Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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I have a chubbier face than anything else, it's easy for me to lose stomach weight but my face never thins out. I know this is kinda ridiculous but is there anything I can do to lose that chubbiness is my cheeks? Thanks! (link)
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Cardio helps you burn fat, so if you add daily things like running, dancing, walking, etc. you should see a gradual weight loss and your face may thin out.
Salt in your diet can make your face puffy, so cut as much of it out as you can. Like the person below me said, drink lots of water.
Good luck,
-Abby
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13/f
okayy well i sit next to this guy in science and i think hes cute..hes always makin me laugh and we argue over everything but just teasing..whenever i turn to him i catch him lookin at me and then turning away to talk to some other guy..he smiles alot whenever he sees me and i smile a lot when i see him...do u think he likes me?? (link)
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He probably thinks your cute and might like you, so try to get to know him better. Some guys are just super flirty and can be teases, so don't throw yourself at him too fast. Ask other girls if they know anything about him and see if he's a big flirt or not.
Good luck,
-Abby
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What companines hire 14 year olds?
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Most companies don't hire unless your 16 and up, so try odd jobs like raking leaves, shoveling snow, babysitting, dog walking, newspaper delivering, or some local places like pizza shops will hire under the table to younger kids.
Good luck,
-Abby
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What's the difference between Acrylic nails & Solar nails?
Thanks. (link)
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So I did a little online research and different sources have different info about solar nails so it's hard to come to a conclusion.
From what I gathered, solar nails use a different type of powder/oil then acrylic nails and they are good for not becoming discolored in tanning beds or outside. I've read some articles where people think solar nails are a rip off that salons use just to charge more money when essentially they are the same as acrylic. Some say they last longer then acrylic. I would go to your nail salon and ask them about their solar nails to get better information.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hey I wanted to try out different kind of eye makeup but I'm not sure what colors look good on me or what's the best brands so I want to get free samples shipped to my house but most of the sites I went on have you fill out really long surveys or they're just fake. So I need a REAL site please [: (link)
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I dont know of any websites that send out free makeup samples, usually you have to pay shipping. Why don't you try going to department stores or ulta or even kohls, they have make up counters and the representatives there would be happy to help you choose shadows that will compliment your eyes. Have you ever heard of e.l.f. make up (www.eyeslipsface.com)? Most of their items range from 1-5$ and you can get different eye shadows for $1 to $3, so if you don't love them it's not a huge loss and you can get a variety of colors.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I've had a major crush on my pastor. I met with him for advice spirtual he was advising me but also flirting with me via eye contact!!! He also walked me to the car when it was done! I've been thinking about him ever since!!! I want to tell him how I feel but yet I'm scared!!! I need some advice
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Hmm this is a tough situation, because it is a pastors job to try to connect personally with the people their helping. You could meet with him again for advice and ask his opinion on love and dating etc. and see if he hints anything to you or flirts with you. Ask other people he meets with to see if he treats them the same way. He may just have twinkly eyes or maybe he does like you, but a relationship between a pastor and a church patron may be frowned upon so be careful how you pursue this.
Good luck,
-Abby
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so. yesterday my boyfriend (of 1 1/2 years) grandfather died yesterday in his sleep. he never woke up.
so he asked me to come along to the wakes this weekend. (yes, i have met his grandfather multiple times, he was a wonderful man!) of course ill go if he wants me to, but its not in my best interest to...you know?
well, any suggestions with what i should say to his family members that i have not met yet? this is a very sad time for his family. i feel like they wouldnt want me there, i dont know. ryan asked me to come. im going to have him ask his father first. i don't want his family to be angry that im there...like invading their privacy.
and, i heard the first wake of the day is for family and the second wake of the day is more for friends...
i just need help! i haven't been to a wake in forever. (link)
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It's really nice that you care about your boyfriend and his family during their time of need. It's a good idea for your bf to ask first if you can come, and if they say yes then I think the family will really appreciate your support.
When you see his family, say something like "I'm so sorry for your loss" or "He was such a great man, I'm so glad to have met him." For his parents, offer to help with anything like setting up, etc. Maybe you could share a short story about your boyfriends grandfather that will make people smile if you know one. You don't have to say much at this event, but your respectful presence will show how caring and mature you are.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I just got the Hot Tools 1.5" Curling Iron and I'm excited to use it! I heard that in order to get waves, you shouldn't use the clamp. My question is how do you wrap your hair around the curling iron without using the clamp? It's not working for me.
Thanks :) (link)
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You leave the clamp closed and wrap it around the whole iron, hold, and then slide the hair off. Or you could get a waver that you can usually get cheap. Or you could curl your hair normally and shake it out and wait for it to loosen up into waves.
