to join because I was sick, and I can't pledge to a sorority first semester (though I plan to next semester.) My boyfriend makes friends very easily and though he (like me) puts a lot of time into our relationship - we text constantly, talk online, usually talk on the phone an hour or more a day. Mark is just a naturally friendly guy, everyone likes him (hah, except for my parents). I'm naturally very quiet and shy, until I get to know people - I'm not that way with my close friends. And when I'm with people I know, I relax and am more open and friendly. I made friends in high school... why can't I do it now?

I'm starting to wonder if there's something wrong with me. I have clinical depression, which usually doesn't affect me unless I have my period - I'm on antidepressants and they work well. However I remember one of my friends who also has depression telling me that she has SAD - Social Anxiety Disorder. I wonder if I have that, or something similar - or am I just being stupid? Why can't I seem to handle college? Everyone else can do it, everyone else has at least one friend, SOME friends. I did have some at the beginning that I'd met at orientation, but for no reason that I can figure out (and they haven't offered one) they just stopped calling me and hanging out with me.

I'm not exactly unhappy - I have a great time with my bf on the weekends, and doing so well in school is satisfying, and I plan to transfer to my dream school next year. I am a bit nervous that these problems will follow me though. And when I'm stuck here on the weekends, I'm MISERABLE!! I have nothing to do!

What's wrong with me??

There's nothing wrong with you. Not everyone is going to like college and not everyone is going to make friends as soon as they get there. Usually it takes time and than friendships form. Some people have a harder time adjusting to college life. They're moving away from their town they have always been in, they're meeting new people and doing new things. Everyone is different and since you're shy it's going to be harder to open up to people and start a friendship. I suggest trying to get over your shyness. Is there any reason why you're shy? Have you always been shy? Is it something you can't help? I suggest trying to open up to people and trying to ask them to do this on the weekend. For example, you have a roommate. Correct? You could always ask her to do something on the weekends. You could simply leave her a note saying, "Do you have anything planned for the weekend? If not, would you like to do something?" Leave her a note when she isn't around, either when she's gone to her classes or gone out. Once you get closer with your roommate, I'm sure she'll introduce you to some friends she has made. Then just go from there.

Maybe since this isn't your first choice school, you're bummed out and taking it out on yourself because you have to go to this school. Just because it's not your first choice, doesn't mean you can't make the best of it. Have an open mind and try to stick this year out. Maybe when you go to the new school next year things will be easier, since this is the school you WANT to be in.

As for you being clinical depression that may have something to do with what is going on. I suggest talking to someone you're close with, a best friend, your boyfriend, a family member, etc. If you really think that it may be that, just go to the doctors to get checked out.

O.K;my freind is the best.And I love her in the ungross way.But she always copies me and o.m.f.g its really making me MAD.

EXAMPLE-I got this really cool emo looking haircut and 2 weeks later she got the same f****** haircut.Then I started pulling my bangs back and of course she copied me.I don't mind she's copying me but she's also taking credit for my stuff!HELP!

Did you ever try talking to her about this problem you're having with her? I suggest explain your point-a-view on this subject. Explain to her that you don't mind her copying you, but when she copies everything you do it tends to get annoying. Everyone is different so she should be herself and get her own trends. She shouldn't be following other people, especially her friend. Just explain to her everything and tell her how annoying it gets. If she's a real friend she'll get where you're coming from and will stop.

The other day I was thinking, and if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and you kiss a friend. Like the person is totally just your friend and nothing more.. is it still cheating ?

If it was a friendly peck, than no I wouldn't say that was cheating. But if it was more than a friendly peck, than yes that is cheating.

how old do i have to be to get a piercing without parental permission....is it 16 or 18? or is it different in every state?

