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Almost 18...never been in a relationship
Here's the deal: I'm 17, almost 18 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Is there something wrong with me? I feel like guys NEVER like me as anything more than a friend, and I've been discouraged so many times I don't know what to do. It's not like I don't have any experience with guys, I've made out with and hooked up with guys before (never slept with anyone though), but whenever this happened both me and the guy were always really drunk or high at a party. It's like I'm not good enough to actually be dated, and because I've never gotten close to anyone before while sober, I get really awkward and never know what to do. Is there something wrong with me?
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Not at all. There is nothing wrong with you. I have noticed that people your age who don't have a serious relationship are the happiest. They get to experience life to the fullest and do what they want when they want without anything holding them back. I am the same way myself. Plus partying and doing all the stuff you mentioned is a fun part of growing up. Have fun while your young and don't worry to much.
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my advice is dont stress to much over never being in a relationship your still young and you have your entire life to have relationships....just have fun and it will happen when its right ...and you know people say friends first make some of the best relationships.....and i also have a little more advice ...be very careful when "hooking up" or making out with people when your drunk or high ...that can take you down a very dangerous path ...always be aware of your surrounding and the people your around .......ok ill end by saying if you can talk to guys when your drunk or high you can do it when your sober have confidents in yourself and dont stress it will happen
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I'm 17 and in the same boat and I've deffinitely wondered whats wrong with me. I've seen girls who are way less attractive than I am have long lasting relationships and I wonder what I'm doing wrong. It has a lot less to do with attractiveness then it does with the ability to open up to guys. I find it awkward sometimes to come up with things to say to guys or opening up to people is hard too. Lack of confidence might have something to do with it too. Honestly, I think you have to be open as possible and comfortable with yourself. Things happen when your least expecting it and when your sitting there desperately wanting a boyfriend it doesn't always go well. People like Carrie Underwood never had a boyfriend until they were 18, and she's doing great, so we just have to wait until things fall into place.
Good luck,
-Abby
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You're pretty much quoting my life. I feel the same way all the time but for me it was just that I never met a guy that made me want to exclusively more that hook up with and talk to but when I finally got my first boyfriend I knew what I hadn't before because I could talk to him for hours and I could be sober and still have fun with him. I would take special notice of the guys that you can talk to and always have fun with sober and if there aren't any try and get to know some guys on a deeper level sober or not and really talk to them and then if you're still interested in what they have to say and they're interested in you even after you're sober the relationship will come naturally. Hope this helped.
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