-Abby
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I absolutely love the way eyeliner looks but my problem is.. my eyes are REALLY small so I wondering how I can use eyeliner to make them seem bigger? And what color eye shadow too? (link)
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I agree with some of what the person below me said, except for liner on the lower lid. I find that liner there makes my eyes seem smaller. Do a cat eye to enlongate the look of your eye.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=seQweeWvKFw
Using an eye lash curler can give your eyes a more wide open effect that can make them seem bigger. Metallic on the inner corner (tear duct) or a white translucent power works great. I saw on an interview with a make up artist that he puts blue eye liner on the water line of the lower lashes so it isn't very noticeable but the blue makes the whites of your eyes appear brighter, therefore giving you a more open, awake look.
Play around with eye shadow colors and see what you like best. Doing all dark usually makes the lids look smaller, so use dark colors sparingly. Browns look great with blue eyes, berry colors like plum look great with brown eyes, and greens and light purples look good with green eyes.
Have fun!
-Abby
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16/f/uk.
I've seen this guy, Jake, around college recently and he's always caught my eye. I then found out he's dating this girl I know, Ellen, who is pretty different to me but we have the exact same taste in guys. As soon as I heard people talking about him I knew he was the kind of guy I'd like, I also know that he's a complete manwhore. So possibly him and Ellen won't last long, and I'm not looking for anything particuarly serious.
So I was in an art class and suddenly Jake came in to model for someone. We were all just chilling out and I made myself a bit more noticeable. He started staring at me loads. I kept catching his eye and we made that kind of eye contact that just lasts for ages and there was real chemistry. His friend was asking around for someone to do Jake's makeup (for the art thing), I didn't do it but was talking to him (Jake's friend), making suggestions and all the while Jake was just staring at me, looking kind of interested. Someone else suddenly said they would do his make-up and he quickly looked at them & then his eyes flickered back to me, & he looked a bit disappointed. Every now and then I'd look round, catch him looking at me and we'd smile at each other.
Since then, I've only seen him around once and we were far away from each other, but he was watching me.
Thing is, I don't know how to get to know him and still be kind of mysterious and intriguing. I know people that he knows, but I wouldn't say they're my friends, just aquaintances. Also, we've never actually spoken to each other. I was going to wait, but I couldn't help it and added him on facebook. Looking at his profile, I can see we have stuff in common and like the same music (he's in a band). He also does a similar course to some of my subjects at college, I think. (Not sure, but he hangs around that subject block). He's accepted my request but hasn't spoken to me or anything. And obviously there's the fact that he has a girlfriend.
So what can I do to get to know him and get him interested?
Please don't tell me not to try because he's a manwhore or because he has a girlfriend, because that's not what I'm asking. I'm really determined about this.
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Try to break the ice by sending him a facebook comment on his wall or something, like something funny about the class you have together. If he answers back you could mention that you saw his band or heard their music and your into it and to let you know if he has any shows coming up. After that don't seem too aggressive. Smile and say hi in class and don't stare too much. Let him do the staring any be interested in you. Try to talk in class and find things in common, but don't force the chemistry. It will happen if it's meant to be. And DON'T come on to him. If you know he has a girlfriend only some light flirting is allowed. You don't want to start any drama and if he's into you he'll take care of his girlfriend.
Good luck,
-Abby
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So I'm really wanting a tattoo. I want it to be something small and classy that can't be seen if i'm wearing clothes. Also something very feminine. I'd like it to be something deep and meaningful that's kinda classic so i wont regret getting it in like 30 years. I know it's hard to give me good advice when you don't know me but anything is appreciated. Pictures would be nice too :) (link)
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You can take any symbol or word meaningful to you and get it small. Avoid hearts, peace signs, and stars because their over done and can be tacky. Look in your favorite books for quotes that strike you, or maybe a bible verse if your religious. You could do a phrase in a different language (like if your french, translate something into french). What I really like is white ink tattoos. They are subtle and less noticeable but still very beautiful. Do research and find something you love. You can go to the tattoo place and have them put the stencil on you and you can walk around with it to see if you like it.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Hi im taking my Pennsylvania permit test does anyone know like 50 questions and answers (multiple choice) please I need them questions and answers, so I can review!! (link)
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If you don't have the manual already, go to the DMV and get one. It has all you need to know. I live in PA too and all I did was go over the book basically. You can find practice tests online but the book helps more. Make sure you study the signs, the fines having to do with alcohol, and situations. As your taking the test, pass if you don't know the answer instead of trying to answer it wrong. I believe you get 20 questions and you only need 15 right. And bring a blank check to the place because usually they don't take cash and in the book it says $5 dollars but mine actually cost $35.