I guess it depends on when you live. I'm not too sure about how old you have to be in the U.S.A. But here in Canada in my Province you have to be 16 years old.

iam kinda short about 5''6 do girls liek taller guys.. im kinda skinny to .. but i dno i have a fast metabilism and i need to eat more cause im all about fitness and working out but .. im geting results but not bulky ones i want to be the one thos girls stare at for once

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5''6 isn't short at all. A lot of girls are shorter than that, so I don't see why they would have a problem with your height. When you find the right girl, she won't care about your height, how you look or how much you weigh. All that would matter is she likes you for you. All your flaws that you may have, she won't even notice them. She'll like/love you no matter what.

My best friend is moving away tomorrow! Tonight I was going to bake cookies or cake for them, which do you think is better? THANKS!

I think you should go for the cake. That way you're able to write something cute on it since she is moving away.

hi is there anyway to tell who reads your blogs on myspace?

No, there's no way of telling who is reading your blog or not. You're able to change your settings of your blog, though. You can change it so just the people you have added to your friends list can view your blog(s). Although you're not able to know who exactly is reading it, you're able to know that it's just the people you have added.

is it true that when your ears ring it means someone is talking about you?

my friend said it was true..but i dont believe it.

It's an old wise tail. But yes, when your ears ring someone is supposedly talking about you. Just like when your hands are itchy, you're going to win money.

hey! does anyone know if you need a special stamp to mail to canada?? thanks!

No, you don't need a special stamp to mail a letter to Canada. However, you'll have to pay more to mail it since it's going to a different country. Just go to your local post office and ask one of the workers when you go to mail it.

my crush found out i liked him today. (nobody likes him really...i like his personality) he says "he want's to stay single" What does this mean? does this mean he is telling me no....or that maybe later on???

Some people much rather be single than having a girlfriend or boyfriend. Sometimes when you like someone and you ask them out, they'll say they want to stay single so they don't hurt your feelings. He might have said it to be nice so he wouldn't hurt your feelings or he really does want to be single. Either way don't wait around for a guy, there's many other guys out there. Keep looking, you'll find a good one. You just have to give it some time.

im a 13/f. i really want my nose pierced....really bad. Does it hurt though?

It depends on how much pain you can take. My sister got her nose pierced and she said it didn't hurt all that much. It's like getting your ears pierced with a little bit more pain, but nothing to be scared of. I'm sure you'll be fine, because it doesn't hurt that much.

I have been moved from school to school in the last five years. It has put alot of emotional stress on me, trying to cope with new surroundings, friends, etc. We finally found a school that is okay and have settled there. My "friends" only accepted me after using me a bit (tell her i said this etc.) and only like how I am kinda funny. They told me for a while now I'm obnoxious and they don't care when I'm sad or mad. They just kinda push me off to the side. Let's say I'm not the prettiest girl at school. I'm super thin and most people think I'm anerix (sp?) but I'm not, I eat whatever I want. These friends never actually include me and usually when I want to talk to them they tell me to go away, or I want a restraining order and It kinda annoys me. No one takes me seriously and If I say something I thinks cool thay shrug it off.

They have made me feel really bad. So bad I was thinking of suicide (which I stopped because I made myself realize what I have to live for) Everyday it just get's worse and worse. I can't really meet anyone else because theirs no "outcasts" and everyone else is in a clique and I am shy. Then after all this stress a girl who picked on me all last year, made fun of my voice (I later found out I had a beautiful voice, or so everyone says, I used to not want to sing for the fear of being made fun of) She is really annoying. I have told my friends about this but they love her so they tell me to deal with it.Everyone else talks about how they did this or that and mostly on weekends I do nothing because my friends don't want to do anything. I constantly told I need to be normal not outgoing, and I just don't know who I am now. I want to just tell myself I'm a cheater a liar and a no good person. I am the youngest in my class because I have a late birthday and most people make fun of me that I'm so young.

What should I do about this? How can I handle this? I just am getting to the point where I don't see any reason to live. I don't want to talk to an adult because whenever I do they just yell at me back and tell me to stop acting so dramatic, but I just have such a short temper. HELP!!!!