Good luck,
-Abby
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There's this girl at school(we'll just call her K) and I love her, no not I have a crush on her, but love. Recently, I told her I loved her by following her advice, but messed up horribly(if you would like to know how, you can e-mail me at bcelaya12@gmail.com) and so now I thought maybe I could try again, but this time do it right. So this is how I'm going to tell her.....:
First I will say, "Hey K, can we talk really quick?" then she will reply how ever she pleases. Next, I will look into her eyes and say, " K H(representing her first and last names), I love you." Then it will either be, we become boyfriend and girlfriend, or I will break off our relationship for good. Is there anything I need to do differently or anything I need to add?
Thanks in advance!
-musicissoul301
And if you have any questions about anything I just said, my e-mail is somewhere in there, just find it and e-mail me. (link)
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Well saying "can we talk real quick" isn't the most romantic way to go about it. Find a moment when you can be alone and things are going along good. Having the courage to tell her is great, but be prepared to handle it if she doesn't feel the same.
Good luck,
-Abby
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what is the best tanning lotion that you've tried? i'm pretty pale so i'll need one that works well and quickly. thanks! (link)
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I got a good one from bath and body works, so their products are pretty nice. I prefer the aersol spray tanners you can get from walgreens, rite aid, etc. because it's less messy, but I find you can get a better color with a lotion. The more you pay for something the better the quality will be, so maybe you can stop by your local tanning salon and they sell different types of lotions that probably work well. A professional air brush spray tan works great, I loved when I got one for prom.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Here's the deal: I'm 17, almost 18 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Is there something wrong with me? I feel like guys NEVER like me as anything more than a friend, and I've been discouraged so many times I don't know what to do. It's not like I don't have any experience with guys, I've made out with and hooked up with guys before (never slept with anyone though), but whenever this happened both me and the guy were always really drunk or high at a party. It's like I'm not good enough to actually be dated, and because I've never gotten close to anyone before while sober, I get really awkward and never know what to do. Is there something wrong with me? (link)
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I'm 17 and in the same boat and I've deffinitely wondered whats wrong with me. I've seen girls who are way less attractive than I am have long lasting relationships and I wonder what I'm doing wrong. It has a lot less to do with attractiveness then it does with the ability to open up to guys. I find it awkward sometimes to come up with things to say to guys or opening up to people is hard too. Lack of confidence might have something to do with it too. Honestly, I think you have to be open as possible and comfortable with yourself. Things happen when your least expecting it and when your sitting there desperately wanting a boyfriend it doesn't always go well. People like Carrie Underwood never had a boyfriend until they were 18, and she's doing great, so we just have to wait until things fall into place.
Good luck,
-Abby
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okay well i dont really know how to start it off but me and my dad dont really see eye to eye with things. everytime i try to a have a conversation with him it usually ends up with tears and yelling and im just getting really sick of it. i barely even talk to him anymore because i just am tire of fighting and now its affecting my social life to everytime i get into an argument with my friends or other family members i just start cry and im starting to have panic attacks to... i just dont know what to do anymore... please help
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I was in your situation with my mom not too long ago, and it was very taxing on me. What I found was that in the arguing I never told my mom what was really hurting me and I kept all of that bottled up until I couldn't any more.
Don't add fuel to the fire with your arguments. Making rude comments or egging him on doesnt help. Try to stay calm and speak clearly.
Keep a journal about what bothers you, or talk to a friend if you have one that will really listen.
You can write a letter to your dad saying everything you want him to know and then decide if you want to give it to him or not. You could ask him to write you one as well so you could see from his point of view. Really try to see where he's coming from, it might make things easier. My mom was going through depression and that made her attitude towards me much more harsh. If the two of you can come to a greater understanding then hopefully the fighting will lessen. Remember he loves you and thats where this is coming from, if he didn't care he wouldn't bother yelling at you or giving you a hard time.
Good luck,
-Abby
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16/f
Hi, I was wondering if anyone could give me some tips on how to have a style like Lena Kaligaris from the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. Alexis Bledel plays her in the movie if that helps.
Also, hair and makeup tips too?
thanks so much :) (link)
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In the books Lena dressed conservatively and liked to wear long skirts and loose fitting clothes, like a boho type style. She never wanted to draw attention to herself so she wore muted colors like white, black, navy blue, light blue. Her hair was naturally wavy and she was against makeup, so go for a natural look. Lena has beautiful blue eyes, so highlight those in your look.
Good luck,
-Abby
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Alright guys, this question can be answered by anyone, but I would people with experience (like marriage or serious relationships) to answer. My fiance and I have been together for 2 and a half years. We love each other to death, have been through so much, and currently live together. I've talked to him about how him watching porn makes me feel uncomfortable, disrespected, and a little insecure. He PROMISES me he won't watch, but I end up finding out he's broken his promise. He tries to hide it, but that just makes me angrier, as if he's taking me for someone stupid. It upsets me so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone give me some advice? Has anyone ever gone through this? What are your opinions on this matter? Thanks in advance. (link)
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I know having your fiance watch porn is hurting you and making you feel uncomfortable, but first assess how serious the problem is. Is he addicted to it? Does he watch it every day? Does it cause noticeable problems in your relationship?
If he's only a mild porn watcher, maybe you should comprimise and let him. But talk to him about it and ask that he is open about watching porn and that he doesn't try to hide it from you. You could ask him why he likes it so much and see if thats an issue you could resolve. Maybe he feels sexually unsatisfied. You could suggest trying some of the things he sees in porn out in the bedroom to draw the interest to you.
If it really bothers you after all that and the problem gets worse, I suggest therapy. Porn can become a serious addiction just like alcohol or drugs can. Make sure he has it under control.
Good luck,
-Abby
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So I'm 15/f, 5'3" tall, and currently weigh 131 pounds. (I hate even typing that number.) Two years ago, I weighed about 140 and completely hated it, so I starved myself. For about a week, I ate barely anything, but I would never go more than a day without eating at least something, even if it was just one or two tortilla chips. It was more just for the feeling of eating, if you get what I mean. In that week, I lost about 16 pounds (so I was 124) and within the few weeks after that, I got down to 116. I haven't exactly starved myself since for that amount of time, but I do go without enough food some days. I don't want to say I've been comfortable with myself since then, but I've kind of learned to ignore it and pretend I am. But lately, I really can't stand it. I look at my stomach and my butt, and all I see is fat. My friends and sisters (who don't know about my body issues) tell my a lot how skinny I am, but that doesn't make a difference. It kind of makes me just want to starve myself more. I look in the mirror, and I absolutely HATE what I see. I look fat and wide and disgusting. I don't want to see myself like that. I hate not loving myself that way. I'm seriously considering starting to throw up after I eat, but I really don't want that. I can't think of any other way, though, besides just ridding myself of the food. I've tried exercise, but it just doesn't work. Any advice?? Please. I hate this so so so much. (Sorry this is so incredibly long.)
PS- I don't eat a lot of junk. I eat fairly well, with the occasional sugary treat. (link)
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Body image is a hard subject with anyone, girls especially.
First off, your BMI is in a healthy range, so that proves you are not fat.
Secondly, I'm 5'3 and the same weight as you and no one calls me fat.
But I know that it doesn't matter unless you look in the mirror and are convinced of it.
You can easily get a little thinner and more toned. If your like me, then you can just add more cardio and weight comes off pretty easy.
Starving yourself is not going to work. You won't have energy to exercise if you haven't eaten anything, therefore you wont be able to burn as many calories. Boosting your metabolism can be done by eating healthy foods and doing weight training, so starving yourself can actually slow your metabolism over time.
And you can't maintain starving yourself. You cannot consistently live like that. Any weight you lose will come back quickly after you start eating more. Learning to eat healthy and enough to keep you full is whats key.
I suggest doing fun workouts with friends to keep you motivated, like dancing or running outside. Keep a diary of the food you eat each day so you can see where you go wrong. Do resistance exericises or use dumbells to tone up. There are lots of videos on youtube of workouts you can do.
Try to accept your body. Write down what you love about it. Realize that what may seem like a HUGE problem to you might not be noticeable to anyone else. For example, I used to hate my freckles but now people tell me they love them.
Get post it notes and each day write one thing you love about yourself and place it on the mirror. Do this every day until you can't even see your reflection anymore. Then you will only be able to see the true you in the mirror, not your body. Your body is only the shell. I can't express how a good personality and heart is more important. I've come across plenty of "skinny bitches" who people will say they hate despite of how pretty they are. Love that part of you, not the skin, the muscles, the fat, the bones. It won't come automatically but learning to love yourself is probably the most important thing you can do.
Good luck,
-Abby
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I need to break up with my long-dist relationship boyfriend. We've been dating 7 months. There's no real reason to break up except..I sent him a pic that wasn't me. I know, I know. I'm too ashamed to tell him the truth, and I'm supposed to be 'visiting' him in a month. I need to end it, what do I say? I don't want to hurt his feelings, so nothing like 'I don't love you anymore' or whatever.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of my dad disapproves, and I have to end it with you, or he'll kick me out or something. I know, just lying more. But seriously, I just want to get out of this now, it's my own fault and I know now to never do it again. Any help would be appreciated, thanks. (link)
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Lying isn't a good way to do it, especially if the truth comes out in the end.
It isn't a crime to not want to be in a relationship, so tell him how you feel. Tell him you want to be single right now and that the long-distance thing is hard for you. You can be truthful and avoid majorly hurting his feelings. The sooner you do it the better or you will feel yourself getting deeper into this and making it harder on him. Since your long distance I think the most respectable way to do it is over the phone. No texts or emails, that shows that you don't care enough about him to call.
Good luck,
-Abby
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