These people that you're calling your friends, aren't your friends at all. Friends are supposed to be there for you no matter the circumstances. They're always there to support you, whether good or bad. They're the ones that help your through the bad times and enjoy the good times with you. No real friend is going to put you down like that and not care how you're feeling. They're going to be there to listen to what you have to say and help you out with your problems. These "friends" are the total opposite. They don't help you out, they're always putting you down and they never include you in weekend activities. These people don't even deserve to have you in their lives. I'm sure you're way better than that.

As for you not being the prettiest or skinniest girl, no one should ever think about himself or herself that way. If you think that way about yourself, others are going to think the same. Try to boost your confidence. I'm sure you're a beautiful girl, inside and out. I'm sure you have an amazing personality and you're really fun to hangout with. Some people may not realize that, but that is truly their lost. I'm sure you have a lot to offer in a friendship and no one should be taking you for granted. If people don't realize what you have to offer, that is seriously their problem. They're just missing out on a great person. Just be happy with yourself. You're the only one that matters the most.

Now, you ending your life because of them and this, one word: DON'T. You shouldn't end your life because some girls are being bitches to you. You have so much more to live for, finding real friends, having a boyfriend, being in love, getting married, having kids, watching your kids grow up, becoming a grandmother, etc. Do you really want to give all that wonderful and amazing stuff away because of some bitchy girls? No! Ignore them, seriously. Don't let them get to you. You don't need any of them in your life. All they do is get you more and more depressed, which isn't good since this might lead you to ending your life. I suggest just moving on and getting some new friends to hangout with. Obviously these friends aren't working out for you. You need friends that will be there for you and will want to do things with you on the weekend. Maybe you should try joining some clubs or groups at your school? That might get you into a better circle of friends. You could also try going to some fun after school programs. Maybe join a spots team, if you enjoy doing sports. Anything that will help you make better friends.

Since you're not able to talk to any adults, are you able to talk to any close family members that wouldn't yell at you? Anyone you're comfortable with and can trust? If so, talk to him or her. I'm sure they will help you out and will be 100% supportive. If not, I'm sure you have a school councilor at your school. Try getting an appointment and talking with him or her. Councilors are there to help, so they'll try to understand your problem(s) and will help you the best they can. If you're too shy to do this or you just don't feel comfortable, I'm always here to talk and help you out. So if you need anymore help or you just want someone to listen, drop one in my inbox and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.

Does anyone know how to delete history on computers so people can't see what websites your going on? because my mom looks at mine and i dont' want her to see myspace. thanks

You simply click on "Tools" then scroll down and click on "Internet Options." Once you're in there, go to "Temporary Internet Files" and click on "Delete Files." Then go down to "History" and click on "Clear History."

My boyfriend and I went to breakfast today and he kissed the waitress on the lips and she had a nickname for her. He insists she is is like a sis to him. They have known each other before I even met him. Am I too jealous, how should I react?

I would have acted the same way towards this situation as you. I mean even if he thinks of her as a sister he shouldn't be kissing her on the lips, especially since he has you as a girlfriend. That is just rude and very disrespectful. I suggest just talking to him about this and explain your view on what he has done. If he really cares about you, he'll change his ways and will never do that again. If he still does this everytime he sees this girl; I'd kick him to the curb. Obviously he doesn't know what being in a relationship means and he doesn't deserve you one bit, especially if he's doing what he's doing.

Theres this really cute boy at school that I like, but he doesn't know I exist. I want to talk to him but I keep telling all of my friends that I don't like him. Now one of my best friends sits next to him and she likes him and lies to me and tells me that she doesn't. Finally, she I found out that she does like him and I'm crushed. WhaShould I talk to him and tell him I like him?

Signed,
Crushed by a crush

I think you should just take a leap for it and tell him you're crushing on him. Explain your feelings towards him; you only live one. The worse he can say is no. And if he says that, of course you're going to be crushed, but there is always a possibility that he might say yes. So I say go for it, you don't have much to loose.

However, if he does say no, please know that there are more fish in the sea. And just because he said no doesn't mean you should be down for weeks on end. Just pick yourself up and get back out there. There's a guy out there for you. You just have to meet a few bad ones before you find the right one.

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